Some questions

Gemini Sister

Hi ladies,

I've been a stalker on this site for awhile but its time to post!

I'm a bit worn out with positive thinking today. Am 34, been ttc for about 18mnths. Have a cycle so regular you could set the clock by it. Been for the first round of hormone tests, all normal. Hubbies little swimmers all normal too. Haven't been on the pill for yrs and yrs. Getting a bit down, its period day of course

Some questions: doctor suggests iui, gotta talk to her again on tues to check that. I've also always suffered from very heavy clotty periods. Actually approached doc about this a few years back, but doc was dismissive. Said you need to be soaking towels many times a day to be counted as heavy. But is clotty normal? Its really hard to judge whats heavy? Or am I just looking for explanations when there are none? A friend suggested a d & c for this reason. Any ideas?

Also, Was onto insurance company this morning. They say they will only cover 'investigations' not fertility treatment and were quite vague about that. Would I be better off to ditch them and get a medical card? Have some savings and obviously want the best... what do you recommend?

Thanks and best of luck to you all

embee

Gemini Sister wrote: »

Hi ladies,

Some questions: doctor suggests iui, gotta talk to her again on tues to check that. I've also always suffered from very heavy clotty periods. Actually approached doc about this a few years back, but doc was dismissive. Said you need to be soaking towels many times a day to be counted as heavy. But is clotty normal? Its really hard to judge whats heavy? Or am I just looking for explanations when there are none? A friend suggested a d & c for this reason. Any ideas?

Periods can be clotty and that isn't abnormal. It isn't just blood that's being shed, the endometrial layer is being lost and it shears away from the womb in parts, so "clotty" periods are to be expected, though some women would prob experience this more than others.

As to your friend suggesting a D&C - that is something only a doctor can recommend. If you are unhappy with your doctors dismissive attitude then you can always seek a second opinion from another GP or a specialist in the area of fertility.

Best of luck!

Gemini Sister

Thanks embee.

I'm probably just letting my mind play tricks on me.
Gotta talk to the doctor I suppose... and keep the faith

Ironé

I've been trying for 12 months now and your situation is the exact same as mine - same age, same regular cycle, 'clotty' periods. I've done all the tests and everything appears normal. But nothing happening yet.

I have had a big change in attitude towards it in the last month or two. I cut out many of the things in my life that were causing me stress (my job being one of the main things ). I also changed doctors and it makes a huge difference to have someone who listens and who is not dismissive. She gave me some very simple advice: eat a bannana a day (not sure why), drink plenty water, get 30 minutes exercise a day, take vitamins (she recommended the pregnacare ones).

I feel that the fact that I was being so obsessive about getting pregnant and being generally stressed has affected my chances of conceiving. I'm trying to get some other hobbies and goals to chill me out a bit. I'm following the doctors advice, trying to stay healthy and lose a bit of extra weight I have put on. I also track my cycle on fertility friend and use a fertility monitor.

Not sure if this advice helps you. But stay positive and don't stress out. Just believe that everything will fall into place as its meant to.

I know how you feel - it is so disappointing each month when your period comes again! Don't give up and don't let ttc take over your life.

Gemini Sister

Thanks irone!

Bananas from now on then! Had a chat with doctor about the clotty thing. Said it isn't necessarily a problem, lining gets shed as well as blood. She also had a 'feel around' and said probably don't have fibroids which was my worry with the clotiness. Process of elimination! Also working on being healthier and positive mental attitude. Best of luck and report back if you get lucky!

Dfens

I know it's hard when you're actively ttc but from hearing a few stories it's when a couple forgets about ttc that it actually happens to them.
How about planning a nice break away somewhere romantic with your partner which will give you both lots of opportunity to relax & who knows what might be the result.