Why are you single?

Tar.Aldarion

Sangre wrote: »

I'm way too hideous for someone to ever love me.

It's true, check his bebo.

Sangre

bebo made me take it down

arseagon

I just deleted my bebo and facebook. it's too much free knowledge about me.

I'd say its me rather than them. I don't get a whole lot of interest but when I do I'm clingy which brings me back to square one.

I think one of the reasons I may still be single, bar my indifference is my lack of maturity.

The fact that listening to Dracula's Lament from Forgetting Sarah Marshall sped up to 175% has me laughing my ass off may be proof of this.

Cunny-Funt

rb_ie wrote: »

I used to love being single up til I was about 19/20.

Then I met herself .....

Because I have yet to meet herself.

Everyone seems to eventually have this perfect girl knock on their door when they get to a certain age.

I've been single all my life. Just simply never got to know many chicks. Really regret going to an all boys school, they should be abolished damn it.

& there just wasn't any decent girls around our area that were near our age group.

I'm not a mad out going guy either, nor the type to get pissed and jump on anything with tits when I do go out. Plus I'd never have the balls to try and "chat some one up" in other words I ****ing suck at the whole mating ritual thing.

So I'm just gonna continue to stroll through life and hope I meet someone some day who I like and who likes me.

ModeSkeletor

Deleted User wrote: »

]listening to Dracula's Lament from Forgetting Sarah Marshall sped up to 175%

I thought the chicks loved that no?

ModeSkeletor

ModeSkeletor wrote: »

I thought the chicks loved that no?

You'd think so but it appears that saying one of your favourite songs is from a proposed puppet musical about Dracula isn't very popular.

LuckyLloyd

grames_bond wrote: »

im single because i suffer from a crippling disability....its called being an ugly f*cker! theres no real cure!

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Havermeyer

Because I always fall for the girl that's taken. Sucks to be me.

Wibbs

OK slightly serious here for a minute. WTF??? I mean W. T. F? All this BS about how ugly you are or can't chat them up or waiting around for the right woman? I call arse on that.

You think you're ugly? Look at the mutants out there that are in relationships. Walk down any street in ireland and you'll see them. We're talking mutants here. The tide wouldn't take them out. The ones that convince you rohypnol is more common that you thought and that sterilisation may save the next generation.:D Yet they're loved up. Yea maybe they got "lucky" but so can you.

Can't chat them up? Don't try. Just talk to the buggers. They won't bite, unless you want them to. Ok lets say you get rejected. Fine. You look at her and think shes the most wonderful woman ever and all that. Guess what she isn't. She may be lovely and a nice person, equally she may not be. You're projecting your ideal onto her and it's likely others wouldn't give her the time of day. Projecting that ideal onto her and putting her on a pedestal is not a comfortable place for her either and she will walk away. On the spot or later. You can also be damn sure she's not the most beautiful woman in the room or the town or the country or the world. There's literally billions of them out there and you reckon she's it? Eh nope.

Think like that. Respect everyone. Respect yourself. Have fun. Be fun. Learn to do that and you can BTW. Don't take rejection as a reflection on you, just they don't dig you. Others will. the odds are on your side, even if you're wearing a bag over your head. The odds are not on your side by not trying, failing, learning and trying again.

Waiting around for the right woman? OK you may indeed get lucky and find her, but your lack of experience and self awareness increases the odds you won't keep her. Bad for her too.

Jeez I had to go and ruin it.....

Jay D

my x didn't like my pigeon hooting

Jay D

Wibbs wrote: »

OK slightly serious here for a minute. WTF??? I mean W. T. F? All this BS about how ugly you are or can't chat them up or waiting around for the right woman? I call arse on that.

You think you're ugly? Look at the mutants out there that are in relationships. Walk down any street in ireland and you'll see them. We're talking mutants here. The tide wouldn't take them out. The ones that convince you rohypnol is more common that you thought and that sterilisation may save the next generation.:D Yet they're loved up. Yea maybe they got "lucky" but so can you.

Can't chat them up? Don't try. Just talk to the buggers. They won't bite, unless you want them to. Ok lets say you get rejected. Fine. You look at her and think shes the most wonderful woman ever and all that. Guess what she isn't. She may be lovely and a nice person, equally she may not be. You're projecting your ideal onto her and it's likely others wouldn't give her the time of day. Projecting that ideal onto her and putting her on a pedestal is not a comfortable place for her either and she will walk away. On the spot or later. You can also be damn sure she's not the most beautiful woman in the room or the town or the country or the world. There's literally billions of them out there and you reckon she's it? Eh nope.

Think like that. Respect everyone. Respect yourself. Have fun. Be fun. Learn to do that and you can BTW. Don't take rejection as a reflection on you, just they don't dig you. Others will. the odds are on your side, even if you're wearing a bag over your head. The odds are not on your side by not trying, failing, learning and trying again.

