"I google you" cyberstalking your ex.

Nevyn

As the counter point to the other thread.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YUOgGNaNOxc

I Google you
late at night when I don't know what to do
I find photos
you've forgotten
you were in
put up by your friends

I Google you
when the day is done and everything is through
I read your journal
that you kept
that month in France
I've watched you dance

And I'm pleased your name is practically unique
it's only you and
a would-be PhD in Chesapeake
who writes papers on
the structure of the sun
I've read each one

I know that I
should let you fade
but there's that box
and there's your name
somehow it never makes the pain
grow less or fade or disappear
I think that I should save my soul and
I should crawl back in my hole
But it's too easy just to fold
and type your name again
I fear
I google you
Whenever I'm alone and feeling blue
And each scrap of information
That I gather
says you've found somebody new
And it really shouldn't matter
ought to blow up my computer
but instead….
I google you

Written by Neil Gaiman

Right you've done it, I know ye all have at least the once if not more, how hard is it not to?
Honestly I don't get it, I know of people who still do this up to 3 years later maybe I am just too good at drawing a hard line.

That's creepy

Novella

3 years later seems a bit extreme to me!!!!! That said, my very first boyfriend messaged me on Bebo a few months ago. I was like :O when I saw I had a message from him! Haven't seen him or spoken one word to him since I was 16 and I'm 20 now and I was like "How did you find me?", thinking we must have friends in common or whatever. He was like "I googled your name". WHAT THE HELL?!!

I mean, I have of course looked people up 'cause who hasn't?! When that very guy broke up with me I spent a good few lonely nights gazing at his profile hahahaha. But seriously, if you are still past stalking after any amount of time, I think that's an indication of not having moved on. I dunno.

In general, I think I've only ever ex stalked when I was unhappy! 99% of the time I forget I even have ex boyfriend's!!!

Xiney

She definitely has the creepy stalker ex-girlfriend vibe down in that video, haha.

I google everyone, including myself.

stovelid

Novella wrote: »

Haven't seen him or spoken one word to him since I was 16 and I'm 20 now

It's only four years, in fairness.

Latchy

Use to be people went to mountain tops .....to find themselfs .

Now they find themselfs on Google

cuckoo

Xiney wrote: »

I google everyone, including myself.

Me too.

Less so the painful exes, more so the 'hope they're doing well, oh, look they are' exes.

I think it's important to do a quick ego-google of yourself regularly, got to keep an eye on what the interwebs is saying about you (and all those other people with the same name as yourself).

slightly off topic: I *heart* neil gaiman, and cyber stalk him through his v good blog.

Nevyn

cuckoo wrote: »

Me too.

Less so the painful exes, more so the 'hope they're doing well, oh, look they are' exes.

I think it's important to do a quick ego-google of yourself regularly, got to keep an eye on what the interwebs is saying about you (and all those other people with the same name as yourself).

slightly off topic: I *heart* neil gaiman, and cyber stalk him through his v good blog.

Xiney wrote: »

She definitely has the creepy stalker ex-girlfriend vibe down in that video, haha.

Amanda Palmer and Neil Gaiman FTW.

shellyboo

I have never googled someone other than myself to find out about them. Welll, not someone I *know*! Obviously, famous people and stuff.

I do like an aul Facebook-stalk, I have to say. Very satisfying.

Magic Eight Ball

shellyboo wrote: »

I do like an aul Facebook-stalk, I have to say. Very satisfying.

That had me laughing out loud.

SeekUp

Xiney wrote: »

I google everyone, including myself.

I used to. But no one who came up with my name was actually me, and I got bored.

bnagrrl

shellyboo wrote: »

I do like an aul Facebook-stalk, I have to say. Very satisfying.

Guilty as charged.
But so many people have their profiles set to private now it's kinda pointless.

allandanyways

bnagrrl wrote: »

Guilty as charged.
But so many people have their profiles set to private now it's kinda pointless.

that drives me absolutley mental. How can you (stalk) "network" if you don't know what somebody's into because their profile is on private...? :cool:

Bit shallow if you ask me, apparently only adding someone on the basis of their profile picture...

bnagrrl

allandanyways wrote: »

that drives me absolutley mental. How can you (stalk) "network" if you don't know what somebody's into because their profile is on private...? :cool:

Bit shallow if you ask me, apparently only adding someone on the basis of their profile picture...

