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useful_contacts

Im a Bi woman, with my fella over 4 years, basically reliased i was Bi when i was 17 (23 NOW) and he knows this.

When we got together he said it didnt bother him, BUT if theres a girl i spot out and i fancy her and she likes me , he GOES MAD! he considers it cheating If i snog her (and he wont have a 3 some cos He doesnt wanna share me)

I thought men loved 2 women together, what the deal? Is he crazy?

SPEAK UP MEN!!!!!!!!!!!

Cianos

useful_contacts wrote: »

he considers it cheating If i snog her

would you consider it cheating if he snogged another bird?

Gauge

Cheating is cheating, regardless of gender? If you're not in a consensual open relationship then I really don't blame your boyfriend and it's slightly worrying that you're bothered that he doesn't fit into this stereotype.

Sherifu

useful_contacts wrote: »

Im a Bi woman, with my fella over 4 years, basically reliased i was Bi when i was 17 (23 NOW) and he knows this.

When we got together he said it didnt bother him, BUT if theres a girl i spot out and i fancy her and she likes me , he GOES MAD! he considers it cheating If i snog her (and he wont have a 3 some cos He doesnt wanna share me)

I thought men loved 2 women together, what the deal? Is he crazy?

SPEAK UP MEN!!!!!!!!!!!

Lol. Ross Gellar syndrome.

FruitLover

useful_contacts wrote: »

he considers it cheating If i snog her

Eh... is there some way that it's not? E.g. if he snogged someone else, would you not consider it cheating?

Edit: oops, beaten to this point by a couple of posters above.

I don't understand the not wanting a threesome bit though.

useful_contacts

Cianos wrote: »

would you consider it cheating if he snogged another bird?

ya BUT i told him when we 1st got 2 gether i was in 2 other birds and id prob snog some of em and he said fine

useful_contacts

Gauge wrote: »

Cheating is cheating, regardless of gender? If you're not in a consensual open relationship then I really don't blame your boyfriend and it's slightly worrying that you're bothered that he doesn't fit into this stereotype.

huh?

Sherifu

useful_contacts wrote: »

ya BUT i told him when we 1st got 2 gether i was in 2 other birds and id prob snog some of em and he said fine

More fool him. Talk is cheap. etc.

useful_contacts

Sherifu wrote: »

Lol. Ross Gellar syndrome.

we were on a break?

or the sandwich one;)

-Freebird-

useful_contacts wrote: »

ya BUT i told him when we 1st got 2 gether i was in 2 other birds and id prob snog some of em and he said fine

That was 4 years ago, things are different now. You're together longer, feelings changed. I'd agree with him tbh.

useful_contacts

FruitLover wrote: »

I don't understand the not wanting a threesome bit though.

me too, had about 3 oppertunities in the last year (by ppl we kno not strangers) and he wouldnt after he KNOWING that i wanted variety in the relationship

Not fair i cant explore both sides of my sexuality, he said i could ...and now he wont let me:(

dlofnep

If he is in love with you, then he would be rightfully annoyed. If it's just a bit of a fling, I wouldn't mind my girl and another girl playing pattycakes - but if it was anything serious, it would be a no no.

I'd say the guy is just honestly loved up with you. How does he know you fancy them? If you're slutting around with them, that's it's hardly respectful to the guy if you've been with him 4 years.

So no, he's not crazy.

useful_contacts

-Freebird- wrote: »

That was 4 years ago, things are different now. You're together longer, feelings changed. I'd agree with him tbh.

double standards

-Freebird-

So you wouldn't mind him playing about?

useful_contacts

dlofnep wrote: »

How does he know you fancy them? If you're slutting around with them, that's it's hardly respectful to the guy if you've been with him 4 years.

So no, he's not crazy.

sluttin around? hes allowed in too hence my point its not just me, im annoyed he said i could and continues to say i can, yet freaks if i try to:(

Sherifu

useful_contacts wrote: »

or the sandwich one;)

You want a sandwich, he doesn't?

Doctor DooM

useful_contacts wrote: »

double standards

Its not double standards, unless you'd be fine with him snogging other people.

He doesn't want you exploring your sexuality with others. Would you like him exploring his with others?

