Would you date someone with a kid?

wolfpawnat

Ok, was talking to a friend regarding this matter. Here is a question for everyone, would someone having a child/children from a previous relationship;

a - make you run a thousand miles in the opposite direction.

b - make you think the person really has to be worth it.

c - doesn't matter at all.

CPT. SURF

b. is my choice.

But I take such considerations with everyone. But yeah, b. for me

Novella

If I really liked someone, I wouldn't mind if he had a kid.

Peppapig

Not if I was with a kid, they're to much hassle when im chattin a bird up

Daemos

I'd probably be a bit hesitant, but ultimately yes

admiralofthefleet

when i was 21 i went out with a girl who had a son, didnt bother me at all and i became good friends with the child

The_Kew_Tour

depends if it was mine or not;)

R0ot

A yore ma comment deleted from AH... what is the world coming to. :mad:

wolfpawnat

Decided to add a poll.

ContyHooks

Not in a million years.

stovelid

Where's the option for pretending to like the kid until you get into her pants?

wolfpawnat

stovelid wrote: »

Where's the option for pretending to like the kid until you get into her pants?

Was thinking of putting that in, but thought it was offensive!

Peyton Manning

I dont see why not, but rest assured if the kid were to cockblock me, I would not hesitate to punch it in the side of the head.

stovelid

wolfpawnat wrote: »

Was thinking of putting that in, but thought it was offensive!

Seriously though, it would make me approach things a lot more cautiously but if they were worth it, I'd give it a go.

Daemos

R0ot wrote: »

A yore ma comment deleted from AH... what is the world coming to. :mad:

The time of the yore ma jokes has passed my friend. As a time traveller you of all people should know that

TheZohanS

Have dated girls with a kid in the past. Wouldn't date a girl with more than one though.

Riddle101

Depends. I'm young at the moment and have no intention of having children yet. I'd like to wait until i'm older, if I did go out with a woman with a child, then I could become the child's stepfather eventually. But I wouldn't mind to be honest at the right time, i'd have no problem settling down with a woman with a child.

R0ot

DaPoolRulz wrote: »

The time of the yore ma jokes has passed my friend. As a time traveller you of all people should know that

Touché sir, touché

bonerm

I'd date them but I wouldn't be too serious about it. I certainly wouldn't consider the person as long-term partner material.

No

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Piste

Probably not, would probably stay friends though. By the time I'd find out he had a kid I wouldn't have gotten attached anyway. I might continue dating, but once the kid started getting in the way I'd probs bail.

o1s1n

/Runs to the hills. Runs for his life.

Terry

R0ot wrote: »

A yore ma comment deleted from AH... what is the world coming to. :mad:

I deleted 400 one day.
I was really bored.

OT, I've had crushes on two chicks with kids.
That they had kids didn't bother me at all.
While spending time with these women, they kids got to know me and they liked me. There was no bother.


























Or sex. ****ing bitches.

Kiera

It would really depend on how much i liked him. Have done in the past.

4zn76tysfajdxp

R0ot wrote: »

A yore ma comment deleted from AH... what is the world coming to. :mad:

It's progress. You'll find out when you finally register.

DazMarz

Depends really, but if I really like the girl I was going out with, I don't think I'd care if she had a kid... Once we start getting into kids territory is when I might start to draw the line.

But if a girl I fell in love with did happen to have a child from a past relationship, I don't think it would affect me one way or another, and I'd do my level best to be a good friend and a good parent to the child.

PFJSplitter

Age and character of the child would be an important consideration...

helimachoptor

A year ago i posted in a similar thread and said no fupping way!!!
now i'm not so sure mainly because kids are starting to grow on me a bit.

would still prefer my own though.

Danbo!

PFJSplitter wrote: »

Age and character of the child would be an important consideration...

Absolutely. Need to gauge threesome possibilities.

Gaspode

Would and did date single mums, and married one in the end. Best thing I ever did.
Wife and son package deal, cant resist a bargain!

helimachoptor

Stee wrote: »

Absolutely. Need to gauge threesome possibilities.

ffs...

mud

I'm not sure to be honest.

I think having a kid with someone creates a massive bond between people; regardless of why they're not together anymore, they still share this amazing experience that resulted in their child.

I think it would be hard for me to accept all the baggage that would come with the situation.

