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It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it
becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as
when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to shout at them.
Some are over-sensitive and there's nothing worse than an over-sensitive
woman.

My name is Ron. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife,
Julie. When I took early retirement last year, it became necessary for
Julie to get a full-time job for the extra income that we need.

Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show
her age. I now usually get home from the pub about the same time she
gets home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she nearly
always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts
dinner. I don't shout at her, instead I tell her to take her time and
just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch
at the pub so eating out again is out of the question; I'm ready for
some home cooked food when I get home.

She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's
usual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner. I do
what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening
that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as
it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.

Another symptom of ageing is complaining. For example, she will say that
it is difficult for her to do the shopping during her lunch hour. But we
take them for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement.
I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she
won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch
completely now and then won't hurt her. I like to think tact is one of
my strong points.

When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods.
She has to take a rest when she has only half finished mowing the lawn
and several extra breaks when she's vacuuming through the house. It does
annoy me, vacuuming when I'm trying to watch 'Match of the Day', but I
try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to make herself a
nice cup of tea and just sit for a while, and as long as she is making
one for herself, she may as well make one for me too.

I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Julie. I'm
not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will
find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows better
than I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However, even if
you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your ageing wife
because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well
worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other, eh?


EDITOR'S NOTE:

Ron died suddenly last week. He was found with a 24-inch Stanley
screwdriver rammed up his ar*e with only 2 inches showing.

His wife Julie was arrested, but the all-woman jury accepted her defence
that he accidentally sat on it.