How low will you go?

wtf-09 · 16-02-2009 5:59pm

Buy him high heels...perfect solution...or better still give him yours...

masonman · 16-02-2009 6:28pm

shellyboo wrote: »

You absolutely can't control who you fancy. You can't manufacture sexual chemistry or attraction. If you can, I'd love to know how.

True, but we are coming back to that old chestnut - theres more to the fleeting "fancy" feeling. Also, there are
different attributes that qualify to allow us to "fancy" someone than Height/Weight/personality etc
I think Psychological/social aspects have a larger part to play than this sexual chemistry you speak of. We are highly
suggestible beings- we pick up on those things throughout our lives, family, friends, media etc . These can have a direct effect
of our desires. Its not irreversible - but maybe needs to be acknowledged first.
I can't believe its as black and white as innate sexual chemistry

shellyboo · 16-02-2009 6:34pm

masonman wrote: »

True, but we are coming back to that old chestnut - theres more to the fleeting "fancy" feeling. Also, there are
different attributes that qualify to allow us to "fancy" someone than Height/Weight/personality etc
I think Psychological/social aspects have a larger part to play than this sexual chemistry you speak of. We are highly
suggestible beings- we pick up on those things throughout our lives, family, friends, media etc . These can have a direct effect
of our desires. Its not irreversible - but maybe needs to be acknowledged first.
I can't believe its as black and white as innate sexual chemistry

Oh, ok so we just have a language barrier. By fancy I mean all that crap you just said. It's attraction more than fancying really, deeper than observing "that person is good looking". Like me and Tom Cruise - yeah, he's good looking, but I don't fancy him.

Dinxminx · 16-02-2009 6:55pm

I'm only 5'1 and the guys I've been with have been 6'2, 6'4 (yeah we looked odd together), and 6'1.

I just like taller guys. Don't consider it shallow - it's like some guys falling for blondes, or whatever. I tend to fall for tall guys.

masonman · 16-02-2009 9:23pm

shellyboo wrote: »

Oh, ok so we just have a language barrier. By fancy I mean all that crap you just said. It's attraction more than fancying really, deeper than observing "that person is good looking". Like me and Tom Cruise - yeah, he's good looking, but I don't fancy him.

No....I don't think thats the problem

Tom Cruise was great in Mission Impossible, but he won't get us out of this hole

nevershutsup · 16-02-2009 9:36pm

yea im 5ft barely anythin ... i could not go with a guy smaller than me shallow or not i like my man taller .... better for cuddles too ....

in fairness now if he was smaller than me i wouldn of fancied him in the first place... harsh but whatever....

masonman · 16-02-2009 9:45pm

nevershutsup wrote: »

whatever....

+1

lickleMo · 28-02-2009 3:13am

I don't think I would go for a guy that was really small....but that's because I'm 5ft10. But I wouldn't have a problem going out with a guy a little smaller than me. some guys don't like when girls are taller than them....others don't mind it. ....I think it's all quite relative. My preference would be a guy taller than me....But it is sometimes hard to meet them, esp since I wear heels when I go out!!

Firefox10 · 28-02-2009 3:26am

Dont honestly get it!.whats wrong with a guy that is a little smaller then you. if the person if fun to be with with and has a good personatily why has this a baring on things?

Caoimhe89 · 28-02-2009 11:54am

Pure physical attraction will always play a part in any relationship, let's be honest. So the fact that I am attracted physically to a taller man means that I am more likely to fancy them as a person.

That said, if a good-looking,tall guy was an a$shole, well then I probably wouldn't be attracted to him.

And I guess if I met a really nice, perfect guy who happened to be a little shorter, I'd get over the whole height thing. Tall guys are just a general preference rather than a strictly observed rule.

That said, my friends find it hilarious - I'm the shortest in our group (not by much now, I'm 5'7'' which is pretty standard) but I'm the only one who has a real thing for height...

For a comparison, one of my friends finds redheads inexplicably attractive. Does that mean she's shallow?

