My Mam is pregnant - I can't believe it! (Read first post)

LegacyUser

wolfpawnat wrote: »

Seriously, all you have to do is tolerate it. "oh did I look like that?" "Does it eat and sleep well" even a pressie of a teddy/t-shirt and trust me mum will be happy and so will you! You do not have to adore it. I cannot think of any siblings that fall in love immediately. But you can be there for your mum and your sib, trust me, when it is older you would be seen as the coolest big bro ever!!!!! All you have to do, is show the child you are around.

You're right ! I have to make the first step and just do it,don't want this going on any longer.

wolfpawnat wrote: »

You do not want anything to do with this child, but here is a question for you and the answer will truly intrigue me, What has this child done to you to make you resent it so much? Physically or Emotionally, what has it done? Not your mum, nor the dad, but baby?

The honest answer is she hasn't done anything,I've just been so focused on my mam that I really haven't been thinking of her daughter.

Chinafoot

Dissappointed! wrote: »

The honest answer is she hasn't done anything,I've just been so focused on my mam that I really haven't been thinking of her daughter.

You mean your sister. You need to stop thinking of her as your mother's child. She's your blood.

Look, your woe-is-me, pity-party has gone on for long enough. I agree fully with the poster who said you are doing nothing but making excuses. This crap of "I don't want to cause anymore upset" is right up there with the same rubbish you were pulling when this started. Saying your mam wouldn't need you anymore etc. I reckon that you're really mortified by how you've behaved, in fact I hope sincerely thats the case otherwise you are beyond help here.

Go and see your mother. Stop making excuses, just do it. Tell her you want to get your relationship back on track.

Disappointed !

Op here-Well I went to see her yesterday and spent the whole day together,don't know where I got the courage from to actually just out right call to the door but I did it anyway,heart was racing so fast I thought it was going to burst ! .

Was expecting my mam to be cold etc with me but she wasn't she was just a little surprised to see me there and then after the inital shock she went on as if nothing had happened really.

She got upset after I had told all the different things that have been going on with me since we last spoke or saw eachother,was sad that she wasn't there for a few big things that I've had on over the last year.
She didn't ask did I want to see the baby but was going in and out to check on her so I just followed her in on one of the times and when I saw her I felt very faint for some reason probably the relief that I was finally there I suppose.

Have to say she is a lovely baby ! Ironic thing is both her and my brother think she looks like me don't see it myself.
Anyway not sure how things will go from here as I still really don't feel anything but i'm thinking of the baby non stop since i left,it's a happy thought,nothing bad ,don't know what that means .

SheRa

Op Im delighted for you that you went to see your mam. Dont analyse your feelings towards the baby too much. Its lovely that you have been thinking about her and that you are having happy thoughts about her.

Diabhal Beag

OP you have grown up a lot since you started posting. I must commend you for that.

Enjoy having a baby sister.

ash23

Awwww, OP . I'm nearly in tears here. Regardless of how you see your sibling (and it seems you are actually warming), I'm so chuffed you've seen your mom and talked to her. I'm grinning


And if I know babies (and i do!), that likkle scrunched up bundle of big arse and fat cheeks(anyone who knows babies knows what I mean!), is hard to resist.
Delighted for you!

Mrs Bambi

Dear OP

Having read the whole of this thread I am delighted to see you grew a pair.

Well done on having the courage to go see your mum as it is difficult to admit when u behaved badly and u took the first step and should be commended for it

Regarding how u feel about your baby sister give it time, spend time with her, play with her she will have you round her little finger in no time I guarantee it! My DH was actually terrified of our first DD and felt no bond with her but it came with time and the same will happen with ur baby sister and then god help any man who comes near her with u and your brother on watch. She will enrich and lighten your life you just have to give yourself and her the chance.

Best of luck and keep up the contact, a broken relationship is easier to mend once the first step has been taken. Just remember how much your family love u thats priceless

Silverfish

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