Why are you single?

Affable

I never bother much. Never assume I'll find anyone I relate to.
It's weird cos I'm not unattractive or anything. But just set my expectations of relationships very low.

smellybiker

Dudess wrote: »

Me too, but apparently it is a choice. You should be able to simply "get" a girlfriend/boyfriend and you're some sort of failure if you don't.

Seriously though, I thought that sh1te was only peddled by older generations...

I do think it's really bad that my friends (mostly attached) look at me in complete sorrow and pity for the sheer fact that i'm single. I was in a relationship for a long time and never once thought it funny that they were single. i thought it had to do with my age (26) and that they thought i was getting on a bit and needed to find a partner but from reading this thread - this attitude is obviously not age exclusive.

BlitzKrieg

anyone who has met me knows exactly why I'm single.


I'm High Maintenance

Overheal

It was wisely said one time that our society is powered by single men: they wanna get the job; they wanna get the house; they wanna get the car. Do they want these things? No, women want these things!

i wonder if you can measure economic recession by the amount of relationships per capita

Proxy

My mother asks me frequently "and when are you going to get a woman again?", which I rarely take seriously. It does stick in in the back of my mind for a bit though. But it just doesn't.. "happen". Like I don't go looking for it, which I don't think would be right either. I'm open to it, but just... nothing happening for a while. I do notice that an awful lot of the "nice" girls (both looks and personality) are spoken for. So I just get on with things. Its... a non-issue really, it negates itself?

Perhaps a boards-based dating service? PM's please!

Overheal

Proxy wrote: »

My mother asks me frequently "and when are you going to get a woman again?", which I rarely take seriously.

sure my mom and sister thing im gay and i could think of a dozen other people that joke about the same :rolleyes: **** it anyway im glad theyre all in relationships but i pity them if they ever find themselves out of one as it seems they cant even imagine living single.

FruitLover

CuLT wrote: »

Have you become attached to "Butt Demon" or would you like it changed back to the default? I don't recall what circumstances I set it under.

I think "Butt Monkey" has a better ring to it tbh.

(It was set in some thread about user tags where someone was whinging about what their tag said, and someone changed mine to reflect the fact that I couldn't give a (butt) monkey's about what it says)

Elessar

Why do I need to be not single?

Dudess

Overheal wrote: »

sure my mom and sister thing im gay and i could think of a dozen other people that joke about the same :rolleyes: **** it anyway im glad theyre all in relationships but i pity them if they ever find themselves out of one as it seems they cant even imagine living single.

Yeah, they're gonna be fukked if/when those relationships break up. Anyway, in my opinion, unless you fall madly in love with someone, you're better off enjoying being single in your 20s and not worrying about meeting someone. I was single from 23 to 28 and had a brilliant time.

YogiBear

I joined a group on facebook recently called "Awesome people that are single for no apparent reason". I just don't understand it. I'm fabulous like!

Overheal

YogiBear wrote: »

I joined a group on facebook recently called "Awesome people that are single for no apparent reason". I just don't understand it. I'm fabulous like!

lol. joining now

FruitLover

sam34 wrote: »

you wouldnt be quite so sarcastic and "funny" if you had endured what i did.:mad:

You're absolutely right, I'd probably lump everyone of the opposite gender into the same cateogory, just like you. That would be the sensible thing to do.

Faith

I think my mum is paranoid that I'm gay. She was in relationships from when she was 13 or so, and married my dad at 23. She can't understand why I'm single, and thinks it's something I'm doing wrong.

My best friend was pretty much always single up until she met her current boyfriend. They've been going out for 2 years now and recently she's started trying to set me up with this guy, who's a friends of hers but I barely know. He's completely opposite of anything I find attractive, physically and personality-wise. He's a nice guy, but incredibly boring. I can't decide whether she's being deliberately cruel by suggesting he's my ideal man, or just so obsessed with the idea that I should be going out with someone, she doesn't care if I like him or not.

In either case, it's annoying. I got quite angry about it one day and told her how patronising I found it, so she's let it go (for now).

Overheal

sam34 wrote: »

am single by choice. have had experience of seriously destructive relationships, where the man involved did his best to destroy me. never risking that again.also, as someone has already mentioned, looking around at all the couples i know, i see none that i envy.

Another man-hater is born every day.
If its a problem for you; make a thread in PI and it can be discussed constructively.

