Bring your own = Drink your own?

Doc

I was at a party last night and it was a bring your own drink thing. I bought some beer before I got there and arrived at the party. Everyone else had seemed to bring drink too be it wine, beer or spirits. So the party is well under way and I'm chatting with some people in the kitchen and I see a guy open the fridge and take out one of my beers (I know this because I was the only one who had brought this particular brand of beer). I didn't know the guy and I figured I had brought enough beer to spare one or two so didn't say anything. After that I saw the same guy drinking it again and at one stage taking one and giving another to a mate of his. I had brought more then enough to last me the night with a few to spare but not enough for 3 people so unsurprisingly before too long there was none left. A mate had brought a big bottle of vodka and some cola so I drank that with him the rest of the night.

Am I wrong in thinking that if you go to a party where its bring your own you drink your own as well? I mean I brought that because I like it and wanted to drink it not so that guy could have a cheap night on me. I dont know if Im just being uptight but I wouldn't take someone else's beer would you?

Overheal

What were you thinking not saying anything?

The lad was a douche but you let him do it.

Its your drink you do what you want with it. If you want to swap with someone thats yours and their business.

Kiera

No i wouldnt take someones elses drink but i would have said it to him the first time he took it. I would not have let that go on all night.

Doc

Well I didnt really know that many people at the party and he was the only one I saw taking the drink I brought but I didnt know if it was only him. Anyway by the time I realised how much had gone it was kind of too late

SlipperyPeople

blahhhhh im drunk blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Kiera

Doc wrote: »

Well I didnt really know that many people at the party and he was the only one I saw taking the drink I brought but I didnt know if it was only him. Anyway by the time I realised how much had gone it was kind of too late

Lame! I would have told him to enjoy that drink coz its the last one of those beers he'll be having in a joking manner. It would have gotten the point across.

Overheal

Kiera wrote: »

Lame! I would have told him to enjoy that drink coz its the last one of those beers he'll be having in a joking manner. It would have gotten the point across.

I would have asked the Lad where he bought them, and watched the dumbfounded look on his face tbh.

Kiera

Overheal wrote: »

I would have asked the Lad where he bought them, and watched the dumbfounded look on his face tbh.

I think telling him straight out that they arent for sharing would do the trick better. Wheres your balls people??

Overheal

Im nicer than that. But then again, youre asking me sober. Can you ask me again tomorrow? I found some Coronas in my fridge I plan on pounding.

Kiera

Nope. If you need drink in you to stand up for yourself then you should go look for those balls you've lost!

weepee

I would have asked him 'what the craic-mac, would ya like one of my beer'.

discostick12

You're fault mate ya should have said something!!!

pebbles21

Was at this party last night ,i went to the fridge and some cheap fecker put Dutch Gold in there,so i said fcuk it lets drink this crap so myself and the lads drank it till it was gone:)

Mossy Monk

Doc wrote: »

I didn't know the guy and I figured I had brought enough beer to spare one or two so didn't say anything.

Eh? That was an invite to a fanciful duel of some sort. Touch my beer will you. Remove white glove, *Slap*

pickarooney

In Ireland you generally drink what you bring yourself, in any other country I've been to/lived in, all drinks are given to the host and become communal property of the guests. They guy may genuinely not have been aware of the Irish custom or could genuinely have been a prick.

edit: I've never been to a party in the UK before anyone 'corrects' me

fryup

its bring your own .....and share and share a like......me thinks????

mukki

you should have walked up to him and said, "seen as i bought you a drink honey, your sleeping with me tonight" with a wink and a nudge.

Cianos

Here (Berlin), all alcohol at a party is considered there for the taking, which I found out the hard way before. But then I've been to a bunch of house parties where the host fills the bath with beer bottles for the guests.

tbaymusicman

I would off bent him over and inserted one of the empty bottle's he drank on me im pretty sure he would get the idea of not stealing my drink:eek::eek:

Samson

I had a very similar experience at a party with a German guy stealing my beer.
The first bottle he took I frowned but said nothing.
The second bottle, I had a word with my friend - the host of the party - who made some lighthearted remark to him which didn't do the trick.
When he went to the fridge and reached for the third bottle, I threw a wobbler and had words with him myself - I think I said something along the lines of "keep the fu.ck away from my drink you fu.cking parasite" - he got the point then.

