Relationships vs On The Pull

formula1

Would you prefer to go out every night and shaft some random young one you might never see again?

or

would your prefer to be going out with someone?

Abi

formula1 wrote: »

Would you prefer to go out every night and shaft some random young one you might never see again?

or

would your prefer to be going out with someone?

I take it this question is just for the guys? Only I've nothing to shaft with...


Both have their good and bad points.

/shrugs

tman

When I go out "on the pull", the only thing I usually end up pulling at the end of the night is my own todger.
Hollow loveless sex isn't much of an attraction either...

So relationships ftw for me!

mikom

What would Tiger do?

TPD

mikom wrote: »

What would Tiger do?

Hunt Deer?

Kasabian

A relationship full of love, mutual respect and trust with common goals and ambitions for the future spent by the sea in that little white cottage.


I am a romantic at heart.

Abi

lonad wrote: »

A relationship full of love, mutual respect and trust with common goals and ambitions for the future spent by the sea in that little white cottage.

Someone pass me a bucket




Wait till Biggins sees this thread, he'll have a field day 0/

El Siglo

mikom wrote: »

What would Tiger do?

This is a good answer to that question.
Personally, I blame the 'Wizard Alien'...

alwaysadub

I'd prefere to be in a relationship.
I did all the meaningless sex in my younger days,would prefere to be waking up to the same person every morning these days than a stranger.

Kasabian

Abitar wrote: »

Someone pass me a bucket




A bucket for collecting mussels and crabs to have with the salad growing in the garden and the fresh bread baked from the stone oven, yes your getting the picture now

I'd swap that for any meaningless shafting anyday:P

AckwelFoley

do both ftw

alwaysadub

Abitar wrote: »

Someone pass me a bucket




Wait till Biggins sees this thread, he'll have a field day 0/

I had presumed it was Biggins when i was reading it,till i looked over at the username:D

rainbowdrop

When I was in a relationship, I wanted to be free and single, go on the pull and shag all round me!! Now that I'm single, I'm sick of one night stands, and would give anything to be in a relationship........

I'd say a lot of people would be like this, thinking the grass is greener on the other side, when, in actual fact, it's not!!:(

gonnaplayrugby

relationship.

Kasabian

alwaysadub wrote: »

I had presumed it was Biggins when i was reading it,till i looked over at the username:D

Oiii , behave

El Siglo

snyper wrote: »

do both ftw

And end up like Tiger Woods?

formula1

formula1 wrote: »

Would you prefer to go out every night and shaft some random young one you might never see again?
or

would your prefer to be going out with someone?

You make it sound like that's a given. Not true, and the grass is not always greener on the other side

Kasabian

rainbowdrop wrote: »

When I was in a relationship, I wanted to be free and single, go on the pull and shag all round me!! Now that I'm single, I'm sick of one night stands, and would give anything to be in a relationship........

I'd say a lot of people would be like this, thinking the grass is greener on the other side, when, in actual fact, it's not!!:(

Ring that person , you'd never know they might be missing you too

rainbowdrop

lonad wrote: »

Ring that person , you'd never know they might be missing you too

Haha, she does, but she's living in Australia now....... There's long distance relationships and there's LONG distance relationships! Guess I'm destined to be alone forever *sob*

Dudess

Generally speaking, relationship - but a lot depends on where you're at in life. You might not be ready for a relationship after a bad break-up, so then, casual encounters are the preference. Although ridin' someone different every night wouldn't be for me personally - now and again though.

Mrmoe

Neither.

Abi

lonad wrote: »

A bucket for collecting mussels and crabs to have with the salad growing in the garden and the fresh bread baked from the stone oven, yes your getting the picture now

Sweet jesus...

/logs off

:pac:

alwaysadub wrote: »

I had presumed it was Biggins when i was reading it,till i looked over at the username:D

oh believe me... you'll know when hes hit the thread.. it'll be like a short story

Darlughda

That poll is shyte.
Totally depends on the relationship, stage of life you are at, and whether you mean 'on the pull' as in dating, or you mean drunkenly grabbing the last human left standing as the club shuts.

Being in a relationship is fantastic when it is fantastic.Otherwise wouldn't swap the thrill and excitement of never knowing who you might meet next, who you might fall in love with, not to mention how much better sex is when its still got that freshness.

