Romantic gestures

ntlbell

There was a discussion over the valentines period relating to just buying flowers on valentines when we should be treating the one we love regardless what date of the year it is.

So I like to think of myself as a bit of an "aul romantic" but after so many years together the imagination is having a hard time to come with new ways to blow her away.

So what small rosemantic gestures do you enjoy most? what are the small things your man does that sweeps you off your feet OR that you wish he did!

Do you prefer the odd *BIG* romantic gesture or lots of small ones throughout the year?

watna

I prefer the smaller gestures during the year, tbh.

Things like my bf bought me a little meerkat teddy online as a surprise cos I'd love a pet meerkat, he took a day off from work to look after me when I was sick and didn't let me move to get anything for myself and someone he works with was selling some PC games she didn't need. One of them was an expansion pack for a game I love, he knew without asking it was the one expnasion pack I didn't have and bought it for me as a surprise.

That means a lot more for me than flowers on Valentine's day. I get flowers during the year out of the blue too which is much nicer.

i think it needs to work both ways. I do nice spontaneous things for him too, it shouldn't just be for girls.

macbarbie

I prefer loads of little ones too, eddie rockets is my fav food...the other day i had a bad day in work and i came home and he got a take away of all my fav stuff layed it all out and rented a few chick flicks which he hates and had the sofa full of pillows and blankets....my jammies heating up on the rad,socks, my makeup wipes and a hair bobbin all ready for me totally to flake out and pig out... we had such a fun night and i forgot all about work.... so simple but thoughtfull!!

Crazy Catlady

Big gestures are lovely, but the little things are what make me feel special and I make a concious effort to do the little things for him on regular basis.
Favourite packets of biccies to have with a cup of tea, favourite pick a mix sweets, a dvd that was mentioned in passing. I bought him flowers once too, but he wasn't too impressed
For me, one of the best things was when he bought me an MP3 player for Christmas, and had already filled it with all my favourite music. That's thoughtful!

ThatGal

macbarbie wrote: »

I prefer loads of little ones too, eddie rockets is my fav food...the other day i had a bad day in work and i came home and he got a take away of all my fav stuff layed it all out and rented a few chick flicks which he hates and had the sofa full of pillows and blankets....my jammies heating up on the rad,socks, my makeup wipes and a hair bobbin all ready for me totally to flake out and pig out... we had such a fun night and i forgot all about work.... so simple but thoughtfull!!

aww, how sweet!!!your guy sounds lovely!!!

Cathmandooo

macbarbie wrote: »

I prefer loads of little ones too, eddie rockets is my fav food...the other day i had a bad day in work and i came home and he got a take away of all my fav stuff layed it all out and rented a few chick flicks which he hates and had the sofa full of pillows and blankets....my jammies heating up on the rad,socks, my makeup wipes and a hair bobbin all ready for me totally to flake out and pig out... we had such a fun night and i forgot all about work.... so simple but thoughtfull!!

my jaw actually dropped at that! my god where did you find a man like that? they dont seem to live anywhere near my planet

edit: to answer the OP, I was 'seeing' a guy for just a couple of weeks, I had a cough and we were meeting for lunch one day and he brought me cough syrup, it was super thoughtful in fairness...then later he stole money off me, not so thoughtful!

macbarbie

Cathooo wrote: »

my jaw actually dropped at that! my god where did you find a man like that? they dont seem to live anywhere near my planet !

haha... well i suppose it works both ways... he was startin a new job and was broke and had nothin to wear, on the morning of his first day. He woke up and i had a new suit layed out and a shirt and tie in his fav colour and tea and toast and a card and a teddy saying good luck.

Cathmandooo

macbarbie wrote: »

haha... well i suppose it works both ways... he was startin a new job and was broke and had nothin to wear, on the morning of his first day. He woke up and i had a new suit layed out and a shirt and tie in his fav colour and tea and toast and a card and a teddy saying good luck.

wow you bought him a suit? very impressive you're both very lucky to have each other

Donegal Lass

Cathooo wrote: »

in fairness...then later he stole money off me, not so thoughtful!

thats made me lol!!

