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Good Shepherd Convent Dunboyne

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  • Registered Users Posts: 3 avoncon


    thanks cleo.i thought i had my life together.last december it fell apart.after a serious ,shall we call it an episode,i eventually went to talk to a councellor.after 30 years i thought it was time.with a lot of persuasion from my new family.i told him about my daughter.i told him about dunboyne.i told him how i felt.do you know what he said to me?THESE THINGS HAPPEN.MOVE ON.YOU LOOK LIKE A VERY SOCIABLE PERSON.GO FOR A WALK.IT RELEASES ENDORPHINES AND MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER.apart from the fact that he knew nothing about me.why didnt i realise i could have cured all my 30 years of pain with a walk.my now daughter that i have and who i kept,tells me sarcasm does not become me.i suppose shes right,i have good and bad days.i wonder everyday is this what my life is going to consist of?waking up every morning wondering do i want to get up today?can i face the world today?or its great to be alive.three people in one.thats how i feel.i would love to go back to the time when i woke up every morning,and i knew i was just me.i didnt realise how much of dunboyne i had erased from my memory.two years ago if i had been asked questions about that time in my life,im not sure if the answers would have been real .i would have sworn at the time that they would have been.Since i found this thread,i have shocked myself.there are so many details i blocked in my mind.i shocked myself at how much i had forgotten or just didnt realise happened.i just feell i have ,what was the word the nuns used?attoned for my sins.do i not deserve some peace yet?after 30 years can i have me back please?how life has changed.my 17 year old had a baby,who is the joy of my life.guess what?hes a great dad.thanks for listening.


  • Registered Users Posts: 3 Trevz


    My Mother was there and had to give birth and forced to hand over her first born my Sister who eventually traced us. It was in the 1960's my mother never recovered from the trauma of that place :-(


  • Registered Users Posts: 29 teddybug


    avoncon wrote: »
    thanks cleo.i thought i had my life together.last december it fell apart.after a serious ,shall we call it an episode,i eventually went to talk to a councellor.after 30 years i thought it was time.with a lot of persuasion from my new family.i told him about my daughter.i told him about dunboyne.i told him how i felt.do you know what he said to me?THESE THINGS HAPPEN.MOVE ON.YOU LOOK LIKE A VERY SOCIABLE PERSON.GO FOR A WALK.IT RELEASES ENDORPHINES AND MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER.apart from the fact that he knew nothing about me.why didnt i realise i could have cured all my 30 years of pain with a walk.my now daughter that i have and who i kept,tells me sarcasm does not become me.i suppose shes right,i have good and bad days.i wonder everyday is this what my life is going to consist of?waking up every morning wondering do i want to get up today?can i face the world today?or its great to be alive.three people in one.thats how i feel.i would love to go back to the time when i woke up every morning,and i knew i was just me.i didnt realise how much of dunboyne i had erased from my memory.two years ago if i had been asked questions about that time in my life,im not sure if the answers would have been real .i would have sworn at the time that they would have been.Since i found this thread,i have shocked myself.there are so many details i blocked in my mind.i shocked myself at how much i had forgotten or just didnt realise happened.i just feell i have ,what was the word the nuns used?attoned for my sins.do i not deserve some peace yet?after 30 years can i have me back please?how life has changed.my 17 year old had a baby,who is the joy of my life.guess what?hes a great dad.thanks for listening.
    were u there from april til aug or sept 1983??????


  • Registered Users Posts: 29 teddybug


    FEEL EXACTLY LIKE U WUD LIKE 2 TALK WIT U EITHER PRIVATELY OR ON THREADS IF U WANT TAKE CARE


  • Registered Users Posts: 33 Elizvonne


    Hi Avoncon
    Hugs, like most birth mums you suffered a huge trauma that you were never allowed speak of. I don't think that people who have not touched by adoption can understand the loss that birthmothers suffered. You should contact Barnardos, they have a list of counsellors who specialise in adoption. Best wishes
    Elizvonne


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  • Registered Users Posts: 1 hazeldee


    i was there in 1984


  • Registered Users Posts: 41 Mazdoll


    Hello Ladies and some Gentlemen,

    Overwhelmed by this thread...thank you to all who have shared, read and contributed to it.....its fizzles with our emotions....we are our own little community of women who share the same experience, but all of us have a sense of loss. This is a very private thing for alot of woman still...I hope its given a sense of freedom to some by just posting here, I know it has for me.


