How many?

Fugly

No ask away,

It's not that I won't have intercourse or have to wait, its more of a case of opportunity. I.e we spend a night together and we don't have intercourse, simply as we start doing something else a few times and then afterwards he's too tired, and in the morning we've no time, or possible we just have oral in the morning (wake up).

These would mainly be men I'd be seeing, I have had open realtionships and O.N.S's as well though. It's mainly due to opportunity/time, I live at home with parents who have a strict no guests policy, My last serious BF was in the same situation so there were less chances to have sex.

I don't have a policy of relations leading to sex, it just depends on what we both want at the time and then if we stop seeing each other we may only have had realtions. :rolleyes: Like I say, in no way intentional, some times it just happens that way.

itsallaboutheL

@ Fugly

googled O.N.S and unless you're indulging in heavy-petting with the Office Of National Statistics then something is after going straight over my head!!!

Fugly

LMAO!!

A One Night Stand.

Although....

you're indulging in heavy-petting with the Office Of National Statisitics

now that you mention it.........:D

shellyboo

Fugly wrote: »

No ask away,

It's not that I won't have intercourse or have to wait, its more of a case of opportunity. I.e we spend a night together and we don't have intercourse, simply as we start doing something else a few times and then afterwards he's too tired, and in the morning we've no time, or possible we just have oral in the morning (wake up).

These would mainly be men I'd be seeing, I have had open realtionships and O.N.S's as well though. It's mainly due to opportunity/time, I live at home with parents who have a strict no guests policy, My last serious BF was in the same situation so there were less chances to have sex.

I don't have a policy of relations leading to sex, it just depends on what we both want at the time and then if we stop seeing each other we may only have had realtions. :rolleyes: Like I say, in no way intentional, some times it just happens that way.

Ok, cool. Just interested in how it happens! I tend to be rather single-minded til I get what I want :P

Fugly

You're fine, I know it seems weird, especially when trying to explain it.:rolleyes:
I know some women want to keep intercourse for marriage but will do everything else, never really understood that, or how they stick to it... in the heat of passion controling it I imagine would be difficult.

shellyboo

Fugly wrote: »

You're fine, I know it seems weird, especially when trying to explain it.:rolleyes:
I know some women want to keep intercourse for marriage but will do everything else, never really understood that, or how they stick to it... in the heat of passion controling it I imagine would be difficult.

This is really what it comes down to for me, I have zero willpower.

Oh The Humanity

shellyboo wrote: »

This is really what it comes down to for me, I have zero willpower.

lol same as that!

I don't have any inbetweenies, its either sex or no sex!
All or nothing! I don't get the point of having foreplay with no main course!!!

Fugly

Me too, when the passion kicks in logic and willpower go out the door. I could never be so cool headed to say we're doing x,y and z but a,b and c are not allowed.

Fugly

Oh The Humanity wrote: »

lol same as that!

I don't have any inbetweenies, its either sex or no sex!
All or nothing! I don't get the point of having foreplay with no main course!!!

If your refering to oral as only foreplay and don't believe it can be as satisfing, maybe their doing it wrong. :P

MsTempermental

If someone is asking for sti info, does it matter how many you have slept with if you've had regular check ups that come back negative?! Should you then count from your last check up?!

Oh The Humanity

Fugly wrote: »

If your refering to oral as only foreplay and don't believe it can be as satisfing, maybe their doing it wrong. :P

lol not just oral but I need to have the whole meal not just the starter!

Tell ya the truth, I would keep oral for relationships anyway!

As for 'them' doing it wrong.....err....its safe to say its been a sufficiently....erm....'wide ranging study' ......lol

Fugly

lol,,, it's important to be through :P:P

may I ask why you keep oral for relationships?..
I always just class sexual relations {I can't write that without thinking of Clinton:D} as a whole, in that if I'm comfortable to have sex with a guy then I'm comfortable to have oral.

I never regard sex as the main course, whatever gets me off is maincourse. ...But I demand a lot of main courses;)

Novella

[quote=[Deleted User];61406853]Something I just saw on TV got me thinking. If you are asked how many people you've had sex with, do you give only the ones you had intercourse with or all sexual partners? (I know some people think you shouldn't ever ask this question but that's a whole other thread!) Most people seem to go for the 'only intercourse' approach, which I think is silly. It's rather misleading to say you've been with 5 people when you've done oral/handjobs/whatever with three times that number. If I were asked, I'd just count them all. What do you think?[/QUOTE]

Em well I wouldn't tell just anyone like! So I guess if my bf or something wanted to know I'd tell him and definitely only include people I'd actually had sex with in the count. If the question was "How many people have you had sex with?", why would I include oral sex?!!!!

Elle Victorine

I'd really just laugh if anybody asked the question to be honest. If it was a form to be filled out then I'd include all as it's usually necessary where asked.