Lets all be anxious/depressed together.

Kaching

cloud493 wrote: »

Ah. When will you know?

I might never know

Princess Peach

howsyourtusk wrote: »

If you're telling someone you're depressed and they try and ignore it it's either because they actually don't care or more likely, they don't know what to do or say. I'm lucky in that I have an understanding family and friends who are also great to talk to about it. I'm not sure what the best approach is to convince people who don't seem to care. But I just doubt that they don't care. So good luck popsicklegirl, and remember, everyone on here cares and has no issue talking about it, if you ever feel really glum just come on here

I told my friends and they ignored it. Pretty sure its because they didn't care though. They were not good friends. Moved away 3 months ago and they couldn't be bothered to stay in contact. Had a bad panic attack one day and was texing a girl back home at the time, she never bothered to ask how I was afterwards, text me one day with a long list of her problems is all. I think its really bad form that I moved far away by myself and they never even ask how I am. I do agree that some people avoid the subject for lack of understanding, just was not my case sadly.

It used to get me really down how I didn't have any good friends, and I would think "Whats wrong with me" that the friends I had didn't want to spend time with me. I now realise I was just really unlucky with the group I was in, cause I'm pretty awesome and a great friend, they were just really selfish! Things have gotten better now that I moved and am making new friends

howsyourtusk

Bobbity wrote: »

I often ask myself the same question about friends, but the sad truth is, I actually don't have any close friends. Acquaintances yes, but friends I can call up or call round to, no. Somedays I'm so lonely and down, I crave someone to talk to. I have my husband and family, but to be honest, I might as well talk to the wall. I have been thinking about suicide more and more lately, the only thing stopping me is my kids. I just want to make the pain go away, but it's not shifting. Sorry, rambling

Why can't you talk to your husband or family? Are they aware you've had suicidal thoughts? Should definitely go to your gp or a counsellor if you're feeling that way and share on here too of course. You won't be as lonely if you spill all here, hope you're ok

stupidusername

i'm doing better today met a friend this morning, and had a bit of a look around town. made some food. spent the evening doing nothing, but chatting to himself and a friend online. he's making an effort, and it's great.

reading my book, some things are clicking with me. though haven't got very far into it yet. thinking i may have dysthymia. hoping this book will do me good.

cloud493

Bad day to be honest

howsyourtusk

stupidusername wrote: »

i'm doing better today met a friend this morning, and had a bit of a look around town. made some food. spent the evening doing nothing, but chatting to himself and a friend online. he's making an effort, and it's great.

reading my book, some things are clicking with me. though haven't got very far into it yet. thinking i may have dysthymia. hoping this book will do me good.

Glad you're doing good

cloud493 wrote: »

Bad day to be honest

Tell us about it sure if you want!

cloud493

Just been sick and down more than usual all day you know how it goes(most of you)

sam34

bobbity, post deleted. please go to your gp or a&e

Temaz

The higher dose of Zispin is starting to kick in. Starting to feel much better, fingers crossed!!

Captain Graphite

When in doubt, get drunk. Right?
When hating the world, get drunk. Right?

Well, that was my plan tonight. But it made me feel worse. So I just poured a shítload of vodka down the sink. I know it's a waste but right now I feel good!

And I'm never drinking vodka again, unless it's part of a cocktail. Cocktails, rum and cider are my happy drinks! Other stuff evidently just has the opposite effect. :mad:

I just wish there was more to do here than get drunk to try and forget stuff. I really don't wanna turn into someone with an unhealthy relationship with alcohol.

Wilberto

Captain Graphite wrote: »

When in doubt, get drunk. Right?
When hating the world, get drunk. Right?

Well, that was my plan tonight. But it made me feel worse. So I just poured a shítload of vodka down the sink. I know it's a waste but right now I feel good!

And I'm never drinking vodka again, unless it's part of a cocktail. Cocktails, rum and cider are my happy drinks! Other stuff evidently just has the opposite effect. :mad:

I just wish there was more to do here than get drunk to try and forget stuff. I really don't wanna turn into someone with an unhealthy relationship with alcohol.

That's precisely why I don't drink....((well, very, very rarely anyway!)

Alcohol is a depressant. Before I used to be able to go out and get, relatively, drunk but it just ceased having the same affect on me. Now it just causes me to get even more depressed.


