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So... would you ever ask a man to marry you??

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    #32
    She Devil
    Registered Users Posts: 9,032 ✭✭✭She Devil


    My boyfriend told me the other day not to worry if i ask him today he will say yes !!!! I nearly choked laughing! No bloody way in hell would i ask ... its the one thing a woman has ... i want his proposal to me to be romantic and thought about, and to have asked my dad beforehand .. i want it done all traditional and i want to be proud of looking back on the memory!


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    #33
    Rob_l
    Registered Users Posts: 2,905 ✭✭✭Rob_l


    She Devil wrote: »
    My boyfriend told me the other day not to worry if i ask him today he will say yes !!!! I nearly choked laughing! No bloody way in hell would i ask ... its the one thing a woman has ... i want his proposal to me to be romantic and thought about, and to have asked my dad beforehand .. i want it done all traditional and i want to be proud of looking back on the memory!

    I thought the traditional way was to get her knocked up then marry her out of fear of sullying your families good name :D:D:D


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    #34
    Donegal Lass
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,356 ✭✭✭Donegal Lass


    my BF would die if he thought he'd have to ask my Dad...


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    #35
    Kazobel
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    She Devil wrote: »
    My boyfriend told me the other day not to worry if i ask him today he will say yes !!!! I nearly choked laughing! No bloody way in hell would i ask ... its the one thing a woman has ... i want his proposal to me to be romantic and thought about, and to have asked my dad beforehand .. i want it done all traditional and i want to be proud of looking back on the memory!

    Seriously? :eek:


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    #36
    She Devil
    Registered Users Posts: 9,032 ✭✭✭She Devil


    Yip, my boyfriend is aware of it, and dreading it! :) ... I would hate to get married without him carrying out this tradition .. i think its all part of it ... :)


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    #37
    pampers1
    Registered Users Posts: 404 ✭✭pampers1


    My BF must ask my dad for my hand in marriage also and he knows this. I joked that maybe i'd propose to him today and he seriously replied "I wouldn't if I was you" so that put me in my place. I think i'll be waiting longer that I had initially hoped!!!


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    #38
    watna
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,367 ✭✭✭✭watna


    I asked my bf by email. He told me to stop messing and asked if I want a Chinese takeaway for dinner... I think that's a no. What do you think?

    I used to say I'd want my bf to ask my dad for my hand in marriage til I realised that

    a) that's ridiculous. I'm not my dad's to give away. i don't live at home and he doesn't support me.

    b) they would both be so awkward doing it that it wouldn't be fair to make them!


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    #39
    Drift
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,395 ✭✭✭Drift


    watna wrote: »
    b) they would both be so awkward doing it that it wouldn't be fair to make them!

    Surely thats a reason for it rather than against it ...... evil laugh


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    #40
    watna
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,367 ✭✭✭✭watna


    Drift wrote: »
    Surely thats a reason for it rather than against it ...... evil laugh

    True, we're all very evil to our boys in here today, aren't we!


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    #41
    Mrs_Doyle
    Registered Users Posts: 1,187 ✭✭✭Mrs_Doyle


    watna wrote: »

    a) that's ridiculous. I'm not my dad's to give away. i don't live at home and he doesn't support me.

    b) they would both be so awkward doing it that it wouldn't be fair to make them!


    My boyfriend asked my dad the night before he proposed to me.
    My Dad was all emotional and said he realised it was an old fashioned thing to do, but that it meant a lot, and he really appreciated being asked.
    I was kinda delighted when my BF told me he had met up with my Dad beforehand, because I know my Dad is an old fashioned auld sod and is really into that kinda thing.
    My BF wasn't worried about my Dad saying no, as he gets on really well with my family.


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    #42
    watna
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,367 ✭✭✭✭watna


    Mrs_Doyle wrote: »
    My boyfriend asked my dad the night before he proposed to me.
    My Dad was all emotional and said he realised it was an old fashioned thing to do, but that it meant a lot, and he really appreciated being asked.
    I was kinda delighted when my BF told me he had met up with my Dad beforehand, because I know my Dad is an old fashioned auld sod and is really into that kinda thing.
    My BF wasn't worried about my Dad saying no, as he gets on really well with my family.

    That's fair enough. My dad would just be embarassed!

    What would you have done if your dad said no(hypothetically, as you said they get on very well)? Get married anyway?

    Congrats on the engagement by the way. I heard it was recent enough!


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    #43
    Mrs_Doyle
    Registered Users Posts: 1,187 ✭✭✭Mrs_Doyle


    watna wrote: »

    What would you have done if your dad said no(hypothetically, as you said they get on very well)? Get married anyway?

    Congrats on the engagement by the way. I heard it was recent enough!

