The Pregnant Womans Moan Thread.

Neyite

spottybananas wrote: »

My 17 month old wakes every 1-3hrs, since birth. You were lucky!!

I'm still getting up a few nights a week with my 4.5 year old. He dreams a lot. I am appreciative of his wonderful imagination but less so at 4am!

He didn't sleep through until he was about 3 /3.5. I'd say that I could count the nights he did from birth until then on one hand. And then because I was used to being woken, I'd wake up anyway with my heart thudding because I hadn't heard him. Monkey!

Dizzy bee

Beanybabog I feel your pain today....in work and feel like I'm just wasting my time being here! Between the tiredness and the pain in my hip, Im next to useless! Its so frustrating....and all my hubby says is only 9 weeks to go! 9 weeks seems like a lifetime away!!!
Love2love....where can I put in my order for one of those babies??? Lol....I love my sleep, hubby can survive on barely any....I'm hoping bubs sleep preferences are more like mine!

Beanybabog

Dizzy bee wrote: »

Beanybabog I feel your pain today....in work and feel like I'm just wasting my time being here! Between the tiredness and the pain in my hip, Im next to useless! Its so frustrating....and all my hubby says is only 9 weeks to go! 9 weeks seems like a lifetime away!!!
Love2love....where can I put in my order for one of those babies??? Lol....I love my sleep, hubby can survive on barely any....I'm hoping bubs sleep preferences are more like mine!

I know!! I am 9 (and a bit!) weeks to go and even though I have lots to do and no time or energy to do it it just seems soooo long.

My mam always tells me I was one of those babies - when I slept through the night she'd put me down at 8pm and at 8am I was still asleep. So I deserve a good baby for being such a good one myself

HelgaWard

Beanybabog wrote: »

My mam always tells me I was one of those babies - when I slept through the night she'd put me down at 8pm and at 8am I was still asleep. So I deserve a good baby for being such a good one myself

My Mam says the same about all of us, although no baby monitors, thick walls and heavy sleeping parents probably helped this!! Not that it did any of us any harm, and we all still love our sleep!!

Gatica

Seems new mattress doesn't guarantee better sleep - up 2ce to use the loo (I didn't think I drank that much water!), and still lie awake for ages after getting up or from some ache; plus as much as I wanted a firmer surface for turning in bed with SPD, it feels like a brick bed covered in a bit of foam :mad:
On the upside, only 4 weeks left at work.

TargetWidow

Hi everyone,

I just thought I'd pop in to say hello as it's been a while. The bubba with whom I was pregnant when I started this discussion is a lovely 6 now and it's lovely to see so many familiar names still popping up on the thread. No plans for more babies for me unfortunately, I'd have 10 more if they were like my little man though and if I were 10 years younger and 100K a year better off Keep on keeping on ladies xoxo

stickybean

Just a little moan this morning... but I've two - Our babies name and future God parents.

So this is a question we have got several times this week... do you have any names? and have your chosen / asked the God Parents...

Now we have talked about names, we've talked it to death and there are a few front runners that we really like. A friend popped over last night, asked for our names, which we were happy to share, she wasn't overly gone on them (her opinion), but one the girls names we chose she said we can't use :eek: apparently she "bagsied it" and had told me about it years ago... she was extremely upset that I would have even consider it

(now to be honest I have no recollection of the conversation a few years ago, and out of the list of 5 girls names we like, it is my least favourite, also my husband picked it not me, and it was in the top ten list of names last year, so there would be quite a few kids with this name). I tried to laugh it off, saying these were just ideas, but she was very upset... she is not in a relationship and has no children, not that that matters but I was really taken back.

Then the mother in law calls over. Wanted to know had we asked the God parents yet. We've decided to wait until our baby is born and then ask them both. She got really peed off saying we should be doing this now... I want to wait till our baby is here healthy and safe before we ask. What difference does it make?

Beanybabog

stickybean wrote: »

Now we have talked about names, we've talked it to death and there are a few front runners that we really like. A friend popped over last night, asked for our names, which we were happy to share, she wasn't overly gone on them (her opinion), but one the girls names we chose she said we can't use :eek: apparently she "bagsied it" and had told me about it years ago... she was extremely upset that I would have even consider it

A few people tried this with me. Shocking stuff! I laughed and said sorry that's not the way it works. If they persist I just shoot it down. Didn't even want "their" names but it's ridiculous carry on

Gatica

That's a good reason not to share any plans with anyone. People are nutty.
It's none of their business and the sooner they know their place the better, so just tell them both to cop on. :mad:
It's your baby, your name, your godparents, so don't worry about it. oh, and tell your friend in your opinion it was the worst of all the names you considered anyways so it's unlikely to happen anyway, that'll shut her up.

