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Lets all be anxious/depressed together.
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Where to begin? Im 35 now and have been depressed since mid-teens. Dropped out of college etc due to lack of confidence really and feeling unable to communicate with people. People can be so annoying yet I feel so lonely as well some of the time. I have even developed a stammer, its manageable but i still shudder at the thought of public speaking. I have always biten my nails since a child but the past few years I have to wear plasters in the evening to stop me from chewing my frigging fingers off. Then i only start rubbing my eyes with my knuckles.
Serious problem, can totally associate with what people are saying here. I live alone in a city that i am not from and seem unable to make new friends due to me being a flipping a mental patient as i never go out anymore and i am really quiet in a group now bar when pissed. Been off sick from work for the past 6 weeks due to depression/anxiety but i must go back next week. Went to doctor last year for first time re depression and am now on 200mg of Lustral per day. Grand but get fcuk all sleep and hard to get a boner so from today i am gonna stop taking them as they are not really working for me when i weigh it all up. Anyone got experience of coming of the stuff? Its mainly due to sleep, without sleep you are screwed.
Sometimes i wish there was a massive nuclear bomb dropped on us or something similar as then i wouldnt have to go through another day of nothingness. Dont want to commit suicide for sake of family left behind so please North Korea bomb this country. I have been a total recluse just going out the odd time. Dont bother answering the phone half the time or the front door - feel so trapped, alone, lonely and messed up. I drink around 5 cans a night for the past 10 years just so i can sleep so need to give that up as well. Just all seems so hard. When the dark cloud comes over your mind it gets so bleak.
Don't stop the meds straight away, need to be stepped down over a couple of weeks. And would be the same with the drinking. Could end up with two withdrawls instead of one. As WalterMitty said, get referred to a psych. A gp can only give so much help as they only have basic psych knowledge.
If Lustral isn't working then the psych would prob prescribe something different and the hateful thing is that it can take a while to get the correct type of med and dosage to work. I had to try so many different combinations of antidepressants, antipsychotics and mood stableizers - took quite a while but when they got it dialed in, the mood started to change.
Try going for a good walk in the evening - it'll get more oxygen through the system, release endorphins and can help relax and tire you out. Know you prob can't even get off the couch but try and force yourself.
Take care
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Hi all,
Sorry to hear some of you are having a bad time at the moment.
I've been there, done that, have the t-shirt, I haven't posted here in a long time now, but know I did post somewhere along the way.
I've had years of ups and downs so I'll try give my 2c
It took me a long time to get to where I am now. I could give the long version of all the docs and meds, but I have to go to bed soon.
Please please persevere and try and find a good doctor who will listen to you. I found that the younger the doctor the more in tune with this stuff they are, and also seem to be more up to date with latest meds.
It took ten years of complete ****tiness before I found the right doctor and the right meds.
I'm not saying I'm blissfully happy now, but I can handle life a lot better and I can feel/know it when I'm starting to go down, I can sort of put it off now, mainly by just making sure there is as little stress as possible, not easy I know.
Do NOT just stop meds, please talk to your doc, cutting meds can cause more hassle in the long run and it takes longer to get back up, in my experience anyway.
There is hope, believe me
We are all good, clever, caring people, just sometimes we find life tougher than others.
I hope things get a bit easier for some of you soon.0 -
Hi all,
Sorry to hear some of you are having a bad time at the moment.
I've been there, done that, have the t-shirt, I haven't posted here in a long time now, but know I did post somewhere along the way.
I've had years of ups and downs so I'll try give my 2c
It took me a long time to get to where I am now. I could give the long version of all the docs and meds, but I have to go to bed soon.
Please please persevere and try and find a good doctor who will listen to you. I found that the younger the doctor the more in tune with this stuff they are, and also seem to be more up to date with latest meds.
It took ten years of complete ****tiness before I found the right doctor and the right meds.
I'm not saying I'm blissfully happy now, but I can handle life a lot better and I can feel/know it when I'm starting to go down, I can sort of put it off now, mainly by just making sure there is as little stress as possible, not easy I know.