Waiting around for the right woman? OK you may indeed get lucky and find her, but your lack of experience and self awareness increases the odds you won't keep her. Bad for her too.

Jeez I had to go and ruin it.....

man you're my hero. Them two Californian chicks were defo not worth it and so what if they left last night :pac:

sam34

am single by choice. have had experience of seriously destructive relationships, where the man involved did his best to destroy me. never risking that again.also, as someone has already mentioned, looking around at all the couples i know, i see none that i envy.

Pepe LeFrits

Self loathing

Wibbs

sam34 wrote: »

am single by choice. have had experience of seriously destructive relationships, where the man involved did his best to destroy me. never risking that again.

OK now this is clearly my humble, but.... If this happened once then yea, shít happens and you try to move on from it. If it's a repeating pattern you need to ask yourself questions too. Do you seek these types out? Logically all men are not like that? Indeed most men(or women) are not like that, most relationships, even the not so good ones are not like that, so how come you got so unlucky? As I said being unlucky once is ok, but if you're running up the numbers there's something else goin on. Do you seek these people out as a self fulfilling prophecy? IE men will try to destroy me, therefore I'll be more attracted to those that will confirm that idea. I would say that if someone has a string of destructive relationships behind them, the next person they meet that hey have the most chemistry with is almost guaranteed to repeat the pattern as they'll fit the inbuilt pattern the most. People can often jump from one burning ship to another as that's what they're used to, even if it's not good for them. Or occasionally they'll jump in a liferaft(a "nice" guy/guyess) but bring a burning suitcase with them. Rinse and repeat. People all too often would rather be right than happy. That's my humble and is probably waaaay off but there ya go.

also, as someone has already mentioned, looking around at all the couples i know, i see none that i envy.

I think that was mise. Maybe I'm fussy and want the best for me and any partner I may find. That said, while I do see few examples of really good couples, I do not cut myself off from looking for that. Failure is a learning experience, not an end. I may never find what I'm looking for, but to stop looking is to give up. Sod that.

Pepe LeFrits wrote:

Self loathing

Jebus, please let that be a joke.

taidghbaby

i think its because i have 3 feet....but dont worry the third one is purely ornamental!!!

Elessar

Because I don't really care whether I'm in a "relationship" with someone or not?

sam34

Wibbs wrote: »

If this happened once then yea, shít happens and you try to move on from it. If it's a repeating pattern you need to ask yourself questions too.

sorry wibbs, my fault- used plural and singular in the sentence! am talking about one relationship i had, which has assumed mammoth significance in my head due to how absolutely awful it was and how long it took me get out of it. scarred for life i tell ya!

Wibbs

Got ya. Get back out there at least this way you know what to watch for, so that's good.

Weidii

Because it's really freaking difficult to find gay/bi women in Galway!

Also, because it's good to be single. I've been in relationships with men for the last four years and I need a goddamn break! Nice to rediscover who you are as a whole after having been a half for so long (if you get what I mean)

Bleh to relationships (unless they're with women :pac:)

Sangre

Wibbs wrote: »

OK slightly serious here for a minute. WTF??? I mean W. T. F? All this BS about how ugly you are or can't chat them up or waiting around for the right woman? I call arse on that.

You think you're ugly? Look at the mutants out there that are in relationships. Walk down any street in ireland and you'll see them. We're talking mutants here. The tide wouldn't take them out. The ones that convince you rohypnol is more common that you thought and that sterilisation may save the next generation.:D Yet they're loved up. Yea maybe they got "lucky" but so can you.

Can't chat them up? Don't try. Just talk to the buggers. They won't bite, unless you want them to. Ok lets say you get rejected. Fine. You look at her and think shes the most wonderful woman ever and all that. Guess what she isn't. She may be lovely and a nice person, equally she may not be. You're projecting your ideal onto her and it's likely others wouldn't give her the time of day. Projecting that ideal onto her and putting her on a pedestal is not a comfortable place for her either and she will walk away. On the spot or later. You can also be damn sure she's not the most beautiful woman in the room or the town or the country or the world. There's literally billions of them out there and you reckon she's it? Eh nope.

Think like that. Respect everyone. Respect yourself. Have fun. Be fun. Learn to do that and you can BTW. Don't take rejection as a reflection on you, just they don't dig you. Others will. the odds are on your side, even if you're wearing a bag over your head. The odds are not on your side by not trying, failing, learning and trying again.

Waiting around for the right woman? OK you may indeed get lucky and find her, but your lack of experience and self awareness increases the odds you won't keep her. Bad for her too.

Jeez I had to go and ruin it.....

problem is, im ugly on the inside too.

Wibbs

Then it's best you don't reproduce then I suppose.:D

FruitLover

sam34 wrote: »

have had experience of seriously destructive relationships, where the man involved did his best to destroy me. never risking that again.