    Our paths are entwinned by the experience we share here together, acknowledge your pain grief and sense of loss, we all left part of ourselves in that place.....take back that energy it yours......embrace life and love it....Iv wasted so much of mine in the past...not any more....my experiences have moulded me into the woman I am today...bumps lumps and a fishwifes mouth if ya fall foul of me.....

    But im me...and im proud of it

    xxxxx Hugs to everyone of you xxxxx


  • Registered Users Posts: 6 marybridget86


    This Thread is one of the most important threads ever started , especially for those of us with our hidden pasts, with no one to talk to . A shame that was never ours to begin with, only passed on from ignorance . I am glad so many people have taken comfort from this thread and realised that they were not the problem. Unfortunately, the ultimate sacrifice was made, by a lot of us. Those of us who were forced into a situation ,( by family , friends or outsiders) of signing away our little Angels. Thankfully our experiences and discussions have acted as a catalyst towards a better understanding and awareness of teenage pregnancy .
    Thanks Mazdoll.












    Mazdoll wrote: »
    Hello Ladies and some Gentlemen,

    Overwhelmed by this thread...thank you to all who have shared, read and contributed to it.....its fizzles with our emotions....we are our own little community of women who share the same experience, but all of us have a sense of loss. This is a very private thing for alot of woman still...I hope its given a sense of freedom to some by just posting here, I know it has for me.


    Our paths are entwinned by the experience we share here together, acknowledge your pain grief and sense of loss, we all left part of ourselves in that place.....take back that energy it yours......embrace life and love it....Iv wasted so much of mine in the past...not any more....my experiences have moulded me into the woman I am today...bumps lumps and a fishwifes mouth if ya fall foul of me.....

    But im me...and im proud of it

    xxxxx Hugs to everyone of you xxxxx


  • Registered Users Posts: 1 MarieB1973


    Were you there in 1973?after almost 40 years I've finally had counselling and starting to come to terms and deal with everything.


  • Registered Users Posts: 33 Elizvonne


    BIRTHMOTHERS COURSE

    Barnardos are planning to run a Birthmothers course in Spring 2014. If you know anyone who might be interested, please pass this on. Contact Barnardos Post Adoption Services Tel: (01) 8134100 or email adoption@barnardos.ie


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  • Registered Users Posts: 3 queeniee33


    I was known as Helen Brown not my real name what did they call you?


  • Registered Users Posts: 32 Enda63


    I was there from Oct 1981 to Dec 1981 and kept my own name as did a lot of the others


  • Registered Users Posts: 3 shirley keegan


    Girls, I just came across this thread as I was thinking about visiting Dunboyne Castle... It will be 32 years next February since I was deposited there as a 3 month pregnant 15 year old!!!!! I had the pleasure of keeping my little girl but I still struggle with going back to see what it's like... I saw an old comment about the dogs name and all I could here was the nun saying 'pant like jacko' when we were doing our antenatal classes! Very mixed emotions and so delighted to have found this thread where other people will know exactly how I feel. Bless you all xxx


  • Registered Users Posts: 41 Mazdoll


    Im looking forward to spending a weekend away up in Dunboyne Castle soon....kinda have mixed feelings about the place....i went to visit there with my son when it was a refugee centre before it was sold for a hotel...It was the strangest feeling as it looked the same. Felt there was a lot of ghosts there.

    Would anyone be interested in meeting up there, together but with confidentiality ????

    Mazdoll


  • Registered Users Posts: 41 Mazdoll


    Girls, I just came across this thread as I was thinking about visiting Dunboyne Castle... It will be 32 years next February since I was deposited there as a 3 month pregnant 15 year old!!!!! I had the pleasure of keeping my little girl but I still struggle with going back to see what it's like... I saw an old comment about the dogs name and all I could here was the nun saying 'pant like jacko' when we were doing our antenatal classes! Very mixed emotions and so delighted to have found this thread where other people will know exactly how I feel. Bless you all xxx

    Mine was pant like Ivan Oh sweet god !!!


