Too busy for relationship but still need sex

The Corinthian

beth-lou wrote: »

I find that offensive. What are you trying to say? That all men pay for sex if they are supporting a wife. Because a wife just sits around all day and spends his money? I think that is highly offensive, considering the sacrifices a woman makes when she decides to give up her career to raise her and her husbands family.

First of all, I did not suggest this to be the case across the board. Why couples decide that it is better for one to stay at home varies greatly.

Secondly, I think you are assuming too much if you believe that a woman who decides to give up her career to raise her and her husbands family is always making a sacrifice. Not all women have terrific careers, and given the option are more than happy to make the 'sacrifice'.

However historically, marriage was sex-for-security. You might be offended by this, but that is where it comes from. That is why men had 'conjugal rights', why non-consummation was (and still is) grounds for annulment and why marital rape was not recognised. As the old expression went "marriage is the price than men pay for sex, sex is the price than women pay for marriage".

Women are far more indipendant and the roles are more equal now, but old habits are hard to break. How attractive is a man who wants to stay at home, let you keep your career, and mind the kids? In reality, most women shy away from such men.

Even in courtship, there are financial transactions; dinners, gifts and so on - but ultimately they are meant to show that the man can afford the woman. He is selling his ability to provide. And even today, there are a minority of women who genuinely believe that they're owed a living the moment a ring is on their finger.

You realistically should not get offended by this. It's just how we're conditioned in society. My principle point is that the moral arguments against prostitution are pretty hypocritical in the face of how society operates.

We're all whores at the end of the day.

Nevyn

Right that is enough espousing from everyone, I am locking this thread until the op gets back to me.