Bf looking at other women

shellyboo

bubblewrap wrote: »

look, just don't fcuk (will say that to bf tonight!)

Yes OP's bf is well and truly out of order, switching seats etc...my bf would be out the door if he did that to me.

Mine too. But complimenting other women, even my mates... doesn't bother me (much!)

Ultimately, this isn't about looking/not looking and what it means. It's about basic respect. If he was swapping seats to look at a TV or something while talking to me, that would be just as rude. It's just not acceptable behaviour.

bubblewrap

My bf switches seats to see the screen in the pub if football is on, that is a minor irritation :rolleyes: but to do it to gawp at women is a dumpable offence.

What you need to realise is if he is that bad when she is there, what would would he be like when she isn't?

_blank_

bubblewrap wrote: »

My bf switches seats to see the screen in the pub if football is on, that is a minor irritation :rolleyes:

He has an interest in football. He likes to watch football

OH NOES, he isn't giving you the full attention you so obviously crave. instead, he is wanting to watch a bit of "stupid football". The shame of it all. :rolleyes:

bubblewrap wrote: »

but to do it to gawp at women is a dumpable offence.

To do something totally, TOTALLY natural, is a "dumpable offence". Jesus christ you need to grow up a bit.

If there is a better looking girl than you in a bar/at a party, and believe me, they do exist, even your boyfriend who tells you you are the most beautiful girl in the world thinks so, what should he do? Put on a blindfold?

The mind seriously boggles, seriously.

bubblewrap wrote: »

What you need to realise is if he is that bad when she is there, what would would he be like when she isn't?

You are coming across as a right little bunny boiler tbh.

Insecurity is a horrible, really unattractive trait in a partner.

Do you trust your partner in the slightest?

Silverfish

Can we keep this thread directed at the OP please.


Thanks.

bubblewrap

My bf goes to the pub after work every Friday (and is doing so tonight) and there is always these 3 tarts at the bar, I have seen them a few times when he has invited me along, what if they get up to something with him?

_blank_

Silverfish wrote: »

Can we keep this thread directed at the OP please.


Thanks.

Can we have that last comment moved out into a separate thread then, or is ok to answer?

bubblewrap

Sorry, I've done it again. :(

Beruthiel

bubblewrap wrote: »

My bf goes to the pub after work every Friday (and is doing so tonight) and there is always these 3 tarts at the bar, I have seen them a few times when he has invited me along, what if they get up to something with him?

bubblewrap
This thread isn't about YOU.
It's about the OP.
Can you please either stay on topic or refrain from commenting in this thread!

As for your very obvious lack of self esteem, confidence and trust issues, do your self a big favour and go see a professional about them and proactively sort your head out.
B

No Des.
bubblewrap has already started six threads in the last few weeks regarding this issue.
Enough is enough.

Dudess

Des wrote: »

To do something totally, TOTALLY natural, is a "dumpable offence". Jesus christ you need to grow up a bit.

Just putting this in the context of the OP's post: looking is of course natural... staring for prolonged periods, while it may also be natural and not indicative of anything sinister, is ill-mannered. I think it's fair enough to expect a partner to have a look, fine, but draw the line at full-on staring.

bubblewrap

Yes we all glance and think mmmmmm but watching someone and moving seats isn't normal, even if you are single! It is just weird!

All I know is if I was that girl a man moved his seat for to stare at, I would be switching seats myself, across the room if possible.

ellie1

I quite appreciate getting the odd glance or stare. Its quite flattering . Just like if someone eyed up my o/h, i would be happy for him.
I think its normal and natural to look at other men and women however moving seats to stare/oggle other women while your girlfriend is present is a bit disrespectful.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Dudess wrote: »

I don't think it should be a case of "only do it in such a way that she won't notice" - that's actually kinda sneaky IMO. The odd glance - all's cool, just no staring.

I didn't really mean it in that way, more that if you're out with the other half you shouldn't be checking people out to the extent that they'll notice you're doing it. ie, you shouldn't really pay a hot girl any more glancing time in the OH's presence than you would anyone else.

John Mason

Des wrote: »

He has an interest in football. He likes to watch football

OH NOES, he isn't giving you the full attention you so obviously crave. instead, he is wanting to watch a bit of "stupid football". The shame of it all. :rolleyes:

well, my OH is more then welcome to look at other girls and in fact point them out to me - i actually point good looking girls to him.

watching football in a pub when he is out with me is an absolute dumping offence. he tried to get me to move seats one night, so he could watch a random football game with the sound off. he was informed that he was out with me and not to watch football :rolleyes::rolleyes:

Baby75

[
If my DH did that I would be very annoyed, I don't mind looking (you look think very nice then go back to what ever you were doing) but to blatantly stare and move seats that's a little to far over the line.

My husband agrees way out of line!!

Nevyn

Baby75 if you have an issue with a mod action pm the mod or start a thread in feedback.
Do so is off topic posting which will get you banned from this forum.

Baby75

Thaedydal wrote: »

Baby75 if you have an issue with a mod action pm the mod or start a thread in feedback.
Do so is off topic posting which will get you banned from this forum.

Im very sorry, Im only new to the forum did not even know it was mod action