Wibbs · 28-02-2009 12:02pm

Caoimhe89 wrote: »

For a comparison, one of my friends finds redheads inexplicably attractive. Does that mean she's shallow?

Nope just weird...... *runs from moonbaby*

Height in a guy is just one feature of attraction. Social value may be another. Well built yet another. Financial independence, hair colour, emotional strength etc etc. If you're a short guy, yes you'll have some disadvantage compared to a taller guy. Same if you're skinny or fat. The package is what does it though. Especially for women. Women are in general more discerning than men when it comes to attraction. At least their requirements are less visually obvious. If the rest of your life and persona is up to speed, then even if you're shorter, fatter, skinnier or whatever, you'll still attract your fair share of women. The biggest lothario I personally know is about 5' 5", about a stone over what he should be, and not exactly pretty so.....

MadgeBadge · 28-02-2009 4:47pm

I suppose it rules out alot of celebs. It's like the shorter folk have a pre-disposition for fame.

Snowie · 28-02-2009 6:25pm

Caoimhe89 wrote: »

For a comparison, one of my friends finds redheads inexplicably attractive. Does that mean she's shallow?

no i like redheaded women actully they can be the most attractive, out of all hair colours they can make me, turn into a dog and start howling at the mooooooooooooooooooooooooonnnnnnn

28-02-2009 7:02pm

I'm 5'8 so... there is no way I would go near someone shorter than me..

So, No, they dont do it for me.

Alessandra · 28-02-2009 8:42pm

5'11 here, i wea heels a lot too. I get uncomfortable around shorter men but they're the ones who seem to go for me

lickleMo · 01-03-2009 8:04pm

Alessandra wrote: »

5'11 here, i wea heels a lot too. I get uncomfortable around shorter men but they're the ones who seem to go for me

Ha! I know the feeling!!

room18 · 02-03-2009 7:58pm

I am 5'8/9, and I do feel really uncomfortable going out with ladies who are taller than me in high heels, never mind being taller than me without them.
I must say for someone who is in my height bracket, it is difficult to pull at a club! Unless your are very striking good looking person, you havent got much of a chance. And I know there are girls who have no problem with the whole height thing, but for the majority...

GirlInterrupted · 02-03-2009 10:51pm

Alessandra wrote: »

5'11 here, i wea heels a lot too. I get uncomfortable around shorter men but they're the ones who seem to go for me

Why though? And perhaps if you gave it a bit of time, that feeling would fade. Who knows who you're missing out on meeting if you limit yourself like that?

room18 wrote: »

I am 5'8/9, and I do feel really uncomfortable going out with ladies who are taller than me in high heels, never mind being taller than me without them.
I must say for someone who is in my height bracket, it is difficult to pull at a club! Unless your are very striking good looking person, you havent got much of a chance. And I know there are girls who have no problem with the whole height thing, but for the majority...

See, you're put out that the majority of girls don't go for shorter men, just after complaining that tall girls make you feel uncomfortable. I'm 5'11'' and a mans height is pretty unimportant to me, which, lets face it, is just as well.

As I just said, who knows who you're ruling out by, well, ruling so many out...

Stheno · 02-03-2009 10:56pm

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

See, you're put out that the majority of girls don't go for shorter men, just after complaining that tall girls make you feel uncomfortable. I'm 5'11'' and a mans height is pretty unimportant to me, which, lets face it, is just as well.

As I just said, who knows who you're ruling out by, well, ruling so many out...

I've noticed loads of couples lately where the girl is taller than the guy, not bothered checking out heels, but it's nice to see

dingdong1 · 03-03-2009 1:14am

bizzare enough thread tbh... as long as were not talking midget territory it should be a non-issue. in fairness ireland has got it's fair share of shallow people, just look at some of the threads on this forum ffs..

n1ck · 03-03-2009 2:04am

I understand a lot of opinions in this thread, but people moaning about others being shallow because they might disregard someone for being short is a bit silly.

In majority of cases no matter how much people deny it, physical appearance is what attacts you there and personality is what keeps you there, they go hand in hand, at least in my opinion.

Saying that i prefer a woman shorter than me, i'm only 5'10" though.

