Breast feeding - does it bother you?

hunnybunny

I was out in town with an American friend. We were having a coffee, there was a young mother with a toddler and a baby. She opened her shirt and fed her child. I didn t even notice. My friend was disgusted at this woman and whispered to me why couldn t she just go to the bathroom rather than expose herself in a cafe.

I thought my friend was being ridiculous and we got into quite a debate about it.

She thinks breast feeding is on a par with exposing yourself in public and is inappropriate and people shouldn t have to see it. She thinks breasts are a sexual thing and having a baby in front of them doesn t change anything.:rolleyes:

My point of view is breast feeding isn t dirty and if there isnt a mother and baby room, she can do it discreetly in public. It would be different if she was flashing her boobs around on purpose but she wasn t! I don t see why she should have to go to the bathroom to feed her child. I think breast feeding is the most natural thing in the world and healthy for the baby. Its what nature intended and it doesn t harm anyone except for narrow minded prudes!:D Thats just my opinion!

Am I being too liberal here? Does it make people feel uncomfortable? Would some men actually see this in a sexual manner?

Go-Go-Gadget

doesnt bother me unless the child is a 65 year old :P

Bros123

BITTY,BITTY,BITTY.

JangoFett

hunnybunny wrote: »

I was out in town with an American friend. We were having a coffee, there was a young mother with a toddler and a baby. She opened her shirt and fed her child. I didn t even notice. My friend was disgusted at this woman and whispered to me why couldn t she just go to the bathroom rather than expose herself in a cafe.

I thought my friend was being ridiculous and we got into quite a debate about it.

She thinks breast feeding is on a par with exposing yourself in public and is inappropriate and people shouldn t have to see it. She thinks breasts are a sexual thing and having a baby in front of them doesn t change anything.:rolleyes:

My point of view is breast feeding isn t dirty and if there isnt a mother and baby room, she can do it discreetly in public. It would be different if she was flashing her boobs around on purpose but she wasn t! I don t see why she should have to go to the bathroom to feed her child. I think breast feeding is the most natural thing in the world and healthy for the baby. Its what nature intended and it doesn t harm anyone except for narrow minded prudes!:D Thats just my opinion!

Am I being too liberal here? Does it make people feel uncomfortable? Would some men actually see this in a sexual manner?

Ok, well, its a natural thing and some women are discreet but I get annoyed when women's attitude is "FCUK YOU I AM WOMAN I CAN DO THIS **** YOU YEAH THATS A BREAST THIS IS NATURAL **** YOU"

That annoys me

Jay D

I was severely put off by a gypsy woman doing this on a bus while at least 8 men in her company were present :eek: Lots of kids there too, in her company.....

Time and a place

admiralofthefleet

Bros123 wrote: »

BITTY,BITTY,BITTY.

NANA BITTY

Nevyn

Wow so children should not be allowed to see the female breast being used for it's primary function to feed an infant ?

JangoFett

Thaedydal wrote: »

Wow so children should not be allowed to see the female breast being used for it's primary function to feed an infant ?

So should children be allowed see adult genitals?

dan_y

well that's a bull**** argument.

Nevyn

Jay D wrote: »

I was severely put off by a gypsy woman doing this on a bus while at least 8 men in her company were present :eek: Lots of kids there too, in her company.....

Time and a place

Breastfeeding is on demand feeding, the time is when the baby is hungry and cries, the place is where ever you happen to be and there are many ways to do so discreetly.

This subject has come up before.
http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055167407

JangoFett

Mine? Yeah, its as weak as piss, I just think there's a time and a place and some people need to learn that

darkman2

I saw a woman on the 16a bus in Dublin with 2 kids sucking away on each breast. I dont think its appropriate in places such as public transport and would prefer they just did it at home. They dont have to show the world.

Nevyn

So she should just let the baby cry all the way home on the bus hungry and have herslef in distress and discomfort ?