Nothing worse than being in a bad relationship, or having to psyche yourself up for the bedroom because you can't admit to yourself your sick of the sight of him and familiarity really can breed contempt.

Abi

Darlughda wrote: »

That poll is shyte.
Totally depends on the relationship, stage of life you are at, and whether you mean 'on the pull' as in dating, or you mean drunkenly grabbing the last human left standing as the club shuts.

Being in a relationship is fantastic when it is fantastic.Otherwise wouldn't swap the thrill and excitement of never knowing who you might meet next, who you might fall in love with, not to mention how much better sex is when its still got that freshness.

Nothing worse than being in a bad relationship, or having to psyche yourself up for the bedroom because you can't admit to yourself your sick of the sight of him and familiarity really can breed contempt.

Nail on the head tbh.

Dudess

Is that advice for Darlughda, Abi? :pac:

bronte

D'you know that bit at the beginning where you both haven't a clue what's going on but it's ridiculously exciting.
You fancy the pants off each other and everyone else is teasing you about it.
You feel like your 15 year old self in the midst of an intense crush on (insert 15yr old self's crush here!)
When you have to find something to lean against every time he walks in the room because it genuinely feels like you're going to fall over.

That.

I want to have that forever, whatever it is!
It makes me stupidly happy!
I may also try and bottle it and sell it to people.

Abi

bronte wrote: »

D'you know that bit at the beginning where you both haven't a clue what's going on but it's ridiculously exciting.
You fancy the pants off each other and everyone else is teasing you about it.

This rawks

Bolag_the_2nd

rainbowdrop wrote: »

When I was in a relationship, I wanted to be free and single, go on the pull and shag all round me!! Now that I'm single, I'm sick of one night stands, and would give anything to be in a relationship........

I'd say a lot of people would be like this, thinking the grass is greener on the other side, when, in actual fact, it's not!!:(

aaahhhh, i so want to give u a hug right now

Tar.Aldarion

Much prefer a relationship but sometimes you just can't be in one after the last...like now. So this having random sex thing is ok for now, can be quite exciting, but I'm a relationshipy person moreso. I like looking after somebody hehe. Nothing feels better than the right person, well maybe a bj.

gonnaplayrugby

i dont have any desire to go on the 'pull' im not religious at all but my first time will be with the one i love. thats just my personality tho

Tar.Aldarion

gonnaplayrugby wrote: »

i dont have any desire to go on the 'pull' im not religious at all but my first time will be with the one i love. thats just my personality tho

Hey I did the same thing, best of luck to you, was worth it I think!
Much more casual with sex after that.

Kasabian

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

Hey I did the same thing, best of luck to you, was worth it I think!
Much more casual with sex after that.

I did the same , waited till I had met " the one ", I was hopelessly in love , it was a disaster , we had no rythmn at all. I fumbled , she lay there and held her breath. It was terrible , it was suppose to be magical , she cried.

Edit , I now know what I am doing:p

GLaDOS

Relationship man myself, the single scene is so shallow, especially in clubs

Tar.Aldarion

lonad wrote: »

I did the same , waited till I had met " the one ", I was hopelessly in love , it was a disaster , we had no rythmn at all. I fumbled , she lay there and held her breath. It was terrible , it was suppose to be magical , she cried.

Edit , I now know what I am doing:p

lmao, sorry to hear man, good effort though! We made the mistake of performa condoms, they anaesthesise you...so nobody knew they were having sex, it was more like a marathon

Kasabian

ScienceNerd wrote: »

Relationship man myself, the single scene is so shallow, especially in petri dishes


fyp:pac:

Super-Rush

I'm so lonely.

GLaDOS

lonad wrote: »

fyp:pac:

I'm just looking for someone with a little culture

Wibbs

I prefer mutual medium term relationships myself. I think it suits my personality. One nighters not so much at all.

Now there are very good and healthy long term partnerships out there. I know a few. That said IMHO they're rarer than people think and too many are in couples for the sake of it, or because they're so interdependent, emotionally and socially, to leave. I see too many that I would go mad with boredom in. Ones where the woman requires constant emotional upkeep and will never be satisfied or the guy is emotionally detached and will never be satisfied and both are going through the motions. All too common archetypes unfortunately.