    Thanks a million! It was 2 weeks and 1 day ago, but whose counting?:o

    Yeah, to be honest, asking my Dad was a nice, traditional, old fashioned thing to do, but ultimately, had he (my dad) have said no, I'm fairly confident my BF would have told him firmly, but politely, that it was unfortunate that he(my dad) felt that way, but that his intention was to ask me anyhow, and allow me to make up my own mind.

    I would have been a bit upset to learn that my Dad didn't approve, but I am a grown woman, and I would have said yes anyway, and tried to improve relations between them afterward.


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    #44
    FruitLover
    Registered Users Posts: 2,534 ✭✭✭FruitLover


    Eire 4Ever wrote: »
    No its the male thing to do

    Yes, like being a doctor or driving a car. Or voting!

    *pats head condescendingly


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    #45
    Geranium
    Closed Accounts Posts: 317 ✭✭Geranium


    Sure why not? If I wanted that there's no point waiting around for it to happen, he may never ask, you'd be wasting your time.


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    #46
    Pyr0
    Registered Users Posts: 5,967 ✭✭✭Pyr0


    I made it clear to teh laydee if we were ever to tie the knot years down the line that i'd want it to be her to ask me ! Cause I like being a bast@rd like that, not fufilling her life long dream of a man getting down on one knee etc ;)


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    #47
    Luu
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    FruitLover wrote: »
    Yes, like being a doctor or driving a car. Or voting!

    *pats head condescendingly


    LOL (and for once its true!)


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    #48
    coffee_cake
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    watna wrote: »
    I asked my bf by email. He told me to stop messing and asked if I want a Chinese takeaway for dinner... I think that's a no. What do you think?

    Mine asked where his ring was
    I did ask by text though since he was at work


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    #49
    Nightwish
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    I wouldnt because I know he wouldnt take it seriously and I think its his job to ask me anyway.


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    #50
    LivingDeadGirl
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    Pyr0 wrote: »
    I made it clear to teh laydee if we were ever to tie the knot years down the line that i'd want it to be her to ask me ! Cause I like being a bast@rd like that, not fufilling her life long dream of a man getting down on one knee etc ;)


    I hate you, you ruined my dream :(


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    #51
    Pyr0
    Registered Users Posts: 5,967 ✭✭✭Pyr0


    Keeping you on yer toes baby.


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    #52
    LivingDeadGirl
    Registered Users Posts: 1,150 ✭✭✭LivingDeadGirl


    Whatever. Anyone wanna marry me? He obviously isn't man enough.


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    #53
    return guide
    Registered Users Posts: 631 ✭✭✭return guide


    no never ever




    my wife would kill me


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    #54
    gcgirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,044 ✭✭✭gcgirl


    nope men are not worth it! hopefully my view on marriage will change but for now noway!


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    #55
    TequilaMockingBird
    Registered Users Posts: 4,392 ✭✭✭TequilaMockingBird


    My bf asked me to ask him, would he marry me.

    We were painting the kitchen at the time. I said "You missed a bit."


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    #56
    iguana
    Moderators, Entertainment Moderators Posts: 12,916 Mod ✭✭✭✭iguana


    I think the whole idea of a proposal is horribly outdated. A couple who has been together long enough to know they want to get married should be able to discuss it together like partners. Because at the end of the day a marriage is a partnership and a commitment to building a life together, it's nothing to do with romantic gestures.

    Imo, choosing to give the person you love the slightly bigger slice of cake you just cut or taking the slightly burned sausage for yourself so they can have the nicer one will always be a million times more romantic than a big gesture. Because that's just what love is.


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    #57
    Black Swan
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    Oooooooo, I like them on their knees...


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    #58
    [Deleted User]
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    iguana wrote: »
    Imo, choosing to give the person you love the slightly bigger slice of cake you just cut..... Because that's just what love is.


    Not if they are a member of BGRH....unless divorce looks like an expensive option!


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    #59
    Mrs_Doyle
    Registered Users Posts: 1,187 ✭✭✭Mrs_Doyle


    A friend of mine said to her BF last night "If I was to get down on one knee now, and ask you to Marry me, what would you say?"
    He replied "I am very glad you didn't, and are not going to, do that, as I would probably say no".

    She says she only asked as a 'joke', but she is still very sorry she said anything now.


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    #60
    Crumble Froo
    Registered Users Posts: 8,196 ✭✭✭Crumble Froo


    i ask my fella all the tiem... and refer to the wedding and when we get married...

    ha, twill probably nevera ctualy happen, but that's not the point at all... i have the music planned out and everything...

    things are alwasy more fun in theory :D


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    #61
    DetectivFoxtrot
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    We won a holiday on Lite FM. I asked, he said yes, got married alone on a beach in a coconut plantation in the Seychelles. We were 23 and 26.

    married 6 years in August.;)


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