I don't see a reason why naked bits in public are inappropiate at all tbh.
So long as you aren't doing anything lewd with them.

JangoFett

Well maybe there are more discreet ways of doing it?
Some women just throw the breast out and give you dirty looks if you so much as glance at them! **** that!!

darkman2

Thaedydal wrote: »

So she should just let the baby cry all the way home on the bus hungry and have herslef in distress and discomfort ?

No, she could of course try what most women have to do and ensure her baby(s) are fed before leaving the house and time her trip accordingly. No excuse. Dont care what they do in private but most people have no interest in seeing this in public.

ronbyrne2005

Express and bottle it at home girls. Seeing a baby latched on puts me off the sexual side of breasts(of which i have great mammaries, sorry ,memories)

ronbyrne2005

Also , I have heard many women get turned on by breastfeeding so it's inappropriate in very public places. Breastfeeding rooms for mums and babies and prepared bottles etc.

JangoFett

Ok, while I have said there's a time and a place I do think its beautiful and natural thing but discretion should be practised in public, seriously!!

darkman2

Breast feeding may be natural but this is not the stone age and in reality it is no longer required. The vast majority of kids today and in the last century have grown healthy without it. Technology is suppose to liberate us from such embarrasing inconvieniences yet some women seem to be going back to something that should be outdated and not even considered anymore. Thats their choice but we should not have to witness it in public.

JangoFett

Without it? Man I think its still important in tat way too, kids need it!! There are like, breast-feeding tops out there that help women be discreet

I get dirty looks for adjusting my balls in public, and thats natural

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

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i wish I could ban people for moronic opinions.

JangoFett

|-*SxyDubGrrl93*-| wrote: »

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i wish I could ban people for moronic opinions.

Care to elaborate?

juvenal

There's no problem with this in public, as long as the mother has some class about it. IMO it's one of the most natural things in the world, and it's sad that it has become culturally unpopular to some people. The benefits of it are well documented, and people are starting to realise that more and more. In fact, in many European countries and US states women are protected by law to breastfeed anywhere they wish.

Most women you see breastfeeding usually have the infact discreetly sucking away and some sort of a light towel over the baby's head for privacy. There's nothing wrong with this at all, and if you don't like it or it makes you uncomfortable - then LOOK AWAY!!

OT, I once saw some knacker (not of the residentially challenged variety) and her boyfriend change the baby's dirty nappy on the table of a MacDonald's :eek: When someone looked over the skin-headed father jumped up and lost the head. This all happened within 10ft of the nappy-changing room.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

JangoFett wrote: »

Care to elaborate?

nope, the more vague I am the last chance I will have to ban myself.

JangoFett

|-*SxyDubGrrl93*-| wrote: »

nope, the more vague I am the last chance I will have to ban myself.

Is that your way of passively aggressively telling me you're gonan insult me cuz I believe in discretion?

baglady

yeah, of course they should be allowed to do it, people who disagree should get over it, i mean RELAX please, if it bothers you, don't freaking look! I'd rather have someone breasfeeding on the bus I'm on than a fcukin annoying baby crying coz it's hungry!! it reminds me of something, i should make another thread.

darkman2

JangoFett wrote: »

Is that your way of passively aggressively telling me you're gonan insult me cuz I believe in discretion?

I think 'SexyDubGirl' (from Carlow!) - just called you a 'moron' effectively:eek: Unbecoming of a mod....tbh.


Merits an appology.;)

JangoFett

darkman2 wrote: »

I think 'SexyDubGirl' (from Carlow!) - just called you a 'moron' effectively:eek: Unbecoming of a mod....tbh.


Merits an appology.;)

Ah I don't want an apology, its only an insult on boards like, my opinion vs hers. She seems to be, imo, acting passively aggressively towards me and I just want her to say what she wants and I don't want her to be banned for what she says

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

I was not neccesarily referring to you.

darkman2

JangoFett wrote: »

I just want her to say what she wants

She wants a breastfeed.