What was even more annoying was the fact that this bum had come to the party empty handed, whereas I, being the good guest, had not only brought beer for myself, but also several bottles of wine "for the house".

I was happy enough for a couple of other lads at the party to have a few bottles, given that they did bring their own supply but had simply run out, and actually had the manners to ask.

So, in conclusion, perhaps in other cultures it is deemed acceptable to take from another persons stash. However, if he was Irish he definitely should have known better.

Cianos

Samson wrote: »

If he was Irish he should have known better.
However, I had a very similar experience at a party with a German guy stealing my beer.
The first bottle he took I frowned but said nothing.
The second bottle I had a word with my friend, the host of the party, who made some lighthearted remark to him which didn't do the trick.
The third bottle I threw a wobbler and had words with him myself - I think I said something along the lines of "keep the fu.ck away from my drink you fu.cking parasite" - he got the point then.

What was even more annoying was the fact that this bum had come to the party empty handed, whereas I, being the good guest, had not only brought beer for myself, but also several bottles of wine "for the house".

Read my post above...it's normal for people to just take beer from the fridge in other countries, because at house parties abroad the host usually buys a load of booze for the guests. If you went to a house party at his place you'd be besotted by him and his bath full of beer.

Interceptor

I was at a party in a flat in Rathmines and this lanky streak of pish kept helping himself and his buddies to my drink, so I set a fire extinguisher off in his face. It was a powder one and I ended up clearing the party as no-one could breathe but I laughed so hard that I burst blood vessels in my face. So worth it...

Anyways - bring your own, share an odd bottle but if some greedy tool is playing wiseguys, get technical on his ass...

'cptr

Napoli

The same has happened to me before OP except i never found out who the thief was. Nowadays I hide my cans under the sofa or somewhere more inventive. Sure, the beers won't be ice cold but at least they'll be mine!

Sam Kade

The best cure for him would have been to piss in one of the empty bottles put it back in the fridge and when he would take a swig from that bottle it would have quenched his thirst for the rest of the night.

growler

this problem could easily be solved by the host stating that guests should bring their own Stella* , then if everyone's on Stella there's no reason to get upset over someone drinking another Stella and ye can all get on.

Uk perspective, bring drink, hand it over to host, forget about it, drink whatever takes your fancy from then on regardless of source. Spending a party covertly observing your beer being drunk by others would seem a waste of an evening tbh.


* insert any brand of your choice

Holsten

Crazy, it's ALWAYS bring your own, drink your own.

I'd be pretty pissed if someone drank my actual beer instead of their normal piss in a can.

xSupernova91x

Nearly every situation in life there will be people out there trying to take advantage of you, stand up for yourself, nip it in the bud straight away and that will be the end of it.

DonJose

I didn't want the same thing happening to my cans so I left a note on each can saying, "I wiped my knob all over the lid of this can.", when I came back to get a second can there was another note saying, "So did I!!!" :eek:

irisheddie85

if im going to a party where i know most of the people i will bring some nice beer and share with everyone like for like. If i dont know many people bring bavaria of something else cheap so even if someone takes some it wont be a major hassle and there is always extra floating around

banshee_bones

yeah i dont mind the odd can if they ask..
but taking it and coming empty handed and not asking... thats not on.

auditek923

at my house parties we all chip in 25 euro a person, head up the north and fill the van with beer, buy stuff for a bbq, hire a one man band. this 25 euro covers the whole cost. then its drink and eat till there is none left !!!! key is ya need about 25-30 people to chip in

renraw

usually when i head to sessions I bring my own beer. 99% of the time the rule is respected but as everyone gets even more p1ssed it is help yourself...almost always, everyone brings beer so, no-one loses out

pebbles21

auditek923 wrote: »

at my house parties we all chip in 25 euro a person, head up the north and fill the van with beer, buy stuff for a bbq,hire a one man ban

:eek:You were doing great till you mentioned that!

Poor Uncle Tom

Samson wrote: »

...... also several bottles of wine "for the house"....

