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How do you let your partner know you're not in the mood for sex?

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  • 22-06-2009 1:46am
    #1
    2 stroke
    Registered Users Posts: 2,921 ✭✭✭


    Leading on from the other thread.
    I know its customary for the op to answer the question first, but I'm very inexperienced on this one.


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    #2
    *Page*
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    big jumper and socks and pj bottoms... i put that all on and its a total tell tell sign that i am not in the mood!


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    #3
    2 stroke
    Registered Users Posts: 2,921 ✭✭✭2 stroke


    *Page* wrote: »
    big jumper and socks and pj bottoms... i put that all on and its a total tell tell sign that i am not in the mood!

    Wouldn't stop me


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    MrStuffins
    Registered Users Posts: 19,192 ✭✭✭✭MrStuffins


    What's wrong with just saying "I'm not in the mood"??

    Set the presedent now so from now on you and your partner can just tell each other.


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    #5
    2 stroke
    Registered Users Posts: 2,921 ✭✭✭2 stroke


    MrStuffins wrote: »
    What's wrong with just saying "I'm not in the mood"??

    Thats usualy what stops me.


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    *Page*
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    never had to say it.... then again there is very rare times i'm not in the mood.... sickness being the main time, hence the outfit of choice


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    Aisling(",)
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    mines just blergh go away but i give in 5 minutes later


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    LivingDeadGirl
    Registered Users Posts: 1,150 ✭✭✭LivingDeadGirl


    Not respond to the advances?


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    shellyboo
    Registered Users Posts: 5,883 ✭✭✭shellyboo


    This is probably quite unhelpful, but the only time I'd be not in the mood would be if I wasn't feeling well; ie, cramps, upset stomach, sore back, crippling migraine - so I tend to just be honest, but politely. "Do you mind if we don't? I feel sick/have a migraine/have cramps..."

    I guess you could apply the same to just not being in the mood... I think honesty is the best policy when it comes to things like this. Avoidance and excuses is just going to lead to resentment.


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    John Mason
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    will you ever feck off, i am trying to sleep/eat dinner/watch telly/read/cut the grass/paint/driving or whatever


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    meboloxitis
    Registered Users Posts: 196 ✭✭meboloxitis


    Good old fashioned apple tart (fart) & scratch your hole

    Works a treat everytime


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    Nervous Wreck
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    I hate being told "I'm not in the mood"! Give it 2 minutes and you will be.... That said, hearing that makes me totally back off. Nothing else does. Avoidance etc just annoys me cos I'd rather just be told outright that it's a no go. Shamefully, "I have my period" seldom works either...... Hah.


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