SW81

Cathooo wrote: »

my jaw actually dropped at that! my god where did you find a man like that? they dont seem to live anywhere near my planet

edit: to answer the OP, I was 'seeing' a guy for just a couple of weeks, I had a cough and we were meeting for lunch one day and he brought me cough syrup, it was super thoughtful in fairness...then later he stole money off me, not so thoughtful!

Ha ha ha ha ha ha.

And macbarbie, that is one lovely guy you have there!

little lady

I like the little ones, I went out with a guy who use to bring me up a box of chocolates or a card telling me how much he liked m or I'd get flowers sent for know reason......he was very sweet and thoughtful

She Devil

little lady wrote: »

I like the little ones, I went out with a guy who use to bring me up a box of chocolates or a card telling me how much he liked m or I'd get flowers sent for know reason......he was very sweet and thoughtful

I got strange butterflies reading this post .... Why did you two split up then?
My boyfriend is great really great and really thoughtful we live counties apart but he makes up for it in little ways and big ways .. but i prefer the little things any day!!! I think i've found my perfect man ...

mollybird

ya i like all the little things during the year. like him turning up to surprise me when i had yet another kidney infection. or teh little picnic he had planned the day before my summer exams. he went all out for our second valentines this year which i loved but ive never had that kinda money spent on me. found it a tad over whelming at times.

Cathooo

Cathooo wrote: »

my jaw actually dropped at that! my god where did you find a man like that? they dont seem to live anywhere near my planet

Mine neither!

I imagine would like to be drip feed smaller romantic gestures.
Its just a theory though because I have an mo for dating clueless self centred oafs.

litup

I'm all for the little gestures as well.

So what little things do ye all do for your men to make them feel special? (I foolishly asked this question in BGRH. The answer I got was food. And head.)

supermouse

Went to Oz a few years back for 6 weeks with friends. Only going out with Himself for 3 months before I left. We were in Singapore first for a few days and when I called him he said he missed me yada yada yada. Got onto our flight to Melbourne an walking down the aisles, there was some red rose leaves leading down the aisle. Sweet i thought!! Then, sitting beside my seat was Himself holding 12 red roses and a massive ''I Missed You'' teddy!!!!

Best holiday EVER!!!

Lil' Smiler

I don't like this thread... it makes me feel very jealous of some of you ladies

What do I do for him... i like to send him little timed webtexts for when he's heading into work in the morning to tell him i love him or just something nice to make him smile. If i've done something wrong and I know I have i'll continually apologise and try to make it all better. I annoyed him this week so I sent him an apology mms msg when he would've been heading into work & then i'd a "i've been a complete ass" ecard in his inbox for him. Tonight... I am giving him a full body massage (feet - face/head), with candles, music, essential oils, massage bed up, heated towels etc. Just because I decided last week he needs it and I want to do it for him.


I dunno, I don't really get romantic gestures anymore He brought me out for dinner on valentines night & bought me a heart shaped cookie with sprinkles on it.. I would like the random I love you's etc again!! Although he did make me a gram for my igoogle homepage last week that cheered me up a little coz I was feeling I love the little gestures... or random flowers! i like random flowers....better give a damn good massage tonight now :P


That story about the guy buying the cough syrup then stealing money... hilarious!!!!

litup

supermouse wrote: »

Went to Oz a few years back for 6 weeks with friends. Only going out with Himself for 3 months before I left. We were in Singapore first for a few days and when I called him he said he missed me yada yada yada. Got onto our flight to Melbourne an walking down the aisles, there was some red rose leaves leading down the aisle. Sweet i thought!! Then, sitting beside my seat was Himself holding 12 red roses and a massive ''I Missed You'' teddy!!!!

Best holiday EVER!!!

Wow! That is seriously romantic!

Maple

Little gestures ftw. Definitely.

An ex of mine was brilliant for them, leaving me post-its because we'd both been working funny hours and didn't see each other, getting a keyring with my name on it for his keys and vice versa, making me dinner, collecting me from a party because I was too hungover to get the bus and not minding that he had to pull into the side of the road so I could be sick, texts in the morning to wake me up, texts at night, calls during the day because he saw something that he knew i'd like. Big hugs when i was feeling blue. Embarrassing himself stupid buying girly stuff for me and not caring. Coming to see chick flicks and cartoons in the cinema with me because he knew i loved them.

