Guys and their girl mates

shqipshume

Hey guys i want to see how well men and women get on and how yous think about male female friendship.
As a guy or girl do you go shopping with you guy or girl mate cinema or for dinner or drinks without your girl friend or boy friend.
What do you do with your guy or girl mates.

MagicMarker

I have a close ''girl-friend'' in Canada, and while we don't hang out together since I'm back, we email regularly.

When I lived there we worked together, and we would get some dinner/beer/movies together, we even had a couple of road trips, her husband didn't/doesn't have a problem with it.

shqipshume

MagicMarker wrote: »

I have a close ''girl-friend'' in Canada, and while we don't hang out together since I'm back, we email regularly.

When I lived there we worked together, and we would get some dinner/beer/movies together, we even had a couple of road trips, her husband didn't/doesn't have a problem with it.

That's nice to hear,I am enquiring because i don't have any male friends except my boy friend and i am finding difficult to adjust he has girl mates,As i am not used to it at all.

Trog

MagicMarker wrote: »

I have a close ''girl-friend'' in Canada, and while we don't hang out together since I'm back, we email regularly.

When I lived there we worked together, and we would get some dinner/beer/movies together, we even had a couple of road trips, her husband didn't/doesn't have a problem with it.

4 ball?

MagicMarker

Trog wrote: »

4 ball?

Unfortunately, no.

My name is URL

One of my closest friends is a girl. We grew up together, she even liked the Turtles!

I think I proposed to her when I was 9

MagicMarker

shqipshume wrote: »

That's nice to hear,I am enquiring because i don't have any male friends except my boy friend and i am finding difficult to adjust he has girl mates,As i am not used to it at all.

Are you looking for more male friends, or are you looking for advice on him having female friends?

Do you think he'd have a problem with you having guy friends?

Doctor DooM

shqipshume wrote: »

That's nice to hear,I am enquiring because i don't have any male friends except my boy friend and i am finding difficult to adjust he has girl mates,As i am not used to it at all.

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You never knew any men before your boyfriend?

shqipshume

MagicMarker wrote: »

Are you looking for more male friends, or are you looking for advice on him having female friends?

Do you think he'd have a problem with you having guy friends?

I am trying to get a picture of when you have girl as mates or guys as mates I mean is that all there is when you do things like what you said going road trips and cinema and beer etc.. I have never had a guy friend and i don't have girl friends who have guys as mates at all.
I really don't know as i don't have any guy friends so the issue never comes up about me.
I guess advice about him having girls as mates thanks.
But you also said above unfortunately no.So i am wondering now do you wish you could be with her.
I heard once someone said to me and stuck with me a guy has girl mates only because he wants something.

Mimikyu

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Professey Chin

Ive a couple really good female friends. Do some things together like random adventurs, cinema, dinner. Dont be worried if he has any

shqipshume

SDooM wrote: »

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You never knew any men before your boyfriend?

I have dated only small few and never had a guy as a mate ever.
I dont even talk to guys at all barr my boyfriend and family.

Doctor DooM

shqipshume wrote: »

I have dated only small few and never had a guy as a mate ever.
I dont even talk to guys at all barr my boyfriend and family.

Uh... don't take it the wrong way, but the problem is right there, then, not with your boyfriend.


I have many, many female friends and they're just as important to me as my blokey bloke bloke friends.

I recommend you try and meet a few fellas too. *realises the thread's in after hours* Why are you not befriending people with penises?

shqipshume

Captain Morgan wrote: »

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Yeah i know what you mean it already has.I get jealous and worried about the time and friendship he has with them.
You see as i don't have any friends of opposite sex i find it so hard to be able to relate to it.
Thanks

Trog

shqipshume wrote: »

But you also said above unfortunately no.So i am wondering now do you wish you could be with her.

I doubt he meant it. All in jest. I make jokes about wanting to ride my female friends, but I don't actually. Come to thiink of it, I do that to my male friends too.

shqipshume wrote: »

I heard once someone said to me and stuck with me a guy has girl mates only because he wants something.

I used to think that too, but then I grew out of puberty and stopped wanting to mount everything with a gee.

Don't get me wrong, he may have fancied his female friends in the past, but if he's actually friends with them, I doubt there's anything there anymore. I have a good few female friends and I'm only friends with them now because we got past the sexual barrier one way or another. They are like men to me now, and I treat them so. (pre empting the joke, yes, that means just anal).

