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My ex is hounding me..

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  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,170 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    javaboy wrote: »
    He was trying to say Fap. I think he likes you.

    I agree. But you don't wanna add to your trouble.:D

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,011 ✭✭✭cHaTbOx


    This is more suited to PI but I think if you are happy with your new gf then it shouldnt matter what your ex thinks .


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,170 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    snyper wrote: »
    Yes, ive met Wibbs at a beers in Dub. Good guy to talk to :)
    The at beers bit is the imprtant part. Good guy to talk to when one is drunk....

    As for the strap on. My ass is a one way street, not for money or any amount of sh1ts and giggles am i taking anything up that street.
    Prude.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,094 ✭✭✭✭javaboy


    Wibbs wrote: »
    The at beers bit is the imprtant part. Good guy to talk to when one is drunk....
    Prude.

    Snyper=Prude? :eek::eek:

    In other news up is down, black is white and Aslan have more than 2 songs.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 310 ✭✭rvd156


    Wondering if any of you can help with my dilemma?

    I would be most grateful for any advice you could give on this matter of deep concern to me, as I am now in two minds about what to do.

    For sometime now I've suspected that my girl maybe having an affair. You know the sort of thing. The phone rings, I answer, someone hangs up.

    Recently she has started going out 'with the girls' a lot and when I ask which girls it's always "Just some friends from work, you don't know them".

    I always used keep an eye out for her taxi coming home, but now she always walks up the street, although I can hear a car setting off as if she has just got out of one around the corner.

    The other day I picked up her mobile, just to see what time it was, and she went mental, screaming at me that I should never touch her phone again and why was I checking up on her.

    Anyway, I have never approached the subject with her. I kind of think deep down I don't really want to know the truth.

    But then last night she went out again and I decided that I would check up on her. I hid behind my car which I knew would give me a good view of the whole street so I could see which car she got out of on her return.

    It was whilst I crouched behind my car that I noticed rust around my rear wheel arch.

    Do you think I should take it into a body repair shop or should I buy some stuff from Halfords and try to repair it myself? ....


  • Posts: 8,016 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    rvd156 wrote: »

    It was whilst I crouched behind my car that I noticed rust around my rear wheel arch.

    Do you think I should take it into a body repair shop or should I buy some stuff from Halfords and try to repair it myself? ....


    That's class.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 41 00_katie_00


    snyper wrote: »
    I couldnt possibly.

    Im a kind, soft spoken gent with a big heart.

    Id hate to hurt her feelings.


    no seriously, i would hate to.

    Ask yourself these questions & answer honestly without thinking into them too much...

    Do you realise (or want to realise) that she is hurting your girlfriends feelings?

    does that mean anything to you?

    do you want to lose your girlfriend?

    There are two types of people in this world, people who try to make everyone around themselves lives better & those who whine & moan & generally act like toddlers so everyone panders to their desires... this woman sounds awfully like a toddler to me!

    She was offered everything & she said no but now that you are happy again she is freaking out because maybe she thought you would give up on your idea of being happy (family marriage etc) and decide to follow her way of life (job, dublin etc)

    she is being so selfish and creating trouble for you & your girlfriend, how dare she do that, you should be ashamed if you let her continue to act this way... you need to tell her out straight that she is to grow up & let you be happy!


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,007 ✭✭✭knird evol


    Could you imagine if your ex used actual hounds in the process of hounding you
    Didn't feed them or something and set them on you

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,556 ✭✭✭✭AckwelFoley


    Ask yourself these questions & answer honestly without thinking into them too much...

    Do you realise (or want to realise) that she is hurting your girlfriends feelings?

    does that mean anything to you?

    do you want to lose your girlfriend?

    Hey :)

    Yea, i know what you mean.. but the way i see it is that she is genuinely upset and that she now realises that its over, before now, she thought there was a possibility we were going to get back, when ever it suited her.

    I dont think she is being malicious, but it is effecting me and also my new gf, and i dont want to lose her, but i suppose im also worried about my ex..

    Time to think about myself i suppose...


  • Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 18,693 Mod ✭✭✭✭Kimbot


    snyper wrote: »
    Time to think about myself i suppose...

    Its always time to think about yourself mate.
    She had her chance and blew it (I would say on more than one occassion :p)
    and now that your getting on with life she wants to drag you down because it suits her.


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  • Posts: 8,016 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    snyper wrote: »
    Hey :)

    Yea, i know what you mean.. but the way i see it is that she is genuinely upset and that she now realises that its over, before now, she thought there was a possibility we were going to get back, when ever it suited her.

    I dont think she is being malicious, but it is effecting me and also my new gf, and i dont want to lose her, but i suppose im also worried about my ex..

    Time to think about myself i suppose...

    Wake up!

    Don't let her give you this ****. If she isn't putting anything solid on the table for you then she is indeed doing something malicious and is purposely making you feel this way lad!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 41 00_katie_00


    snyper wrote: »
    but i suppose im also worried about my ex..

    Time to think about myself i suppose...

    I know as hard as it can be, do not worry about your ex, she is a big girl, she was certainly big enough to tell you what she did & did not want from a relationship, wasnt she?

    I admire your big heart, but people with big hearts (take it from one who knows) often get trampled on by others if we dont stand up & say what we need to say...

    Get this girl out of you life pronto, but dont just ignore her, tell her what you've told all of us... explain how happy you are & how scared you are that if she upsets you or makes you lose your girlfriend then you will be depressed again, if this ex cares at all she will back off for your sake, if she still doesnt back off you know your dealing with a monster...

    Good luck snyper!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,398 ✭✭✭MIN2511


    I can't believe it! Snyper has feelings too!!!! :)


    hahahhaha

    Dude, you do know that everyone would hunt ya with this?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,094 ✭✭✭✭javaboy


    MIN2511 wrote: »
    I can't believe it! Snyper has feelings too!!!! :)

    They're more like primal urges tbh.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,398 ✭✭✭MIN2511


    javaboy wrote: »
    They're more like primal urges tbh.

    True!!!!!

    Half the time he's dreaming bout raping girls:D


    This thread has ruined everything, i thought highly of you Snyper... And now you just proved to be a wuss:P and a very berry mushy guy who lives in Athlone.....


    made my day!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,005 ✭✭✭✭Toto Wolfcastle


    Seriously Snyper, just tell her you've found someone and if she can't accept that in a mature way she needs to get out of your life.

    You broke up over a year ago if I read your OP correctly. And she only now realises that it's definitely over? That's completely ridiculous.

    You say you don't want to hurt her feelings, but look what you went through over her? And she clearly doesn't care about your feelings if she is willing to try to come between your and your new girlfriend.

    If my ex did that to me I'd tell him to fcuk off.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 310 ✭✭rvd156


    Sorry I know there is a serious talk in here....

    Hope nobody got offended by my earlier story....:o:o


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,094 ✭✭✭✭javaboy


    rvd156 wrote: »
    Sorry I know there is a serious talk in here....

    Hope nobody got offended by my earlier story....:o:o

    No worries. It was funny. Snyper deliberately posted his problem here instead of Personal Issues so he could get a balance of useful sensible replies along with the madcap lunacy of PI.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,556 ✭✭✭✭AckwelFoley


    rvd156 wrote: »
    Sorry I know there is a serious talk in here....

    Hope nobody got offended by my earlier story....:o:o

    AH is not the place to be if one takes offence too easily

    "This is the internet - Serious Business".

    I thought you would have known that


    :pac:


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,181 ✭✭✭LouOB


    Synper where does this ex live in Dublin
    Being an athlone chic I bet she hasnt met a proper Dublin woman before, I could make 'introductions'. Advise her that things are done differently in Dublin than Athlone and it would be an 'education' of sorts for her:P

    She has hurt the Synper - that make me angry
    YOU WOULDNT LIKE ME WHEN IM ANGRY:mad:


  • Posts: 8,016 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    rvd156 wrote: »
    Sorry I know there is a serious talk in here....