Beanybabog

Gatica wrote: »

oh, and tell your friend in your opinion it was the worst of all the names you considered anyways so it's unlikely to happen anyway, that'll shut her up.

No! Tell her "sorry that's on the top of my list, you cant bagsy a name":D
If that was the case I'd be well PO'd - my name has never fallen out of the top 30 in like 100 years, everyone must be robbing my name!!!

stickybean

Ah Gatcia and Beany you are both gas!!! I wish I had been that witty, I think I was more in shock....

Anyway, I am gone off the name completely now, but not telling anyone else till baby is here

Beanybabog

stickybean wrote: »

Ah Gatcia and Beany you are both gas!!! I wish I had been that witty, I think I was more in shock....

Anyway, I am gone off the name completely now, but not telling anyone else till baby is here

Yeah I couldn't believe it, like unless you make up a brand new name you don't have the right to be annoyed. And telling someone who is pregnant when you are not they can't have "your" name is just bat sh*t crazy in my opinion. People are mad.

spottybananas

Never tell people name options. They will either hate it or claim it as theirs, if you keep quiet and just name the baby they won't say anything...unless they're a super as$hole. Just say, no idea of name, will wait until we see him/her.

Re: godparents, we waited until baby was born safe before asking them but we chose them when pregnant.

Neyite

Never discuss names until you've it decided. Nobody gets dibs on a name.

The only time I would say its polite to ask is if you are thinking of a name that might be sensitive eg. if you choose a name that also belongs to a person who passed away and may upset their nearest and dearest or they may love the name being used - so that's when I'd have a quiet word.

I didn't name my baby for a few days, one midwife in the hospital kept nagging me to tell me the names on my list and she basically hated them all, plus gave me a long list of other names she hated too. :rolleyes:

With regard to godparents, I think the first people who should know is the people you intend to ask, not your MIL.

scarepanda

We never discussed names either. I didn't want a running commentary on what we were considering. My favourite names were a bit out there/not common/unusual Irish names ... Typical names that everyone would have an opinion on. Since she's arrived and we named her, all we've got have been positive comments, but knowing my family there's been conversations about our choice, but no one has been ballsy enough to say anything to us.

As for godparents, we know who the godfather will be, but there's a toss up between the godmother ( one is who you would traditionally choose, the other is who we both actually want!) However we haven't asked anyone even though DD is 6 weeks old because we haven't decided whether to get her christened. It's been mentioned by the in-laws, but they know we're not sure what to do. Nothing has been mentioned by my family yet regarding the christening in general which has really surprised me as mine are more religious!

Bottom line is that your better off not discussing either with anyone till bubs arrives because you'll never keep everyone happy. Better off to keep them in suspense as their less likely to say anything once bubs has arrived!

fits

Ahh insomnia. 4 am and I havent slept a wink yet. Thank goodness tomorrow is Saturday.

greenttc

fits wrote: »

Ahh insomnia. 4 am and I havent slept a wink yet. Thank goodness tomorrow is Saturday.

You are not alone fits! Although mine is always like some kind of reverse insomnia, fall asleep fine and sleep for three hours then need to get up and pee and I have no hope of falling back asleep again. Suppose I am lucky I got a few hours!

Notsomindful

Love2love wrote: »

There is nothing more patronising that when people say that.... "You think it's bad now, wait until the baby is here" "ooh you have no idea what what sleep deprivation is until you actually have the baby" SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP!!

You know there is a big difference in being so uncomfortable that you want to sleep and can't and then getting up for work on top of it, than waking up through the night to nuture your newborn baby and then (if it's your first at least! ) being able to sleep when they do! Plus most babies are sleeping through by 6 weeks!

Don't bank on 6 weeks thing... I got lucky with second boy but first took about 6 months.

Dizzy bee

Omg can my belly actually get bigger! It's HUGE! And so stretched and uncomfortable tonight....my belly button has almost disappeared and it's freaky. Actually don't think I can last another 8 weeks like this. I think I'm getting a cold....and there is the biggest spider I've ever seen sitting in my bedroom. Plus my hubby won't be home til tomorrow night really feeling sorry for myself!

stickybean

Dizzy bee wrote: »

Omg can my belly actually get bigger! It's HUGE! And so stretched and uncomfortable tonight....my belly button has almost disappeared and it's freaky. Actually don't think I can last another 8 weeks like this. I think I'm getting a cold....and there is the biggest spider I've ever seen sitting in my bedroom. Plus my hubby won't be home til tomorrow night really feeling sorry for myself!

