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  • 07-05-2008 9:17pm
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    Mental Mickey
    Registered Users Posts: 10,642 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi guys

    Long post, so bear with me:

    (Deep breath). I am a 33 yo man with a disability, and I have never had any success with either sex. Lately I have been confused as to "what" I am(gay or straight)??

    Can anyone suggest somewhere/someone who I can talk to about this???? It's bloody wrecking my head!!!!

    PM me for an e-mail address if ya want to get in touch??

    Thanks :o


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    Kazobel
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,168 ✭✭✭Kazobel


    You may get some help here, Outhouse. ;)


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    Mental Mickey
    Registered Users Posts: 10,642 ✭✭✭✭Mental Mickey


    Kazobel wrote: »
    You may get some help here, Outhouse. ;)

    Thanks for that. Would you know if that place is wheelchair accessible???


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    BuffyBot
    Registered Users Posts: 24,924 ✭✭✭✭BuffyBot


    Don't forget - you can throw questions out here too :)


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    Mental Mickey
    Registered Users Posts: 10,642 ✭✭✭✭Mental Mickey


    BuffyBot wrote: »
    Don't forget - you can throw questions out here too :)

    Thanks. I haven't got a f**kin clue what questions to be asking???????


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    Kazobel
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,168 ✭✭✭Kazobel


    Mental Mickey wrote: »
    Thanks for that. Would you know if that place is wheelchair accessible???

    Well there's a small step at the front door as far as I remember but it shouldn't pose much of a problem, the people there are really nice anyway so I'm sure they'll be happy to help you out. You can check out their calander for the next month here, I'm sure you'll find one meeting that would be a start for you. As regards not knowing what to ask to be honest alot of people end up in that situation (christ knows there's loads of threads on here from confused people), check the calender, I'd suggest trying one of the Johnny meetings or even the Gay Book Club just to initally meet people without diving into anything and just start from there. Don't stress about wether you're gay/straight/Bi because in the end it's just a label, try get to know a few people in a situation that doesn't soley focus on sexuality but you all have something in common like the book club for example and focus on making friends first and then see where it leads. Good luck :)


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    Annasopra
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    Mental Mickey wrote: »
    Thanks for that. Would you know if that place is wheelchair accessible???

    The wheelchair accessibility isn't great - but they have added a downstairs part

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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    Annasopra
    Registered Users Posts: 41,062 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    Mental Mickey wrote: »
    Hi guys

    Long post, so bear with me:

    (Deep breath). I am a 33 yo man with a disability, and I have never had any success with either sex. Lately I have been confused as to "what" I am(gay or straight)??

    Can anyone suggest somewhere/someone who I can talk to about this???? It's bloody wrecking my head!!!!

    PM me for an e-mail address if ya want to get in touch??

    Thanks :o

    Hi Mickey

    Welcome to the LGB section of boards

    If you are confused about your sexuality - you could maybe ring the Dublin Gay Switchboard http://www.gayswitchboard.ie/


    and remember you can ask us lots of questions too

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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    Mental Mickey
    Registered Users Posts: 10,642 ✭✭✭✭Mental Mickey


    Johnnymcg wrote: »
    Hi Mickey

    Welcome to the LGB section of boards

    If you are confused about your sexuality - you could maybe ring the Dublin Gay Switchboard http://www.gayswitchboard.ie/


    and remember you can ask us lots of questions too

    Thanks for that. I havent got a clue what questions to be asking??

    :-(


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    azezil
    Registered Users Posts: 11,397 ✭✭✭✭azezil


    Well perhaps we can quiz you a bit then and perhaps that'll get your creative juices flowing ;)

    So I suppose the easiest place to start would be, why do you think you might be attracted to members of the same sex?


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    Mental Mickey
    Registered Users Posts: 10,642 ✭✭✭✭Mental Mickey


    azezil wrote: »
    Well perhaps we can quiz you a bit then and perhaps that'll get your creative juices flowing ;)

    So I suppose the easiest place to start would be, why do you think you might be attracted to members of the same sex?

    Sometimes when I see men's "packages", it turns me on.


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    azezil
    Registered Users Posts: 11,397 ✭✭✭✭azezil


    Well that could certainly point towards but not necessarily mean you're so inclined, but perhaps worth investigating if you feel strongly enough about it.

    Any other reason, do you fantisise about guys or look at gay porn?


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    Annasopra
    Registered Users Posts: 41,062 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    Are there any other reasons you think you might be gay?

    Have you experimented with men in any way - e.g. kissing men?

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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    Mental Mickey
    Registered Users Posts: 10,642 ✭✭✭✭Mental Mickey


    Johnnymcg wrote: »
    Are there any other reasons you think you might be gay?

    Have you experimented with men in any way - e.g. kissing men?


    nope


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    NatDonegal
    Closed Accounts Posts: 44 ✭NatDonegal


    Does the thought of interacting with another guy do anything for you?

    Not sure if this is the same... but I have always known i was gay but up until the age of 21 i had attractions to some women... i settled that by sleeping with a girl... afterwards those feelings never returned!


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    Annasopra
    Registered Users Posts: 41,062 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    OK

    Do women turn you on at all?

    Have you always felt you might be gay?

    Do you have sexual fantasies about men?

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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    Mental Mickey
    Registered Users Posts: 10,642 ✭✭✭✭Mental Mickey


    Johnnymcg wrote: »
    OK

    Do women turn you on at all?

    Have you always felt you might be gay?

    Do you have sexual fantasies about men?


    Yes, women do turn me on.


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    Velvet Vocals
    Registered Users Posts: 1,345 ✭✭✭Velvet Vocals


    Hey op, how do you feel about women? I mean, in the same way that you get aroused from looking at men's packages, do you like boobs? Do you think that rather then being either gay or straight you might be bi?

    What do you think sparked off these feelings recently that prompted you to post up on boads? do you have a close friend that you've started to think about differently recently or anything?
    I realise that these are very leading questions, but I'm just asking them in this way coz you seem like the shy type. Hope thats ok with you! :)


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    Mental Mickey
    Registered Users Posts: 10,642 ✭✭✭✭Mental Mickey


    Velvet Vocals wrote: »
    Hey op, how do you feel about women? I mean, in the same way that you get aroused from looking at men's packages, do you like boobs? Do you think that rather then being either gay or straight you might be bi?

    What do you think sparked off these feelings recently that prompted you to post up on boads? do you have a close friend that you've started to think about differently recently or anything?
    I realise that these are very leading questions, but I'm just asking them in this way coz you seem like the shy type. Hope thats ok with you! :)

    I can't remember?? LOL. Probably lookin at porn or summat?? I don't have any male friends that I think of in that way, no.


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