Good idea - it's a well-known fact that every man on earth will try his best to destroy you, should you start a relationship with them. Anyone who denies that is a communist.

CuLT

FruitLover wrote: »

Good idea - it's a well-known fact that every man on earth will try his best to destroy you, should you start a relationship with them. Anyone who denies that is a communist.

Have you become attached to "Butt Demon" or would you like it changed back to the default? I don't recall what circumstances I set it under.

Sort of on topic, isn't there a thread here somewhere proposing that most Irish women treat Irish men like they're bootscum if they display anything other than serene, platonic subservience?
I've rarely encountered people like that, but it seems to be a relatively common opinion that foreign women are just "easier to get along with", but I have a feeling that's more because they're travelling, outgoing types than the fact that they're foreign.

If that thread exists, I would like to read it.

cowan

Apparently elephantitis is not so much of a turn on.

sam34

FruitLover wrote: »

Good idea - it's a well-known fact that every man on earth will try his best to destroy you, should you start a relationship with them. Anyone who denies that is a communist.

you wouldnt be quite so sarcastic and "funny" if you had endured what i did.:mad:

constitutionus

actually i think its more due to the fact theyve come from former communist countries and as a result actually know what real oppression is all about

EDIT. damn those two were quick! this post was in response to cults one.

not sure if i answerd this earlier in the thread so if not the reason im single is im very picky, dont compromise and TBH am abit of a loner so im not really bothered whether im with someone or not. not antisocial or anything i just like doing things my way when i want to instead of having to reference someone all the time.

plus you can fart your brains out in bed.

Muff_Daddy

Cunny-Funt wrote: »

Really regret going to an all boys school, they should be abolished damn it.

+ a million.

Why am I single? It's because I just don't know how to make a good first impression on women. If I'm drunk, I come across as too leery, if sober, i'm shy and awkward.

I'm extremely shy with women at first, but I come out of my shell once a girl gets to know me well. The problem is the women who stick around long enough, i.e. not put off by my first impression, see me as a 'brother' or 'just a friend'.

Tbh, I never get depressed about it, I am happy, very occupied and able to take as many holidays etc as I want. For anybody who thinks a relationship is the be all and end all - it's not. I would like to be in love with the right girl of course, but I'm also perfectly happy with life at the moment.

DarkJager

Got sick of looking for the right girl, so now she can come and find me....More fun being single anyway...

Webmonkey

You try hard to find someone, find that perfect person but then complications arrive once you do and the whole thing falls to bits. That's way it has being with me anyways - hense why I'm single as usual.

Oh well more time to myself -

Mixedup

was this thread started to rub it in???

single...depressingly so...

St Bill

I'm single because I haven't found the person I'd like to spend my time with. An eternal game of hide and seek. Wait 'til I get my hands on him :mad:

Caoimhín

St Bill wrote: »

I'm single because I haven't found the person I'd like to spend my time with. An eternal game of hide and seek. Wait 'til I get my hands on him :mad:

Bill, hands on Him. Oh.

St Bill

caoibhin wrote: »

Bill, hands on Him. Oh.

Ah, Jesus just isn't my type.

Joseph on the other hand ....:pac:

Webmonkey

St Bill wrote: »

Ah, Jesus just isn't my type.

Joseph on the other hand ....:pac:

tut tut - thats disgraceful. The priests wouldn't be too impressed

Dudess

"Why are you single"? Sorry 6th but that's kinda a stoopid question. It makes it sound like everyone who is single has a choice in the matter. Sure, some people do choose the single life, but there are others who simply cannot meet people whom they'd like to be in a relationship with. What are they supposed to do? Just "acquire" a partner? Conjure one up out of thin air? Call them fussy but at least they don't run the risk of just settling for anyone out of fear of being alone only to break up with said person in ten years' time and wind up alone anyway.

As for people who are saying it's not normal or natural to not want to be attached? Why? Surely it depends on the individual? Different strokes for different folks and all that. I'm quite surprised at the attitudes I've come across here: you're in denial if you think we're not supposed to be paired up, "I couldn't imagine being single", it's far better to be watching TV with someone who loves you than alone. Can't relate to that at all. It smacks of neediness to me. And there are people here practically apologising for being single, or saying they're depressed - no wonder, when there are such attitudes. I've been single and I've been in relationships. There's good in both. When I've been single I certainly haven't been alone, I've had my friends and family. In relationships (including at present) I've my partner, friends and family - not just my partner.

Boston

In fairness to 6th, hes stated many times before that he met his wife when they where both teenage kids, so its not as if he can relate.

