How many have you / would you like?

Khannie

mariaf24 wrote: »

Now that there. Bang on. That terrible irresponsible Irish attitude. Have 4 kids and let the tax payer foot the bill?
That is the irresponsible attitude i meant.

Wow, i knew this attitude existed but it's still mind blowing to see it written by someone.

So you wont be collecting your childrens allowance this month, right?

mariaf24

Everybody receives child benefit.

Khannie

CathyMoran wrote: »

Interesting, I thought that 3 would be a great number as I really wanted an extra sibling growing up...am really hoping that our son (coming soon) is not an only child...there was a big age gap between us and I always wanted another sibling closer in age.

I had a fairly hefty age gap too (I'm the youngest by 14 years :eek:). Definitely wouldn't want to have that for my own kids.

mariaf24: The things that are limiting the number of kids I'll have are not financial or career based. For me it's really down to:

The amount of time I could spend with them
The physical and emotional toll of pregnancy

mariaf24

mariaf24 wrote: »

Now that there. Bang on. That terrible irresponsible Irish attitude. Have 4 kids and let the tax payer foot the bill?
That is the irresponsible attitude i meant.

Wow, i knew this attitude existed but it's still mind blowing to see it written by someone.

Why is it irresponsible to claim things that the state provides based on your PRSI? What is the point of paying PRSI? Do you think people in the UK are irresponsible for claiming free healthcare? You say everyone receives child benefit, yes, everyone who is entitled to child benefit can claim for it, in the same way that anyone who is entitled to any other benefits can claim for them.

It's mind blowing to see such a self righteous attitude in this day and age to be honest.

mariaf24

I did not mean PRSI, Ofcourse everyone is entitled to claim dental costs etc. That poster said ireland has great benefits if you know how to use the system. I did not know they were referring to PRSI etc as they had not stated this.

mariaf24

mariaf24 wrote: »

I did not mean PRSI, Ofcourse everyone is entitled to claim dental costs etc. That poster said ireland has great benefits if you know how to use the system. I did not know they were referring to PRSI etc as they had not stated this.

She didn't say if you know how to screw the system did she?
She meant if you knew what you were entitled to. I thought that was quite obvious actually.

I agree with above posters about the time being the most important thing for their children. One of the reasons I have taken so long to decide on having another child is my fear that my daughter will have to suffer from less attention. She is an angel of a child and absolute sweetheart and to think of having to share my love for her scares me a little. I've done it before but its a little different now as I know that you can't take a single minute for granted.

mariaf24

Deleted User wrote: »

She didn't say if you know how to screw the system did she?
She meant if you knew what you were entitled to. I thought that was quite obvious actually.

I agree with above posters about the time being the most important thing for their children. One of the reasons I have taken so long to decide on having another child is my fear that my daughter will have to suffer from less attention. She is an angel of a child and absolute sweetheart and to think of having to share my love for her scares me a little. I've done it before but its a little different now as I know that you can't take a single minute for granted.

I think there was a misunderstanding.

Your last point i identify with. The love i have for my daughter goes so deep sometimes it catches me and it's frightening. Sometimes i wonder do all mothers feel this for ther children or is it only me? lol. And now we're discussing having another. No more me and her... But i'm sure a mother of more than one has extra love to give.

mariaf24

mariaf24 wrote: »

Your last point i identify with. The love i have for my daughter goes so deep sometimes it catches me and it's frightening. Sometimes i wonder do all mothers feel this for ther children or is it only me? lol. And now we're discussing having another. No more me and her... But i'm sure a mother of more than one has extra love to give.

Well I've been a mother of two in the past! And there was no question that I had enough love for both of them. And there are very few parents on the planet who don't automatically have enough love for as many children they have. It's a strange phenomenon really. You can love only one man/woman at a time but you can unconditionally love as many children as you have! It's wonderful. And I know that I would of course adore my next child, but I'm still scared that my little darling daughter would miss out. Stupid when you think logically about it! But love aint logical

Deliverance

Khannie wrote: »

I know it's been done before, but I think it's worth asking again every once in a while. You know...people change.

We have 3 now. I'd like at least 1 more, probably would want 2 more but age will be a consideration so we'll play it by ear.

You?

I would ideally like 2 or 3. I have 1 and am v.happy with her. I would like her to have a sister or brother and all that but circumstances dictate otherwise.