In saying that though, if I felt that spark with a guy who happens to have a kid who knows how I'd feel about it then?

wolfpawnat

Stee wrote: »

Absolutely. Need to gauge threesome possibilities.

There is always one!:rolleyes:

Gaspode wrote: »

Would and did date single mums, and married one in the end. Best thing I ever did.
Wife and son package deal, cant resist a bargain!

Haha, I never thought of it like that!!!!:D

Ms. Captain M

Single with a kid, following this with interest... Seems all is not lost!

wolfpawnat

Ms. Captain M wrote: »

Single with a kid, following this with interest... Seems all is not lost!

Well I was talking to my friend who is single with a son, heartbroken that she wouldn't find a decent fella. I am an unmarried mum too and I wondered it myself so I said I would put it out there and see what people thought

Ms. Captain M

wolfpawnat wrote: »

Well I was talking to my friend who is single with a son, heartbroken that she wouldn't find a decent fella. I am an unmarried mum too and I wondered it myself so I said I would put it out there and see what people thought

Haven't had a serious relationship in about 7 years. Have 'casually dated' I suppose you could say, and didn't seem to matter to those men that I have a son. But I can't say it wouldn't have been an issue for them further down the line

wolfpawnat

Ms. Captain M wrote: »

Haven't had a serious relationship in about 7 years. Have 'casually dated' I suppose you could say, and didn't seem to matter to those men that I have a son. But I can't say it wouldn't have been an issue for them further down the line

Well I am not too bothered about getting a fella. It's just in a few years if I decide that I might want to settle down and get married, will I get a decent man that will accept the 2 of us!

bonerm

Fair play to fellas who can accept another womans kid(s). I think I'd only be able to think of them as some other chancers cast-offs and I know certainly wouldn't love them as much as my own. That's why I wouldn't want to go down that road in the first place.

brummytom

I'd go for the kid

Agent J

Would consider it and give it a chance but long term possibility would probably be affected.

However on the upside, if they were really worth it then that wouldnt matter.

Ms. Captain M

wolfpawnat wrote: »

Well I am not too bothered about getting a fella. It's just in a few years if I decide that I might want to settle down and get married, will I get a decent man that will accept the 2 of us!

Have no interest in settling down or even having a boyfriend, and i'm 30! But yes, I would date someone with a kid. Wouldn't be an issue for me, but can totally see why it would be for some. (This site got blocked at work and just figured out how to use it on my phone, wahoo. But apologies for no paragraphs)

admiralofthefleet

brummytom wrote: »

I'd go for the kid

bit old for you though:p

Aidric

Not an issue for me. After college I dated a girl for a year who had a 2 year old kid. It didn't impinge much on our relationship.

gidget

Haven't been in that situation yet but I'd have no problem with dating a guy with a kid at all. If it was a relationship that is going well and we are looking long term, i'd also be vigilant about just how involved and interested he is in his kid. If he's no interest in the child and brushes off his responsiblities i'd wouldn't see myself sticking with him for too long.

Four-Percent

Archimedes wrote: »

I dont see why not, but rest assured if the kid were to cockblock me, I would not hesitate to punch it in the side of the head.

Or kick it in the face hopefully.

Dr. Kenneth Noisewater

No problem. As long as the kid wasn't a little brat, I'd never let it put me off a girl I really liked.

muppetkiller

I wouldn't see any problem with seeing a girl with a kid. But not if the kid was over 10 and only one kid. I think it's more that it wouldn't suit my lifestyle more than anything else.

chopperbyrne

My girlfriend has a son. She was very upfront about it and it didn't put me off at all.

I'm currently setting him up for lifetime of supporting Shamrock Rovers.

He's already wearing the jersey

Bottle_of_Smoke

She'd have to really impress me, love at first conversation kind of thing. Even still I think it would be too much grief. Meeting the father, meeting the paternal grandparents, diminishing time and funds I can invest in my own genepool, sounds like a nightmare. Other major risk is that in a few years I want kids and she isn't bothered because she already has one.

However if I was a single parent too I think it would be easier. Would feel like her family and child's family would accept me more and I wouldn't be the only one going through that nonsense, as well as being on an even level regarding genepool.

starbelgrade

Depends on how hot the kid is.

wolfpawnat

I am actually quite surpirsed so many people are open minded. From what I saw around home, not many fellas would, then again their mammys would think I would be after the family farm with a bit of road frontage!