Red Hand · 03-03-2009 4:09am

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

Why though? And perhaps if you gave it a bit of time, that feeling would fade. Who knows who you're missing out on meeting if you limit yourself like that?

See, you're put out that the majority of girls don't go for shorter men, just after complaining that tall girls make you feel uncomfortable. I'm 5'11'' and a mans height is pretty unimportant to me, which, lets face it, is just as well.

As I just said, who knows who you're ruling out by, well, ruling so many out...

You can't really change who you're attracted/not attracted to, though?

allabouteve · 03-03-2009 2:39pm

Jeremiah 16:1 wrote: »

You can't really change who you're attracted/not attracted to, though?

I think she means attraction can grow if you like someone for their other qualities.

luap_42 · 09-03-2009 8:44pm

A few years ago I read about a survey that had calculated the ratio of the height of the man to women across a massive number of couples. They also had statistics of how long these couples stayed together.

Based on the length of the relationships, the perfect height ratio supposedly is 1:1.109 and was extremely consistent across the couples.

So girl 5'7", guy 6'2".

However extremely tall or short attract the opposite extreme, hence 6'6" guy with 5'0" girl.

I'm 6'2" and it definitely works for me if she's not in heels. I'd still be taller even with heels, but it just doesn't feel the same.

Could never figure out why not attracted to some of my girl friends who are gorgeous, seems they were either too tall or small.

masonman · 09-03-2009 9:42pm

luap_42 wrote: »

A few years ago I read about a survey that had calculated the ratio of the height of the man to women across a massive number of couples. They also had statistics of how long these couples stayed together.

I think I saw a similar "experiment" on Brainiac

I can do science me :rolleyes:

luap_42 wrote: »

Could never figure out why not attracted to some of my girl friends who are gorgeous, seems they were either too tall or small.

SEEMS like you've really explored and exhausted the possibilities

GiftofGab · 09-03-2009 10:14pm

Height alone is really important to so many girls. Im 5'7 and ive approached girls in clubs only for them to turn around and say "hey i think your really hot but your just too small for me". Even thou these girls are the same height or smaller than me. It happened numerous of times. My height doesn't bother me. My usual answer to these comments are "good things come in small packages" or "we're all the same height lying down". It never worked thou

GirlInterrupted · 09-03-2009 11:41pm

GiftofGab wrote: »

My height doesn't bother me. My usual answer to these comments are "good things come in small packages" or "we're all the same height lying down". It never worked thou

It will, when it matters most.

Much better to be with someone who likes you regardless of how you measure up in the height stakes, than someone who considers feet and inches a pre-requisite for happiness.

Stheno · 10-03-2009 12:18am

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

Why though? And perhaps if you gave it a bit of time, that feeling would fade. Who knows who you're missing out on meeting if you limit yourself like that?

See, you're put out that the majority of girls don't go for shorter men, just after complaining that tall girls make you feel uncomfortable. I'm 5'11'' and a mans height is pretty unimportant to me, which, lets face it, is just as well.

As I just said, who knows who you're ruling out by, well, ruling so many out...

Exactly I used be a height snob when I was younger, but having gone out with a couple of guys the same height (five eight) or close to it, have no issues with it.

Jeremiah 16:1 wrote: »

You can't really change who you're attracted/not attracted to, though?

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

Much better to be with someone who likes you regardless of how you measure up in the height stakes, than someone who considers feet and inches a pre-requisite for happiness.

+1 to all of the above, I've gone out with guys much taller than me, and the same height as me, it makes little difference in the end

Elle Victorine · 10-03-2009 12:32am

went out with a guy for over two years who was shorter than me and the guy before him was my height. Didn't really make a difference to me to be honest. However now the guy I'm with is a lot taller than me!

idontknowmyname · 10-03-2009 1:40am

I'm 5'6 and did go out with a guy years ago who was the same height or maybe 5'5', i always wear heels when I'm out so I was towering over him, since then I've always gone for taller guys...current boyfriend is 5'9 which is nice and I still feel protected..

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