And as for him not wanting to play in a three some... no one should ever be forced into a sexual encounter they do not desire.

useful_contacts

Sherifu wrote: »

You want a sandwich, he doesn't?

he says he wants one, when when hes handed 1 he doesnt want it

-Freebird-

Maybe you did, but I didn't see a response to 'Would you mind him fooling around?'

useful_contacts

SDooM wrote: »

He doesn't want you exploring your sexuality with others. Would you like him exploring his with others?

#.

If you had read what i said b4

He says i can explore my sexuality..

But when i go to do it- he freaks out..

And for the record he snogged a bird two weeks ago in a club cos he (in his words ) thought it was me(she was skinny/aneroxic - im not)

so ya ...Double standards!!!!!!!

utick

bi women are so common these days, i prefer the more rare straight women

-Freebird-

useful_contacts wrote: »

And for the record he snogged a bird two weeks ago in a club cos he (in his words ) thought it was me(she was skinny/aneroxic - im not)

1. You seem annoyed that he did that.
2. Don't take this the wrong way, but jesus, what's the point of being with someone if you wanna 'explore' other things. Be with him and just him, or move on.

Doctor DooM

useful_contacts wrote: »

If you had read what i said b4

He says i can explore my sexuality..

But when i go to do it- he freaks out..

And for the record he snogged a bird two weeks ago in a club cos he (in his words ) thought it was me(she was skinny/aneroxic - im not)
so ya ...Double standards!!!!!!!

Well, aren't you annoyed by that?

Can you see my point here?

TBH it sounds like there are more issues here than you wanting to spread your plastic lesbian wings.


EDIT: Great thread title, btw

useful_contacts

-Freebird- wrote: »

1. You seem annoyed that he did that.
2. Don't take this the wrong way, but jesus, what's the point of being with someone if you wanna 'explore' other things. Be with him and just him, or move on.

im a lil annoyed cos he pulled a crap line like that, she was like 6 stone and im 12ish, if he wanted to snog her just say but dont lie about it

And me and him were just menta be a fling, i told him that- he fell for me, wanted a relationship but i said no cos i was bi, he said it wouldnt bother him, I fell for him... and now its like im not allowed to be bi

No fair!!!!!

Dun laoire

useful_contacts wrote: »

If you had read what i said b4

He says i can explore my sexuality..

But when i go to do it- he freaks out..

And for the record he snogged a bird two weeks ago in a club cos he (in his words ) thought it was me(she was skinny/aneroxic - im not)

so ya ...Double standards!!!!!!!

the relationship is a farce

brayblue24

Sherifu wrote: »

You want a sandwich, he doesn't?

You old romantic you....

useful_contacts

SDooM wrote: »

EDIT: Great thread title, btw

Merci

Doctor DooM

useful_contacts wrote: »

im a lil annoyed cos he pulled a crap line like that, she was like 6 stone and im 12ish, if he wanted to snog her just say but dont lie about it

And me and him were just menta be a fling, i told him that- he fell for me, wanted a relationship but i said no cos i was bi, he said it wouldnt bother him, I fell for him... and now its like im not allowed to be bi

No fair!!!!!

If being bi is more important than being in a relationship with this dude then end it because as everyone's saying it looks pretty crap from where we're sitting!


Otherwise put the lesbiantics behind you and work on your relationship.
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TequilaMockingBird

LOL. Loves young dream.

Sherifu

brayblue24 wrote: »

You old romantic you....

Thanks!

takola

Dun laoire wrote: »

the relationship is a farce

Have to agree. From the sounds of it you're not the only one getting bored either! Just walk now and "explore your sexuality" as a single woman or find someone who's willing to be in an open relationship.

-Freebird-

useful_contacts wrote: »

And me and him were just menta be a fling, i told him that- he fell for me

You should have ended it there... You should have had to eventually fall for him...

A racy brainrot

when you are going out with someone then you are going out with someone.

Yes, look at other people and think that they may be attractive, but not complaining because your other-half won't let you be with other people.
At first he might have been open to it, but time has passed now and his opinions have changed.

javaboy

OP's profile says they're 22 not 23. ipso facto I don't believe a word of this.

If this is serious why not post in PI?

takola

javaboy wrote: »

OP's profile says they're 22 not 23. ipso facto I don't believe a word of this.