Do NOT just stop meds, please talk to your doc, cutting meds can cause more hassle in the long run and it takes longer to get back up, in my experience anyway.
There is hope, believe me
We are all good, clever, caring people, just sometimes we find life tougher than others.
I hope things get a bit easier for some of you soon.
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High as a kite yesterday, anything possible, wanted to buy this that and the other, plans upo plans. Took a fierce bit to get myself home before i landed up half way across the country on some mad goose chase. Not sure what today is yet...
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Was doing ok during the week but starting to feel really lonely again now.
Boards is like my only outlet for talking to people now, which is really quite depressing.When I was getting treatment I was told by the psych nurse in charge that I should go out. He basically said "Go out, have your couple of pints but just don't go mad on it. Locking yourself away only causes more problems" Best thing was ever told - I had basically become a hermit which made me even more depressed and the more depressed I became, the less I wanted to go out. But that nurse and a few that worked with him arranged a day and a night out for the patients in the day hospital I was attending - it was one of the best nights I ever had - even got up and sang on stage :eek:
I kept myself away from socialising a lot during college, when I first started getting depressed. After a couple of years I tried to rectify it but I just didn't have friends who were anyway interested in going out with me. If they were bored and stuck for something to do they might ask me along for a night out. But when I ever suggested something...."oh sorry, I have other plans" (they usually didn't) or "oh I don't feel like it tonight (or any other night) :rolleyes:
It's like any time I make friends they always just talk to me when it suits them. It's made me really bitter about people that, even when I make an effort, I get shunted so often.
Over here in China I do miss having a social life. But if I was back home in Ireland, I'd be stuck at home with my parents (because I can't afford to go anywhere else) and not be able to enjoy a social life anyway. Forget about love life; my trust level in relationships is at zero after two disastrous breakups.
I feel so lonely a lot of the time, and yet trying to get people to be friends with me has just been really difficult.:(Hi all,
Sorry to hear some of you are having a bad time at the moment.
I've been there, done that, have the t-shirt, I haven't posted here in a long time now, but know I did post somewhere along the way.
I've had years of ups and downs so I'll try give my 2c
It took me a long time to get to where I am now. I could give the long version of all the docs and meds, but I have to go to bed soon.
Please please persevere and try and find a good doctor who will listen to you. I found that the younger the doctor the more in tune with this stuff they are, and also seem to be more up to date with latest meds.
It took ten years of complete ****tiness before I found the right doctor and the right meds.
I'm not saying I'm blissfully happy now, but I can handle life a lot better and I can feel/know it when I'm starting to go down, I can sort of put it off now, mainly by just making sure there is as little stress as possible, not easy I know.
Do NOT just stop meds, please talk to your doc, cutting meds can cause more hassle in the long run and it takes longer to get back up, in my experience anyway.
There is hope, believe me
We are all good, clever, caring people, just sometimes we find life tougher than others.
I hope things get a bit easier for some of you soon.
foxinsox, thanks for sharing. I know your intentions are great and I hope your words bring comfort to people.
But a few lines stuck out for me in that post: "It took me a long time to get to where I am now." and "It took ten years of complete ****tiness before...."
and it just seems like too long. I've already been feeling horrible about myself for two years, there's no way I could handle another eight or ten. I mean, how long should you wait hoping for things to get better before it becomes apparent that they might not?
I'm really sorry if it seems like I'm flaming or rubbishing your post or anything, I'm honestly not trying to do that. I just find it hard to be optimistic most of the time.
By pure coincidence, the song I'm listening to right now (Sleep Alone by Bat for Lashes) has the following lines:
"They say for every high high, there must be a low low low.
And for every sun ascending, a lonesome moon will grow."
As much as I hate to say it, I think those lines are pretty much spot on. Every cloud may have a silver lining, but any silver lining in my life usually gets followed by a bigger cloud.0 -
Captain Graphite wrote: »Was doing ok during the week but starting to feel really lonely again now. Boards is like my only outlet for talking to people now, which is really quite depressing.
