Anybody not making any friends?? *sniff*...

Tar.Aldarion

is over is over? popularity? There was a ted fest?

Muffin top

Like a monkey with a minature symbol...it takes place on one of the Aran Islands as far as i'm aware......

celestialteapot

I have to say i think im really lucky that i know few people from secondary school who are doing the same course as me.

Dont know who else id talk to...

I've lost the will to make friends... It just seems too all over the place. One day I could be great friends with someone the next they wont... I dont care anymore. I'll be a loner.:D

Acid_Violet

Brynn Green Smugness, is your class rep doing anything to organise social events? What about societies- any ones which you could join and meet like-minded people? I hear that Sci-fi is great for meeting people and everyone is real friendly and welcoming, how've you been getting on with them? Are the people in your class just a little on the cliquey/snobby side?

4 years of college as a loner isn't going to be any fun, and I feel awful that you've had those experiences.....

Larianne

Just go to the next Boards Beers. You'll meet so many people. You're bound to click with someone, (even if it is Tar!).

Jonathan

Larianne wrote: »

Just go to the next Boards Beers. You'll meet so many people. You're bound to click with someone, (even if it is Tar!).

I haven't seen you at one yet!

phlegms

Larianne wrote: »

(even if it is Tar!).

Tar is horribly mean to people.
I tried to befriend him at the boards beers, but he just shouted racial slurs at me until I backed off..

lawl

Larianne

Jonathan wrote: »

I haven't seen you at one yet!

I'm a very busy lady!

I've been to Boards beers though, just not the TCD ones.... yet.

Aoibheann

Come to the TCD beers! Then there'll be more women and they won't feel the need to insult me so much..

Tar.Aldarion

Aoibheann wrote: »

Come to the TCD beers! Then there'll be more women and they won't feel the need to insult me so much..

NERD

Larianne wrote: »

I'm a very busy lady!

I've been to Boards beers though, just not the TCD ones.... yet.

Takes a lot of time to stalk me. In college 13 hours today

phlegms wrote: »

Tar is horribly mean to people.
I tried to befriend him at the boards beers, but he just shouted racial slurs at me until I backed off..

lawl

Listen up cracker, you don't come near me again, there be no trouble. :pac:

Jonathan wrote: »

I haven't seen you at one yet!

She came to one and 'clicked' with me, she hasn't been the same since.

Larianne wrote:

Just go to the next Boards Beers. You'll meet so many people. You're bound to click with someone, (even if it is Tar!).

Everbody clicks with tar! You scallywag!

Aoibheann

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

NERD

Definitely the laziest insult so far.. :P

Tar.Aldarion

NER!

Larianne

Red n Black sticker on bag? Couldn't see a name though.

Everyone keeps talking about these boards beers. What, where and when are they??

Tar.Aldarion

oh em gee, good stalking, where this time, damn it!
It's actually a patch sowed to the bag witha hard to mae out name of a band on it.
>_>

Tar.Aldarion

[quote=[Deleted User];63042871]Everyone keeps talking about these boards beers. What, where and when are they??[/QUOTE]

We jsut meet up for drinks every now and again, there will be a thread in the forum, think next one is in december.
There are also beers for other forums, but the thread here will be for the TCDers and the UCDers that crash it.

Larianne

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

oh em gee, good stalking, where this time, damn it!
It's actually a patch sowed to the bag witha hard to mae out name of a band on it.
>_>

YES!

Oh, it was last week when you were bringing back books. I just walked into library and there you were! :pac:

Tar.Aldarion

Ah yes my nerd books, a boardsie was with me making fun of me so you went uunnoticed for now! Ye I'm dozy..

Aoibheann

[quote=[Deleted User];63042871]Everyone keeps talking about these boards beers. What, where and when are they??[/QUOTE]

Well the TCD forum-types organise beers now and again. There's been 2 since this college year began. What happens is that one of the mods sets up a thread with a poll so you can vote on the date, technically the date with the most votes wins (*ahem* :P).. On both occasions we've met at the campanile around 7ish, then we've ended up in the Pav both nights (an attempted excursion to Doyles didn't quite go as planned).

Basically you get to meet a fair few new people (we've had a very decent turnout at both beers), they're all lovely (mostly! :pac:) and it's a good laugh. The next one is apparently going to be vaguely soonish, if we're having a Christmas one that is! You should definitely come along, we're not *that* scary..

Larianne

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

Ah yes my nerd books, a boardsie was with me making fun of me so you went uunnoticed for now! Ye I'm dozy..

I'm pretty sure you were on your own, although I wasn't like, standing around staring or anything.

Whens the xmas beers? Hopefully after exams and I'll be able to go! \0/

Aoibheann

Larianne wrote: »

Whens the xmas beers? Hopefully after exams and I'll be able to go! \0/

No idea.. no poll as yet! When are your exams?

Y'know, if this strike goes ahead I reckon we should just have beers next Monday.. :pac: That, or I'll catch up on sleep. \o/

Tar.Aldarion

Larianne wrote: »

I'm pretty sure you were on your own, although I wasn't like, standing around staring or anything.

Whens the xmas beers? Hopefully after exams and I'll be able to go! \0/

Oh I got confused about it, putting it back, ah!
Just minor stalker staring with squinting at the bag then en

Larianne

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

Oh I got confused about it, putting it back, ah!
Just minor stalker staring with squinting at the bag then en

Yep, there was definitely a side squint going on.

Larianne

Aoibheann wrote: »

No idea.. no poll as yet! When are your exams?

