Whats the most important thing for you in a relationship?

Homer J Simpson · 13-05-2008 9:28am #1

Hello,

This is a question for the ladies. I would like your input as to what is the single most important thing in a relationship from your point of view?

Is it attention from your other half, having shared interests, quality time spent together, great sex, being intimate together, being told "I love you" by your OH ?

I'm aware everyone is different however I would just like some feedback from the ladies poiint of view.

Many thanks.

tribulus · 13-05-2008 9:33am

Homer J Simpson wrote: »

Hello,

This is a question for the ladies. I would like your input as to what is the single most important thing in a relationship from your point of view?

Is it attention from your other half, having shared interests, quality time spent together, great sex, being intimate together, being told "I love you" by your OH ?

I'm aware everyone is different however I would just like some feedback from the ladies poiint of view.

Many thanks.

Expect a long list

all the stars · 13-05-2008 9:33am

Today i will answer this :

The most important thing for me in my realtionship is having an unstoppable- constant loving support in my OH.

It is so important to have that unconditional support, i feel that today a lot (stuff goin on) and i know he feels that also today (he also has stuff goin on) and the fact of having someone there to just be there for you, means so very much.

all the stars · 13-05-2008 9:35am

tribulus wrote: »

Expect a long list

see my post (#3) not all women are as demanding as you may think.

tribulus · 13-05-2008 9:37am

I was coming more from the indecisiveness angle but meh

all the stars · 13-05-2008 10:08am

not as indecisive as you think either.

tribulus · 13-05-2008 10:11am

My single most important thing in a relationship is that I'm allowed make sweeping generalisations without being nagged

j/k

all the stars · 13-05-2008 10:18am

whatever. with the nice stereotypical comment, glad i have a good man, who in turn has me. A frikkin rock . with no demands. or expectations.

tribulus · 13-05-2008 10:20am

Em, it was a joke,

:D etc.

Quality · 13-05-2008 10:20am

Trust, I base my relationship on trusting my oh and him trusting me.

I suppose honesty is a big part of that. trust and honesty come hand in hand.

The Sweeper · 13-05-2008 11:05am

Communication.

Communication about happiness, unhappiness, contentedness, discontent, money, lack thereof, health, poor health, good moods, bad moods, sex, no sex, not enough sex, too much sex, plans, lack of plans, changes of plans, how the day was, how the day wasn't, how tomorrow will or won't be, the laundry, the cooking, the cats, the chickens, communication about the decent car and the crap car, the bills, the weather, communication about funny things that happened that day, communication about whether or not there's enough communcation and communication about not wanting to communicate.

No communication: no relationship.

jellie · 13-05-2008 11:09am

Minesajackdaniels wrote: »

Communication.

Communication about happiness, unhappiness, contentedness, discontent, money, lack thereof, health, poor health, good moods, bad moods, sex, no sex, not enough sex, too much sex, plans, lack of plans, changes of plans, how the day was, how the day wasn't, how tomorrow will or won't be, the laundry, the cooking, the cats, the chickens, communication about the decent car and the crap car, the bills, the weather, communication about funny things that happened that day, communication about whether or not there's enough communcation and communication about not wanting to communicate.

No communication: no relationship.

Definitely. would completely agree.

But my first thought was laughter. and hugs

Dragan · 13-05-2008 11:15am

That we can both happily be ourselves.

jmcwobbles · 13-05-2008 11:28am

Dragan wrote: »

That we can both happily be ourselves.

+1

It's so important to be with someone who allows you to be yourself without feeling embarrassed, ashamed, silly etc. I know that I can say whatever I want or do whatever I want around my boyfriend and he loves everything about me - even the silly stuff

And vice versa for him!

Sangre · 13-05-2008 11:46am

single most important thing?

a vagina.

13-05-2008 11:59am

Homer J Simpson wrote: »

Hello,

This is a question for the ladies. I would like your input as to what is the single most important thing in a relationship from your point of view?

Is it attention from your other half, having shared interests, quality time spent together, great sex, being intimate together, being told "I love you" by your OH ?

I'm aware everyone is different however I would just like some feedback from the ladies poiint of view.

Many thanks.