If this is serious why not post in PI?

The guys in PI can't give the same insightful replies as we can! :eek:

Doctor DooM

takola wrote: »

The guys in PI can't give the same insightful replies as we can! :eek:

Oh yeah. I'm full of sight, me

Canis Lupus

PI in AF is so much more fun.

No annoying "read the charter" every 10 seconds.

Personally OP I think you have a drink problem/drug problem/should talk to him/should dump him.

Oh hold on.... I reverted to PI answer mode....

Dammit.... your man is weird however a nagging voice in the back of my head seems to agree with him should you not be a terrible troll which I think you are

More women should be bi and willing to experiment.

AckwelFoley

Being bi is not a licence to have a man and a woman at the same time.

Grand it gives you a larger poole to pick from, but if atthis stage you are not getting what you want from the relationship and you want to go "eating out" id say end the relationship

useful_contacts

javaboy wrote: »

OP's profile says they're 22 not 23. ipso facto I don't believe a word of this.

If this is serious why not post in PI?

so im not allowed have a birthday am i??????????

i had hit a wrong digit on my prof when doing it but didnt think it mattered- but the king says it does!!!!

GET A LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!:mad:

flanum

what kinda girls do ya go for? are all girls potential bi? it seems they must be, the way you seem to be implying that when you are out and you see a girl you fancy etc etc? or do you go to gay clubs? just wandering?

-Freebird-

Are all women potentially bi? I have to wonder if that's a serious question.

flanum

-Freebird- wrote: »

Are all women potentially bi? I have to wonder if that's a serious question.

im trying to get a picture on this relationship. i mean if she is out hunting for girls to pick up, does she go to gay bars/clubs? if she does, then does her o/h know that she is out/do they go together? im trying to figure it out.

Cianos

Sounds like he's afraid to break up with you and you're carrying him along. Cut to the chase tbh

Toto Wolfcastle

-Freebird- wrote: »

Are all women potentially bi? I have to wonder if that's a serious question.

Course we're all bi! Sure aren't we all riding other women in secret! It's just that the men have yet to figure this out.

Dammit, bi cat out of secret-keeping bag!

-Freebird-

Tbh Flanum, it doesn't matter how she's doing, it's a ridiculous relationship. If you knew your OH resented you because she couldn't play about, would you really wanna continue?

-Freebird-

janeybabe wrote: »

Course we're all bi! Sure aren't we all riding other women in secret! It's just that the men have yet to figure this out.

Dammit, bi cat out of secret-keeping bag!

I think I missed that memo!


<_<

>_>

flanum

its just that i was in a relationship a few years ago, the girl was actually fully into her wimmins before we met for a long time, then she sort of went through a "bi" phase (when i met her) this was all made known to me, i was ok with it. i was happy to let her eyes wander at other women and didnt mind her flirting with women(tbh it did add a bit of spice) and we had agreed it wouldnt ever get any further. but after year 5 or so, she started having a few sly flings with girls (she went specifically to gay bars/clubs) and to me, this was no different to her cheating on me with guys! cheating is cheating.

Xavi6

Can't believe he got away with the "I thought it was you" excuse. Hero tbh

flanum

Xavi6 wrote: »

Can't believe he got away with the "I thought it was you" excuse. Hero tbh

it would be worse if op tried the same excuse :pac:

useful_contacts

useful_contacts wrote: »

ya BUT i told him when we 1st got 2 gether i was in 2 other birds and id prob snog some of em and he said fine

It's OK.You are cheap like cider from Tipp.

Overheal

useful_contacts wrote: »

Im a Bi woman, with my fella over 4 years, basically reliased i was Bi when i was 17 (23 NOW) and he knows this.

When we got together he said it didnt bother him, BUT if theres a girl i spot out and i fancy her and she likes me , he GOES MAD! he considers it cheating If i snog her (and he wont have a 3 some cos He doesnt wanna share me)

I thought men loved 2 women together, what the deal? Is he crazy?

SPEAK UP MEN!!!!!!!!!!!

and he's heterosexual. Do you want him ogling other women? You wouldnt get jealous if he said yeah I'd ride her? And then how would you feel if he went off and slept with her?