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Temper Tantrums

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  • 29-05-2009 9:00am
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    Davidth88
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    Our little one ( 3 ) is getting in to the terrible habit of throwing a temper tantrum if we need to leave the playground , or anywhere she is enjoying herself.

    Typcially , we always explain to her why we are leaving , we also try to tell her that we will be leaving after a while etc.

    Now what we are doing right now is totally ignoring these tantrums which can go on for some time , for example last nights went on for about 15 min with her laying on the hall floor kicking and screaming.

    What are peoples' opinions , are we doing the right thing just ignoring these ? ( we make sure she can't hurt herself etc ) We are careful not to reward her afterwards , and we don't give in either ( ie reward that way )


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    January
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    Yep you are doing the right thing, just keep going, ignore her! But reward the good behaviour too!


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    nesf
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    With our lad explaining in advance and giving him warning of something he enjoys ending seems to avoid most of the temper tantrums. If we suddenly remove something interesting from him he'll throw a tantrum. Generally explaining why something has to end or why he can't do something smooths things over a bit.

    But yeah, ignoring them and rewarding good behaviour is probably the best course of action.


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    rosepetal
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    Sorry theres no magic solution to this one! You are doing the right thing, as the others said, You just have to ignore the tantrum, never reward the child with any attention, even negative attention. I find distraction can be a useful tool, ie see the signs of a tantrum and try to head it off by saying something like " hey look at those birds over there" etc. It doesnt always work but its worth a try. Also like one of the other posters mentioned, giving a clear time line can help ie say " we are going in 5 mins now so thats time for 2 more go's on the slide" for example.
    Tbh they really do just grow out of throwing tantrums, your job right now is just to teach them that the tantrum doesnt get them what they want .Good luck.


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    Davidth88
    Registered Users Posts: 3,181 ✭✭✭Davidth88


    Thanks for the support ...

    Just wanted to be sure we weren't ' barking up the wrong tree '


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