Have a date, but very nervous

LegacyUser

OK, so I'm just out of a long term relationship, It ended OK and I'm over it now. So now after getting back on the scene I have a date, but the problem is I haven't been on a first date in years.

I'm an attractive guy and have no problems meeting women, but I kinda feel like that's all I have. I get worried that I'm not going to have anything to talk about with this girl. I like this girl too, Ive known her for a while and think she is pretty cool, but it kinda all coming together a bit fast.

Its not just this, I think I have a very nervous personality. Anytime I have an exam to do, I turn into an absolute mess, even though I'm fully prepared for the test, I just freak out.

I would love some advice on how to deal with these feelings, and maybe some advice for the date

SarahSassy

What I would suggest is having a few topics prepared to chat about in case there is a lull in conversation and also go somewhere quite busy so at least you can people watch.....

Dont worry about it. Its only a date and (not meaning to be negative) the chances are you may not like her at the end of it... Typically stats are per dating sites say that only 1 in 9 firws dates turns into any kind of a relationship (stats ) so dont put pressure on yourself. Go in with a view to having a good time, cut it short if its not working and just enjoy yourself.

Oh and dont forget she will be nervous too.

Cianos

People like talking about themselves, so just ask her a bunch of questions about what she does, and act like you're interested! Ask follow up questions and try steer the conversation on to an interesting topic if you see the opportunity. But really just relax and don't be too worried about it. Even if it goes horribly there's always plenty more girls out there!

BumbleB

nervousguy wrote: »

OK, so I'm just out of a long term relationship, It ended OK and I'm over it now. So now after getting back on the scene I have a date, but the problem is I haven't been on a first date in years.

I'm an attractive guy and have no problems meeting women, but I kinda feel like that's all I have. I get worried that I'm not going to have anything to talk about with this girl. I like this girl too, Ive known her for a while and think she is pretty cool, but it kinda all coming together a bit fast.

Its not just this, I think I have a very nervous personality. Anytime I have an exam to do, I turn into an absolute mess, even though I'm fully prepared for the test, I just freak out.

I would love some advice on how to deal with these feelings, and maybe some advice for the date

Meditation and centering will help you an awful lot . 10 mins a day is all you need .

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Colonel_McCoy

Dont ask any question, with yes or no answers. Keep the conversation flowing, ask her about herself.

she will be nervous too