Aisling(",)

why am i single?

if i knew id be a happy woman!

my ideas are
-if someones clingy at all freaks me out
-im a complete nutter
-im too much of a lad most of the time and people i like would generally go for my more girly friends

oh and no one wants me so nothing i can do bout that

ah well....free love ftw:)

Caoimhín

Aisling(",) wrote: »

why am i single?

if i knew id be a happy woman!

my ideas are
-if someones clingy at all freaks me out
-im a complete nutter
-im too much of a lad most of the time and people i like would generally go for my more girly friends

oh and no one wants me so nothing i can do bout that

ah well....free love ftw:)

. (in the "how u doin?" sense)

Dudess

Dude, she's jailbait...

And this assertion of "I couldn't imagine being single"... well I personally couldn't imagine not being single at any stage. I'm glad I've experienced both sides of the coin. I'm also very glad that the idea of being single doesn't fill me with as much horror as it seems to do to others. Falling madly in love is a very, very rare thing - I'm actually surprised there aren't far more single people, to be honest. This notion that you can just acquire a partner the way you'd get a carton of milk down in Tesco... well I thought it had died with De Valera's Ireland, but it don't think it has fully.

I'm with a great guy now but wasn't in a proper relationship for five years before I met him. Enjoyed that five years immensely. I didn't fall in love during those five years, therefore I didn't feel like I was missing out.

Aisling(",)

Dudess wrote: »

Dude, she's jailbait...

gah....damn people on the internet knowing how old i am!im legal in most coutries in the world and in this one in four months!

Caoimhín

Dudess wrote: »

Dude, she's jailbait...

Oh.... right.
Sorry about that Aisling.

Dudess

Ah it's less than four months (according to the date of birth on your profile ). 1991 - holy Christ... You're, like, a babby!

Aisling(",)

Dudess wrote: »

Ah it's less than four months (according to the date of birth on your profile ). 1991 - holy Christ... You're, like, a babby!

oh yeah forgot its may now!
90 days and counting:D

Aisling(",)

caoibhin wrote: »

Oh.... right.
Sorry about that Aisling.

ah its all good in the hood dont worry about it

Sir Oxman

Because the last girl I met wouldn't walk two foot outside her own door without being accompanied so I said fcuk it, go away you are too much trouble. Seriously, she was the first for ages and I just could not be bothered with crap like that from a 40-something.
Where are all the independent, confident women these days?

Single for 2.5 years, almost married 3.5 yrs ago (she's getting married Sept, I'm going), just turned '41' plus I like the odd bit of cock. Very odd bit...

I don't know and at this second in time, I don't care.
I will say, I fleetingly envy my married mates but really it's like a millisecond and the urge to join the throng passes.

(Tomorrow I will try to edit this and fail)

Proxy

gambiaman wrote:

Single for 2.5 years, almost married 3.5 yrs ago (she's getting married Sept, I'm going), just turned '41' plus I like the odd bit of cock. Very odd bit...

LOL, didn't see that coming, randomly thrown in there! Fair play to ya for the honesty!

Anyway, reading through this thread... I didn't realise it was a choice. I've been single for two years after a relatively long, serious relationship, and in honesty I don't know if i'd like a relationship again or not, but i'd like to give it a shot. In all honesty, I get lonely, a fair bit too. Be nice to have someone again to give the odd random text/call to, cuddle up to, watch a dvd, walk, cook with, go drink with, all the couple stuff. Making good memories. But I didn't realise you could just choose it. Its like saying "i'll just head out for some milk and a girlfriend, see you later"...?

smellybiker

Proxy wrote: »

LOL, didn't see that coming, randomly thrown in there! Fair play to ya for the honesty!

Anyway, reading through this thread... I didn't realise it was a choice. I've been single for two years after a relatively long, serious relationship, and in honesty I don't know if i'd like a relationship again or not, but i'd like to give it a shot. In all honesty, I get lonely, a fair bit too. Be nice to have someone again to give the odd random text/call to, cuddle up to, watch a dvd, walk, cook with, go drink with, all the couple stuff. Making good memories. But I didn't realise you could just choose it. Its like saying "i'll just head out for some milk and a girlfriend, see you later"...?

+ 1, my sentiments exactly

Dudess

Proxy wrote: »

Anyway, reading through this thread... I didn't realise it was a choice. I've been single for two years after a relatively long, serious relationship, and in honesty I don't know if i'd like a relationship again or not, but i'd like to give it a shot. In all honesty, I get lonely, a fair bit too. Be nice to have someone again to give the odd random text/call to, cuddle up to, watch a dvd, walk, cook with, go drink with, all the couple stuff. Making good memories. But I didn't realise you could just choose it. Its like saying "i'll just head out for some milk and a girlfriend, see you later"...?

Me too, but apparently it is a choice. You should be able to simply "get" a girlfriend/boyfriend and you're some sort of failure if you don't.

Seriously though, I thought that sh1te was only peddled by older generations...