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The Pregnant Womans Moan Thread.
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The birth and "aftermath" had a huge impact on my ability (well, inability) to breastfeed. That was the plan all along. But when he was rushed off to intensive care and was being fed bottles, the implication was that the formula was better than my own milk. And of course I did KNOW better than that. But with my head all over the place, it was easier to stick with formula.
Around two weeks after he was born, I was pumping for every feed, then throwing it down the sink and giving him formula instead. Because I felt it was better for him. The milk I produced wasn't good enough. That is how totally completely f*cked up I was.
Then I stopped even pumping, and my supply went.
I've come a very long way because, at least now, I can see that I was a total mess! At the time, I thought I was being logical and rational.
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^^ What she said.
It's true that sometimes it all goes to sh1t, despite our best intentions.
But there are lovely wonderful positive stories too.
And even when it doesn't work out as planned? It's a cliche, but time is a great healer. I wake up to this gorgeous smile every single morning. It mightn't have been the birth I planned, but I could not have planned a more perfect beautiful baby.
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I presume they ask for your consent before giving oxytocin? Would it be an option to refuse? It sounds awful unless you'd had the epidural beforehand.
Of course they would.
I was on this before my subsequent C-section. In my case there was meconium in the waters, so I knew from the beginning that due to the risk of infection for the baby, I had a time limit. Unfortunately I was also only 1cm along.
The oxytocin does make your contractions more intense, but no more than a sore period pain really, and for some it can work. But after 3 hours I was still 1cm and the baby was starting to get into distress and I knew I was heading for the C-section so opted for the epidural so at least I'd be awake when the baby was born.
I found a position that really helped with the contractions, to the point it reduced them to a mid-strength period-type pain: My worst contractions were in this position according to the monitor but I barely felt them. It was actually the way they positioned me for the epidural:
Sit sideways on the bed, position your partner on a stool facing you, put your legs either side of him, shuffle your bum back on the bed so your bump is fully resting on the bed between your legs. Its a much better position for you to brace yourself for the contraction when it comes. I was able to cuddle into my partner and put my head on his shoulders and he could hold me tight when I got a pain.
Don't be afraid to move around to find what works for you.0 -
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that's the whole point of it - Google "pit to distress" or alternatively read the pdf article on this website under "Avoid Interventions That Are Not Medically Necessary" headingClaire de Lune wrote: »<...> She agreed that oxytocin does send babies in distress. She explained to me that the best way to avoid oxytocin is to stay at home labouring for as long as possible. <...>
btw all articles there are worth reading, they're very interesting.
I'm pregnant with my first and I'm not afraid of giving birth at all. What I'm afraid of is Intervention
I can't think of what to moan about. No swelling, no heartburn, no constipation, no pain, no frequent peeing, no nothing! if not the this huge bump in front of me I'd forget I'm pregnant at all :P I'm 32+5 today and +12kg :eek:0 -
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Awake since five. I had to move into the spare room with the noise of my husband. No, he wasn't snoring, jbut he was breathing. His breathing - at 5am this morning, when I'd only slept for four hours - might as well have been a war time siren. Who does he think he is with his respiration and his alive-ness, inconsiderate poopyhead... I may be a little grumpy today.
:pac:
Things are a little bit up in the air with some family stuff so I told my Mum I was really going to be relying on her help when this little one makes her grand entrance. I was duly informed that while on maternity leave it's my duty to have a hot meal on the table when my husband comes home from work and I have to make an effort not to let my standards of home cleanliness and personal care slip. I honestly don't know whether to laugh my face off or cry with frustration!!0 -
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Awake since five. I had to move into the spare room with the noise of my husband. No, he wasn't snoring, jbut he was breathing. His breathing - at 5am this morning, when I'd only slept for four hours - might as well have been a war time siren. Who does he think he is with his respiration and his alive-ness, inconsiderate poopyhead... I may be a little grumpy today.
:pac:
Things are a little bit up in the air with some family stuff so I told my Mum I was really going to be relying on her help when this little one makes her grand entrance. I was duly informed that while on maternity leave it's my duty to have a hot meal on the table when my husband comes home from work and I have to make an effort not to let my standards of home cleanliness and personal care slip. I honestly don't know whether to laugh my face off or cry with frustration!!
I'm sure you love her and all, but she is a dope. But at least you know you cant rely on her in the early days and you can surround yourself with people who are supportive and helpful.0 -
Awake since five. I had to move into the spare room with the noise of my husband. No, he wasn't snoring, jbut he was breathing. His breathing - at 5am this morning, when I'd only slept for four hours - might as well have been a war time siren. Who does he think he is with his respiration and his alive-ness, inconsiderate poopyhead... I may be a little grumpy today.
:pac:
Things are a little bit up in the air with some family stuff so I told my Mum I was really going to be relying on her help when this little one makes her grand entrance. I was duly informed that while on maternity leave it's my duty to have a hot meal on the table when my husband comes home from work and I have to make an effort not to let my standards of home cleanliness and personal care slip. I honestly don't know whether to laugh my face off or cry with frustration!!
I'd go with the laughter to save your sanity!!!:eek:
That's a very old fashioned view and I'm sure your hubby will help out loads and do dins and if there's nights where the two of you just have a sambo and a nice chat for dins cause you're both wrecked so be it! That's also what takeaways are for:)0 -
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Sit sideways on the bed, position your partner on a stool facing you, put your legs either side of him, shuffle your bum back on the bed so your bump is fully resting on the bed between your legs. Its a much better position for you to brace yourself for the contraction when it comes. I was able to cuddle into my partner and put my head on his shoulders and he could hold me tight when I got a pain.
Neyite what do you mean by 'sit sideways on the bed' sorry now it's probably self-explanatory but do you just mean to sit on the side of the bed or to lie on your side? Also I don't understand if your bum is far enough back on the bed to allow your bump to be resting on the bed, how could you be close enough to cuddle your partner sitting on a stool in front of you?
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