Why are you single?

hyperbaby

djhunter30 wrote: »

I better be careful of the next woman I'm with so, just incase!

actually i'm going to Athlone on a hen night next weekend!
be afarid, be very afraid! :P

alias141282

I'm single basically because I suffer from depression and can't get my act together.

I know people on here are saying 'I'm happy being single' etc. Yeah ok, but who wouldn't want to be with someone they are really attracted to?There is no better feeling. I'm determined to get my head sorted out so I can be with someone long term.

old hippy

alias141282 wrote: »

I'm single basically because I suffer from depression and can't get my act together.

I know people on here are saying 'I'm happy being single' etc. Yeah ok, but who wouldn't want to be with someone they are really attracted to?There is no better feeling. I'm determined to get my head sorted out so I can be with someone long term.

And if he/she wants to be with you, they will make allowances for your depression.

It's all about projecting a positive vibe, even if your outlook is grim on any given day.

Undertow

alias141282 wrote: »

I know people on here are saying 'I'm happy being single' etc. Yeah ok, but who wouldn't want to be with someone they are really attracted to?There is no better feeling. I'm determined to get my head sorted out so I can be with someone long term.

I'm with you on that buddy. Its true, there is no better feeling than been with someone you're really attracted to. I think my main problem is that I find it hard to meet women due to living in a new town and not knowing too many people. I'm also admittedly quite picky too which doesnt help!

epgc3fyqirnbsx

Undertow wrote: »

I'm with you on that buddy. Its true, there is no better feeling than been with someone you're really attracted to. I think my main problem is that I find it hard to meet women due to living in a new town and not knowing too many people. I'm also admittedly quite picky too which doesnt help!

You see I'd take being in a new town as a big positive. I'm from a decent sized town, by Irish standards, and people find it hard to hook up here because everyone knows you already or knows your mates and might have certain prejudices or misinformed opinions as a result of this. And the fact that they know you might make it more difficult to go out on a limb and in for the kill.

But in a new town, new people, you are a blank canvass and can show them who you really are. You're in a good position cos people are generally sound and always love to meet new people.
So go out on a limb dude!

G-Money

alias141282 wrote: »

I know people on here are saying 'I'm happy being single' etc. Yeah ok, but who wouldn't want to be with someone they are really attracted to?There is no better feeling. I'm determined to get my head sorted out so I can be with someone long term.

As with a lot of things, I suspect there are some who say they're happy with being single but they're just putting a brave face on it and who deep down actually would quite like to be with someone.

Undertow

Thea Tart Watchdog wrote: »

You see I'd take being in a new town as a big positive. I'm from a decent sized town, by Irish standards, and people find it hard to hook up here because everyone knows you already or knows your mates and might have certain prejudices or misinformed opinions as a result of this. And the fact that they know you might make it more difficult to go out on a limb and in for the kill.

But in a new town, new people, you are a blank canvass and can show them who you really are. You're in a good position cos people are generally sound and always love to meet new people.
So go out on a limb dude!

You could be right man! I'm just not the sort of lad that approaches women in bars or clubs... I'd have to be introduced to them first! Y'know its funny the way things go- I was in 3 relatively long term relationships in college and since I've left... sweet FA! After the demise of the last relationship I said I'm gonna take 6 months out and enjoy the single life... here I am 4 years later and hating it!

grandmaster wrote: »

As with a lot of things, I suspect there are some who say they're happy with being single but they're just putting a brave face on it and who deep down actually would quite like to be with someone.

Dead right!

magma69

grandmaster wrote: »

As with a lot of things, I suspect there are some who say they're happy with being single but they're just putting a brave face on it and who deep down actually would quite like to be with someone.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HCTJeT2i9QU

AskMyChocolate

Because I'm tired of being ultimately disappointing. I'll stick with being a reasonable friend.

shuvly

Am out there forv the hugs, am ahuggy bear!..but am after ahvung a few drinks, so am all about the love...........

Kiera

Because i'm crazy

Lux23

I am seeing some casually and I am thinking of asking him to 'go steady' so I will be probably be back to fully single again. How come all men I go out with only want something casual? Is this a default setting for starting relationships and I just haven't learned how to convince them that I should be their girlfriend?

Kiera

Lux23 wrote: »

I am seeing some casually and I am thinking of asking him to 'go steady' so I will be probably be back to fully single again. How come all men I go out with only want something casual? Is this a default setting for starting relationships and I just haven't learned how to convince them that I should be their girlfriend?

Its the other way round for me. You're doing something wrong, or maybe i am

Wonkagirl

Lux23 wrote: »

I am seeing some casually and I am thinking of asking him to 'go steady' so I will be probably be back to fully single again. How come all men I go out with only want something casual? Is this a default setting for starting relationships and I just haven't learned how to convince them that I should be their girlfriend?

how long are you seeing him?

as you have suggested, having this conversation will probably scare the bejaysis out of him. dont do it.

play it cool girl! the cooler you play it the more they want you.

you shoudl read a book called ''why men marry bitches'' it's brilliant, not normally an advocate of self help books but came across this in a hostel in NZ and it gives great advice

Lux23

No I don't roll that way. I tell people how I feel and if they accept it great, if not then we break. I won't play it cool if I am keen on him, that makes no sense to me. I just don't understand why he says its a casual thing when we spend most of our free together and are in contact constantly when are not together. How is that casual?

clived2

My reason is at 3.01 minutes in below

bnt

Lux23 wrote: »

I am seeing some casually and I am thinking of asking him to 'go steady' so I will be probably be back to fully single again. How come all men I go out with only want something casual? Is this a default setting for starting relationships and I just haven't learned how to convince them that I should be their girlfriend?

