Sadness hits us all

raptorman

I often wonder if people years ago suffered as much depression?

Like working I a factory for 14 hours a day from the ago of eight or whatever or eeking out an existance on a few rocky scraps of land in the west of Ireland.
Were past generations made of better stuff or have we been fooled into thinking life is supposed to be easy? In some countries people worry about their next meal etc. Maybe we feel the world owes us sunshine and rainbows.
You've got to dig deep and get over ****, life goes on but dont confuse being down or upset over something that happened as opposed to depression which is an illness in itself and requires attention.

tudlytops

The-Rigger wrote: »

A poster on the poker forum has been posting wordy posts about his research which concludes that they are all placebos.

Found it a bit depressing.

People are far to quick on the antidepressants, we have this mentality that a pill cures it all and that there is a pill for everything.

What happen to talking, friendship, family support, all replace by a pill.

tudlytops

raptorman wrote: »

I often wonder if people years ago suffered as much depression?

Like working I a factory for 14 hours a day from the ago of eight or whatever or eeking out an existance on a few rocky scraps of land in the west of Ireland.
Were past generations made of better stuff or have we been fooled into thinking life is supposed to be easy? In some countries people worry about their next meal etc. Maybe we feel the world owes us sunshine and rainbows.
You've got to dig deep and get over ****, life goes on but dont confuse being down or upset over something that happened as opposed to depression which is an illness in itself and requires attention.

I think they did suffer from depression, but we didn't know what it was, many ended up in mental institutions and got worse over the years, others the lucky ones were cared by family members, etc.

My grand father was manic/depressive for years, now known as Bi-polar, no one ever knew.

And i would be careful, some of us have had a life far from sunshine and rainbows.

In saying that I do agree we were made of better stuff, but we live in a nanny state so things are going to get worse.

raptorman

tudlytops wrote: »

I think they did suffer from depression, but we didn't know what it was, many ended up in mental institutions and got worse over the years, others the lucky ones were cared by family members, etc.

My grand father was manic/depressive for years, now known as Bi-polar, no one ever knew.

And i would be careful, some of us have had a life far from sunshine and rainbows.

In saying that I do agree we were made of better stuff, but we live in a nanny state so things are going to get worse.

To be fair I didnt insult anyone and didnt say anything derogatory about someone with depression or any other illness for that matter.

tudlytops

raptorman wrote: »

To be fair I didnt insult anyone and didnt say anything derogatory about someone with depression or any other illness for that matter.

No no you didn't, sorry if it come out wrong i just said be careful because people today have different reasons to be depressed, but they still have reasons.

And I did agree we were made of better stuff.

raptorman

No worries, its just I was a bit suprised as I did say that depression is a illness that needed attention and is completely different from being down over something.

As to helping with depression plenty of fresh veg, meat and oily fish, nuts, seeds and oats (basically a balanced diet) along with exercise goes a long way in helping.

ScumLord

easyeason3 wrote: »

After a lot of misery & sadness I'm left wondering about life.
This isn't a personal issues post but I would like to know how people cope with the general ****e life likes to throw at us all?

Life doesn't like throwing stuff at you (if it's poo coming over your neighbours walls, Hi!) life doesn't give a flying fig about you or what you do.
You're completely in control of your own life, it may not seem that way because you have to pay taxes and go to appointments with friends but you don't have to do any of those things, you only do them because you get something out of it or there would be undesirable consequences to not doing it. But you don't have to do them.
Take responsibility for your own life, it's not easy or straight forward and you'll need to accept the world as is but the world will never get the chance to let you down again.

alias06

Have a hot bath, listen to favourate music, watch comedy, ****, go for a walk, cycle, swim, whatever. I sometimes look up a poem or lyrics of a song that matches my mood like this one.

I find going out and having a few drinks and chatting up birds helps a lot. Attention from the opposite sex really lifts my mood.

Retail therapy can work too if you can afford it.

The possibilities are endless really.

Also, its important to accept that you can't always be in a good mood. If someone has died or a relationship has broken up then you should accept that you will feel down for a while and thats OK. Don't beat yourself up about feeling down or try to force yourself to be happy. These feelings will pass and you'll be back to your old self.:)

thatsa spicy

raptorman wrote: »

I often wonder if people years ago suffered as much depression?

Like working I a factory for 14 hours a day from the ago of eight or whatever or eeking out an existance on a few rocky scraps of land in the west of Ireland.
Were past generations made of better stuff or have we been fooled into thinking life is supposed to be easy? In some countries people worry about their next meal etc. Maybe we feel the world owes us sunshine and rainbows.
You've got to dig deep and get over ****, life goes on but dont confuse being down or upset over something that happened as opposed to depression which is an illness in itself and requires attention.

Yep, they called it melancholia and doctors thought it was caused by an excess of black bile or something!

But yeah, I often wonder it myself. Like were people mentally stronger years ago or what.

we'llallhavetea_old

fcuk yourself senseless, fall asleep, get up, shower, go out, get drugs, do that.

or theres always kittens.

Trev M

sheep-go-baa wrote: »

When i'm feeling a bit meh i read this site
www.grouphug.us

it's not really that other people's sadness makes me happy but just knowing there's others around feeling the same way.
then for general restoring faith in humanity there's

www.fiftypeopleonequestion.com
Disclaimer:Incites warm fuzzy feelings

This is hilarious...

"I am thinking of becoming a vigilante , that is my dream......to be a bad ass , killing all the scum that deserve it.... "

stovelid

Trev M wrote: »

"I am thinking of becoming a vigilante , that is my dream......to be a bad ass , killing all the scum that deserve it.... "

Is this person posting on AH? And if not, why not?

citizen_p

i never talk about any thing affecting me....i dont see the point in boring somone....

ijust get annoyed...never sad....its easier to blame somthing than qustion it

wudangclan

To paraphrase somebody or other
"If you don´t laugh,you´ll cry and laughter is much more salubrious."

AnonoBoy

When things are getting to me I always think of what dear old Aunt Mimi used to say when it was raining out, "Ah it's a wet old cunt of a day out there today. But I suppose a wet one is better than a dry one."

Then we'd all turn from our tea and look at her with disgust. She was a crude horrible woman. We were glad when she died.

CrazyRabbit

raptorman wrote: »

I often wonder if people years ago suffered as much depression?

Like working I a factory for 14 hours a day from the ago of eight or whatever or eeking out an existance on a few rocky scraps of land in the west of Ireland.
Were past generations made of better stuff or have we been fooled into thinking life is supposed to be easy? In some countries people worry about their next meal etc. Maybe we feel the world owes us sunshine and rainbows.
You've got to dig deep and get over ****, life goes on but dont confuse being down or upset over something that happened as opposed to depression which is an illness in itself and requires attention.

We have much much higher expectations now. We are surrounded by TV shows/movies featuring people with unrealistically exciting lives. Couple that with advertisements showing perfect models and perfect 'all smiles' families etc and you've got a recipe for depression since most people will never reach these expectations.

Also, the level of skill required in the workplace has increased dramatically. It's generally more stressful working in a job with high skill requirements.

Oh, and all the good drugs are illegal now.

ScumLord

CrazyRabbit wrote: »

Oh, and all the good drugs are illegal now.

At least it's a convenient way of knowing which drugs are good.

Trekker09

When things are really bad, I force myself to be cheerful and allow only a small amount of self pity before I do something about it. OP, I'm not trying to trivialise your state of mind, only telling you what works for me. Best of luck

jokettle

enniscorthy wrote: »

turn that frown upside down mate santa claus is on his way and they are making ghostbusters 3

This news alone has made my day