Attention from your other half, having shared interests, quality time spent together, great sex, being intimate together, being told "I love you" oh and he has to feed me

:D:D

Minesajackdaniels wrote: »

Communication.

Agreed also

do you love it? · 13-05-2008 1:09pm

being each others best friend...kinda encorporates everything...trust honesty communication etc.

Dragan · 13-05-2008 1:15pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Attention from your other half, having shared interests, quality time spent together, great sex, being intimate together, being told "I love you" oh and he has to feed me :D:D

Out of interest, how can you quote his question and yet completely miss the point of it?

13-05-2008 2:25pm

Dragan wrote: »

Out of interest, how can you quote his question and yet completely miss the point of it?

what do you mean ?
all of the above are important to me

Dragan · 13-05-2008 2:34pm

Deleted User wrote: »

what do you mean ?
all of the above are important to me

Fair enough, but the question was specifically looking for the SINGLE most important thing to you.

If you had to boil it down to one, what would it be?

Kinetic^ · 13-05-2008 2:55pm

Dragan wrote: »

That we can both happily be ourselves.

Have to agree with you there good buddy, it's probably why herself and myself have been together for so long - 7 yrs now. Couldn't imagine having to be another person around her.

Dragan · 13-05-2008 2:59pm

Kinetic^ wrote: »

Have to agree with you there good buddy, it's probably why herself and myself have been together for so long - 7 yrs now. Couldn't imagine having to be another person around her.

Yeah, i eventually figured out that is why my past relationships failed. I was trying to be something and someone i wasn't. Esteem issues and all that.

As it turns out i'm a ****ing amazing person so i don't know what i was so worried about!!

13-05-2008 3:03pm

Dragan wrote: »

Fair enough, but the question was specifically looking for the SINGLE most important thing to you.

If you had to boil it down to one, what would it be?

Communication about everything down to complete blatant honesty and I love it

Puddleduck · 13-05-2008 3:15pm

Agreed, just being yourself around the person, it means you trust the other person to see you just as you are, warts and all. Im with the fella a relativly short time but I love the guy to bits, we can just flake out and be lazy together and its fun

13-05-2008 3:18pm

Its true, its my own view of love and we have said it to each other before loads of times

its what I've seen from my parents and they are blissfully happy after 22 years only celebrated just last week

KateD · 13-05-2008 3:28pm

A whole pile of things but I think honesty is number one. Add to that, attentive, loyal, caring, funny, intelligent, ambitious, adventurous, confident and hot and I'd be a very happy camper!!

Abi · 13-05-2008 3:40pm

Good sense of humour, loyal, ambitious, good perception.

* I have to be able to laugh with him.

* Loyality, because its what I give out.

* Ambitious, because its exciting and I would be there for lows and highs.

* Someone who understands love, and all that it entails.

* Good perception, because when I dont make my goals - they know how to pick me up and give me the will to try again.

Attractiveness never was an obstacle for me, because all of the above aren't on the front cover. You have to read the book first imo.

cuckoo · 14-05-2008 1:07am

Love.

*cue music*

All you need is love.....

Love is the glue that holds two people together so that they can communicate, that extra spark that makes sex so much better, love makes us want to take care of the other person when they have a manky flu, love makes us happy because we've woken up beside that person, love...is great.

A relationship without love (or the future prospect of it) is a friendship.

Lil' Smiler · 14-05-2008 1:14am

It's hard for me to say one single thing because there are so many important factors for me and I couldn't possibly rank them but trust is the main one. I've been messed around too much not to find it important

CathyMoran · 14-05-2008 7:23am

Like other people here there are several factors that are important to me but one of the most important things that he does is that he can always make me laugh no matter what.

Dragan · 14-05-2008 10:06am

cuckoo wrote: »

Love.

*cue music*

All you need is love.....

Love is the glue that holds two people together so that they can communicate, that extra spark that makes sex so much better, love makes us want to take care of the other person when they have a manky flu, love makes us happy because we've woken up beside that person, love...is great.

A relationship without love (or the future prospect of it) is a friendship.

"All you need is love is a lie,
we had love but we still said goodbye...."

There is a song for every occassion sadly.

Whats the most important thing for you in a relationship?

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