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Do you bring a condom?

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    #32
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Yeah I regularly carried a condom when I was single. It's not that I thought I was really liberated or did it in order to be liberated. it's just the sensible thing to do. I might not even have gone out with the intention of pulling, but drink can change one's mind...


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    #33
    brianthebard
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,165 ✭✭✭✭brianthebard


    Well I think not being bothered by what some people/society might think makes you liberated to an extent. Interesting to see the carrying condom option level with the I don't sleep around option. Is that because I framed the latter negatively or are women less interested in casual sex?


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    #34
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Given the chance you can get preggers and for a lot of women sex comes with emotional attachment, women tend to more intrested in non casual sex with in some context of a relationship.

    Also sex is better with a more regular partner who should be interested in getting you both off.


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    #35
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    brianthebard wrote: »
    Well I think not being bothered by what some people/society might think makes you liberated to an extent.
    People aren't gonna know either way though if you're carrying a condom... well the guy obviously will but I doubt many guys would go round telling everyone the next day "you're not gonna believe it - the slapper had her own condoms!"


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    #36
    Kotick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 86 ✭✭Kotick


    brianthebard wrote: »
    Well I think not being bothered by what some people/society might think makes you liberated to an extent. Interesting to see the carrying condom option level with the I don't sleep around option. Is that because I framed the latter negatively or are women less interested in casual sex?

    You should have an option for, "I do engage in casual sex but do not/not always carry a condom when I go out."

    Often times people don't plan on getting laid but sometimes it just happens, especially while intoxicated.

    I think having an interest in casual sex is besides the point. I'm not interested in it really, as in I don't look for it, but it does happen. And like I said above, alcohol is usually (or in my case always) involved.


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    #37
    TLG
    Closed Accounts Posts: 125 ✭✭TLG


    Thaedydal wrote: »
    Bring a condom where ?
    Do you mean carry a condom on you when you go out for an eveing or on a date or when going out with who ever you are in a relationship with ?

    Carrying condoms is not slutty it's sensible and I would rather have it and not need it then not have it and need it.
    Just because a person is carrying a condom does not mean they are going to have sex, it's not a garentee it's back up just in case.

    I do carry condoms have done for the last 12 years, even when in a relationship and not using them with my partner
    so u expect to cheat on him?
    I have still gone out with 2 in my bag, hang over from being wro in college and there have been occasions I have given them to women in the ladies who could not get the machine to work or it was empty or to friends.

    Better safe then sorry.


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    #38
    Zaph
    Registered Users, Subscribers Posts: 47,304 ✭✭✭✭Zaph


    TLG wrote: »
    so u expect to cheat on him?

    I fail to see how you were able to make that great leap of logic when Thaed had already said that she has given them to other women in the past when they needed them. You've even quoted that yourself ffs.


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    #39
    TLG
    Closed Accounts Posts: 125 ✭✭TLG


    Zaph wrote: »
    I fail to see how you were able to make that great leap of logic when Thaed had already said that she has given them to other women in the past when they needed them. You've even quoted that yourself ffs.

    because she said she has given them on 'occasions' she didn't state that as the sole reason


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    #40
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Just because I have a condom in my bag does not mean I intend to use them as I have stated I would carry them and give them to friends or other people who are having difficultly getting them.

    I am perfectly capable of being in a monogamous relationship having a condom on me and not cheating. I would also usually have pen and paper, paracetamol, plasters, tissues, pen knife. It just something handy to have in my bag, if other's need it and even if in a relationship where I am not using them I will still carry them.


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    #41
    Zaph
    Registered Users, Subscribers Posts: 47,304 ✭✭✭✭Zaph


    TLG wrote: »
    because she said she has given them, she didn't state that as the sole reason

    That's true, but levelling an accusation like that when an explanation had already been provided is unwarranted, imo.


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    #42
    TLG
    Closed Accounts Posts: 125 ✭✭TLG


    Thaedydal wrote: »
    Just because I have a condom in my bag does not mean I intend to use them as I have stated I would carry them and give them to friends or other people who are having difficultly getting them.

    I am perfectly capable of being in a monogamous relationship having a condom on me and not cheating. I would also usually have pen and paper, paracetamol, plasters, tissues, pen knife. It just something handy to have in my bag, if other's need it and even if in a relationship where I am not using them I will still carry them.

    yah but u said on occasion not that that was the sole reason, so what else would be the reason for carrying condoms


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    #43
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    TLG wrote: »
    because she said she has given them on 'occasions' she didn't state that as the sole reason

    Look bottom line is I carry condoms.
    If I am single I carry condoms.
    If I am in a relationship whether we as a couple are using them or not,
    I carry condoms.

    This does not make me slutty or if I am in an exclusive relationship mean I am going to or am planning to cheat sexually on my partner. I am a safer sex advocate and have and will promote condom use. If I don't need them someone else might
    that is why. I used the term on occasion as it is not something that happens every time I have been out, but it has happened often enough for me to warrent having them.


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    #44
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    TLG wrote: »
    yah but u said on occasion not that that was the sole reason, so what else would be the reason for carrying condoms

    So anyone who carrys condoms does so with the sole intent of using them themselves ?


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    #45
    Dave147
    Registered Users Posts: 3,235 ✭✭✭Dave147


    I always carry them, it's like my wallet was designed to hold them, I usually have 4 on me because what good is 1.. just getting into it and you need a new one! Hate the things to be honest.


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    #46
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Again having them in your wallet for the evening is fine but they should be taken out and stored in a cool dry dark place as the pressure and wear and tear on them in a wallet can damage them.


