seriously like, why do we cheat?

dontcallmecrazy

we were together a year and a half, we were renting, it wasn the same night, maybe a week and a bit later.

Loomis

People cheat because they are selfish.

Davidius

I think people have been watching too much television. You all make relationships out to be so complicated.

Geri Boyle

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

we were together a year and a half, we were renting, it wasn the same night, maybe a week and a bit later.

Ah Jesus, you didn't cheat on the guy.. and if there was a 'waiting period' a week and a half is more than generous!

Hail 2 Da Chimp

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

we were together a year and a half, we were renting, it wasn the same night, maybe a week and a bit later.

Was it with his brother / sister or something?

Kiera

Hail 2 Da Chimp wrote: »

Fair enough but if he was seeing her for, say 10 years. They have a falling out and he thinks she should move out (I'm guessing he owns the house).
He has every right to be pissed off with her if she goes out that night and gets off with someone.
There may not be a waiting period - but if my girlfriend told me it was over and started kissing someone right away, I'd punch her right in the ovaries*!!!

*(That is to say I'd be pretty upset with her)

Thats bollox!

He kicked her out, he wanted to break up. Tough bloody shít! She can do what she likes.

dontcallmecrazy

thanks girls/guys, your comments are giving me that little extra nudge i need to keep the chin up.

dontcallmecrazy

Hail 2 Da Chimp wrote: »

Was it with his brother / sister or something?

no, god no. ew

Hail 2 Da Chimp

Kiera wrote: »

Thats bollox!

He kicked her out, he wanted to break up. Tough bloody shít! She can do what she likes.

Not arguing with that, but it'd explain why he was pissed off with her.

Fizman

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

but why do we cheat, but there must be some actual explanation?

I think a simple maths equation explains it logically.
..........................
N = A whole number greater than 1.

N(Vagina) > Vagina


EDIT: Or in your case OP, replace vagina with Willy.

Geri Boyle

Hail 2 Da Chimp wrote: »

Not arguing with that, but it'd explain why he was pissed off with her.

Doesn't mean he has a right to be.
He's actually p*ssed off with himself that he made a rash decision by dumping her and everythings changed now coz she kissed someone else. He's annoyed with himself and trying to make her feel guilty. She has nothing to feel guilty about. I have no sympathy for him. /rant

Kiera

Hail 2 Da Chimp wrote: »

Not arguing with that, but it'd explain why he was pissed off with her.

Because he's playing the "poor me" card?

turgon

Why would you even be on a break unless you really hated the fùcker? In which case you should dump his ass.

You go girl.

Kiera

turgon wrote: »

Why would you even be on a break unless you really hated the fùcker? In which case you should dump his ass.

You go girl.

I bet you clicked you fingers from side to side after typing that

themadchef

We can has ex bashing forum? pretty please.

Would be great craic in fairness :pac:

Hail 2 Da Chimp

Blue Belle wrote: »

Doesn't mean he has a right to be.
He's actually p*ssed off with himself that he made a rash decision by dumping her and everythings changed now coz she kissed someone else. He's annoyed with himself and trying to make her feel guilty. She has nothing to feel guilty about. I have no sympathy for him. /rant

It may not have been a rash decision to dump her, she could have been getting off with all sorts while they were going out, and then she goes and gets off with someone else while they were on a break.
Or she could have some sort of a chemical dependancy, and he threw her out after the last intervention failed...
It's obvious he valued the relationship a lot more than she did... While he was trying to salvage the relationship she was out messing around with other guys.

Although he should have spent his time trying to get off with someone else instead of bitching about here doing it...

Kiera

themadchef wrote: »

We can has ex bashing forum? pretty please.

Would be great craic in fairness :pac:

+10000 Great idea!

NewFrockTuesday

We can has ex bashing forum? pretty please.

Would be great craic in fairness

Great idea!!!


Name?





or at least a sticky int he LL?

Fizman

themadchef wrote: »

We can has ex bashing forum? pretty please.

Tourrettes?

winston82

A man is only a faithful as his options

javaboy

themadchef wrote: »

We can has ex bashing forum? pretty please.

Would be great craic in fairness :pac:

Bad idea imo. The mods would get sick to the back teeth of people constantly asking for their threads to be deleted when it turns out they do in fact love the selfish ***** with his ******* I'm too good for you attitude and his pencil **** and his absolute **** of a mother after all.

Kiera

javaboy wrote: »

Bad idea imo. The mods would get sick to the back teeth of people constantly asking for their threads to be deleted when it turns out they do in fact love the selfish ***** with his ******* I'm too good for you attitude and his pencil **** and his absolute **** of a mother after all.

I'd bitch about you in it. My ex-friend who changed when he became a mod

stovelid

Man, you're crazy.

Latchy

Kiera wrote: »

I'd bitch about you in it. My ex-friend who changed when he became a mod

Gawd I hope that never happens to me .......change that is .

dontcallmecrazy

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

so i kissed somebody else while me and him were ON A BREAK he considers this cheating, fair enough.

but why do we cheat, i know all the usual - missing something in the realtionship etc etc.

but there must be some actual explanation?

i just want to know so i dont go doing it again.

"Wanna blowjob like?"

"ok, like, Is this considered cheating like?"

"No, like"

"Nice one, go ahead then like"

Kiera

latchyco wrote: »

Gawd I hope that never happens to me .......change that is .

It would only be for the better in your case

javaboy

rarnes1 wrote: »

"Wanna blowjob like?"

"ok, like, Is this considered cheating like?"

"No, like"

"Nice one, go ahead then like"

Ah the Bill Clinton school of thought.

Geri Boyle

Hail 2 Da Chimp wrote: »

she could have been getting off with all sorts while they were going out, and then she goes and gets off with someone else while they were on a break.

