What constitutes great chemistry between 2 people?

Tchaikovsky

Before I start, for all the smart-ars€s out there, this has nothing to do with scientific experiments

I figured this would get more feedback in TLL than TGC:
What, do you think, constitutes great chemistry between you and another person? Also, is it there from the start or is it something that can develop over time?

Me personally, I'd feel it when I've spent hours chatting and laughing with a girl, without any uncomfortable silences and being oblivious to everything and everyone around me

Aisling(",)

For me i love it when you cant stop smiling when you think about them and see them.And when you see their name come up on a text and you smile.
I love that feeling.
The comfortable feeling when youre with someone and dont feel like youve to pretend to be anyone else...that click is amzing.

Novella

Great chemistry; that's when your eyes meet and for a second you have to think to remember how to breathe. Your heart beats a little bit too fast and even though there are a hundred other people in the room, you only see one.

I think maybe chemistry is that something that when it's there, you don't really think about it, but when it's missing, you can't think about anything else. Have you ever met someone and wanted to like them?! They were a nice person, sweet and down to earth and all the things you could ever hope for, but something was just missing and you could never figure out what... I think that's chemistry - the 'spark', that "Oh, you know when you know!" thing.

Physical chemistry you know right away.
It is a body shock, the rest of the world stops and sinks away.
Your both mesimerised by the revelation of other. Shiney. While you eventually get back to normal things like breathing and thinking. You never lose that flutter of excitement, just to be by that someone.


I've only ever felt it once, and it is quite depressing to think that I mightn't ever feel it again.

I've never mentally clicked with someone, that might be the type of chemistry that grows?

BumbleB

I think its when time seems to keep still ,you are in some kind of trance and you kind of completely forget your surroundings and its just you and her (him) interacting.You are in the moment and everything is perfect.
I had this experience when I was chatting to a girl last week. Very nice.:)

Dr_Phil

Good chemistry is if I fart and she doesn't leave the room disgusted. That means she's really into me.

Silverfish

Dr_Phil wrote: »

Good chemistry is if I fart and she doesn't leave the room disgusted. That means she's really into me.

This is quite possibly true.

I despise bottom burps from anyone, but when His Lordship does it, I don't mind it at all.

Dr_Phil

There you go...

dammitjanet

Ah the comfortable silences, always a great indication! And of course that super happy amazing tingley feeling you get after the first kiss.
I commented to my OH after our first kiss "I felt a spark there" and he replied "It was more like a fire"

Ickle Magoo

Sexual chemistry is just instant unadulterated lust...

Chemistry of the non-physical variety, for me, is just ease of relationship. None of the awkwardness or stress or struggling to find conversation, agreeing on the important issues while being able to debate others, just "getting" each other without the usual months of learning what makes someone tick. Learning all their faults and knowing you can happily live with them.

FoxInATreehouse

Tchaikovsky wrote: »

What, do you think, constitutes great chemistry between you and another person? Also, is it there from the start or is it something that can develop over time?

A big part is simply being comfortable with that person, being able to sit without saying anything and not feel awkward, or sharing intimate details with him or her. A fun part for me is the ridiculous grin I get whenever I get to talk to him.

At the start I think it would be more of a physical connection, and the emotional connection would develop as the relationship continues. How fast that happens is going to change for each person.

Boston

Silverfish wrote: »

This is quite possibly true.

I despise bottom burps from anyone, but when His Lordship does it, I don't mind it at all.

Is this not love? Or at least a prerequisite for it on a minor level? To accept another's flaws and move past them.

Giselle

The ability to laugh uproariously, talk incessantly, and enjoy protracted silences equally, in the company of someone who makes puts your body on sexual red alert.:)

Little Acorn

Definitely agree with the people who mentioned comfortable silences. Ickle Magoo has a great answer imo regarding having complete ease of conversation,no awkwardness, and ability to debate things etc.
I think chemistry can apply to friendships aswell,there are some people I meet who I just instantly like and have a warm,friendly feeling towards,y'know the type of peope you sometimes meet and before long feel like ye have known each other for years?
For myself and my boyfriend, it includes all of the above, but also we have a certain type of eye contact, and sort of knowing(not sure if that's the right word?) smiles at each other, that give a really strange warm happy special type of feeling. Noticed all this from when we first met-wouldn't call it love at first sight(cos I'm not sure I believe in that), but definitely an odd feeling of having some kind of a strong "connection".
I never had a long term relationship before him, but we're almost 6 years together now from the very first night we met,so something definitely clicked.
He's my best friend in the entire world aswell as being my boyfriend.
He's the only person I know that I can have a passionate argument with, but still know that it's not the end of the world,and that we will be made up in no time at all. I kind of fear arguments and stress over them with other people.
I'm in complete happiness and comfort in his company,whatever it is we're doing whether it's socialising, spending a day out somewhere, or even just chilling out in the house watching tv or just chatting to each other.
I always feel interested during our conversations, and able to express myself better with him than I can with anybody else. He understands my train of thought and gives me the time to express it.
I feel completely comfortable and happy in the bedroom with him, (although that was alot of work on his part,as I had absolutely zero experience beforehand!:o)-he has an amazing ability to make me feel at ease,and secure-can't imagine feeling as secure with anybody else ever.
We make each other laugh, and often find odd little things funny that other's don't get..
We have some weird sense of understanding of what the other person is thinking and feeling, without always having to tell each other. This could be something like feleing angry or sad about something, but could also be if we were in a situation which we both find funny but it would be innappropiate to laugh,but when the coast is clear we'll turn to each other and split our sides!
Overall I'd just describe it as an odd sense of "connection" upon meeting, that just gets stronger and stronger with time.:)