In short, don't worry about it, but if you can't get over it, let him know it puts you off. If you don't do one of these things it'll all turn into jealousy and turn you into a right meanie.

In my humble opinion.

shqipshume

Ultimate Chin wrote: »

Ive a couple really good female friends. Do some things together like random adventurs, cinema, dinner. Dont be worried if he has any

Thanks I hope its not to late tho

Économiste Monétaire

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fuUhwFXM6Gg

MagicMarker

shqipshume wrote: »

But you also said above unfortunately no.So i am wondering now do you wish you could be with her.

Ha, no I was only messing there.:)

I'm not gonna lie, my friend is very attractive, and I definitely would, I can't help that because after all, she's a girl and I'm a guy, it's just life. What I will say though is that we're completely incompatible as possible 'partners', and I wouldn't want a relationship with her.

shqipshume

SDooM wrote: »

Uh... don't take it the wrong way, but the problem is right there, then, not with your boyfriend.


I have many, many female friends and they're just as important to me as my blokey bloke bloke friends.

I recommend you try and meet a few fellas too. *realises the thread's in after hours* Why are you not befriending people with penises?

No its ok i know thats why i am trying to discuss it.
I dont interact with guys only my boyfriend it just hasnt happened i have made friends with any guys.

Doctor DooM

shqipshume wrote: »

No its ok i know thats why i am trying to discuss it.
I dont interact with guys only my boyfriend it just hasnt happened i have made friends with any guys.

Why don't you interact with guys?


I'm just asking. I would consider it the "natural" thing to have loads of friends of either sex.

And while I would have had friends I had sexy time feelings for they are far outweighed by the ones who are just friends.

Creamy Goodness

think i have more 'girl friends' than guy friends.

must be the name.

Black Swan

shqipshume wrote: »

As a guy or girl do you go shopping with you guy or girl mate

Surely you jest about dragging a lad along with you to go shopping for clothes and whatnot? Shopping with lads is like sex? A bit too quick to really enjoy the experience?




**Oh! Did I take this OP out of context? Bad B!ue runs!**:D

truecrippler

MagicMarker wrote: »

I have a close ''girl-friend'' in Canada, and while we don't hang out together since I'm back, we email regularly.

When I lived there we worked together, and we would get some dinner/beer/movies together, we even had a couple of road trips, her husband didn't/doesn't have a problem with it.

Yeh but, did you roid her?

AnonoBoy

I look with suspicion on any guy who has no female friends and any girl who has no guy friends.

It's just weird.

shqipshume

SDooM wrote: »

Why don't you interact with guys?


I'm just asking. I would consider it the "natural" thing to have loads of friends of either sex.

And while I would have had friends I had sexy time feelings for they are far outweighed by the ones who are just friends.

I just dont.ofc when teenager i hung around guys but I never had any mates like i would call to on my own or they wouldnt call to me.
And later in life i found that any guys who tried to be friends with me would all of sudden want to date me,I havent had any male friends i could say i could sit with and laugh with and joke with and go do things like platonic mate would.Other than that i have no reason to interact with guys cause like i said my mates dont have guy friends either and i am not mates with their boyfriends.I am used to not having any guy friends except my boy friend now.

shqipshume

AnonoBoy wrote: »

I look with suspicion on any guy who has no female friends and any girl who has no guy friends.

It's just weird.

To me see it doesnt

bobbly

AnonoBoy wrote: »

I look with suspicion on any guy who has no female friends and any girl who has no guy friends.

It's just weird.

What are you trying to say?

yellowcurl

Yep have guy friends who come to the cinema with me, go for a drink or two, sometimes stay over in my bed (and nothing happens you perves! )

Also have an ex who am making the effort to be friends with but due to his ginormous ego he's forever convinced that i want to get back together with him if god forbid i talk to him for too long. Feel that this is one that may have to be nipped in the bud if he can't get a grip! :P

Other girlfriends of guy friends have mostly been great, they know that there's nothing there. Only one or two have been weird about it, and generally it was just because they were possessive people already and wasn't specifically anything to do with me.

dizzyniki

now i know im going to get angry posts on this.....but any male friend that i have EVER had has always professed a bit too much love for our relationship....i used to get on so so well with guys.......had girlfriends but i loved the time i had with my male friends way more......i dont know if i was leading them up the garden path or what but they didnt get that it was just a friendship!!! then in my last relationship my ex was against the whole idea of me having male friends and said that he has never ever had a female friend ever and that any female he wanted to be friends with eventually ended up being a girlfriend!!!!!

