Following up after getting number

smoke

Hiya,
No expert on this by any means but I'd say he's still trying not to look too pushy. Maybe wait until tomorrow then text if he hasn't?

Paul.

moco

Yea, I probably am over analysising it, but I can't help it! He seems really keen when we're together and even when he does text but this waiting around drives me crazy. I'm quite stubborn and if he doesn't text when he says he will I'm tempted to just leave it because I don't want to text him, for him not to reply because then I'll be really embarrassed when I bump into him in town (which I will).

I might wait til tomorrow then give him a quick ring as that's instant..if he doesn't answer he doesn't - no waiting around. Then again, come tomorrow I know I'll be too chicken to ring.

LadyE

But if he says he's gonna text - then he should!

LadyE

moco wrote: »

Yea, I probably am over analysising it, but I can't help it! He seems really keen when we're together and even when he does text but this waiting around drives me crazy. I'm quite stubborn and if he doesn't text when he says he will I'm tempted to just leave it because I don't want to text him, for him not to reply because then I'll be really embarrassed when I bump into him in town (which I will).

I might wait til tomorrow then give him a quick ring as that's instant..if he doesn't answer he doesn't - no waiting around. Then again, come tomorrow I know I'll be too chicken to ring.

Good plan - but you'll only b upsetting yourself if you dont. You deserve to know where you stand.

moco

LadyE wrote: »

But if he says he's gonna text - then he should!

I know:(

moco

I might just throw my phone in the river.

LadyE

moco wrote: »

I might just throw my phone in the river.

Then you'll never kow if he texted!

Bit the bullet and do it yourself..if you havent had contact all week then you wont come across as needy or anything!

smoke

LadyE wrote: »

Then you'll never kow if he texted!

Bit the bullet and do it yourself..if you havent had contact all week then you wont come across as needy or anything!

Agreed

smoke

LadyE wrote: »

Good plan - but you'll only b upsetting yourself if you dont. You deserve to know where you stand.

You seem like a very genuine person. You should ring him tomorrow if you've heard nothing, and be confident! You've every right to be in confident in this situation!

LadyE

smoke wrote: »

You seem like a very genuine person. You should ring him tomorrow if you've heard nothing, and be confident! You've every right to be in confident in this situation!

QFT

gabgab

DO NOTHING!!!!!!!!

Trust me on this one, if he is that interested he would text when he says he is gonna text or very close to it. I mean hours not days,

You dont need to know where you stand, you already do,

Just reverse the role in your head, its not that nice, but if he was interested in the right way then he would of texted, or called,

trishasaffron

Good luck with texting and dates - am a long time out of the game and glad to be but insofar as I know anything about this please do not ask "where do I stand". Far too early for that, really terrifying to be asked that early in a relationship and a definite turnoff. I'd run a mile.

moco

gabgab wrote: »

DO NOTHING!!!!!!!!

Trust me on this one, if he is that interested he would text when he says he is gonna text or very close to it. I mean hours not days,

You dont need to know where you stand, you already do,

Just reverse the role in your head, its not that nice, but if he was interested in the right way then he would of texted, or called,

Yea, I think you're right, I better leave it.

I know if I liked someone I'd text them when I said I would.

Raoul

moco wrote: »

Yea, I think you're right, I better leave it.

I know if I liked someone I'd text them when I said I would.

Don't just leave it!!

Did you ever think that maybe he just has forgot that he said he would text and is waiting for you, maybe he has no credit etc...

There are loads of possible reasons why he hasn't texted back. I don't think you should be worrying too much.

And if you are there is no harm in you texting him first and saying something like " Hey, I thought you were goin to text me?" and then ask him how he is or ask him bout something you talked about. So that it doesnt sound like you are angry at him, just playfull slaggin. If he doesnt text back then he doesnt deserve what seems like a geniune girl like yourself.


Thats my opinion of the matter, I am open to correction.

moco

Oh it's all so stressful.:)

I think I'll leave it til tomorrow and then decide.

I think after saying on Sunday you'll text a girl during the week, then Wednesday is still acceptable but Thursday is pushing the boundaries a bit..

He seemed so keen and from listening to his mates and other people he knows in the pub it sounds like he was talking about me (in a good way) all week. Men! I'll never understand them.

Kirnsy

maybe he's on this very thread wondering how to approach you in the coolest way possible...and simply cant make up his mind as to how...


here's to being optimistic!

gabgab

Ok to put a different slant on it:

What sort of lad is he around you and girls in general?

Appears to be confident, not much of an issue with women or chatting to them, quiete charming, etc etc, if he is, then draw your own conclusions

If he is shy, a bag of nerves, etc etc, then maybe its a little different. Remember that the most confident of lads always meet a girl that turns them to jelly

However I reckon go with your gut,

(from a male by the way so hopefully it helps)

moco

Ok so I couldn't cope with the stress and the checking my phone all the time so I texted him this morning just said 'hi..how's things, are we not talking?' He replied straight away saying sorry he'd been busy all week and how am I. I said fine etc, was busy at work and I just thought he might be in bad humour with me or something. He replied saying not to be silly, why would he be annoyed with me and that he'd text me later. He seemed his normal self with smilies and kisses on the texts and stuff so I don't really know what to make of the whole thing.

I suppose I'll just hae to wait and see if he actually texts later.

Cathmandooo

Sounds like he was just busy with work, if you don't hear from him before tomorrow I'd leave it. Fingers crossed it works out though

moco

Well…I think no matter how busy someone is it only takes 2 secs to send someone a text but I'll give him the benefit of the doubt. If he doesn't text now tonight when he said specifically he would, he can run along!

misslt

moco wrote: »

Well…I think no matter how busy someone is it only takes 2 secs to send someone a text but I'll give him the benefit of the doubt. If he doesn't text now tonight when he said specifically he would, he can run along!

Good woman...I find myself in that situation all too freaking often.

I wish I could just send him on his merry way but when we're together things are amazing, and sometimes he's really attentive...but when you really need him to call/text/email...nothing

Drives me crazy!

moco

I got my text anyway..meeting him at the weekend.

I don't think he was deliberately messing me about, he seems a pretty straight-forward person. Maybe he doesn't need the constant reassurance of texts to know somebody likes him...like I do.:o

Cathmandooo

moco wrote: »

I got my text anyway..meeting him at the weekend.

I don't think he was deliberately messing me about, he seems a pretty straight-forward person. Maybe he doesn't need the constant reassurance of texts to know somebody likes him...like I do.:o

hurrrrray yay that's brill, delighted for you, enjoy meeting up with him

moco

Thanks:)