Why are you single?

6th

Seriously. If you are single then why? Its not you its them? You like having time for you? Its not the right time? I dont like to be tied down?

I havent been single for the last 15 years and the idea of it doesnt appeal to me at all.

Jesus Wept

We are all single.

xzanti

^ exactly.. Born alone.. Die alone..

Sherifu

I wouldn't knock being single so fast there OP. You don't get the hassle and you have more free time.

TerrorFirmer

I've had a girlfriend since I was 15, and the transition periods in between relationships were - literally - non existent. All my friends are often moaning about how a girlfriend is a tie down, personally I can't imagine not having one.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

because I smell like ass

beerbaron

Try it, you might like it.

Don1

Winded up single as of a few months ago. Was a bit lost at first. Havin some fun now. Off to New Zealand in a month. No interest in having a relationship get in the way of that! :D:D

When I come back I'll just go back to having fun and play by ear. I don't actively seek to go out with people. Maybe I should.............

SV

I don't want to depend on someone else for my happiness, it's pathetic.

Booty calls for the win.

cornbb

I've been single since Monday. Bleargh, it sucks. Anyone who thinks that being single is better than having someone is kidding themselves.

chopperbyrne

Don1 wrote: »

Winded up single as of a few months ago. Was a bit lost at first. Havin some fun now. Off to New Zealand in a month. No interest in having a relationship get in the way of that! :D:D

When I come back I'll just go back to having fun and play by ear. I don't actively seek to go out with people. Maybe I should.............

Replace New Zealand with London and that's me in a nutshell.

mru

Mordeth wrote: »

because I smell like ass

honest to god, some of the people I know...they quite like that

6th

I get plenty of time to do the things I like to do, being in a relationship doesnt stop me from doing anything I want to do.

So who is single and doesnt want to be?

Who's attached and wants out?

Who's happy as they are either way?

SV

cornbb wrote: »

I've been single since Monday. Bleargh, it sucks. Anyone who thinks that being single is better than having someone is kidding themselves.

Pretty sure that's the other way around.

6th

cornbb wrote: »

I've been single since Monday. Bleargh, it sucks. Anyone who thinks that being single is better than having someone is kidding themselves.

This guys speaks the truth!

cornbb

ClioV6 wrote: »

Pretty sure that's the other way around.

Nope, i'm pretty sure that having someone who loves you in your life beats the ass out of watching TV alone and ****.

SV

Sabotage wrote: »

This guys speaks the truth!

Ok, at 30 you might be right in thinking that.

However at 20 here.. being tied down to one person would be..horrible.
Never a chance with anyone else unless you break up? you get attached to the person you're going out with and end up depending on them for your emotional state..they're angry with you and you get pissed off or sad etc.

I don't know how anyone can see it as being any less than pathetic tbh..



EDIT: and cornbb, Who said you're alone the whole time?
Ever hear of friends and just meeting people?
Why get attached for no reason other than this "security" that people imagine being there...which isn't..because everyone is a cheater at the bottom of it.

mru

I agree with cornbb - have been in a relationship for the past 1 and it's flown by. We've both got similar interests, and she supports the same team as me. Pretty much a mate as much as my gf. Couldn't imagine being without.

deaddonkey

it isn't through choice

emo donk

mru

cornbb wrote: »

Nope, i'm pretty sure that having someone who loves you in your life beats the ass out of watching TV alone and ****.

LOL!

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

i think some of you are suffering from CBD

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8pct07B6jRU

togster

Im single a few months now. Broke up with my ex of 2.5 years. I have had some of the best and worst times of my life in these past few months. Why am i single? Haven't met anyone i want to get in a relationship with.

Sherifu

ClioV6 wrote: »

Ok, at 30 you might be right in thinking that.

That's a good point actually. When you've got kids and are tied down you have to convince yourself it's a good thing. Fair play I say!

cornbb

Firstly, anyone in a relationship who feels "tied down" is in the wrong relationship.

Secondly, being in a relationship is on a biological par with crapping, eating and breathing. Its an animal instinct, and claiming that its not our natural, comfortable state is just sheer denial.

I'm not saying that periods of being single are bad, I just don't see how it can be conducive to happiness in the long term.

Hail 2 Da Chimp

Sabotage wrote: »

I havent been single for the last 15 years and the idea of it doesnt appeal to me at all.

Going out with the Internet doesn't count!

MIN2511

y am I single?
Hmm… million $ question

I was in a relationship for 5yrs and I broke up with him over a year ago. I didn’t want to jump into anything too soon. But that was over a year ago…
I guess I am looking for the “one” the one who adores me, treats me well and generally makes me happy. Haven’t found him yet
I enjoy being single though; not a care in the world, no responsibilities.
On a second thought, I wouldn’t mind being in a relationship

6th

I didnt say being single was wrong, I said it doesnt suit me.

My question was, why are you single?

Clio's answer was that she feels to young to be in a committed relationship - perfectly valid.

MOrdeth said its coz he smells and then posted that very funny clip - also valid.

Ron DMC

Single here, but certainly have nothing against relationships.
If one came along with the right girl, I'd be fairly happy to pursue it.

Wouldn't bother me to stay single a while either. Bit of freedom to score anyone you want on a night out.

mru

Ronny Mitchell wrote: »

Wouldn't bother me to stay single a while either. Bit of freedom to score anyone you want on a night out.

just so you know - when you're in the right relationship, the above doesn't bother you mate

AngryBadger

cornbb wrote: »

Nope, i'm pretty sure that having someone who loves you in your life beats the ass out of watching TV alone and ****.