Now though, I find that it's very important for me to just keep busy and give myself less time to think. Your mind can be your own worst enemy at times, especially if left to wander.

I still suffer from depression and I know that I should probably talk about it to someone but I'm just not that way inclined. I'm more of a listener than a talker. Anyways, that's enough about me - the point of this post is (with regards to depression anyway definately):
Drink = Bad
Keeping Active = Good!

((Just a quick synopsis!!:p;);)))

Gillo

Great post Wilberto, same reason why I very rarely drink.
The other thing to bare in mind is that alcohol is great at washing SSRI's out of your system.

stupidusername

not doing good now.

Princess Peach

When I was really down a few years ago I drank all the time. It was a strange thing. At the time my headspace was that I just really wanted to go out and socialise and get out of the house and make friends and have a good time, that it was good for me. And that part of it was. But I also used to drink to the point of a blackout once/twice a week. I always said it was accident, or it was cause of my medication but looking back on it now I couldn't have accidentally gotten that drunk every single time.

It wasn't really a depressant for me though, I did always have a great time and wanted to go out again straight away. Really can't remember a time that alcohol was the reason for me getting down. But def the drinking myself into oblivion was something serious, could never really pinpoint why I did it.

Much better now, have seriously cut back. Mostly because it wasn't healthy and I was so sick of being known as the drunk mess of my town! I still drink once/twice a week with friends but a smart amount, cause I'm old and wise now.

Looking back on your point now Captain Graphite maybe one of the reasons I drank so much and went out so much was because there was nothing else to do. That was what my friends were doing at the time so I followed along. You're good to throw the vodka away, I could never do that in the past! One thing that has really helped me lately is I have switched to drinking beer. I do really like beer but I would drink it slower than vodka, and cause it fills me I don't drink too much of it.

howsyourtusk

stupidusername wrote: »

not doing good now.

here for chats if you want

stupidusername

thanks.pointless.i do it to myself

howsyourtusk

Go on, spill. It's never pointless.

stupidusername

just the usual. insecurities, trying to ignore it, he picks up on it anyway and i upset myself, and him. just so tired of myself.

howsyourtusk

Know how you feel. How are you getting on with him not being in touch? Dealing ok with it?

stupidusername

dealt with it better today.in terms of me and anxiety, but in terms of him, couldn't quite keep it from him.

howsyourtusk

So you told him, and he acts differently because of it. I do it too. Why do you have to tell him? I'm just curious, I do it too, but wondering what makes you need to actually tell him?

stupidusername

because even over text, even when i'm trying to get past it, he still picks up on it.

but that's obviously down to me. i was going to say it's not my fault, but it must be. i mean the reason he picks up on it is because my mood comes off different. maybe i'm looking for him to make me feel better by letting him know there's something wrong, inadvertently.

and that'd be for reassurance. which is me all over. basing my self worth on what others think of me.

howsyourtusk

It's that need to tell him that I think, if you could beat it, would be a huge step for you. If you just had a coping mechanism at the point were your brain says, "dump out all your insecurities now" then I reckon you'd be getting on great! Do you get anxious if you don't tell him?

stupidusername

I know, I've been saying that for a while now, that it's a matter of being able to realise when i'm having irrational worries, and find a way of ignoring it. I don't have a way of ignoring them now though.

yeah I do get anxious. like tonight though i knew it wasn't his problem, i still got anxious over it. i did better than usual trying to let it go.

howsyourtusk

That's exactly it. Do you think if the physical symptoms of anxiety were gone it might be easier? Does your meds help with that? I know it works for me. The only thing is I want a solution away from the meds.

stupidusername

it's really hard to imagine not having the physical symptoms. but no i don't think it'd make a difference. meds don't help with the physical thing, a little with the mental stuff

howsyourtusk

My meds do. I take beta blockers. They really help with the physical side of it. But they're not regularly prescribed for anxiety. The physical aspect of it is surely the worst though? The mental side is just your brain doing it's thing. The physical reaction is your brain trying to shut you down, flight response sort of thing.

stupidusername

i'm not sure which is worse. but i expect the mental is. i mean physical is just physical.

howsyourtusk

Hmmm, I dunno, tightness in your throat, increased heart rate, sinking feeling in your tummy. If those feelings aren't there the anxiety passes...

cloud493

I haven't hurt myself in... its been a while now. And I still want to so badly