Going to pub niteclub byself

Pyr0

I wouldn't find it weird is someone told me they were at the pub by themselves, a nightclub on the other hand I'd find odd alright. I don't like sitting by myself waiting for friends to arrive or come back from somewhere for too long though, I'd start to feel like people are thinking I'm a loner !

Each to their own at the end of the day though.

omb0wyn5ehpij9

Pyr0 wrote: »

I wouldn't find it weird is someone told me they were at the pub by themselves, a nightclub on the other hand I'd find odd alright.

Agreed

SW81

Try one of the smaller Boards Beers. The big ones would be daunting so maybe try a smaller one.

omb0wyn5ehpij9

SW81 wrote: »

Try one of the smaller Boards Beers. The big ones would be daunting so maybe try a smaller one.

I have been to a few smaller beers and they are definately a lot less intimidating than the larger beers, so they would be a good start!

Cianos

Pyr0 wrote: »

I wouldn't find it weird is someone told me they were at the pub by themselves, a nightclub on the other hand I'd find odd alright.

It's 'odd' because it's not commonly done, but doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it. A friend of mine used to go out dancing by herself, just because she really liked dancing. She had a boyfriend but he had no interest, so when she was bored she'd just head off out by herself and dance for the night :pac:

redout

Cianos wrote: »

It's 'odd' because it's not commonly done, but doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it. A friend of mine used to go out dancing by herself, just because she really liked dancing. She had a boyfriend but he had no interest, so when she was bored she'd just head off out by herself and dance for the night :pac:

I am sure himself was delighted.

MJOR

I'm not sure that you'd get what you wanted in a pub or nightclub. I reckon taking up a hobby or sport might be better.

RacoonQueen

Nothing wrong with it I suppose, wouldn't do it meself like.

quinevere

i do work as a retail manager long hours sometimes unsociable but i work mostly with fellas and would prefer so close girl friends, i also go to college one night a week.

MJOR

i did the retail manager bit and i understand its hard because you've to work late nights and saturdays and you can't really go on the lash with people that you work with when ur the boss. I'd defo suggest joining a site like anotherfriend.com

pfishfood

Jesus dear god no. Its just not safe anymore and gives out the wrong impression. if your lonely join a club or get some part time work or something.

Firetrap

I know a woman who does that. Goes to a pub and doesn't invite her friends to come with her. She's on the pull though...

Rozabeez

Come to think of it, I've done my college work in a pub alone (only place I could find a table )

empirix

i used to do this when i was a bit younger, on a saturday afternoon, usually had a good time and amount of times you bump into somebody you know is a bit mad ted, used to specialise around temple bar picking up tourist chicks etc, now im under the thumb and well its all a bit boring really, rather sit at home and scratch!!

bealbocht

used to love the "Martini Girls" in the USA.
Travelled there a bit on my own, and after a while noticed that "middle aged" women used to go to the bar after work and have a few drinks. They always seemed to be drinking martinis , so I coined the name.
Any that I met were always in good professions and very interesting to talk to.

One of the coolest I remember was the lawyer I met, who when asked when was her train she said it was in about 3 minutes. At which point she casualy finished her drink and turned to the bar man and said
"hey barman... martini to go"

Pretty cool in my book, and would like to see more of that here.

Epic Tissue

I wouldn't head out to a club by myself. Seems a bit pointless.

MementoMori

I would go to the pub on my own sometimes, got into the habit when travelling alone. Normally just for one or two. Usually during the day most times, but sometimes would be late at night when working shift - might head into the local for one or two on a Thurs or Friday around 11. Sometimes to watch a match, sometimes to get some grub, sometimes just in the mood for a handy pint. Would get chatting to people a fair bit - would be very dependent on the bar in question and time of day though. I wouldnt expect to make friends or meet anyone of the opposite sex though. Been to a nightclub once or twice or my own - mostly when travelling and I wouldnt be a major fan. Not as enjoyable as going with friends at all. I would go to the cinema on my own a lot - don't really see the point in making plans to spend time with people at a cinema since you're there to watch the film. Weirdest place I ever went on my own was a comedy gig - only reason I went on my own was cos my sister cancelled at the last minute and I was a fan of the comedian and already had tickets. Anyway I found it very surreal - don't really know why but I wouldnt really plan on ever going to a comedy gig on my own again - maybe because laughter is a social kind of thing. Comedian was good but I didnt get the same sense of enjoyment out of it. Weird.

nerraw1111

It's pretty normal to go to a bar/nightclub on your own /when traveling, just doesn't appear to be the same when it comes to Ireland as you can see from comments ranging from it being sad or dangerous.

I've a friend who won't even meet INSIDE a bar lest I'd be late and he'll look like he's on his own.