    Hope nobody got offended by my earlier story....:o:o

    I enjoyed it.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 260 ✭✭adsgirl


    Who is..Snyper:confused:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,126 ✭✭✭missmatty


    adsgirl wrote: »
    Who is..Snyper:confused:

    :eek:

    Even I know who Snyper is.


  • Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 35,945 Mod ✭✭✭✭dr.bollocko


    adsgirl wrote: »
    Who is..Snyper:confused:

    He was the one coming from behind.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,094 ✭✭✭✭javaboy


    adsgirl wrote: »
    Who is..Snyper:confused:

    You know when your wardrobe door creaks open at night and you think you can see a pair of eyes in there?

    Or when you hear a creak on the floorboards upstairs even though you're alone in the house?

    Or when a large bald man grabs you and drags you into the bushes and gang rapes you all by himself?

    Well that's Snyper. He's a nice guy really and we wouldn't change him for the world.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,556 ✭✭✭✭AckwelFoley


    adsgirl wrote: »
    Who is..Snyper:confused:

    Do you remember when you were a little girl in Piggytails and your mommy would tell you that if you werent a good little girl that "the boogy man" would come and get you.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 260 ✭✭adsgirl


    javaboy wrote: »
    You know when your wardrobe door creaks open at night and you think you can see a pair of eyes in there?

    Or when you hear a creak on the floorboards upstairs even though you're alone in the house?

    Or when a large bald man grabs you and drags you into the bushes and gang rapes you all by himself?

    Well that's Snyper. He's a nice guy really and we wouldn't change him for the world.

    Aw that is cute:D My mum told me.. even the big bad wolf had feelings.....


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 260 ✭✭adsgirl


    snyper wrote: »
    Do you remember when you were a little girl in Piggytails and your mommy would tell you that if you werent a good little girl that "the boogy man" would come and get you.

    My Mum also told me the ice-cream was called the poke man, is that the same as you?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,556 ✭✭✭✭AckwelFoley


    adsgirl wrote: »
    Aw that is cute:D My mum told me.. even the big bad wolf had feelings.....

    Just for the record.


    Ive a gigantic penis.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,556 ✭✭✭✭AckwelFoley


    adsgirl wrote: »
    My Mum also told me the ice-cream was called the poke man, is that the same as you?

    No, the ice cream man is now a convicted Pedophile.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 260 ✭✭adsgirl


    snyper wrote: »
    Just for the record.


    Ive a gigantic penis.

    So??? When you going to tell that wierd ex to fook off then?? huh? huh?
    And put that big penis to some decent use? huh?
    huh?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,179 ✭✭✭FunkZ


    Which one did ya enjoy dick slapping the most? Just out of curiousity.

    Get rid of the ex completely she's a cow. Even if she's not a cow, the other girl is too good, so you can't have anything in the way that could be detrimental to your relationship.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 439 ✭✭Emerald Lass


    snyper wrote: »
    I hadnt the bollocks to tell her to not contact me ever again.

    If i do it by text will it be wrong?
    so let me see if i get this straight - you are asking if you should contact her to tell her that you no longer want contact with her????? eh????

    duh! and other people are also advising you to contact her to tell her to fook off?????? As soon as you initiate contact you are just negating the whole 'dont contact me' thing, you twat!

    why are men such numbnuts??? (okay so thats a whole new discussion......)

    anyway snyper with the big knob and no cop on, dont ring her, dont contact her, dont ANYTHING her. If she is this big career woman you say she is she will figure it out. block her number. failing that next time she rings get your new lady to answer saying (all sweetness and light):

    "sorry he can't come to the phone right now - I shagged him so good he no longer has the power of speech. In fact he says he has never had sex like this before and wonders why he was missing out so long. The doctors have even taken him off his meds as my sex is so wonderful that he is no longer a bit mental. can I give him a mesage for you?"

    that should do it

    BTW i have to ask - new lady, know her 3 months, living together 2, with a kid?? mate, slow the fook down! no wonder its all gone a bit haywire and weird!


  • Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 35,945 Mod ✭✭✭✭dr.bollocko


    ^^^^Haha. Pwnd.


  • Hosted Moderators Posts: 3,331 ✭✭✭Splinter


    one thing mate, you have stated this woman and you split and it left you in a very bad place and btw, fair fcuking play for getting out of it and getting back on your feet mate, i will get you a pint for that when i have the pleasure sometime.

    you said you feel sorry making her feel sad and i understand how you feel this way. but look at it this way, did she feel the same when she walked away and left you in a bad place the first time? i think not. i know its hard to do mate and i probably couldnt do it myself. But you shouldn't throw this away with the new girl. :)

    think of the sympathy sex from the current missus if you stay strong through all this :pac:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 260 ✭✭adsgirl


    splinter wrote: »
    one thing mate, you have stated this woman and you split and it left you in a very bad place and btw, fair fcuking play for getting out of it and getting back on your feet mate, i will get you a pint for that when i have the pleasure sometime.

    you said you feel sorry making her feel sad and i understand how you feel this way. but look at it this way, did she feel the same when she walked away and left you in a bad place the first time? i think not. i know its hard to do mate and i probably couldnt do it myself. But you shouldn't throw this away with the new girl. :)


    think of the sympathy sex from the current missus if you stay strong through all this :pac:

    Everbody wants Snypers ass:(
    What chance have I ?? Huh?? Huh??


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,729 ✭✭✭Pride Fighter


    I think you are going to have to be cruel to be kind Snyper. Tell the ex you never want to see her ever again if she is interfering in your happiness.


  • Posts: 8,647 [Deleted User]


    Obviously the girl is crazy. Who the fook wants to live in Athlone?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,556 ✭✭✭✭AckwelFoley


    Obviously the girl is crazy. Who the fook wants to live in Athlone?

    And you live in Leitrim


    /fail


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,094 ✭✭✭✭javaboy


    snyper wrote: »
    And you live in Leitrim

    Don't be silly. Nobody lives in Leitrim. :pac:


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,061 ✭✭✭✭Terry


    Don't fúck with depression.

    The ex knows you suffer from it and is basically being a complete bitch.
    She's jealous of what you have now and wants to ruin that for you.

    I know it's not an easy thing to do, but you have to move on and stay with this new chick.

    Or just do both of them. I don't really care either way.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,398 ✭✭✭MIN2511


    Terry wrote: »
    Don't fúck with depression.

    The ex knows you suffer from it and is basically being a complete bitch.
    She's jealous of what you have now and wants to ruin that for you.

    I know it's not an easy thing to do, but you have to move on and stay with this new chick.

    Or just do both of them. I don't really care either way.

    I thought about that myself... what stops you doing both of them:p


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,556 ✭✭✭✭AckwelFoley


    MIN2511 wrote: »
    I thought about that myself... what stops you doing both of them:p

    I was having sex with 3 women until the day i met this wan.

    This one is a nymph, and has me providing my services every fcuking waking hour.

    I simply couldnt have another wan in the mix.

    I fcuking nearly burnt out.


  • Posts: 8,647 [Deleted User]


    snyper wrote: »
    And you live in Leitrim


    /fail

    I am from Leitrim.Not living there.
    <3 Galway.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,094 ✭✭✭✭javaboy


    Let the cookies decide Snyper:

    "You will find happiness with a new love."

    "Hey, we're out of these "New Love" cookies."
    "Well, open up the "Stick With Your Wife" barrel."


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,094 ✭✭✭✭javaboy


    snyper wrote: »
    I was having sex with 3 women until the day i met this wan.

    This one is a nymph, and has me providing my services every fcuking waking hour.

    I simply couldnt have another wan in the mix.

    I fcuking nearly burnt out
    .

    Ah ffs. His account's definitely been hacked. This isn't the Snyper we all know and love warned our children about.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,398 ✭✭✭MIN2511


    snyper wrote: »
    I was having sex with 3 women until the day i met this wan.

    This one is a nymph, and has me providing my services every fcuking waking hour.