Where did you get that from?! She'd hardly admit a snog while they were broken up* if she was off cheating on him the whole time!



*I dont buy this "on a break" lark

Gone Drinking

We cheat because far away fannys smell nicer

Hail 2 Da Chimp

Blue Belle wrote: »

Where did you get that from?! [/SIZE]

I read between the lines... Once a cheater...

Latchy

Kiera wrote: »

It would only be for the better in your case

teapot calling the kettle black. bladda bladda blah :P

Professey Chin

javaboy wrote: »

Bad idea imo. The mods would get sick to the back teeth of people constantly asking for their threads to be deleted when it turns out they do in fact love the selfish ***** with his ******* I'm too good for you attitude and his pencil **** and his absolute **** of a mother after all.

Then ill mod and rule with an iron clad no delete policy.
All relationships will be forever fecked and I will be the new eternal lord of all their misery :pac:

or ill get lynched and bow to peer pressure*

*thats much more likely

Blue-Eyed

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

ON A BREAK

Flashback from Friends incoming. :pac:

bigslick

I am a male and i think what he did was stupid. he broke up with you and kicked you out onto ur ass and then after a fair amount of time you moved on and scored whoever you wanted.

He then decided he had made big mistake and wanted you back. You were amazingly honest and told him what happened. (How many of us wouldn't say?!). And then he has the gall (hope thats right usage of word) to give out/hate you??!!

I call BS

As previous poster said, he sounds like an idiot and someone you are better off without. Move on with your life and enjoy it. And if i ever see ya round ill buy ya a drink.

Stercus Accidit

I leave for a couple of hours and ye all go soft.


He's a wimp, its Friday night, you claim to be of age, hot and vulnerable,

Get out there and give some lad the easy score of his life!


He wont cry about it either if you dont text him afterwards.

Abi

Fock the ex. The mind-games he expected the OP to go along with barely scratch the surface. He played God with where she lived aswell.

And he claims this kiss was cheating while being on a 'break' he asked for? Ask my árse.

What did he want a break for? A break is greedy, and basically means 'Im going to give something else a shot, and Im gona keep you handy in case it doesnt work out'.

Let the focker fall between two stools.

deleriumtremens

People cheat because humans engage in myopic discounting. They take the easy option NOW instead of acting for their long term happiness. I other words, they're weak willed cnunts, disgusting selfish hedonists.

Wibbs

deleriumtremens wrote: »

People cheat because humans engage in myopic discounting. They take the easy option NOW instead of acting for their long term happiness. I other words, they're weak willed cnunts, disgusting selfish hedonists.

Bitter much?:D But yes I actually agree with you for the most part. Most or a lot of people are self centered. So long as the balance is ok or they're getting their quick fix, then they won't cheat. The second it becomes harder or they get an itch down below, they'll jump. Temptation belongs to all of us, but acting on that is what marks out the people who think beyond their own immediate needs.

deleriumtremens

Wibbs wrote: »

Bitter much?:D

Nah, am only a young fella! Know a good bit of psychology though!

Kold

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

so i kissed somebody else while me and him were ON A BREAK he considers this cheating, fair enough.

but why do we cheat, i know all the usual - missing something in the realtionship etc etc.

but there must be some actual explanation?

i just want to know so i dont go doing it again.

I don't cheat. You did, welcome to dirtystopperville. Population; you.

Professey Chin

Kold wrote: »

I don't cheat. You did, welcome to dirtystopperville. Population; you.

Read rest of thread for full story, we did. Welcome to jumptoconclusionsville. Population; you.

K-9

Wibbs wrote: »

Bitter much?:D But yes I actually agree with you for the most part. Most or a lot of people are self centered. So long as the balance is ok or they're getting their quick fix, then they won't cheat. The second it becomes harder or they get an itch down below, they'll jump. Temptation belongs to all of us, but acting on that is what marks out the people who think beyond their own immediate needs.

Have to agree, we are all self centred but there seems to be some people who will satisfy that itch, others will have no problem resisting it.

Many relationships have there bad patches, it's up to the individual how they behave.

OP, I can't see you did anything wrong.

AckwelFoley

Its not cheating if you drop the hand.

Eating is not cheating.

Its only cheating if shes over the age of 17.

AckwelFoley

Domo230 wrote: »

Some of us are having trouble getting the one, let alone 2 or more to cheat with.

your honesty is admirable

javaboy

javaboy wrote: »

Did I walk in on an episode of Friends?

There is no such thing as a break btw. It's usually a trap. You fell for it.

Referring to the friends episode.Ross was in the right and it was Rachel's fault.

Mr Benevolent

This is much better then PI.

arybvtcw0eolkf

Because we're fvcking idiots thats why.

.

useful_contacts

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

so i kissed somebody else while me and him were ON A BREAK he considers this cheating, fair enough.

but why do we cheat, i know all the usual - missing something in the realtionship etc etc.

but there must be some actual explanation?

i just want to know so i dont go doing it again.

I love the fact you come on AH expecting a serious answer:D

Kold

Ultimate Chin wrote: »

Read rest of thread for full story, we did. Welcome to jumptoconclusionsville. Population; you.

She mustn't like the guy all that much if it takes her a week to get over him and kiss another guy. Then she changes her mind and goes back to him. Not particularly respectable behaviour imo. She has admitted to cheating with the OP, no matter what you deem it as.

Abi

Kold wrote: »

She has admitted to cheating

Which is what hes convinced her. If the shoe was on the other foot, he'd call her irrational and probably get away with it.

He fúcks her out, then expects her to come running back. Its ok for him to be disappointed, but laying on the guilt?

I wouldnt entertain the tool.