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    #47
    ChocolateSauce
    Registered Users Posts: 2,892 ✭✭✭ChocolateSauce


    brianthebard wrote: »
    Condom buying and selling is the funniest thing. I remember I bought a pack in a chemist once and the man behind the counter called me sir and stuff like that, being extra polite. When I worked in dunnes it was fun to see the embarassed looks on peoples faces when buying them (not least cause they were buying them from a 17/18 yo) I think I only sold one pack of ky jelly in ten months, teh poor women of Sligo!

    I have a habit of buying condoms and KY jelly at the same time, mostly for fun. That's just what I'm like though, I don't go in for cultural sensitivities :p


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    #48
    *adele*
    Registered Users Posts: 1,526 ✭✭✭*adele*


    Why are the reasons for no answers so negative?


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    #49
    brianthebard
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,165 ✭✭✭✭brianthebard


    *adele* wrote: »
    Why are the reasons for no answers so negative?

    Because I was trying to frame the debate around a lecture I had years ago and didn't really allow for a wider consideration of the theme. If you don't feel any poll option represents you just post your thoughts here? I think its been an interesting thread so far.


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    #50
    Scarinae
    Hosted Moderators Posts: 11,362 ✭✭✭✭Scarinae


    I sometimes will have a condom in my bag, sometimes not. I have been with my boyfriend nearly a year and a half, and we usually take it turns to buy them, although he can get embarrassed by buying them - a few times I have bought them, and he has paid me back. I have absolutely no problem buying condoms/lube/whatever in a shop, the way I see it is that the people working there are used to it. In the same way, I am not embarrassed about being measured for a bra because people who work in lingerie shops do measuring all the time, I can't understand why some of my friends have such a thing about it that they would rather wear a bra that does not fit!


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    #51
    Piste
    Registered Users Posts: 11,440 ✭✭✭✭Piste


    If I were single I wouldn't carry condoms on me. If I didn't know a guy before I went out that night I definitely wouldn't be getting so close to him by the end of the night. But I guess that's a bit of an old-fashioned view.

    I guess I'd only carry condoms if it were a few dates in or I was going round to his place and felt that sex was on the cards- but I suppose at that stage I wouldn't be totally "single".


    I might carry one or two for friends if I knew they were desperate to score and likely to forget one.


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    #52
    Maple
    Hosted Moderators Posts: 16,186 ✭✭✭✭Maple


    yes i carry condoms in my handbag. not that i go out socially with the sole intent of getting laid but should a suitable candidate present himself and i feel like going for it, then i want to know that i'm as safe as i can be.


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    #53
    girl_friday
    Subscribers Posts: 5,766 ✭✭✭girl_friday


    I used to keep a supply but now that I am abstaining I haven't had the need to buy any hence why I don't bring them out... :p I don't have any problem with going out and complaining on someone elses behalf however if the machine in the ladies isn't working :rolleyes: - or indeed if there isn't actually a machine in the ladies!! :eek: :eek: Apparently I'm quite embarressing like that but as far as I'm concerned better safe than sorry!! :D


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    #54
    Nerin
    Registered Users Posts: 10,523 ✭✭✭✭Nerin


    You have to bring condoms ffs. That way when you fail,youve built up the expectation a bit,and thus multiply the disappointment. When i fail,i like to epic fail.


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    #55
    Aisling(",)
    Registered Users Posts: 6,401 ✭✭✭Aisling(",)


    if i carried a bag or knew there was a chance id need one id carry them.dont see why the responsibility should always be left up to the lad.i dont carry them now as i know its not a likely situation for me to end up in theese days and i usually only have two pockets so itd probably end up ripped open by my keys or something.


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    #56
    Red Hand
    Registered Users Posts: 4,986 ✭✭✭Red Hand


    I have been carrying a Condo with me ever since the ar*e fell out of the property market. Anyone interested? This is a hot little property in an up and coming area, and is a snip at 310,000 euros. Viewings by appointment.


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    #57
    Madame Razz
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    Thaedydal wrote: »
    Again having them in your wallet for the evening is fine but they should be taken out and stored in a cool dry dark place as the pressure and wear and tear on them in a wallet can damage them.

    It is for this reason girls should carry their own supply if nothing else..... I'd say some condoms are in mens wallets for months, and probably well withered; I'd rather have one I could rely on.

    I usually carry some myself; not cos I'm a hoe or cos when I go out I intend getting laid, but I find it gives me more control should the situation arise. I have certain condom preferences, certain ones work better for me,certain ones i'm allergic to etc; so if I carry my own it solves this problem!!!

    Its much worse to not have them and then actually need one.

    Scouts motto always applies here....be prepared;)


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    #58
    mollybird
    Registered Users Posts: 1,053 ✭✭✭mollybird


    i do as it's a thing me and my boyfriend do if going away for a few days together. sometimes i bring them and other times he brings them. we are equal on that side of things. but when i was single i never did bring any out. not my kinda thing. i feel i would be presuming i would meet someone and i just never felt comfortable with it.


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    #59
    Dudess
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    Dave147 wrote: »
    Hate the things to be honest.
    So do I and most people but needs must. As well as carrying them, I used to keep some in the drawer next to my bed. It's amazing how one drunken slip-up will make you super vigilant... :o


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    #60
    John Mason
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    would never carry them out with me, but would have in my house.

    I wouldnt be having sex with a randomer on a night out


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    #61
    Moonspell
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    irishbird wrote: »
    would never carry them out with me, but would have in my house.

    I wouldnt be having sex with a randomer on a night out


    It's not about having sex with a randomer.. I wouldn't do it, but still I carry a couple of condoms with me.
    Doesn't even mean I am looking for some action or anything of the kind, but I do have a head over my shoulder and it's a way of looking after myself.


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