Y'know, if this strike goes ahead I reckon we should just have beers next Monday.. :pac: That, or I'll catch up on sleep. \o/

Next Monday is my class mystery tour.

Exams 9th and 15th December.

Edit: But I probably wouldn't turn up anyway so go ahead without me.

A Neurotic

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

We jsut meet up for drinks every now and again, there will be a thread in the forum, think next one is in december.
There are also beers for other forums, but the thread here will be for the TCDers and the UCDers that crash it.

:mad:

Aoibheann

Larianne wrote: »

Next Monday is my class mystery tour.

Exams 9th and 15th December.

Edit: But I probably wouldn't turn up anyway so go ahead without me.

Ooh mystery trip! We went to Munich during reading week, it was amazing. I'm definitely organising another trip next semester!

Ah you have to come! You've promised a couple of times so no excuses.. :pac:

A Neurotic wrote: »

:mad:

It's ok, you're not one of them.. :P

Larianne

Aoibheann wrote: »

Ooh mystery trip! We went to Munich during reading week, it was amazing. I'm definitely organising another trip next semester!

Ah you have to come! You've promised a couple of times so no excuses.. :pac:

Yeah, I read that. Sounded brilliant. I'm thinking we're heading to Dundalk or Carlow. No passports needed.

Well if it's after exams, there'll be no holding me back.;)

Aoibheann

Larianne wrote: »

Yeah, I read that. Sounded brilliant. I'm thinking we're heading to Dundalk or Carlow. No passports needed.

Well if it's after exams, there'll be no holding me back.;)

You're more than welcome to come on our next one. 1c ryanair flights means mystery trips abroad are almost as cheap as here! \o/

Hope you'll make it to the beers anyway, would be lovely to meet you.

d-a-s-h

Aoibheann wrote: »

1c ryanair flights means mystery trips abroad are almost as cheap as here! \o/

1c ryanair flights means beers abroad might be cheaper by the end of the night too

Acid_Violet

Aoibheann wrote: »

You're more than welcome to come on our next one. 1c ryanair flights means mystery trips abroad are almost as cheap as here! \o/

Hope you'll make it to the beers anyway, would be lovely to meet you.

I'm coming as well Aoibheann. Tough.

Fringe

d-a-s-h wrote: »

1c ryanair flights means beers abroad might be cheaper by the end of the night too

Man, you should've seen the look on our faces when we saw the prices in Munich. 30c beers and happy hour for 3 hours!

Aoibheann

Acid_Violet wrote: »

I'm coming as well Aoibheann. Tough.

Totally! Probably be next reading week-ish. At least that's when I'm hoping to organise it!

Fringe wrote: »

Man, you should've seen the look on our faces when we saw the prices in Munich. 30c beers and happy hour for 3 hours!

Ahh good times. We should just go back there for the next trip. And that beerhall! It was amazing..Apple strudel = win.

A.Student

[quote=[Deleted User];62490046]No? Just me??
O-ok then....:([/quote]

I'm in a similar situation to the person who started this thread. My class is very small, but this seems to just make me anxious as everyone has become friendly and comfortable with each other by now. I forced myself to talk to a few people at the beginning, but anxiety won over in the end, and people just give up trying with you. Now I get the feeling that they think I'm snobby or have some dark secret or something, or that I don't like them, when in reality it's simply a matter of being too panicked to interact before or after our lectures.

If you're shy the first day, then it makes it slightly more difficult the second, and again the third and so on, until you've climbed a mountain you don't know how to get down from.

I didn't make any friends in my undergrad course either, but it wasn't a problem because I felt protected by the anonymity of the large class sizes, and I had a couple of friends from my job, as well as roommates.

I think I'm gradually starting to not care however, and the whole thing takes up less of my thoughts each day.

lucernarian

A.Student wrote: »

I'm in a similar situation to the person who started this thread. My class is very small, but this seems to just make me anxious as everyone has become friendly and comfortable with each other by now. I forced myself to talk to a few people at the beginning, but anxiety won over in the end, and people just give up trying with you. Now I get the feeling that they think I'm snobby or have some dark secret or something, or that I don't like them, when in reality it's simply a matter of being too panicked to interact before or after our lectures.

If you're shy the first day, then it makes it slightly more difficult the second, and again the third and so on, until you've climbed a mountain you don't know how to get down from.

I didn't make any friends in my undergrad course either, but it wasn't a problem because I felt protected by the anonymity of the large class sizes, and I had a couple of friends from my job, as well as roommates.

I think I'm gradually starting to not care however, and the whole thing takes up less of my thoughts each day.

I can't really comprehend such a problem. So I should be grateful, I suppose! I really didn't think that being shy the first day makes it more difficult the second. I found in my time in college (and there were ****, lonely times too) that the rising tide eventually catches all boats. And where can anxiety stem from if you've got absolutely nothing to lose from interacting with people? Self-awareness is just that. How you view your presence/actions in the world. Not how other people might and do see them:)

In terms of you and feelings etc., perhaps the tail is wagging the dog? If this problem only worsens over time, talking to counselling supports works wonders at giving you confidence in dealing with people, so that you start enjoying socialising with more people again. You'll never manage to apply yourself to a goal if you fear the objective. Talking to someone objective you can trust, and diversifying how you meet people are two big things I've witnessed having positive effects. Rough examples being charity work, speed dating, getting involved in sports and so on.

Heh, my first Personal Issues reply:pac:. Sorry if it's off topic.