Seriously guys....and now i know that most have already said that it's healthy to have both sexes as friends.....but do guys generally end up fancying the pants off their female friends or is the only reason they became friends with them in the first place because they want to get into their pants???? coz ive heard assholes talking about it before and didnt like their answer which was the latter of the two mentioned above!!!!

Professey Chin

dizzyniki wrote: »

now i know im going to get angry posts on this.....but any male friend that i have EVER had has always professed a bit too much love for our relationship....i used to get on so so well with guys.......had girlfriends but i loved the time i had with my male friends way more......i dont know if i was leading them up the garden path or what but they didnt get that it was just a friendship!!! then in my last relationship my ex was against the whole idea of me having male friends and said that he has never ever had a female friend ever and that any female he wanted to be friends with eventually ended up being a girlfriend!!!!!

Seriously guys....and now i know that most have already said that it's healthy to have both sexes as friends.....but do guys generally end up fancying the pants off their female friends or is the only reason they became friends with them in the first place because they want to get into their pants???? coz ive heard assholes talking about it before and didnt like their answer which was the latter of the two mentioned above!!!!

Theres a couple of girls im friends with I will admit I would like to be more (not sayin itll ever happen and doesnt bother me if it never does) but for every 1 like that ive 3 or 4 that i wouldnt even look at like that.And oddly its with 1 of them their ex bf got thick with me convinced I was tryin to steal her away. It was that time I realised men are paranoid cnuts. Now he's married to a minger :pac:

AlanSparrowhawk

I don't have many friends who are girls. The ones that I do have I met in very "asexual" circumstances like college/work/gym or are my friends girl friends. I don't think relationships are as contrived or as artificial as dizzyniki implies. Invariably, I will develop a "crush" on girls that I find attractive who aren't interested in me romantically.

Mr. Frost

I've a few girl mates and they're all really attractive, thing is, I only see them as friends. Admittadly at first I didn't but, I wasn't into complicating things or being in a relationship and now I couldn't see them as anything but now.

We go out all the time, gigs etc...they're great fun and different.

dizzyniki

AlanSparrowhawk wrote: »

I don't have many friends who are girls. The ones that I do have I met in very "asexual" circumstances like college/work/gym or are my friends girl friends. I don't think relationships are as contrived or as artificial as dizzyniki implies. Invariably, I will develop a "crush" on girls that I find attractive who aren't interested in me romantically.

yes exactly and when it becomes apparent that its a 'crush'...its actually hard to ignore!!!! i've had one friend, who I was really close to but not sexually attracted to at all, who really really freaked me out about how much he liked me and when i said that I seriously couldnt think of him as anything but a friend, everything changed........it was no longer a friendship which worried me because i know of the same happening to others and they agree that when things like that happen their viewpoint on the male/female relationship changes.....

And as a matter of fact...i used to think that i had male friends who were genuine but when they became involved in new relationships they quickly stopped texting and phoning which would seriosuly make you consider whether or not the only reason that they were texting in the first place was because they were looking for more than a friendship............the only other posiible explanation for them to stop texting is if their new partner was completely against their partner texting other women........ I dont believe in the whole ending friendships for relationships either.........so if that's what you want to call a 'contrived' or 'artificial' take on relationships then so be it...

AlanSparrowhawk

Well you're lucky you're such a desirable woman. Aphrodite doesn't have a patch on you.

A-Trak

The difference between a "Female friend," and someone you would bamboozle into the sack is about 7 pints I've found.

A "Good friend," who's female when your a bloke?
Pffft, no such thing. Only true if your gay or lying.

dizzyniki

AlanSparrowhawk wrote: »

Well you're lucky you're such a desirable woman. Aphrodite doesn't have a patch on you.

And I'm sorry that you only have silly crushes on the ones that dont find you attractive romantically...........maybe you should work on that!!!!

AlanSparrowhawk

dizzyniki wrote: »

And I'm sorry that you only have silly crushes on the ones that dont find you attractive romantically...........maybe you should work on that!!!!

I didn't say only.

MissRealist

My best friend is a guy. We're friends almost nine years now and i've never "crushed" on him so it is possible to have a simple friend.

Our mothers want to marry us off but we don't let it bother us.

As for what we do? Movies, food, talk, holidays...

dizzyniki

AlanSparrowhawk wrote: »

I didn't say only.