Sure I got burned on my first real attempt at finding a relationship myself; I don't think I'll let it stop me from trying again in the future though. Monster bitch though she may have been

Affable

Dudess wrote: »

Yeah, they're gonna be fukked if/when those relationships break up. Anyway, in my opinion, unless you fall madly in love with someone, you're better off enjoying being single in your 20s and not worrying about meeting someone. I was single from 23 to 28 and had a brilliant time.

You have a hubby now?

FearDark

Im single but don't tell my girlfriend :pac:

AckwelFoley

Its Saturday night.

I hope to have no need to post in this thread tomorrow.

snyper

snyper wrote: »

Its Saturday night.

I hope to have no need to post in this thread tomorrow.

But won't you be single again around 9am???

Dudess

YogiBear wrote: »

I joined a group on facebook recently called "Awesome people that are single for no apparent reason". I just don't understand it. I'm fabulous like!

Not meeting anyone yet with whom you'd like to be in a relationship is actually a very good reason to be single - the best one really.

Affable wrote: »

You have a hubby now?

Nope, boyfriend.

Affable

Faith wrote: »

He's completely opposite of anything I find attractive, physically and personality-wise. He's a nice guy, but incredibly boring.

How's he boring? Just curious.......

AckwelFoley

Deleted User wrote: »

But won't you be single again around 9am???

No. I will be wearing the new Lynx Deoderant.

Lynx - The Fritzel effect... said to last for 24 years.

Affable

Me being a lazy ****er may not contribute well to my relationship prospects.

kowloon

snyper wrote: »

No. I will be wearing the new Lynx Deoderant.

Lynx - The Fritzel effect... said to last for 24 years.

Sex Panther by Odeon FTW

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d0MrrGjW8do

Sir Oxman

Proxy wrote: »

LOL, didn't see that coming, randomly thrown in there! Fair play to ya for the honesty!

Now I can't edit...forever will it be known.



Ah well....;)

Sir Oxman

Affable wrote: »

Me being a lazy ****er may not contribute well to my relationship prospects.

Jesus, that's me too.

In all honesty, I miss some aspects of being part of a coupling - parts, not all.

I like doing my own thing much more than having to be here, there and everywhere...it always was everywhere I didn't want to be...

Now, I miss that. Sort of.

Life is weird.

Affable

gambiaman wrote: »

I like doing my own thing much more than having to be here, there and everywhere...it always was everywhere I didn't want to be...

Yeah that's a bonus. Maybe you just weren't with someone relaxed enough.

Faith

Affable wrote: »

How's he boring? Just curious.......

He's an architect student and it's all he ever talks about. It's probably interesting to some people, but I really don't care about architecture.

Time Magazine

I'm single in the first place because I wasn't happy in my last relationship and finally got out of it.

I'm still single because I'm not stupid enough to let New Girl With Whom Things Would Be Very Complicated distract me before my finals, so I made it very clear when I saw her last that we're both still single. But I like her enough to not be tempted by anyone else for the moment and to agree to exclusivity with her, so for the meantime I'm stuck in a little quandary. Single but not available probably isn't a long-run solution, though.

We'll see what happens when I don't have exams looming.

Overheal

Who needs to be in a relationship anyway when The Naked Gun is on telly? Answer Me!

Gummy Panda

Overheal wrote: »

Who needs to be in a relationship anyway when The Naked Gun is on telly? Answer Me!

People with broken TVs?

Firetrap

There's a giant condom gag in that film. More misery for singletons. or not :rolleyes:

Firetrap

Firetrap wrote: »

There's a giant condom gag in that film. More misery for singletons. or not :rolleyes:

Oh don't I know... I've all three on DVD.

YogiBear

Dudess wrote: »

Not meeting anyone yet with whom you'd like to be in a relationship is actually a very good reason to be single - the best one really.

Yeah I broke up with someone start of January & just haven't met anyone that tickled my fancy.. It's only now anyway that I feel ready to even think about getting back into a relationship with anyone, I think you need time after a breakup!

Cheeky_gal

xzanti wrote: »

^ exactly.. Born alone.. Die alone..

Ha!
Talk about been melodramatic...
:rolleyes:

Sangre

I'm not dying alone. I plan on taking a lot of people out with me.

kowloon

And when you're single it's harder to become de-singulated than it is to stay loyal when you're in a relationship. The only times i've ever been approached by the opposite sex, bought drinks etc. was when I couldn't accept.

Sputs-Lover

Single for a fair bit now, but I dont let that bother me.
There is times where I will be around my friends that are couples and I will feel left out, but I am a believer that at some stage the right person will come along and we will just click.

invincibleirish

Talk about depression central! being single is fun guys, the grass is only greener if you want it to be.