And when you get pages and pages of people with the same name as your intended victim friend and not a single profile photo between them. Sheesh!

Magic Eight Ball

I've honestly never cyberstalked an ex girlfriend.
I just don't have that much interest in them to be bothered!
They're ex's for a reason.

Cupcake_Crisis

There's one or two ex's I stalk check up on every now and again to make sure they're still alive. I dont see any harm in it really!

superLeetive

Xiney wrote: »

I google everyone, including myself.

Same here... I google practically everyone I come across in life. If I have a meeting coming up with someone then I google the person.. gives me a unbelievable feeling of empowerment knowing countless pointless facts about someone that knows very little about me.

Was just talking to a friend of mine a few hours ago and she mentioned that her new boyfriend had been talking about his most recent ex the other day and my friend was in a panic wondering what this ex was like and if she was better looking than her. She said she'd tried to get onto her Bebo and Facebook but that they were both set to private so I came home searched for the ex in Google images, found a few photos and sent them to my friend.. nothing like Googling somebody!

kumate_champ07

allandanyways wrote: »

that drives me absolutley mental. How can you (stalk) "network" if you don't know what somebody's into because their profile is on private...? :cool:

Bit shallow if you ask me, apparently only adding someone on the basis of their profile picture...

facebook is for friends who already know each other in real life.

Guys become incredibly boring once I lose the lust for them.

I actually try not to google people, I would rather form an opinion on based on interaction rather than some randomn snipet of info.

kumate_champ07

Moonbaby wrote: »

Guys become incredibly boring once I lose the lust for them.

every guy? how long does the lust last?

kumate_champ07

kumate_champ07 wrote: »

every guy? how long does the lust last?

I don't lust that often but yeah actually .......Longest 5 years.

Frankiestylee

I have most of my exs added on various social networks and all is well. Don't stalk them at all but knowing I can is always good. Of late a few of them have been saying hello again and I've remembered that they were actually great craic despite whatever made relationships fall apart, so that's nice.
There's only one ex I'm not somehow networked with and she had to cut the link because she was unable to stop stalking me and commenting etc.

Had to do a project in college last year where we had to use the internet etc to research a classmate... this made me improve my online privacy quite a bit.

Aisling(",)

most recent boyfriend deleted me on my social networking sight:o

have a feeling he caught me stalking oops

wouldnt bother googling people though.
requires too much effort

stovelid

Friends with a few. I never really fell out long-term with any of my significant exes, and it's nice seeing what they're up to from time to time.

I don't stalk. If they're were not a friend, it would be obviously for a reason so why bother.

Magic Eight Ball

I recently googled a potential girlfriend.
Is that worse? :pac:

MadgeBadge

Trevor Coulahan wrote: »

I recently googled a potential girlfriend.
Is that worse? :pac:

Perfectly reasonable, I'd be more inclined to do that.

g'em

Trevor Coulahan wrote: »

I recently googled a potential girlfriend.
Is that worse? :pac:

I've had a couple of ex's Google me fairly early in the relationship - it's a weird one because there's quite a bit of personal info about me out there, but by my own choice. Long story short I did an interview in a National newspaper about coping with depression and it's usually the first result that comes back. I'm proud of the article and have no regrets, but it's information I suppose I'd rather I told people face to face as opposed to having them read about it. Still, if something like that puts them off me, that's their loss




I'm more concerned about the AWFUL photo that went with it

Magic Eight Ball

g'em wrote: »

I've had a couple of ex's Google me fairly early in the relationship - it's a weird one because there's quite a bit of personal info about me out there, but by my own choice. Long story short I did an interview in a National newspaper about coping with depression and it's usually the first result that comes back. I'm proud of the article and have no regrets, but it's information I suppose I'd rather I told people face to face as opposed to having them read about it. Still, if something like that puts them off me, that's their loss




I'm more concerned about the AWFUL photo that went with it

I think they'd be more intimidated by how much more weight you can lift then them

MJOR

Never really bothered although i did google myself..... a bit scary seeing as a picture of a grave with my name on it came up:eek:

stovelid

g'em wrote: »

I've had a couple of ex's Google me fairly early in the relationship

How did that come up exactly?

Did they admit to googling you after a few dates?

Novella

stovelid wrote: »

It's only four years, in fairness.

Four years is almost a quarter of my life!!!