  • Registered Users Posts: 32 Enda63


    Mazdoll,

    that is the one place I couldn't meet anyone in. I was back there twice, first time when it was owned by Kepak, it was empty and locked up, I went back again when it had opened as a hotel and the same ghosts and feeling were still there. I felt I wanted to run inside and tell everyone what that place was and what happened there.


  • Registered Users Posts: 29 teddybug


    Mazdoll wrote: »
    Mine was pant like Ivan Oh sweet god !!!
    I was asked first if i was keepin my baby while i was in labour, i feel this question was asked so that the staff would decide which way to treat me as in .... with respect or not respect .When i replied i didnt know what was happening. i was treated with complete indeference......I will never forget that


  • Registered Users Posts: 3 shirley keegan


    I would love to go back there and have thought about it often but the emotions are so mixed, I think doing it with others who would be facing some of the same ghosts would really help. I don't know if I could stay over night on the first visit but I would like to be there at some level....


  • Registered Users Posts: 29 teddybug


    Iam gonna go back some day and stay for a night and have a good look about the place bcause i want to remember everything of my time there.Because that is when i was closest to my daughter ...


  • Registered Users Posts: 29 teddybug


    DEAR WIZE THANKS 4 UR CONCERN .IN ANSWER TO UR QUESTIONS YES MOST OF US WERE YOUNG AND VERY MUCH MOST WERE ENCOURAGED TO GO AWAY TO HAVE OUR BABIES AND THEN ..........


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,597 ✭✭✭WIZE


    Thanks . My post got deleted. I guess this thread is for ye and not others.

    Sorry anyway for many of your losses and i hope everything works out for you all.


  • Registered Users Posts: 33 junemay


    Mazdoll wrote: »
    Im looking forward to spending a weekend away up in Dunboyne Castle soon....kinda have mixed feelings about the place....i went to visit there with my son when it was a refugee centre before it was sold for a hotel...It was the strangest feeling as it looked the same. Felt there was a lot of ghosts there.

    Would anyone be interested in meeting up there, together but with confidentiality ????

    Mazdoll
    Hi Mazdoll
    I've thought of going back but always find a reason why it's not a good time and postpone it. If there were a few others going it might be easier.


  • Registered Users Posts: 4 Xander89


    Hi there I sent you a pm as not too sure how this works ... Are you really returning to dunboyne I don't know if I would be so brave after 24 years


  • Registered Users Posts: 4 Xander89


    Mazdoll wrote: »
    Im looking forward to spending a weekend away up in Dunboyne Castle soon....kinda have mixed feelings about the place....i went to visit there with my son when it was a refugee centre before it was sold for a hotel...It was the strangest feeling as it looked the same. Felt there was a lot of ghosts there.

    Would anyone be interested in meeting up there, together but with confidentiality ????

    Mazdoll

    Hi maxdoll can you let me know about the plan to mabey return to dunboyne as a group. Regards xander89


  • Registered Users Posts: 4 Xander89


    Hi Shirley u see you might be interested in return visit to dunboyne as Dose Mazdoll please keep me informed if there is a plan I was there in 89 I rembered a girl called hazel from Limerick and June from cork !!!!!! Xander89


  • Registered Users Posts: 3 shirley keegan


    Hi, yeah would like to go back with others that understand exactly what the emotions are... no date decided yet but I'm hoping spring of 2014 maybe xxx


  • Registered Users Posts: 4 Xander89


    Hi Shirley yes I would like to go back with others spring 2014 sounds good


  • Registered Users Posts: 29 survived


    junemay wrote: »
    Hi Mazdoll
    I've thought of going back but always find a reason why it's not a good time and postpone it. If there were a few others going it might be easier.


    Hi guys id also be interested in returning if a few were going together please keep me posted thanks


  • Registered Users Posts: 1 el1989


    Hi all,
    Ev and Liz here we were in Dunboyne and had our babies in Oct and Nov in 1989. We would love to reconnect with anyone who was there at this time as we have remained the best of friends :) Our time in Dunboyne was not a sad experience for us.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 29 teddybug


    Hi girls,i would be interested in going back to ardmhuire dunboyne in 2014 spring . It will be just 31 years then since i last left the place .. I would also love to meet some of ye girls whom were there and to hear how your life went after ..Take care for now keep in touch


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