Fear Of Dying

Samanthawho · 31-07-2009 7:00pm #1

Hi, I was wondering is anyone else as bad as me. When I think if dying i start having panic attacks, i break out in a rash and my heart starts to beat really fast. I have to try to snap out of it. I try to start up a conversation or think of other things to take my mind off it.

Should i go to see someone about this?

DrumSteve · 31-07-2009 7:01pm

fear of dying is natural. I used to be afraid but im not now. dont see the point.

wudangclan · 31-07-2009 7:01pm

whats the point.?
why fear the inevitable?
sit back and enjoy the ride.

damonjewel · 31-07-2009 7:01pm

(you should see someone), Totally

Biggins · 31-07-2009 7:02pm

O dear lord...

ottostreet · 31-07-2009 7:02pm

i fear the manner of my death, not death itself!

Samanthawho · 31-07-2009 7:02pm

I just think, one day its all going to be over, i'm going to be gone! I'll never see the people I love again.

Havn't really taught about after life. I'm 50/50

SV · 31-07-2009 7:03pm

You sound the perfect candidate for some brainwashing..

Have you ever heard of scientology?

LiNgWiStIkZ · 31-07-2009 7:03pm

I'm terrified of dying. However, death isn't as bad.

Abi · 31-07-2009 7:04pm

Samanthawho wrote: »

Should i go to see someone about this?

Yes, you should.

wudangclan · 31-07-2009 7:04pm

Samanthawho wrote: »

I just think, one day its all going to be over, i'm going to be gone! I'll never see the people I love again.

Havn't really taught about after life. I'm 50/50

what do you mean your'e 50/50?

Samanthawho · 31-07-2009 7:05pm

I mean i'm sure if i believe in life after death. Maybe i will life again, but not with my family and friends

My name is URL · 31-07-2009 7:05pm

Samanthawho wrote: »

i'm going to be gone! I'll never see the people I love again.

You'll cease to exist

Missing the people you love is unlikely to come into it

But yeah, of course death is scary.. avoiding it everyday is the only thing that keeps us alive after all =p

wudangclan · 31-07-2009 7:07pm

Samanthawho wrote: »

I mean i'm sure if i believe in life after death. Maybe i will life again, but not with my family and friends

i think if your having panic attacks it's a bit extreme and maybe you should see someone. a hynotherapist ,possibly. i can pm you the website of a good one.

Abi · 31-07-2009 7:07pm

Samanthawho wrote: »

I mean i'm sure if i believe in life after death. Maybe i will life again, but not with my family and friends

If there was such a thing, you wouldn't remember them anyway. Maybe I shouldnt have said that to you..

/gives OP paper bag

WeeBushy · 31-07-2009 7:07pm

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyy too young to be worried about that sort of thing. And then by the time I'm old I'll probably be looking forward to it.
The way I see it now; I'm 21, if I think over all the things I've done, have happened etc. I still have all that multiplied by about 4... that's a lot of things. I'll prob be fed up with this place by that stage.

However no boards when I die... sh1t.

J_E · 31-07-2009 7:08pm

Oh my god, I know exactly how you feel. I start to get anxious and start breathing fast and getting generally panicky. I just can't imaging not existing, it seems too overbearing to me.
I thought I was the only one who got so scared of it.

wudangclan · 31-07-2009 7:08pm

how old are you ,op?

Samanthawho · 31-07-2009 7:08pm

wudangclan wrote: »

i think if your having panic attacks it's a bit extreme and maybe you should see someone. a hynotherapist ,possibly. i can pm you the website of a good one.

Yes please do, i hate the way i feel when i think about it

wudangclan · 31-07-2009 7:10pm

Abigayle wrote: »

If there was such a thing, you wouldn't remember them anyway.

true.
it's unlikely we pack our egos in a little suitcase for transportation to the afterlife.

Samanthawho · 31-07-2009 7:10pm

I'm 24. No kids, but sometimes i think i should start having kids becuase life is too short and i need to do everything so i can enjoy it longer. I always think like that.

My name is URL · 31-07-2009 7:11pm

Samanthawho wrote: »

I'm 24. No kids, but sometimes i think i should start having kids becuase life is too short and i need to do everything so i can enjoy it longer. I always think like that.

I want a kid too, we could go 50/50 on one

Abi · 31-07-2009 7:14pm

Samanthawho wrote: »

I'm 24. No kids, but sometimes i think i should start having kids becuase life is too short and i need to do everything so i can enjoy it longer. I always think like that.

Uggh... fcuking evil midgets. Nothing can be that bad, get thy arse to a quack quick.