Man, that's just crazy, NOTHING beats watching TV alone and ****. It's what inspired all the greats to.....greatness, which they used to get fabulously wealthy and buy huge mansions to sit in alone while they watch TV and wanked (often at the same time!).

If you were 14 the last time you were single 6th how do you know if it suits you?
I imagine you take quite some looking after.

sdraob.ei

Only 23 n just out of a seven year realtionship a few weeks dont know what to be doin with myself

FruitLover

So far, I've never met a girl who didn't eventually drive me up the wall. I'm as independent as a feral cat, so I hate having to meet anyone at a particular time, explain to someone what I'm doing, text someone regularly, etc. Most women don't seem to be capable of leaving a bloke to his own life... :pac:

JohnCleary

The only people that say beign single is better than being in a relationship are people who can't get into a relationship in the first place... FACT!

I'm single since YOUR MA dumped me

Oh wait, no actually, i'm not single... she took me back

Alessandra

I haven't met anyone who can put up with me.

ScumLord

Aparently I can't provide what a sheep really needs, we're too different. Bitch. :mad:

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

The only people who say being in a relationship is always better than being single are sad, depressed losers who hate themselves so much they can't stand to be alone... FACT

Faith

Because it's really hard to meet men where I am. Literally all of my friends are single, and have been throughout uni. I don't understand why, but I think a lot of it is to do with the complete absence of a community in my university. There's no class parties, no balls, no nothing. It's all work.

Second time I've discussed this today... I must get back to studying!

Pherekydes

I'm single since 2004 when my wife divorced me. But that's only a "technical" single, coz I've been living with someone since 1990. I can't imagine being on my own; I was for 1989, but that sucked major ballz. Sure, you get to make all the decisions without referring to anyone else, but it's also lonely. It's nice to have someone to share a bed with. :pac:

cornbb

Mordeth wrote: »

The only people who say being in a relationship is always better than being single are sad, depressed losers who hate themselves so much they can't stand to be alone... FACT

I think someone needs a cuddle :pac:

token56

Simply dont have the time. I have two jobs and also do training 4+ days a week. The rest of the time I sleep/relax. Not against relationships but some people just don't have the time. And its not like I am miserable, quiet the opposite. Rather enjoying life at the moment. Single is all good

JohnCleary

Mordeth wrote: »

The only people who say being in a relationship is always better than being single are sad, depressed losers who hate themselves so much they can't stand to be alone... FACT

If you were depressed, no one would want to be around you, hence you wouldn't be in a relationship

Friday ZING!

missmatty

FruitLover wrote: »

So far, I've never met a girl who didn't eventually drive me up the wall. I'm as independent as a feral cat, so I hate having to meet anyone at a particular time, explain to someone what I'm doing, text someone regularly, etc. Most women don't seem to be capable of leaving a bloke to his own life... :pac:

Here's your sister Thanks, you saved me having to type out a post.

PS: Obviously exchange 'guy' for 'girl' in above post in reln to me.

Ginny

Meh, only single 6 months, hasn't really bothered me, I've gotten more done in my personal life in those 6 months then I did in the 3 years before it.
I suppose I'm single because I'm not looking and I haven't met anyone that makes me want to be in a relationship again.

Tbh I was a serial relationship girl, and looking back now I can see how I needed a period of being on my own, I think most adults need to spend a period being single, being comfortable in their own skin etc.

Sherifu

I find it kind of sad that people would be afraid of being alone or being responsible for their own happiness. I'd hate to settle for less.

MIN2511

Sherifu wrote: »

I find it kind of sad that people would be afraid of being alone or being responsible for their own happiness. I'd hate to settle for less.

+1

I think people that cannot be single have insecurities

Cuddlesworth

Sabotage wrote: »

My question was, why are you single?

I hate people.

Lawless_Samurai

JohnCleary wrote: »

The only people that say beign single is better than being in a relationship are people who can't get into a relationship in the first place... FACT!

Was going to reply to that but then Mordeth came out with this....

Mordeth wrote: »

The only people who say being in a relationship is always better than being single are sad, depressed losers who hate themselves so much they can't stand to be alone... FACT

:):D

About the relationship thing I'm single and I think thats the case purely because I'm not looking for anyone right now. Not joining the priesthood or anything just not looking. Have done the whole relationship (2/3 year stints) and absolutely loved it. Especially one relationship where I fell in love! Being single has its upsides though too and right now I'm enjoying single life. I'm happy that I can find happiness in myself and not just in someone else. I think thats important and its something I wouldn't have discovered had I been in a relationship.


What I cannot stand are people who think something is wrong with you if your not in a relationship. That just p!sses me off! Like its a disease or something. I mean come on!

FruitLover

I reckon being in a (happy) relationship (with someone you care about and doesn't annoy the piss out of you) is probably better than being single, but something I'll never understand is the kind of people who'll get into a relationship with someone for the sake of it, rather than be single. That's bananas. Even worse when they're getting married to someone they don't really love just so they won't be single when they're older.

MIN2511 wrote: »

+1

I think people that cannot be single have insecurities

+2 (as alluded to above)

Pherekydes

I find it kind of sad that people would be afraid of being in a relationship or being responsible for someone else. I'd hate to settle for less.




/Just to show that every blanket statement can be turned on its head and made to look silly.

Ginny

Yes Lawless, and they have to set you up with any other godforsaken single person they know, as if you're dying to be back in a relationship and anyone will do!