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How can I turn down an invite to my manager's wedding?

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  • 12-10-2008 4:22pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    My manager is getting married just before Christmas and he's invited everyone on our team to his wedding.

    I really do not want to go but if I dont go I have to go to work and 95% of people in our area are going and it'll look very bad if I'm one of 2 or 3 people who dont go. Especially when other people in work see me in work

    He'd also take it very personally... thats the type of person he is

    What can I do???


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    #2
    seamus
    Registered Users Posts: 68,317 ✭✭✭✭seamus


    Suck it up and go or otherwise think of a good reason. If it's just before Christmas, then it should be possible to think up some sort of family-related thing you must attend.


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    Deadeyes
    Closed Accounts Posts: 167 ✭✭Deadeyes


    Go there, be seen, make a big thing about congratulating him then bugger off early. Who's going to notice once the drink starts flowing? If it's a case of having to stay over night then there is always some place you can disappear to, perfect if you've got a partner.
    Is there a specific reason you don't want to go?


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    pauldiv
    Registered Users Posts: 197 ✭✭pauldiv


    You already answered your own question.
    Go and dont be seen as a part pooper.


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    brightspark
    Registered Users Posts: 2,637 ✭✭✭brightspark


    Is is a case you don't want to waste a day's annual leave?

    Then talk to him and suggest that even though you would like to be at his wedding you feel that in the current economic climate the needs of the business should come first (don't want to upset any customers etc!) and that you will try to make it to the "afters"


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    fricatus
    Registered Users Posts: 5,081 ✭✭✭fricatus


    I'm with Deadeyes on this...

    If he'll take it personally, then suck it up... go! I mean what do you have to lose by going?

    Is there a particular reason you don't want to go?


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