I hear you... I've over 10 weeks left and can't figure out how I am going to get bigger....

Notsomindful

I am only 6 weeks but so tired. 2 other kids to mind. Never felt this tired on my previous.

greenttc

Cheese and onion crisps and other similarly stinky foods should be banned from the close confines of the Holles Street waiting room.... Way to make me feel a little nauseous Mr crisp eater!

Gatica

oh, and men that use the only women's toilet in the scan department, when you're bursting and waiting for some eejit to come out the bathroom. There's a perfectly legible sign for non-patients to use womens/men's toilets in the reception area.

Notsomindful

Have first appointment at EPU on friday so very nervous. On top of dealing with my 5 year old asd son having meltdowns all day and being a referee between a 3 and 5 year old.
Add withdrawal from meds, feeling like I will vomit all time and a so called partner who just told me he would be home earlier if I wasn't around in evening. Im so all over the place with hormones and exhaustion...

Sorry for vent... Feelibg quite awful in myself right now.

Bunnyslippers

I need a new brain, mines gone all fuzzy and foggy!:D

catrionanic

Idk how you ladies are coping. I'm 25 weeks and have started getting bad pain at what I assume is the back of my pelvis. Walking hurts, 'moving positions hurts, changing my foot from the accelerator to the brake hurts

And I'm really worried about how the next 15 weeks are going to go. The baby only weighs 1.5lbs now, so how much worse is this going to get as the baby grows and my bump rapidly expands going into the third trimester? I'm not even finished the second trimester yet ��

Lucyfur

catrionanic wrote: »

Idk how you ladies are coping. I'm 25 weeks and have started getting bad pain at what I assume is the back of my pelvis. Walking hurts, 'moving positions hurts, changing my foot from the accelerator to the brake hurts

And I'm really worried about how the next 15 weeks are going to go. The baby only weighs 1.5lbs now, so how much worse is this going to get as the baby grows and my bump rapidly expands going into the third trimester? I'm not even finished the second trimester yet ��

Go for physio. I didn't wait for a referral. Ask the physio which kind of support belt you should get. Mine is a serola belt. I've hypermobility so it's apparently the best one for me. When's your next clinic? At my last one I was sent for an immediate appointment to get crutches and wrist splints. I can't tell you the difference the belt and crutches have made. I'm still in pain and still taking painkillers twice a day but I've gone from literally crying at movement to being able to get about the house. Don't wait, go get some kind of help today, it'll make a big difference x

I'm swimming everyday too. I realise that's not possible for many people but it definitely frees me up and I have very very little pain when I'm in the water.

Beanybabog

catrionanic wrote: »

And I'm really worried about how the next 15 weeks are going to go. The baby only weighs 1.5lbs now, so how much worse is this going to get as the baby grows and my bump rapidly expands going into the third trimester? I'm not even finished the second trimester yet ��

My legs got really sore around 22 weeks for a few weeks. It cleared up though. They still get sore if I overdo it but certainly it didn't get progressively worse.

catrionanic

Lucyfur wrote: »

Go for physio. I didn't wait for a referral. Ask the physio which kind of support belt you should get. Mine is a serola belt. I've hypermobility so it's apparently the best one for me. When's your next clinic? At my last one I was sent for an immediate appointment to get crutches and wrist splints. I can't tell you the difference the belt and crutches have made. I'm still in pain and still taking painkillers twice a day but I've gone from literally crying at movement to being able to get about the house. Don't wait, go get some kind of help today, it'll make a big difference x

I'm swimming everyday too. I realise that's not possible for many people but it definitely frees me up and I have very very little pain when I'm in the water.

Oh you poor thing. It sounds like you were in a very bad way. Thankfully my pain is still bearable even without meds. Just worrying here about it worsening!

My next outpatient appt isn't until 16th November, when I'll be 30 weeks. I shall look into a physio. I don't suppose you're in Dublin and have any recommendations?

I def think a support belt will help, because when I hold my bump up in my hands the pain almost entirely ceases.

Lucyfur

I'm not in Dublin I'm afraid but I would recommend looking for a physio who either specialises in or shows an interest in women's health issues.

Definitely get the belt. Mine was €50 on amazon which is more than I wanted to spend at this stage but now I have it it's worth every cent.

Other things that really help are not putting weight on one leg, so sit to get dressed. Keep knees together when getting in and out of the car. And experiment with pillows.

And if it's any consolation, I haven't gotten any worse really since 30ish weeks