Try going to one of hte backpacker bars in Ireland, down underbar etc where there will be people on their own looking ot make friends.

Go for it.
I've been clubbing on my own too but that was to see a particular dj. Quite common to see people on their own at such gigs. Contrary to what someone else says, gigs are a great place to meet random people too, immediately something in common to talk about.

Gemini Sister

I've done the odd solo pint. The trick is to enter pub around 6-8pm and sit at bar, bring paper if it makes you feel more comfortable. You only really get talking when at bar.
If you meet cool people stay out, if not head home after drink no. 2 before you get plastered.
A few years back in dublin I knew no-one and wouldn't go for a solo drink cause I was afraid someone I knew would see me!! :rolleyes: but over that now.
I have a friend who does nightclubs alone but I've found that a bit lonely, but then she is very chatty. You have to be safety conscious of course.

Good luck

sc9736

nope never have, I think going to a pub alone with the paper is more of a man thing, like my dad would go for a quick/sly one and read his paper.....

Nuravictus

sc9736 wrote: »

nope never have, I think going to a pub alone with the paper is more of a man thing, like my dad would go for a quick/sly one and read his paper.....

Why dont you bring a copy of Hello or some other gossip mag

cool username

I find if you're on your own in the pub (even if your friend has just poped to the loo) you end up being a target for every man in the place to come sleaze on you.

Nevyn

I was meeting up with people in a pub last night and it was either be early or be late,
so I choose early and sat reading (a book) with a drink waiting for the rest of them to arrive.

I will pop into a few places in the city to a drink by myself usually when I am traveling on futher and want to chill for a bit, if your not comfy in a bar try a hotel lounge.

Nuravictus

cool username wrote: »

I find if you're on your own in the pub (even if your friend has just poped to the loo) you end up being a target for every man in the place to come sleaze on you.

Err all men arent into sleaze. Maybe they are wondering why you are alone.

Nevyn

cool username wrote: »

I find if you're on your own in the pub (even if your friend has just poped to the loo) you end up being a target for every man in the place to come sleaze on you.

I would say that depends on the pub, some watering holes are know for being pick up places, pick a different spot and you'll be fine.

shellyboo

Nuravictus wrote: »

Why dont you bring a copy of Hello or some other gossip mag

Surely you'd rather us women read the newspaper Nuravictus, so we can be good and informed in case we need to talk about current affairs later in the evening? :pac::p

I'm only kidding. I'd sit in a pub alone if I had time to kill, or I was waiting for someone, but I'd always have a book or a paper to read. I wouldn't go out socially on my own... I don't even like going out with people I don't know too well. However, I'd definitely recommend the boards beers, especially the smaller ones as it's easier to get to know people.

PrivateEye

Went down the pub on my own today to watch the only real football match on today (Hibernian versus the Great Unwashed, if you're curious)

Strange experience. I'd agree it's a 'man thing', out of the 12 or so people in the bar all were male and all bar 2 alone. Nobody was hammered (thankfully, considering the 12:45 kick off!) and it was obvious most were doing a '2 pints, newspaper, back to the missus for my dinner' kind of job(!)

Women are obviously as entitled as men to do it, but my mam told me growing up that even though she loved spending time alone with a book and a glass of wine say...she always felt a bit weird drinking in pubs alone, based more so on the types of men that do the same every night of the week!

I find if you're on your own in the pub (even if your friend has just poped to the loo) you end up being a target for every man in the place to come sleaze on you

I work in a pub and thats most def. true.
Give any of the regulars a few pints (or in the case of the younger lads, bizarre coloured alcopops :rolleyes: ) and no lady alone is safe from the onslaught of 'give us yer number love' etc.

if your not comfy in a bar try a hotel lounge.

+1.

panda100

I'd never go out to a nighclub or pub in Dublin by myself,I just know I would be uncomfortable.
But, I do regualrly go into the IFI or the bar in Wynns hotel and have a glass of wine while reading a book. Its my ritual now every two weeks to pick up a copy of Private Eye in Easons and then head down to the IFI for a glass of red wine. Theres lots of people sitting by themselves in there and usually you end up sitting with someone else at a table. Its very easy to get chatting to people in there If thats what you want.

Tirabaralla

PrivateEye wrote: »

I work in a pub and thats most def. true.
Give any of the regulars a few pints (or in the case of the younger lads, bizarre coloured alcopops :rolleyes: ) and no lady alone is safe from the onslaught of 'give us yer number love' etc.

Really? I must be very ugly or very unlucky...lol
I think it really depends on your attitude...

PrivateEye

Really? I must be very ugly or very unlucky...lol

Could be a horrible West Dublin thing, maybe your Cork men are of different stock


....or you go to half decent pubs.


(Boss, if you've found this through google/are spying on me online: I'm sorry but the place really is a kip)