    I simply couldnt have another wan in the mix.

    I fcuking nearly burnt out.

    Heard Lionel Ritchie's "All night long" ;)

    there is no way you are providing services every fcuking hour, you are here raping women or is it men:P


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    snyper wrote: »
    To cut a long story somewhat short...

    I was going out with a woman for years, great time, nice woman but we were heading in different directions in life i suppose, we wanted different things. She wants the busy professional style life in Dublin, no aspirations to marry or have a family, her job is number 1 priority to her as a goal, mine would be a family and the pursuit of happiness.

    July 2007 we broke up finally, it was tough personally because i suffer from manic depression and i was in the middle of a rather sever bout of it at the time. I started another relationship, but it didnt last because i was so fcuked up over the ex, the deression got worse i was at the point of commiting suicide but instead i ended up in the nut house and out of work for 4 months.

    In january i went back to work, abstained from women for a few months, got a new job after being in the one job for 10 years and was moving on. We were still in contact and would have a chat or a coffee now and again. I think we always thought we would end up together, she was with no one snce we broke up bar kissing some knob end from roscommon up in dublin one night, i was with erm.. well.. lets just say a few.. the pipes gotta be cleaned out after all..

    3 months or less ago, i met a woman, to say she is perfect is not doing her enough justice, shes perfect, she loves children wants a family and is really really good to me.. and from the get go, i know this ones a keeper. We've being living together for over 2 months now and i have to say things were fantastic.

    In the meantime my ex met me and my new girlfriend out, my ex made a bee line over to me just to let me know shes seen me with another woman, she wasnice and polite to me bet ignored my new girlfriend.

    She told me to never contact her again and went into a tirade about the fact that because my new girlfriend is a single mother, that she only wants me because im a decent guy (yea, actualy i am!) and im fairly well off etc etc..

    It got back through a friend of a friend to my new g/f that my ex was saying all these nasty things about my new g/f. which has naturally upset her.

    Now my ex, whom i still love, and i dont hide that, but i love her more as a mate and have no more interest than that - is ringing me and bombarding me with texts telling me she is madly in love with me and wants to marry me and have kids and live in athlone.. something i know she does not want, even though she says it.

    At this point its driving me mad, i dont want to go back into a fit of depression which is beginning to start despite the medication, and i cant end up like i was at the end of last year because i wont come out of it, it just hurt too much.. ghey i know.. but.. :/

    My new gf is being excellent to me about it and very supportive, but is worried sick about me, and is worried i will go back to my ex.. which i assure wont happen.

    Ive started to ignore my ex's texts and not answer the phone, but i am worried about her too and am not sure what to do at this stage.

    *wonders if the answer is within AH*

    Thanks for listening all the same, i needed to get that off my chest :/:o

    What a brave posting - most of the postings are from jealous saddos with no women - and you with two women after ya - ya mad thing - no pun intended:pac:

    yer spoiled for choice

    the ex is hurt so -so any kind of friendship is out for now maybe for good. my opinion

    but you need to be selfish and look after your self and whats good for you. Change your phone number and go ex directory - give your new number only to those who need it. the texts and phone problem is sorted out like that.

    the hurtful comments - well mate - you got to live with them for now - talk to your doctor. those who know you and your new girl wont believe em and those who do will forget em and be talking about someone else next week

    your lucky - good woman- good job and a libido medication cant surpress

    go forward with a big bag of condoms youre irrepressable


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,111 ✭✭✭MooseJam


    couldn't be arsed reading that, way too long dude


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,556 ✭✭✭✭AckwelFoley


    CDfm wrote: »

    go forward with a big bag of condoms youre irrepressable

    Condoms? What may they be? :pac:

    Snyper does not use condoms, unless he is having sex with a member of the .. em.. "wandering" community.

    It was rather a glowing moment in my life last week my mate came down from dublin, and before he left i opened my bedroom drawer and handed over my entire stash of condoms 47 of -, i used to keep them at home in the event that i may choose to use them.. but no longer - the single life is behind me...

    \o/ - to rubber free sex.


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