Being Called ''Love''. Offensive?

Volvoboy

Do you find the word ''love'' offensive?

Given context handing back change to a girl ''thanks love here ya go''

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seanybiker

Thats not offensive at all. Saying "here's your change ya gee bag" would be worse.

coffee_cake

not offensive and i wouldn't lose any sleep over it, but i'd prefer not to be called that

Volvoboy

seanybiker wrote: »

Thats not offensive at all. Saying "here's your change ya gee bag" would be worse.

:pac:

bluewolf wrote: »

not offensive and i wouldn't lose any sleep over it, but i'd prefer not to be called that

Cein Faith?

Stheno

No don't mind it.

I deal with one supplier who is forever calling me hun when he's on the phone, that annoys me

Nevyn

I don't like to be called that either by people with whom I am not on intimate terms with,
even more so complete strangers.

mikemac

It's not offensive at all.
Seems to be very common among older people too

No different to an Englishman calling you "mate" and you've never met them before, same thing

Thoie

I'd accept it from someone a good bit older than me (in a motherly or fatherly way), but would think it a bit odd from someone my age or younger. I wouldn't lose sleep over it, or throw a hissy fit, but it'd make me blink.

Tirabaralla

I don't mind it at all...maybe cause I am foreigner but i find it very irish and nice

mollybird

i don't mind at all. i call it to some people but mainly my boyfriend. i do call alot of people though "hun".

Volvoboy

Thoie wrote: »

I'd accept it from someone a good bit older than me (in a motherly or fatherly way), but would think it a bit odd from someone my age or younger. I wouldn't lose sleep over it, or throw a hissy fit, but it'd make me blink.

Riiiight.

FearDark

Calm down love... get over it

the_syco

Thaedydal wrote: »

I don't like to be called that either by people with whom I am not on intimate terms with,
even more so complete strangers.

The only wans who say it are the old wans selling fruit on the streets of Dublin, or sometimes Dublin inner city old wans in general.

georgem25

Its definitely not offensive. Some people dont even realise they are saying it.

Rabies

Thaedydal wrote: »

I don't like to be called that either by people with whom I am not on intimate terms with,
even more so complete strangers.

Most of the time it is just a force of habit by people. Common everyday use of a word. As already said, calling some one mate, bro whatever, you can't get offended by something so trivial.

Nevyn

I didn't say that I was offended I stated a personal preference to not be refered to that by people that I don't know. I am aware of it in certain peoples speech patterns as part of thier vernacular but that doesn't mean I have to like it and am entirly entitled to feel that it's being over familiar. I would not be rude about it esp to a complete stranger but if it was someone who I had to interact with I would say something.

Thoie

Volvoboy wrote: »

Riiiight.

Hmm?

It's just the sort of thing that my butcher, or the elderly woman in the corner shop is likely to say to me. If a 20 year old in Spar said it I'd find it surprising. I wouldn't be offended, it'd just throw me a bit.

Wibbs

Ok it may be harmless in some ways but.....I dunno it feels overly familiar to me when dealing with strangers. Overly presumptuous tbh.

allabouteve

Wibbs wrote: »

Ok it may be harmless in some ways but.....I dunno it feels overly familiar to me when dealing with strangers. Overly presumptuous tbh.

Overly familiar, and sometimes patronising.

I don't mind my elderly neighbour calling me love, but if a colleague, especially one subbordinate or younger, says it, its outright insolent.

Peared

The type of person that usually says it - I reckon there's punishment enough in just being that kind of idiot so I don't bother saying anything.

Wibbs

allabouteve wrote: »

Overly familiar, and sometimes patronising.

I don't mind my elderly neighbour calling me love, but if a colleague, especially one subbordinate or younger, says it, its outright insolent.

Patronising is the word I was grasping for. There's an inherent power thing going on. Well that's my feeling of it and I'm no PC type. OK some older/elderly guy saying it fine, but some young fella? Eh no. May be meant in jest or friendliness, but it still makes this unreconstructed chauvinist bastid a bit twitchy.

Latchy

It's just a word like any other word .If somebody who use's it as a greeting thinks you are annoyed by it they will probably continue to say it just to annoy you . Probably !

minidazzler

I use it every now and then but don't even realise it.

Especially when talking to American tourists, it just comes out and they get all gooey over it!!!! It's always great for making yourself seem more "Irish".

Rabies

These days people get worked up over such little things. Everything has to be said right, perfect use of words. Watch your tongue where every you go. Sure, some of it is just plan manners, but the rest is harmless.
We're moving in to a world where we can't say or do anything with out hurting the feelings of some one.
Of course things need to progress, some of the old ways and sayings weren't nice to both sexes at times, but trying to make everyone happy is bollox to be honest.

*rant rant rant*

I live in NZ, do you think I get annoyed everytime I'm called 'bro' or 'cuz'. No!
I'm not that strangers brother, or cousin, don't great me like one.... but wait. It doesn't bother me or most people.

Its not that it is accepted because its common place or the norm. It just doesn't offend (annoy) people.
Girls often call me honey, hun, babe, sweetheart. Those are words often only used for people in relationship, not causal strangers or random people you meet.

Ah.... feck it. I love all you babes from the tLL. hugs kisses and touching for all

4zn76tysfajdxp

When I was a lad, my Pa used to call me "love." So in my mind, it's just a little term for insubordinates in general rather than just men or women. Therefore, I have no problem with it. I can see why others would though.

Peared

Let's face it, it's usually either old people (forgiveable mostly), skangers or idiot men who say it.

LadyE

I dont find it offesive at all, its a nice little thing I think!

Rabies

and of course women never say it

Latchy

It's a womon thang !

Toto Wolfcastle

Words don't offend me.

Sometimes the context in which they are used offend me, but generally I couldn't care less.

pseudonym1

Gosh - chill the hell out people! Love is an old school term of endearment attempt at affection and friendliness! Inherent part of this country's character - bloody hell people getting antsy about being called love shows modern misplaced judgement. IMO, Chill the hell out take it for what it is a term of expression without malice!

Now if it is said in an intentional patronising way - its a different story but any word in correct tone can sound that way.