I kept myself away from socialising a lot during college, when I first started getting depressed. After a couple of years I tried to rectify it but I just didn't have friends who were anyway interested in going out with me. If they were bored and stuck for something to do they might ask me along for a night out. But when I ever suggested something...."oh sorry, I have other plans" (they usually didn't) or "oh I don't feel like it tonight (or any other night) :rolleyes:
It's like any time I make friends they always just talk to me when it suits them. It's made me really bitter about people that, even when I make an effort, I get shunted so often.
Over here in China I do miss having a social life. But if I was back home in Ireland, I'd be stuck at home with my parents (because I can't afford to go anywhere else) and not be able to enjoy a social life anyway. Forget about love life; my trust level in relationships is at zero after two disastrous breakups.
I feel so lonely a lot of the time, and yet trying to get people to be friends with me has just been really difficult.:(
foxinsox, thanks for sharing. I know your intentions are great and I hope your words bring comfort to people.
But a few lines stuck out for me in that post: "It took me a long time to get to where I am now." and "It took ten years of complete ****tiness before...."
and it just seems like too long. I've already been feeling horrible about myself for two years, there's no way I could handle another eight or ten. I mean, how long should you wait hoping for things to get better before it becomes apparent that they might not?
I'm really sorry if it seems like I'm flaming or rubbishing your post or anything, I'm honestly not trying to do that. I just find it hard to be optimistic most of the time.
By pure coincidence, the song I'm listening to right now (Sleep Alone by Bat for Lashes) has the following lines:
"They say for every high high, there must be a low low low.
And for every sun ascending, a lonesome moon will grow."
As much as I hate to say it, I think those lines are pretty much spot on. Every cloud may have a silver lining, but any silver lining in my life usually gets followed by a bigger cloud.
I don't get bigger
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Captain Graphite wrote: »foxinsox, thanks for sharing. I know your intentions are great and I hope your words bring comfort to people.
But a few lines stuck out for me in that post: "It took me a long time to get to where I am now." and "It took ten years of complete ****tiness before...."
and it just seems like too long. I've already been feeling horrible about myself for two years, there's no way I could handle another eight or ten. I mean, how long should you wait hoping for things to get better before it becomes apparent that they might not?
I'm really sorry if it seems like I'm flaming or rubbishing your post or anything, I'm honestly not trying to do that. I just find it hard to be optimistic most of the time.
Don't be sorry, I know what you mean and I did think of that today while I was working...
Maybe I didn't write it properly, but I meant : It shouldn't have taken me all those years of horrible before I got the PROPER help. The PROPER help was there all along, I just didn't find it. Does that make more sense?
I'm often raging that I didn't find it sooner. That's what I was trying to say, like if I was younger when I found "a kinda peace with depression", my life would/might have been different.
I'm defnitely not saying, "ah sure it will all be great", I know it is not that easy, I wish it was.
I'm just saying what I said because it might help someone. I defnitely feel so much better than I did when I was younger and a lot of it is down to receiving proper help and also as I've grown older I've learnt how to deal with it better.
Things can and will get easier
I certainly still can have ****ty days, but they are days now, not weeks.
Sorry if I came across wrong to some people, honestly don't mean to say the wrong thing, just as you know sometimes typing comes out slightly different from what I'm trying to say in my head. If that makes sense? 0 -
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was discharged from hospital about two weeks ago. haven't been good since. came off my meds, by accident at first and then decided to stay off.
mood swings are incredible. go from very dark and agressive to happy out in the space of minutes. I'm hoping that this is the meds and that it will settle
Hospital keeps offering me a bed. i feel like Ive earned frequent flier miles or something. The though of re-admission fills me withe dread. and fear about my already precarious position at work. The long and the short of it is that i was discharged too early
The swings are terrible - but that's cos of your system being used to the meds and then nothing there. If you think you were discharged too early then why not take up the hospitals offer of the bed. At least then they'll be able to monitor the moods and meds better. Know you're worried about your work but without your health, work is meaningless.
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As nesf said, it can be done. Could even try internet dating (psst.....that's what I did 
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