Parents leaving proceeds of house sale to kids in their will

magenta73

magenta73 wrote: »

OH MY GOD--- that has made me feel sick!!!!!!!


my parents are in there 70's and have their own house, and there are 4 siblings, me and 3 brothers. I have a really hugh back garden 135 feet, and it's very private. I have built a "shed" I have water, plumbing, heating and electricy down there. I would love (and I've said it too them) if they sold the house and moved into the "shed". It's not tiny it's 17ft x 20ft so it's cosy. But it would mean that not only would it free up some money for them, hols ect, but as they are in their 70's I would feel more secure knowing that their near me for just-in-case's. 2 brothers are fine about it but it's the brother that has lived in America for the past 26 years that seems to have the problem with it!

any sugestions as to why!!!

Is he scared that the money will be "wasted" on looking after them!

Fighting Irish

When i die i'd like to leave my children with money, but i don't care either way if my parents leave me anything

Fighting Irish

Deleted User wrote: »

Is he scared that the money will be "wasted" on looking after them!

He's also a priest with a ford focus

Saibh

magenta73 wrote: »

OH MY GOD--- that has made me feel sick!!!!!!!


my parents are in there 70's and have their own house, and there are 4 siblings, me and 3 brothers. I have a really hugh back garden 135 feet, and it's very private. I have built a "shed" I have water, plumbing, heating and electricy down there. I would love (and I've said it too them) if they sold the house and moved into the "shed". It's not tiny it's 17ft x 20ft so it's cosy. But it would mean that not only would it free up some money for them, hols ect, but as they are in their 70's I would feel more secure knowing that their near me for just-in-case's. 2 brothers are fine about it but it's the brother that has lived in America for the past 26 years that seems to have the problem with it!

any sugestions as to why!!!

Did your brother in America see any pictures of this "shed"?

magenta73

I'd say your right!, and it's funny because, when we sugested this to our parents, the first thing my mother said was "what about your inheritence" (sic- sorry) and my brothers and I explained that we all had our own homes, and that both of our parents had been very good to all of us when we first moved in, they bought us washing machines and things like that to help us, so we agreed that it was their money, but she said that brother no1 would go mad!.

Fluffybums

My parents have discussed with me and my brother what they are planning to do in their wills and have made us executors. They first brought this up when I was 18, as I would then take on the responsibility until my brother reached 18. We both know what they want and with changing circumstances they have adjusted what they want. This all sounds very morbid, but we have seen what can happen to families and the idea is that if we both know M&D's wishes then it will be easier for us to deal with that side of things when we have to.
Both us of have said we would rather M&D blew the lot, unfortunately Mum has health problems so trips round the world are out, though they have said they might go to China if the brother and family move there.

Most awful thing I heard in my extended family was concerning three of my cousins who lost both their parents within three months, the family home was near London and there were shares in the estate so the kids got a fair bit of money (I hope enough to help in the current recession). Another cousin of ours said that they were "lucky" - I did point out to her that I would not like that kind of luck, burying both parents in three months.:(

Agent Smith

I once asked my parents what would happen if they would pass away jokingly.

Apparently they hate the neighbours so much they want to convert it to a haulting site.



I approved.

magenta73

Saibh wrote: »

Did your brother in America see any pictures of this "shed"?

No, he has'nt seen it yet, but it's really a granny flat or out house - the reason I'm calling it a shed is because I'm afraid of neighbours objecting to it as I did'nt get planing permission, although I own my house and land.


It crossed my mind that he did'nt agree because he thought it was an oul wooden rickety thing, but we explained that it was the real deal.

Saibh

magenta73 wrote: »

No, he has'nt seen it yet, but it's really a granny flat or out house - the reason I'm calling it a shed is because I'm afraid of neighbours objecting to it as I did'nt get planing permission, although I own my house and land.


It crossed my mind that he did'nt agree because he thought it was an oul wooden rickety thing, but we explained that it was the real deal.

Maybe if he saw a few photos of it, he might change his mind, just an idea.

CommieBaz

bluewolf wrote: »

I have to admit I find this whole thing rather boggling - the last thing I think of when I think about my grandparents and my parents is "what'll I get when they finally keel over?"
It's so selfish and insane.

Sadly, with the way the world is these days, that very line of thought will be on the increase.