So I've come to the conclusion I'll not do another long termer again. That could change of course, but I'd be surprised TBH. I'm emotionally independent and dont want kids so not so much an issue.

Mr Benevolent

Wibbs wrote: »

I prefer mutual medium term relationships myself.

What are you, a building society?

Wibbs

Naw a **** bank.

pirelli

bronte wrote: »

D'you know that bit at the beginning where you both haven't a clue what's going on but it's ridiculously exciting.
You fancy the pants off each other and everyone else is teasing you about it.
You feel like your 15 year old self in the midst of an intense crush on (insert 15yr old self's crush here!)
When you have to find something to lean against every time he walks in the room because it genuinely feels like you're going to fall over.

That.

I want to have that forever, whatever it is!
It makes me stupidly happy!
I may also try and bottle it and sell it to people.

Sounds like an exciting beginning of a good relationship but these strong feelings can sometimes be biased and even truncated leading to emotional pain.

When your are out meeting ( trying to meet) women you can experience feelings and emotions similar to the above post but your not as tied to these emotions.

A smart woman can make you swoon, literally; and a pretty face can make your head feel a bit lighter . An attractive woman can entrance and with a even a slight movement of her eye in your direction can spark a romantic encounter sometimes brief and sometimes mysterious.

Then there is just hard core need a woman and this is the human instinct at work and everyones a wonderful encounter. Rather than be like this i would much rather have a relationship.

The OP question is fanciful for most and meeting beautiful women at the drop of a hat seems a bit fantastical.

mikom

bronte wrote: »

When you have to find something to lean against every time he walks in the room because it genuinely feels like you're going to fall over.

That.

I want to have that forever, whatever it is!
It makes me stupidly happy!

Tried heroin?

Davidius

There's less work involved in getting sex from the same girl multiple times than there is in getting sex from multiple girls, especially at the same time.

mikom

Davidius wrote: »

There's less work involved in getting sex from the same girl multiple times than there is in getting sex from multiple girls, especially at the same time.

You ever been married?

Darlughda

Wibbs wrote: »

Now there are very good and healthy long term partnerships out there. I know a few. That said IMHO they're rarer than people think and too many are in couples for the sake of it, or because they're so interdependent, emotionally and socially, to leave. .

:eek:
It always amazes me when people dread or fear being single when THIS in bold above is my idea of the most suffocating, claustrophobic hell imaginable.

Wibbs

And crazily common Darlughda IME. I think some in that situation make themselves feel better by saying and thinking "oh well being on your own would be so much worse". They equate being single with being on your own. Im single, but defo not on my own. Know lots of interesting people of both genders who enrich my life.

tupac10

i would say in a relationship , i was in a 6 year relationship since i was 16 .. im 22 now and on the pull making up for lost time.. All the lads think im having the tie of it.. but if im honest sex is alot better when you truly love the person .. i'd give anything to wake up to the same person every morning(eg, my ex) the some randomer..

Co45

I am sitting in the kitchen on my laptop whilst my girlfriend cleans up the delicious dinner she just made. Once she is finished cleaning up we are going upstairs where she will let me do whatever I want to her. Later she will iron my shirt for work tomorrow and more than likely throw me a quickie in the morning.
So yeah, relationships ftw.

Red Hand

Co45 wrote: »

I am sitting in the kitchen on my laptop whilst my girlfriend cleans up the delicious dinner she just made. Once she is finished cleaning up we are going upstairs where she will let me do whatever I want to her. Later she will iron my shirt for work tomorrow and more than likely throw me a quickie in the morning.
So yeah, relationships ftw.

You mean you had a pot noodle and ****.

_Kaiser_

As said above, it completely depends on the relationship and the stage you're in in it. They're constantly evolving and not something you can leave on "autopilot".

If you both are keeping things fresh, making the effort and genuinely having fun together and enjoying being together - out of the bedroom as well as inside it - then a relationship is always gonna win out over a random one-nighter

If however, you're together out of a fear of being alone, or just going through the motions, then better to end it and be single.

Cupcake_Crisis

Relationship's any day!! Im a firm believer that sex is better when you have a strong emotional connection with a person as well as a strong physical one so sex with randomers just doesnt do it for me! Goin out on 'the pull' is gettin fairly boring tbh!