Turd Ferguson · 31-07-2009 7:16pm

I'm scared to death of dying

J_E · 31-07-2009 7:36pm

Just wondering, are you a religious person at all?

tech77 · 31-07-2009 7:37pm

Turd Ferguson wrote: »

I'm scared to death of dying

Myself- i wouldn't go that far.
I'd say it just scares the life outta me.

Latchy · 31-07-2009 7:41pm

Scared of dying is one thing ,it's what ( if anything ) that comes after the also worries many, which is probaly not one and the same thing I suppose but a double worry to some

angel01 · 31-07-2009 7:45pm

The way I see it, life is short, you have to enjoy every second.

*eadaoin · 31-07-2009 7:48pm

Samanthawho wrote: »

Hi, I was wondering is anyone else as bad as me. When I think if dying i start having panic attacks, i break out in a rash and my heart starts to beat really fast. I have to try to snap out of it. I try to start up a conversation or think of other things to take my mind off it.

Should i go to see someone about this?

it's not unusal to freak out about death, i think you'll find you're not alone. it is however a problem if it makes you panic a LOT or if it inhibits your day to day life, if that's the case then i'd say look into seeing a counsellor and talk it out with someone or go chat to your doctor (they're very understanding).

i used to have a lot of panic/anxiety problems but i pretty much am over all that now (i went to a psychotherapist for over a year & it really, really helped) so if you want to ask questions just send a PM

Whosbetter? · 31-07-2009 7:51pm

I hope to die peacefully in my sleep, like my Grandfather did.......not shouting & screaming, like his passengers.

truecrippler · 31-07-2009 7:52pm

WeeBushy wrote: »

The way I see it now; I'm 21, if I think over all the things I've done, have happened etc. I still have all that multiplied by about 4... that's a lot of things. I'll prob be fed up with this place by that stage.

However no boards when I die... sh1t.

You're gonna lose your virginity 5 times between now and the time you die?

AckwelFoley · 31-07-2009 7:55pm

fear of death no.

Fear of getting caught ..yes

Krieg · 31-07-2009 7:58pm

Woody allen sums it up best for me
- “I am not afraid of death, I just don't want to be there when it happens.”

The only thing I hate most over the thought of dying, is that I wont find out how humanity does in the future. Its like watching a decent tv series and your death occurs mid season and you don't get to watch the rest. Id love to know how long humanity survives for and what (if anything) wipes us all out etc. Of course the Christians will still be able to watch, in fact it'll be like having sky+ for them.

OP, if your seriously having panic attacks, you may want to consider seeing someone if its ongoing. But my guess is that you'll wake up one morning and wonder why you worried at all.

cyberwolf77 · 31-07-2009 8:05pm

Samanthawho wrote: »

Hi, I was wondering is anyone else as bad as me. When I think if dying i start having panic attacks, i break out in a rash and my heart starts to beat really fast. I have to try to snap out of it. I try to start up a conversation or think of other things to take my mind off it.

Should i go to see someone about this?

Yes go see someone. I has no fear of death considering I was legally dead for two hours when i was three months of age. I needed heart surgery and they kept my brain on standby while my heart and lungs were stopped. Thus I met the legal definition of death, not the clinical though.

Poor Uncle Tom · 31-07-2009 8:08pm

No time for regrets, try to experience most things at least once, hurt no one, have a ball and take as many good friends on the trip with you. Life's a rollercoaster but you only get one go, make the most of it. When you close your eyes for the last time your body is already decaying...

*eadaoin · 31-07-2009 8:20pm

Poor Uncle Tom wrote: »

Life's a rollercoaster

you just gotta ride it??

i'm sorry i couldn't help myself, goddam ronan keating making me think of this tune every time rollercoasters are mentioned!

Canis Lupus · 31-07-2009 8:21pm

I always regret not having been born in the future when we're bound to have funky gadgets and life will be like Star Trek. Sadly it's probably more likely that the earth will be grossly over populated and natural resources will have been mostly exhausted. Law and order as we know it will have broken down and life in general will be pretty ****ing ****.

Still. If I genuinely stop to think about death, being an athetist, it makes me sad that my being will just cease to be and that will be that. Of course once I get the dying part over with I won't know any better but that doesn't make it easier.

Ultimately you can't keep thinking about it. The end of your life is inevitable, you just have to enjoy the journey to the end.

(And then go out in a ball of flames)

Dr_H_Lecter · 31-07-2009 8:26pm

well sam.....and first let me say, about those people saying they're not worried cause they're young ,lol, so were lots of dead people, you can die in the womb.