And I never said that ALL my male friends tried it on with me!!!!

weemcd

imo guys and girls cant be friends without the guy being at least a bit attracted to the girl, otherwise there's no interest. The girl might just want to be friends, but no male has ever wanted to be just friends with a girl

Gummy Panda

OP lots of guys are friends with girls that they don't want to have relationships or sleep with.

I know a few girls I'm friends with but wouldn't shag.

Creamy Goodness

weemcd wrote: »

imo guys and girls cant be friends without the guy being at least a bit attracted to the girl, otherwise there's no interest. The girl might just want to be friends, but no male has ever wanted to be just friends with a girl

ahh that's complete bollocks.

i've a friend who's a girl, she loves good jokes i love good jokes, she loves everything i love i love everything she loves, she plays guitar i play guitar, she loves anime i love anime, drinks good beer i drink good beer and i've know her since i was about 7.

i ain't attracted to her, i just see her as one of the lads with long hair and slightly bigger and more rounded man boobs.

turnfan

Chemistry between a guy and a girl results in friendship and / or relationship. There is always a nugget of attraction initially, but it can give different results.

Merch

dizzyniki wrote: »

And as a matter of fact...i used to think that i had male friends who were genuine but when they became involved in new relationships they quickly stopped texting and phoning which would seriosuly make you consider whether or not the only reason that they were texting in the first place was because they were looking for more than a friendship............the only other posiible explanation for them to stop texting is if their new partner was completely against their partner texting other women........ I dont believe in the whole ending friendships for relationships either.........so if that's what you want to call a 'contrived' or 'artificial' take on relationships then so be it...

I know mates of mine that did that to their friends (male) when they started going out with domeone, I wouldnt take it personally, think guys, probably women too might neglect their friends a bit when they meet someone and just get immersed in a relationship can make you kinda forget other stuff, people maybe thats guys mostly can be inconsiderate, know I've done it in the past.
Doesnt mean they were only into you for sex, just means they're paying attention to their new Girlfriend
It doesnt mean they werent into you either, it just means they are busy

Wibbs

I've got a few women mates. Some we've done the nastay in the past, but it didn't click as a couple, but we're mates now and neither would want to jump in the leaba now. Others I've never had any interest in sexually. I can see why others might, but they just don't appeal to me(nor I to them).

Gazza22

Creamy Goodness wrote: »

ahh that's complete bollocks.

Agreed. One friend of mine in particular is seriously hot but i don't look at her in that way - she's basically one of the lads!

I'd be rather pissed tbh if my gf had a problem with me being with female friends and thankfully she doesn't!

JaneyMc

I have a lot of male friends, my best friend is a guy, he is like my brother, and I would never think of him in a romantic way. We do the usual crap I do with my other female friends, hangout etc

I can understand what you're saying about feeling uncomfortable about him having female friends. My friends current girlfriend recently admitted to me that she was wary of me when they first started going out. She thought I had some ulterior motive, but then she go to know me. We built up a friendship and I hangout with her sometimes when he's not around. I suggest you try and get to know her, it might ease the anxiety.

liah

All my mates are male.

That being said, there's always been some level of attraction with each one-- either them to me or me to them, but it later evolved to be platonic. Except maybe one, I'm not really sure.

I wouldn't worry about it.

bobcar61

3 of my best friends are all female and one of those has mainly male friends.

She just thinks guys are so much easier to get on with:cool:

I have male friends and female friends.My girlfriends know that some of my best friends are female but I know some of her mates are male so there is no problem.

ronn90

Hi there just came in on this, thought I throw my point of view into the pot. I have, well, at least had, several female friends and it was great. We were close and we each gave the other a different perspective on things. We'd go for a coffee/beer have the odd meal out and that kinda thing. The thing is I'm married and my wife never minded that at all. We moved out of the country for a couple of years and lost touch and they got into steady relationships and that was the end of that. Such as life. It was great while it lasted and I never ever thought of them in any other way than as friends. So I'm guessing that men having female friends is fairly common.

Actually writing this post has given me an idea!

shqipshume wrote: »

Yeah i know what you mean it already has.I get jealous and worried about the time and friendship he has with them.
You see as i don't have any friends of opposite sex i find it so hard to be able to relate to it.
Thanks

MadgeBadge

AnonoBoy wrote: »

I look with suspicion on any guy who has no female friends and any girl who has no guy friends.

It's just weird.

The majority of people in this country go to single sexed schools, following that the majority of my friends have gone on to become teachers, a very female orientated profession. So alot of them would only have close girl friends. Not a unusual, a result of circumstance.