C&H sex discussion thread

HugsiePie

floutingmaxims

I've been laughing at a pair of badly altered pants for 15 minutes. I love sex, Good sex!

(yes, those two sentences are meant to correlate) :P

pajor

Cawcheen wrote: »

I've been laughing at a pair of badly altered pants for 15 minutes. I love sex, Good sex!

(yes, those two sentences are meant to correlate) :P

Explanation needed. :pac:

Junco Partner

You know what's an equal parts and dissappointing . when your FWB gets a boyfriend and you're left there wondering "What, who,am I gonna do now?"

HugsiePie

Junco Partner wrote: »

You know what's an equal parts and dissappointing . when your FWB gets a boyfriend and you're left there wondering "What, who,am I gonna do now?"

:pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac:

Jhcx

You get another one. And do the brains outta them. That's why there fwbs.

Btw hands no longer become an option once the real thing is felt.

floutingmaxims

pajor wrote: »

Explanation needed. :pac:

It had been a while. Was on a buzz. Everything was funny. Everything! Maybe im just full on crazy. That could be it :rolleyes:

LoonyLovegood

Am I the only one who thinks that sex is really overrated? It's messy and icky and I dont really like it at all.

Jhcx

Yes.. Sex shouldnt be messy. Unless your talking about the part where theres loads of white stuff all over your body. But that just means you can have a shower and start all over again. Maybe its different from a guys point of view. i quiet enjoy the foreplay aspect of it. and then obviously get pleasure when in action. im always mixing things up trying diffent postions, different things. always reading about how to imporve. watching an episode of love hate and she was going on about how men are like robots one motion, That freaked me. Im like omg is that what there feeling?

I dont think its overrated. ive developed stronger relationships from being intimate. ive been connected . we've shared eachother. To some sex is in and boring as fck. others like to make it more personal by trying different things messing with eachother, pushing eachothers boundaries.

just imo of course. i enjoy it for what it is. Not to mention can have mini me's when the days is right lol

Junco Partner

HugsiePie wrote: »

:pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac:

Hello old friend it's been a while

pajor

Jhcx wrote: »

I dont think its overrated. ive developed stronger relationships from being intimate. ive been connected . we've shared eachother. To some sex is in and boring as fck. others like to make it more personal by trying different things messing with eachother, pushing eachothers boundaries.

You sir, are spot on.

Jhcx

HugsiePie wrote: »

If sex is about feeling a deeper connection (giggity) why have a fwb/f.buddy relationship? Heck why even have 1 night stands?

Because you learn. Remember when you were a Virgin and you were scared as fck. First time pain, what would it feel like. It's like that in relationships. You want to be prepared. Trying something with an fwb you'll be able to show of on your bf/gf. Everyone is different but you learn a lot about yourself. How deep you can go how slow fast to go. What position suits you best how does your body cope. How long can you last. There's always something in sex. Whether it be to make a relationship connection or to experiment, learn and have fun. I think sex is needed as part of a healthy lifestyle. Releases so much not to mention all the exercise out of it.

pajor

HugsiePie wrote: »

If sex is about feeling a deeper connection (giggity) why have a fwb/f.buddy relationship? Heck why even have 1 night stands?

Not my field of expertise. :pac:

Not something I've ever had or even really wanted. But that's just me.

Junco Partner

HugsiePie wrote: »

If sex is about feeling a deeper connection (giggity) why have a fwb/f.buddy relationship? Heck why even have 1 night stands?

I don't know that it always is really; about a deeper connection I mean.
Relationships ask an awful lot of you emotionally and they make you pretty vulnerable.
For the emotionally underdeveloped among us (I.e me) this can seem a pretty daunting prospect. But even those who aren't able for an emotional commitment need the ride now and then. Casual sex, one night stands, Fwbs, it's fun, really really fun. You talk you laugh you banter and there's no real deeper goal or meaning other than dopamine release.
While there is a certain amount of intimacy Involved( your spend hours conjoined at the hip, how could it not be intimate) I don't think it's an emotional intimacy.

As for what jhcx said about practice. If your in a relationship your going to be getting plenty of practice as is surely? Even if one partner isn't very good you adapt to and learn each others desires as the relationship progresses. Surely any sex your having before entering a relationship should be viewed with a "fcuk yeah I'm having sex!" Attitude rather than as a learning experience". Theres no one right way of doing it that your going to master,everyone's different just enjoy it and take it as it comes

Jhcx

Junco Partner wrote: »

As for what jhcx said about practice. If your in a relationship your going to be getting plenty of practice as is surely? Even if one partner isn't very good you adapt to and learn each others desires as the relationship progresses. Surely any sex your having before entering a relationship should be viewed with a "fcuk yeah I'm having sex!" Attitude rather than as a learning experience". Theres no one right way of doing it that your going to master,everyone's different just enjoy it and take it as it comes

Ya I agree just having sex is awesome. But my instances I'm pretty scared I don't want to seem like I don't know what I'm doing that's just a mental thing. For example I have been outta action for 5 months, till recently got asked and I wasn't prepared wanted to meet up on the Saturday. Then one night was out on Friday and got offered so I jumped in was back on top. Then the Saturday was able to give the person who too had been outta action for almost a year great fun because I had learned new positions night before. So ya while I had fun I also got rid of feeling like a Virgin and learned new techniques.