The best bit about being single is the free time you get. being in a relationship can be such a drag and you become slightly boring.

kowloon

nothing worse than turning up to somewhere and finding out you're the only single person. Sitting in a room full of couples. Talking $hit. About home decoration.

Sangre

invincibleirish wrote: »

Talk about depression central! being single is fun guys, the grass is only greener if you want it to be.

The best bit about being single is the free time you get. being in a relationship can be such a drag and you become slightly boring.

yeah, the last 10 years have been real fun on my own.

invincibleirish

Sangre wrote: »

yeah, the last 10 years have been real fun on my own.

Have you not developed interests and a life outside of defining yourself as single?

snyper

snyper wrote: »

No. I will be wearing the new Lynx Deoderant.

Lynx - The Fritzel effect... said to last for 24 years.

I've heard of the mystical Fritzel effect, though have never experienced it.

Faith wrote: »

He's an architect student and it's all he ever talks about. It's probably interesting to some people, but I really don't care about architecture.

But architects are awesome, or so How I Met Your Mother has informed me. Ted Mosley, ftw.

After following this thread the past few days I decided to just go for it and see how I do. Ended up getting a rather attractive and quite nice girls number. Thinking back it's the first time it's happened so hopefully it will continue. Now do I follow the rules laid down in Swingers and wait a few days or just text her in the next day or so????

Sangre

invincibleirish wrote: »

Have you not developed interests and a life outside of defining yourself as single?

whats the point if ive no one to share them with?

invincibleirish

Sangre wrote: »

whats the point if ive no one to share them with?

Get a dog:D

AlmightyCushion

invincibleirish wrote: »

Get a dog:D

Read the charter, no yore ma jokes.

scaradhg

to add to that i think i am a good person..

dionsiseire

I would say i am single because i lack game

I am out of a 2 year relationship about a year now, had a girlfriend for a month inbetween the breakup and now, but we'll call that a rebound (albeit a drawn out one )

i go out to the pub for a boogie regularly and i would go out not thinking "right lets go on the pull" but more good time, if stuff happens it happens, but i have a stomach problem which stops me from drinking, so i would lack a certain je ne sais quoi or "dutch courage" that others around me would have. so i wouldnt try as much as maybe i should.

im quite happy single at the moment, with the money ive saved in the last few months ive gotten to do more things, im easily re-paying my loan for my car which was a rather large loan, im heading to glastonbury and im hoping to get on a sun holiday with mates too.

This kind of money i never had when in a relationship, so im enjoying that, i wouldnt mind being in a relationship but if im honest im not pushed unless the girl is right, i think a lot of my friends would get into relationships with girls that they half know is going nowhere and a month later breakup. I would happily go back from single to relationship if the girl was right, but until then i dont really feel the need to rush it as im happy, enjoying life and doing what i please when i please.

I do understand where other posters are getting the not knowing what to do with themselves kind thing after being in a long relationship, i was exactly the same, times spent on watching dvd's, cinema, nights out, socialising not in the pub, meals, bowling and other general stuff that might take up time i found massively free, i filled it with 5 a side football, darts and snoooker, joined the astro park 5 a side league with mates, play snooker for sportlink in the griffith league and play darts with mates in my shed and im getting to a point where i might try join a team, im loving my sports right now and if i got into another relationship i would want to keep up the sports im doing at the moment. so i guess right now between work and sports and nights out i havnt the time or money for a girlfriend.

Overheal

Deleted User wrote: »

I've heard of the mystical Fritzel effect, though have never experienced it.



But architects are awesome, or so How I Met Your Mother has informed me. Ted Mosley, ftw.

After following this thread the past few days I decided to just go for it and see how I do. Ended up getting a rather attractive and quite nice girls number. Thinking back it's the first time it's happened so hopefully it will continue. Now do I follow the rules laid down in Swingers and wait a few days or just text her in the next day or so????

good on ya Darko.

To tell truth ive had luck calling her back 5 minutes later it all really depends. I say text her in the next day or so, personally; but do whatever feels right to you.

Dudess

scaradhg wrote: »

im in a relationship almost 2yrs,goodtimes and bad times-not sure if they balance out...lately i feel really alone,other things come first with him(so i feel)....he always comes first in my books and its important for a relationship to have that balance

Why? What about your friends and family?

Nevyn

Why are you single?

Because me and my life are usually far to strange and weird for most people.