Beetlebum

Little Acorn wrote: »

Definitely agree with the people who mentioned comfortable silences. Ickle Magoo has a great answer imo regarding having complete ease of conversation,no awkwardness, and ability to debate things etc.
I think chemistry can apply to friendships aswell,there are some people I meet who I just instantly like and have a warm,friendly feeling towards,y'know the type of peope you sometimes meet and before long feel like ye have known each other for years?
For myself and my boyfriend, it includes all of the above, but also we have a certain type of eye contact, and sort of knowing(not sure if that's the right word?) smiles at each other, that give a really strange warm happy special type of feeling. Noticed all this from when we first met-wouldn't call it love at first sight(cos I'm not sure I believe in that), but definitely an odd feeling of having some kind of a strong "connection".
I never had a long term relationship before him, but we're almost 6 years together now from the very first night we met,so something definitely clicked.
He's my best friend in the entire world aswell as being my boyfriend.
He's the only person I know that I can have a passionate argument with, but still know that it's not the end of the world,and that we will be made up in no time at all. I kind of fear arguments and stress over them with other people.
I'm in complete happiness and comfort in his company,whatever it is we're doing whether it's socialising, spending a day out somewhere, or even just chilling out in the house watching tv or just chatting to each other.
I always feel interested during our conversations, and able to express myself better with him than I can with anybody else. He understands my train of thought and gives me the time to express it.
I feel completely comfortable and happy in the bedroom with him, (although that was alot of work on his part,as I had absolutely zero experience beforehand!:o)-he has an amazing ability to make me feel at ease,and secure-can't imagine feeling as secure with anybody else ever.
We make each other laugh, and often find odd little things funny that other's don't get..
We have some weird sense of understanding of what the other person is thinking and feeling, without always having to tell each other. This could be something like feleing angry or sad about something, but could also be if we were in a situation which we both find funny but it would be innappropiate to laugh,but when the coast is clear we'll turn to each other and split our sides!
Overall I'd just describe it as an odd sense of "connection" upon meeting, that just gets stronger and stronger with time.:)

Wow...that is one of the nicest ways I've ever heard someone express their love for their boyfriend. I will die happy if somebody someday feels that way about me and describes me how you just did. That's just beautiful.

I don't think I've ever truly been in love. I thought I was with my ex but he hurt me so badly and betrayed me so much I don't think it was ever real love.

I remain hopeful though.

To me the song 'Somebody' by Depech Mode sums up love and chemistry perfectly.

Aw, I wanna be in love:(

MeerKat17

Wow little Acron! Your love is strong it makes me question my own relationship!!
I'm with my boyfriend 2 years now, we live together, love each other and are very happy together, there's no akward silences or anything like that, I could tell him anything, and i trust him completely....
But I still don't know if he'd my soul mate, if that makes sense?

I think Chemistry is build over time, and the first few months of a relationship is when you feel it most... when u just want to be together every second of every day.

G86

I think real chemistry hits you straight away, it's when you meet someone and you just 'click' - god it's so hard to put into words! For me it's the little things like just being content to sit grinning at each other for hours with no need to talk about anything. It's that jolt you get every time he touches your hand and the butterflies you get every time you kiss - not just the first time, every time.

It's when you meet someone you can completely be yourself with, someone you can trust with anything - when you just know that no matter what you tell them it won't change how they feel about you. It's not having to ask them to be there for you, because they just are.

It's when they give you the confidence you never knew you had; it's when they believe in you..and make you believe in yourself.

It's in the hidden smiles too...you know the one's you exchange above the heads of everyone else in the room, so that in that moment everyone else disappears and it's just you.

And it's in the giggles, not just the laughter.. the giggles! You know, the cheeky comments you throw at each other and the 'in' jokes that no-one else gets; it's when you can slag each other to death, and still know you're loved.

seenitall

Chemistry is laying your eyes on someone for the first time on a spring evening. Kissing in winter.

Getting to second base 8 years later.

Getting to third base 5 years later still.

Having great times. Knowing someone very well, and not knowing them AT ALL.

Chemistry is NOT about partnership. It is about kinship. It is about friendship. It is about freedom for electricity to happen.

Most definitely, it is one of life's great highs.