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  • 30-11-2009 8:40pm
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    xxlilyxx
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    There's a girl i've been friends wit a year now, i really like her and she likes me, only problem is im 22 and she's 17 she'll be 18 in jan, i've been puttin things off til then. Wil the 4yrs difference be hard, i mean when i was 17 i was wit a 23yr old but now coz im the older one its weird like, but wil people judge me if they see us together.


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    Fad
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    xxlilyxx wrote: »
    There's a girl i've been friends wit a year now, i really like her and she likes me, only problem is im 22 and she's 17 she'll be 18 in jan, i've been puttin things off til then. Wil the 4yrs difference be hard, i mean when i was 17 i was wit a 23yr old but now coz im the older one its weird like, but wil people judge me if they see us together.


    The only issue is whether it* will bother you or not. If it bothers you, dont. If it doesn go for it.

    *(The idea of people judging you)


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    L1011
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    22 to 18 isn't that huge a gap. The change from 17 to 18 is generally seen as crucially important even if it is just 5 to 8 weeks away at this stage though... I'd hold on till then, personally - but obviously this is your life, yours to decide on!


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    xxlilyxx
    Closed Accounts Posts: 144 ✭✭xxlilyxx


    MYOB wrote: »
    22 to 18 isn't that huge a gap. The change from 17 to 18 is generally seen as crucially important even if it is just 5 to 8 weeks away at this stage though... I'd hold on till then, personally - but obviously this is your life, yours to decide on!

    yeah that change from 17 to 18 is crucial and i think i would rather wait til then, its only 5wks til her birthday. Id feel better myself by waiting. Thanks for the advice. Lisa :)


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    batbaby
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    It isn't a huge gap! I think you're worrying too much over it. Just... if you want it to happen let it happen, don't let a petty thing like that stop you! :)


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    Canard
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    I know a 21yo and 15yo couple who do it, you'll be fine.


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    Tricity Bendix
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    Patchy~ wrote: »
    I know a 21yo and 15yo couple who do it, you'll be fine.

    Thats just wrong.


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    Stark
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    Patchy~ wrote: »
    I know a 21yo and 15yo couple who do it, you'll be fine.

    You do know you're advocating breaking the law and the 21 year old can be done for statutory rape?


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    Aoifums
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    I was in a similar situation except I was 16, she was 21. She flipped when she found out I was 16 though :(

    Go ahead if she's mature enough. There's nothing wrong happening, but 17 to 22 can be a bit of a maturity gap.


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    xxlilyxx
    Closed Accounts Posts: 144 ✭✭xxlilyxx


    ah she's mature enough, we get on great, she's 18 soon so would feel better if i waited til then.

    thanks for the replies everyone xx


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