List is endless. Great guy. Definitely little gestures!

And Cath WTF with that guy stealing money????! :eek:

TequilaMockingBird

I was in the UK and got ill. We had split up seven years before, but I rang him and he came and got me, he took a week off work and minded me.

We're not split up anymore. .

When the chips were down I knew I could depend on him. Weird...

supermouse

supermouse wrote: »

Went to Oz a few years back for 6 weeks with friends. Only going out with Himself for 3 months before I left. We were in Singapore first for a few days and when I called him he said he missed me yada yada yada. Got onto our flight to Melbourne an walking down the aisles, there was some red rose leaves leading down the aisle. Sweet i thought!! Then, sitting beside my seat was Himself holding 12 red roses and a massive ''I Missed You'' teddy!!!!

Best holiday EVER!!!

Aww that so sweet!

maple

maple wrote: »

Little gestures ftw. Definitely.

An ex of mine was brilliant for them, leaving me post-its because we'd both been working funny hours and didn't see each other, getting a keyring with my name on it for his keys and vice versa, making me dinner, collecting me from a party because I was too hungover to get the bus and not minding that he had to pull into the side of the road so I could be sick, texts in the morning to wake me up, texts at night, calls during the day because he saw something that he knew i'd like. Big hugs when i was feeling blue. Embarrassing himself stupid buying girly stuff for me and not caring. Coming to see chick flicks and cartoons in the cinema with me because he knew i loved them.

List is endless. Great guy. Definitely little gestures!

Why is he an ex! Actually nevermind...is he single?

little lady

She Devil wrote: »

I got strange butterflies reading this post .... Why did you two split up then?

He said there was something missing between us, I did kind of agree but I would have been willing to try a little longer to see if things improved not that things were bad, we got on and always had a good time with eachother....I don't know just one of those things I suppose:(

supermouse

Yeah but were in the middle of a massive fight right now so its no longer romantic, its stalkerish till i forgive him again !!! :):):):)

Maple

Moonbaby wrote: »

Why is he an ex! Actually nevermind...is he single?

I know! Its cracked. But just one of those things. Worked on so many levels but overall was a bust. Mind you it did take 10years for it to finally be over. Wonderful man, even now I could call on him and he'd be there in a flash. We don't talk often because with that much feeling and history it would get confusing but there's a lot of respect there. Its a nice way to feel about an ex. He's the only one I have any time for actually.

Cathmandooo

maple wrote: »

And Cath WTF with that guy stealing money????! :eek:

don't get me started, I was stupid to lend him money, silly knacker never gave it back even though I hounded him for a year :rolleyes: at least I'm well rid of him!!

Maple

Cathooo wrote: »

don't get me started, I was stupid to lend him money, silly knacker never gave it back even though I hounded him for a year :rolleyes: at least I'm well rid of him!!

:eek: Wanker.

She Devil

I think these days (im only in my mid 20's) couples give up too easy!
If you have a decent guy who you really like never give up!!!
Everyone goes through times with doubts ... it saddens me you girls had great guys and now you dont! Cos we all know there are enough Wnks out there!

watna

maple wrote: »

:eek: Wanker.

+1 scabbiness/stinginess is the worst quality in a man. Puts me right off. So does dishonesty..... do you want to get the BGRH strike force after him?!

Maple

She Devil wrote: »

I think these days (im only in my mid 20's) couples give up too easy!
If you have a decent guy who you really like never give up!!!
Everyone goes through times with doubts ... it saddens me you girls had great guys and now you dont! Cos we all know there are enough Wnks out there!

I think 10 years personally is enough time to know if something is going to work or not. I certainly didn't throw in the towel because of fleeting doubts. In my situation it was a lifestyle choice, one that I wouldn't compromise on that I ended the relationship for. Bear in mind you're hearing the romantic gestures, not the nitty gritty bad details.

Maple

watna wrote: »

+1 scabbiness/stinginess is the worst quality in a man. Puts me right off. So does dishonesty..... do you want to get the BGRH strike force after him?!

I think so. I think Cath would appreciate it. We can get his address off her.
If she's minding the bar, then she'll have a watertight alibi.