Junco Partner

Jhcx wrote: »

Ya I agree just having sex is awesome. But my instances I'm pretty scared I don't want to seem like I don't know what I'm doing that's just a mental thing. For example I have been outta action for 5 months, till recently got asked and I wasn't prepared wanted to meet up on the Saturday. Then one night was out on Friday and got offered so I jumped in was back on top. Then the Saturday was able to give the person who too had been outta action for almost a year great fun because I had learned new positions night before. So ya while I had fun I also got rid of feeling like a Virgin and learned new techniques.

in my experience it's not so much how many positions you know more so how much of the workload your willing to take on. Or maybe my luck has just been bad all year. They never want to go on top.

suitcasepink

Yea but the sweatiness is ewwwy
/thread

pajor

deise_girl wrote: »

Yea but the sweatiness is ewwwy
/thread

That just means you're doing it right..

suitcasepink

pajor wrote: »

That just means you're doing it right..

Iconic.
When I just change my boards signature to "Does sex right"



Ahh Im too immature to be in this thread..

pajor

deise_girl wrote: »

Iconic.
When I just change my boards signature to "Does sex right"

I just realised how creepy I sounded. :pac:

wnolan1992

Have sex in a shower.

That will surely negate the sweat-factor somewhat?

suitcasepink

pajor wrote: »

I just realised how creepy I sounded. :pac:

Just a tad lol

wnolan1992 wrote: »

Have sex in a shower.

That will surely negate the sweat-factor somewhat?

Heh, probably...

Junco Partner

HugsiePie wrote: »

Dont have sex

Thats how you get Ebola :pac:

There are much more frightening diseases floating round D'Icon on a Thursday. Ebola is the least of our worries.

HugsiePie

Junco Partner wrote: »

There are much more frightening diseases floating round D'Icon on a Thursday. Ebola is the least of our worries.

Cooties?

Insect Overlord

wnolan1992 wrote: »

Have sex in a shower.

Best. Mod instruction. EVER.

LoonyLovegood

You crazy kids.

iamanengine

Sex = Good

/thread, surely! :P

Ah, tis a complex activity alright. I myself am a fan but it sure does have the ability to break a person...emotionally of course! :cool:

LoonyLovegood

I guess part of my thing about sex is my last relationship. But I dunno...I reckon I fall somewhere on the asexual spectrum. If I could find a partner who just wanted spooning life would be fantastic.

Junco Partner

CTYIgirl wrote: »

I guess part of my thing about sex is my last relationship. But I dunno...I reckon I fall somewhere on the asexual spectrum. If I could find a partner who just wanted spooning life would be fantastic.

spooning is great and all. That is until you start to suffocate on a faceful of hair and your arm goes numb.

Peanut Butter Jelly

Junco Partner wrote: »

spooning is great and all. That is until you start to suffocate on a faceful of hair and your arm goes numb.

Truer words were never spoken.

Jhcx

Just putting it out there spooing naked is the best leads to more causes of sex

Macavity.

Peanut Butter Jelly wrote: »

Truer words were never spoken.

I think much truer words have been spoken, tbh. :pac:

Jhcx

Do you guys ask your other half or fwb do they trim or shave. An ex of mine asked me what way I like it and a friend also asked. Personally as a modern lad I trim keep things tidy, Kinda expected. but it never really phased me. Is your appearance even with an fwb important?

Junco Partner

Jhcx wrote: »

Do you guys ask your other half or fwb do they trim or shave. An ex of mine asked me what way I like it and a friend also asked. Personally as a modern lad I trim keep things tidy, Kinda expected. but it never really phased me. Is your appearance even with an fwb important?

is it expected.? Tried the shaving thing once and the itch that followed put me off ever trying it again. Been with girls who have and girls who havent. Didn't really make a difference to me.

Jhcx

Junco Partner wrote: »

is it expected.? Tried the shaving thing once and the itch that followed put me off ever trying it again. Been with girls who have and girls who havent. Didn't really make a difference to me.