Not really something to worry about though, whats the alternative, go on forever on this earth. -IMHO- you wont disappear in any case, where are you going to disappear to? again imHo all that you are made of is part of the universe. Including your thoughts. So we all just get re-jumbled. We're all cut from the same material. Thought/spirit is just another part of the universe, like chopra says we're all just waves on the same ocean, we're separate and at the same time one. nothing that we are is separate from the universe, theres nothing that is not/(that is outside) the universe. we/you/i are our thoughts, our thoughts are energy, the body breaks down and disolves back into energy. The thoughts/person/spirit flows back into where it came from like a small pool of water 're-attaching' to the main body.

these guys explain it nicer/better.

(the above automatically jumps to an irrelevant linked video so disregard the 2nd video which opens, better to search part 2 of 7)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EWFSAFHpx_U

CHD · 31-07-2009 8:28pm

If it happens it happens, theres not alot your going to be able to do about it. Why worry about it.

WeeBushy · 31-07-2009 8:31pm

truecrippler wrote: »

You're gonna lose your virginity 5 times between now and the time you die?

I was talking more about the amount of things.
But I've heard if you don't have sex for ages your virginity can grow back, some maybe I will lose it 4 more times :P

An Fear Aniar · 31-07-2009 8:36pm

It's only the Ego that fears dying, it fears everything. It's the cause of our problems in this existence - it remains the tyrannical toddler inside all of us and dominates each of us to a lesser or greater degree. If you can smash the Ego you lose your fear of most things.

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Mr Benevolent · 31-07-2009 8:40pm

An Fear Aniar wrote: »

It's only the Ego that fears dying, it fears everything. It's the cause of our problems in this existence - it remains the tyrannical toddler inside all of us and dominates each of us to a lesser or greater degree. If you can smash the Ego you lose your fear of most things.

.

Hehe, another misguided Freudian devotee. Get back in yer box and read The Interpretation of Dreams. I hear Freud was at his best in that one...

...after consuming a kilo of coke.

OP, either go to PI or go ask someone qualified if they can help.

SeekUp · 31-07-2009 8:53pm

Latchy wrote: »

Scared of dying is one thing ,it's what ( if anything ) that comes after the also worries many, which is probaly not one and the same thing I suppose but a double worry to some

Some of the things that come before death are scarier, imo!

I'm not afraid of dying . . . I just don't want it to hurt (either myself or my loved ones).

renraw · 31-07-2009 9:38pm

I've lost a lot of people tru death and, if there is such a thing as the "afterlife" then YAY...if not, then sure we won't know about it....Death is nothing to be frightened of....a part of living is to die...final chapter n all....if there's nothing there, then, just think of it like sleeping for a very very long time

....you won't or anyone realise its happened

Professey Chin · 31-07-2009 10:17pm

Ohhhhh myyyyyy god............WE ALL GONNA DIEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!! :eek::eek::eek:

An Fear Aniar · 31-07-2009 11:42pm

Confab wrote: »

Hehe, another misguided Freudian devotee.

I'm not a Freudian anything, but the Ego idea is certainly real, or you wouldn't have written that post.

.

gidget · 31-07-2009 11:56pm

I've lost a lot of people tru death and, if there is such a thing as the "afterlife" then YAY

+1

I've no fear of death no. I do have a fear of getting old though!! Just the thought of every working function of my body slowly going bit by bit (sight, hearing, mobility, memory) that sort of thing.

I rather just go out quickly and in a painless way if possible - preferably in my sleep.

galwayrush · 01-08-2009 12:52am

**** death, i'm having another bottle of wine:P

Latchy · 01-08-2009 12:58am

SeekUp wrote: »

Some of the things that come before death are scarier, imo!

That goes without saying, like if a soldier is going to die he wants it to be a quick death

I

'm not afraid of dying . . . I just don't want it to hurt (either myself or my loved ones).

No of course not and something we will wish for ourselfs and loved ones , to die without pain and be at peace with the ourselfs and world when we do .

shqipshume · 01-08-2009 1:19am

Samanthawho wrote: »

Hi, I was wondering is anyone else as bad as me. When I think if dying i start having panic attacks, i break out in a rash and my heart starts to beat really fast. I have to try to snap out of it. I try to start up a conversation or think of other things to take my mind off it.

Should i go to see someone about this?

How old are you first off?

Everyone in world experiences fear of death at some stage of life.I used to be afraid,afraid to sleep at night had the whole panic stuff also,but not anymore,I am more afraid of leaving those behind i love and not been there to protect them:(
We were in a car crash and it happened so fast just didn't have time to react or think or anything.
How long has this been going on?If an ongoing thing perhaps you should speak to your doctor about it and he can suggest some form of therapy,If its only recent and due to some sad situation then its all related to trauma and also should seek advice.But there is nothing wrong with you.

shqipshume · 01-08-2009 1:20am

Ultimate Chin wrote: »

Ohhhhh myyyyyy god............WE ALL GONNA DIEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!! :eek::eek::eek:

Should have known you couldnt resist :rolleyes::D

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