I owe my Ex money & I don't have it:(

HashSlinging

He's trying to pull a fast one on the OP, she needs to see proof of the cancellation, 50 euros back from a 1100 worth of flights does not sound right.

This guy went ahead and booked the flights knowing the OPs situation, tough sh*t on loverboi. Send him 5 euro a month by post hahaha really wind him up, tosser, I'd just take the hit.. instead this dude is bitchin on about 500 quid., and it sounds dodgy.

Work out how much you owe him, and if you've proven the lies send 5 euros a month. Teach "him" a lesson on how to be a gentleman.

dotsman

HashSlinging wrote: »

He's trying to pull a fast one on the OP, she needs to see proof of the cancellation, 50 euros back from a 1100 worth of flights does not sound right.

This guy went ahead and booked the flights knowing the OPs situation, tough sh*t on loverboi. Send him 5 euro a month by post hahaha really wind him up, tosser, I'd just take the hit.. instead this dude is bitchin on about 500 quid., and it sounds dodgy.

Work out how much you owe him, and if you've proven the lies send 5 euros a month. Teach "him" a lesson on how to be a gentleman.

So, on top of insulting him for being dumped, you are now encouraging his ex to twist the dagger further by stealing from him?

Wow, what great advice:rolleyes:

There is nothing to suggest the Ops ex is trying to pull a fast one. Until such time as there is evidence proving he has, she owes him money and it is both her and his interest to get the matter resolved ASAP. Borrow from a friend/family and pay them back in instalments.

Moneysunny wrote: »

we hope we can be friends in the future.

This ain't going to happen unless you repay him instantly.

And no, it doesn't make a difference if he earns an 8 digit figure or is a homeless bum, it's his money. He lent it to you while you were his girlfriend (and therefore could trust you to pay him back, nor would he mind waiting as he cared for you). You've now dumped him and changed everything. You are now a nobody in his life, and there is no reason why he should trust you (from his perspective you've already "let him down" in a big way recently). It's reasonable for him to expect the money back immediately.

Again, from his perspective, he must be wondering why you would want to drag this out? As most people have been saying before, it's in both your interests to repay him, and the fact that you are refusing is probably making him think that you are playing games with him.

allybhoy

Jesus people really are jumping down this girl's throat for nothing. Its not like she told her ex that she is never going to repay him, she has already suggested that she will pay him back over a period of time. IMO her ex is being really selfish and childish, especially with the "if we dont go, nobody goes" line. Does that not show that he doesnt care about getting his money back but cares more about annoying his ex? If he wants his money back really quickly surely he would want to try and sell the flights on to somebody else and that way all you would have to pay for are the name changes which would roughly be 100 yoyos per person.

If I was you OP I would find out the flight details and ring\email the airlines directly to see if you can cancel them. I have a funny feeling that your ex hasnt bothered his barney to cancel the flights and get his refund as he knows he can well afford to pay 500euro but you cant. If he is telling the truth and it turns out you cant cancel them then try and flog the flights by advertising on some travel websites.

MagicMarker

Yeah, 50 euro back from 1100 euro flight is definitely not right. The majority cost of flights is the tax, i would imagine out of a 1100 flight, at least 300-500 is taxes.

OP, go onto Aerlingus and check the price of the flights you have to the same city and dates. See how much tax is involved, this is what should be refunded.

I think the guy is trying to rip you off.

HashSlinging

i said if the op has proof she is being ripped off then send this guy 5 euro a week.

Kiera

I kinda had this problem in June. Myself and my ex were going to my friends wedding and had paid for the hotel. We split up and he demanded i pay his part of the money back because he was out of pocket. Now i had no intention of paying him back as it was his fault we broke up but he harrassed me so much while i was away (46 texts in one hour) that i was at my witts end and didnt know what to do. My friends helped me out just to get him out of my life.

Is there anyone who can help you out and maybe pay them back over time?

Hitchhiker's Guide to...

OP - you do not have to pay him back all at once. Please ignore posters that say you do. The verbal contract was that he would pay for the holiday and you would pay him back over time. He can't suddenly demand that it all be paid back at once. Its as simple as that.

I suggest that you follow the advice given earlier in the thread and give him five post-dated cheques for the next five months. Or, maybe skip giving him a cheque for December, so you have enough money for Christmas.

If this went to a small claims court, there is little chance a judge would order you to repay all money at once, as your ability to repay is usually taken into account.

Stick to your original verbal agreement and repay him over time.

EDIT to add: Your BF doesn't have a choice in this matter, don't let him think he does. As long as you are being reasonable with the repayments that is enough for you to keep up your side of the arrangement.

dotsman

Roundtower2 wrote: »

OP - you do not have to pay him back all at once. Please ignore posters that say you do. The verbal contract was that he would pay for the holiday and you would pay him back over time. He can't suddenly demand that it all be paid back at once. Its as simple as that.

I suggest that you follow the advice given earlier in the thread and give him five post-dated cheques for the next five months. Or, maybe skip giving him a cheque for December, so you have enough money for Christmas.

If this went to a small claims court, there is little chance a judge would order you to repay all money at once, as your ability to repay is usually taken into account.

Stick to your original verbal agreement and repay him over time.

EDIT to add: Your BF doesn't have a choice in this matter, don't let him think he does. As long as you are being reasonable with the repayments that is enough for you to keep up your side of the arrangement.

That would be good advice if it was purely a financial deal between them. However, there is the whole issue that it's best for both of them to get this over as soon as possible and have as clean a break-up as possible (ie, it's more a personal dilemma than a financial one).

Given that she that she hopes to still be friends, it's best that she borrows from a friend/family/bank and pay them in instalments than dragging these bad feelings out with him.

Dudess

OP, why would you want to drag this out? It doesn't look like he wants to. I'm also of the view you should just give him back his money in one go.

You have €100, take €400 out of the credit union and be done with it. The bank probably won't approve another loan.

Then don't even consider becoming friends with him - you mentioned in your opening post that could be a possibility, but then you kinda took any credibility away from that when you talked about him being spiteful, unreasonable etc.

MagicMarker

Kiera wrote: »

I kinda had this problem in June. Myself and my ex were going to my friends wedding and had paid for the hotel. We split up and he demanded i pay his part of the money back because he was out of pocket. Now i had no intention of paying him back as it was his fault we broke

Grow up.

Victor

Can we be a bit more constructive than "grow up"?