Well I think so maybe not shave but trim. I know few lads who would do it for their other half most go bare because someone of someone said it was the better way. As you said it is fair itchy don't think it's worth it. would of thought would made bit of a difference on friction no skin to skin contact. I've never done it so I wouldn't know but do know skin can feel like rubber when hot

MauraTheThird

Had a discussion with my housemates Tuesday and all three of them are "meh" towards sex and thought I was crazy for actually wishing I had someone to do it with :P

LoveLamps

i like sex

only had ons' tho

Junco Partner

You know how a baby might have a toy in it's cot and it might only barely play with it. But the second you take that toy it's all they want.

I went for drinks with my ex fwb and her new boyfriend tonight. Can totally relate to those infants now.

Jhcx

Need another fwb. You'll forgot the old toy

Junco Partner

Jhcx wrote: »

Need another fwb. You'll forgot the old toy

I dunno really. Maybe after 18 months they're was more emotional involvement than I realised.

Sh1t be confusing.

Jhcx

But that defeats the purpose of fwbs. But yes it's all very very confusing

Cherry Blossom Girl

Junco Partner wrote: »

I dunno really. Maybe after 18 months they're was more emotional involvement than I realised.

Sh1t be confusing.

You kept an fwb thing going for 18 months with minimal emotional damage? Impressive. I didn't think that was possible.

Junco Partner

Cherry Blossom Girl wrote: »

You kept an fwb thing going for 18 months with minimal emotional damage? Impressive. I didn't think that was possible.

We talked about it a lot. What we wanted out of it. What we didn't want. Whether or not either of us was having trouble with the "just sex" aspect etc etc.
communication is key in in any sort of arrangement/relationship. Plus you should always be up front and honest and about things. Lying or purposefully leading on is where feeling get hurt and damage gets done

pajor

Cherry Blossom Girl wrote: »

You kept an fwb thing going for 18 months with minimal emotional damage? Impressive. I didn't think that was possible.

Neither did I. I'm actually baffled. No way I could ever do that.

Fair play to you both though for not messing with each others' heads.

Macavity.

Cherry Blossom Girl wrote: »

You kept an fwb thing going for 18 months with minimal emotional damage? Impressive. I didn't think that was possible.

It's pretty easy for a lot of men.

Cherry Blossom Girl

Macavity. wrote: »

It's pretty easy for a lot of men.

Oh of course it is, because all women are far too emotional to ever successfully achieve something like that. And let's not forget that gay men never find themselves catching feelings for their fwb because they're both men.

Don't even go there with such generalisations. The success of all arrangements/relationships depends far more on the individuals involved than whether they happen to have a penis or not.

Macavity.

Cherry Blossom Girl wrote: »

Oh of course it is, because all women are far too emotional to ever successfully achieve something like that. And let's not forget that gay men never find themselves catching feelings for their fwb because they're both men.

Funny, I don't remember saying any of that? Don't let that prevent you from getting your rant in though.

Don't even go there with such generalisations. The success of all arrangements/relationships depends far more on the individuals involved rather than whether they happen to have a penis or not.

True, we are all individuals and there will always be outliers. There have been a number of studies, however, that have shown that women generally identify more emotional involvement in sexual relationships than men do.

Junco Partner

If we as a society continue to view ourselves as Men and women rather than simply living breathing people than I don't really think we're gonna progress. Society isn't being helped by all the ism schisms and all the arguments. Women have a pretty raw deal. You can try and say they don't but you are wrong. Plain and simple. Objectification in media. Some of the things people in my circle say about the girls in their day to day life is pretty reprehensible. Religious oppression. Workplace discrimination. This is broad strokes. The nitty gritty would take days.

But the thing is; I as a man have to deal with a lot of the same stuff. There is a equally unrealistic set of standards that I somehow have to reach. Its pretty intimadating. Some of the girls at work are pretty appreciative of the "arse on that" or the graphic things they would do. I've been taken advantage of. It's a gender neutral problem. Female spiders eat their mates. Male lions are lazy leaders. It varies. Human males have a better starting hand.

I am not an enemy of women. Bitches do not be crazy. People be crazy.

We are products of the society we live in. You cannot attack and hate the product and do nothing to change the source. this extends into every aspect of our lives too not just sexual equality; politics, relationships, workplace, media etc. Righteous gibberish online or in print. It's a disconnected communication. Slogans. A against B. The number of people actually actively on the stalls or out fighting these issues face to face with people in mass orginisation is teensy. People could physically change the system. Yet few even vote. If people would focus less on fighting battles against token enemies and facebook viral sensationalism causes and more on actually changing things we might progress as a species.

Macavity.

Where has all this came from? I can't fathom how or why you have dragged this into a gender rights debate tbh.

Insect Overlord

Macavity. wrote: »

Where has all his this came from? I can't fathom how or why you have dragged this into a gender rights debate tbh.

You kinda started it with the childish generalisation.