I don't mind bringing some extra beers for people, but I refuse to supply the accommodation......:D

Can't believe you didn't say anything. What a wimp.

LD 50

I've let out a roar at people nicking my drink, told them to **** right the hell off, especially as they hadn't brought any of their own.

IMO, if a party's BYOB, you bring your own. Bring as much as you think you'll need. And if your lucky enough that the host does provide more, happy days. But leave it till yopu've finished your own stash.

OP, you should have told your man to feck off and buy his own damn beer. And called him a tight bastard for good measure.

Micky Dolenz

OP, what happened was the same as the guy walking up and snogging your bird, and you just watched it happen....and again......and again. tut tut :eek:

FunkZ

Doc wrote: »

I was at a party last night and it was a bring your own drink thing. I bought some beer before I got there and arrived at the party. Everyone else had seemed to bring drink too be it wine, beer or spirits. So the party is well under way and I'm chatting with some people in the kitchen and I see a guy open the fridge and take out one of my beers (I know this because I was the only one who had brought this particular brand of beer). I didn't know the guy and I figured I had brought enough beer to spare one or two so didn't say anything. After that I saw the same guy drinking it again and at one stage taking one and giving another to a mate of his. I had brought more then enough to last me the night with a few to spare but not enough for 3 people so unsurprisingly before too long there was none left. A mate had brought a big bottle of vodka and some cola so I drank that with him the rest of the night.

Am I wrong in thinking that if you go to a party where its bring your own you drink your own as well? I mean I brought that because I like it and wanted to drink it not so that guy could have a cheap night on me. I dont know if Im just being uptight but I wouldn't take someone else's beer would you?

You absolute pussybag. You let some dude steal your bear for the whole night? The second ya saw him even look at one of your beers a swift kick to the head was in order.

Next time dude, don't forget your lightsaber!

Tar.Aldarion

'what the **** you doing with my beer'

R.D. aka MR.D

Can't believe you didn't say anything!!

I think you need an assertivness class or something.

Yes in other countries it share although saying that my french friend never stole other peoples booze at any of my parties so.... probaly just an ass hole!

I hide mine, its better to have 12 warm beers than 2 cold ones imo

dingdong1

OP, I wish there was a person like you at every party..:eek:

RandomIrl

the worst..is when its byob..someone asks you what your drinking, you offer them a taste of it..and they proceed to down YOUR drink in front of you!!! then hand you back an empty glass..

i kid you not...

actually happened..

helimachoptor

MAn the same thing happened to me last weekend. At a house party. Brough 8 bottles. started drinking at 10pm. At11:30 I have 2 bottles left yet i've only had 3 beers myself! I was ****ing super annoyed

helimachoptor

Samson wrote: »

I was happy enough for a couple of other lads at the party to have a few bottles, given that they did bring their own supply but had simply run out, and actually had the manners to ask.

this is something i dont have an issue with. at a recent party I was feeling a bit under the weather and only brought 3 but onc ei had them i was flying and it was after the offies had closed so the other lads all gave me a beer each and it was fine. I've donated beer before too.

madmac187

I was a party man same thing happened. Thing was though a rake of spainish crettins were at it. I said it. And the dude brought two of his mates with him acting hard calling me "paddy". So I cracked him open with my forehead and broke his nose:) and asked him was it worth it? His friends stood back.

So much for numbers and intimidation. Thats what they do. They rob loads of shops in Kilkenny in groups during the day.

So don't like people trying to be hardmen at crap like that.

TomCo

Christ, if someone touched my drink there would be harsh words.
Possibly followed by a punch up.

MIN2511

I have drunk/drank other people's booze and they've drank mine

Equal!!

netwhizkid

I usually spike the drinks with really strong laxative and just leave them and if you are cheeky enough to help yourself, then you are welcome to them laxative and all.

pebbles21

madmac187 wrote: »

So I cracked him open with my forehead and broke his nose:) and asked him was it worth it

:rolleyes:Good Man ! Are you proud of yourself for doing that?

Thoie

OK, I don't drink beer (usually wine or spirits), and I'm damned glad I don't now! I've never seen a party where everyone is confined to what they brought, and never heard of "drink your own".