Because, it seems to me, being in a relationship has gotten more difficult and expensive, while many of the reasons for doing so have fallen away. Marriage? Optional. Children? Unnecessary. What's left? Friendship, companionship, sex, and you don't need a "relationship" to enjoy those things.

Personally, I lost interest in playing "the game" once it was clear I was no good at it. If you keep doing something you don't have to do, repeatedly, when it's clear it's not going to work, that's a sign of madness. Sure, a relationship would be nice, but it's a luxury. Not something that should ruin my life and empty my wallet. If you're tempted to say "well, you haven't met the right person", you'd be right, but so what? I don't have to do this. :cool:

starbelgrade

Single people are just sad, lonely souls, wandering the earth like half-people, desperately seeking anything to fill the deep hollow void that haunts their empty, miserable existences.

Kiera

starbelgrade wrote: »

Single people are just sad, lonely souls, wandering the earth like half-people, desperately seeking anything to fill the deep hollow void that haunts their empty, miserable existences.

Speak for yourself. I'm very happy being single

starbelgrade

Kiera wrote: »

Speak for yourself. I'm very happy being single

laugh

Kiera wrote: »

Speak for yourself. I'm very happy being single

So you're not looking for anything to fill the hollow void then? :pac:

Kiera

laugh wrote: »

So you're not looking for anything to fill the hollow void then? :pac:

You make it sound huge. I'm as tight as a nuns knickers i'll have you know :P

laugh

Kiera wrote: »

You make it sound huge. I'm as tight as a nuns knickers i'll have you know :P

Being the gentleman that I am, I took out the word deep so as not to imply your lady garden was in any way cavernous.

Dudess

Kegel exercises are great all right.

Dudess

laugh wrote: »

Being the gentleman that I am, I took out the word deep so as not to imply your lady garden was in any way cavernous.

Lady garden only refers to the bush, not the vadge itself.

Kiera

Dudess wrote: »

Lady garden only refers to the bush, not the vadge itself.

Yeah was just thinking that. I prefer to call it my "happy place".

W.Shakes-Beer

I like having my own freedom, the thought of having a girlfriend isn't a bad one but im not going to go out specifically to find a suitable girl.

Im much happier just biding my time and sooner or later a fine lass will come along! :P

laugh

Dudess wrote: »

Lady garden only refers to the bush, not the vadge itself.

Hmm I thought some women used it for all of the stuff down there considering the distinct lack of foliage in general these days. I have no preference either way myself, as long as I can get to the treasure without too much of a hunt.

Abrasax

Dudess wrote: »

Kegel exercises are great all right.

?

They've even got them for men.

Am I too assume the exercises involve insertion of the object pictured in the wiki-page?

My eyes are starting to water just thinking about it.

Kiera

Abrasax wrote: »

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They've even got them for men.

Am I too assume the exercises involve insertion of the object pictured in the wiki-page?

My eyes are starting to water just thinking about it.

No, you dont need to use tools. Sure i'm doing them right now as i'm typing this

Abrasax

Kiera wrote: »

No, you dont need to use tools. Sure i'm doing them right now as i'm typing this

Got it.

I'm right on it.

So, how many reps can you do?

Banned Account

I am single because I have not yet learned how to warp the space time continuum.:(

P.S. It is a scientifically proven fact that Kegels are the best way to prevent your gee from looking like a window cleaners pocket - keep up the good work ladies - we men salute you.

P.S. Dudess, in light of the above, I may have to re-name the band!

That_Guy

I am single because.....




Discuss.

laugh

Kiera wrote: »

No, you dont need to use tools. Sure i'm doing them right now as i'm typing this

It doesn't describe how they are done on Wikipedia, is it like pelvic thrusting?

Banned Account

That_Guy wrote: »

I am single because.....




Discuss.

... You're from Meath?

Banned Account

laugh wrote: »

It doesn't describe how they are done on Wikipedia, is it like pelvic thrusting?

Nah, that tones your ass - try clenching - it's good to be in touch with one's feminine side.

Kiera

laugh wrote: »

It doesn't describe how they are done on Wikipedia, is it like pelvic thrusting?

Do you think i'm sitting here in my office with other people thrusting? :P

Its clenching.

Fizman

Kiera wrote: »

Yeah was just thinking that. I prefer to call it my "happy place".

I prefer to call it your love cave.

CreepingDeath

Kiera wrote: »

No, you dont need to use tools. Sure i'm doing them right now as i'm typing this

Must be a foldable keyboard.

ibarelycare

Fitzcaraldo wrote: »

... You're from Meath?

:mad:

i.need.a.job

got stung once, never let it happen again

laugh

Fizman wrote: »

I prefer to call it your love cave.

I think you'll find a love cave is on killiney hill: directions

Kiera

i.need.a.job wrote: »

got stung once, never let it happen again

Awww.... that's not a good reason to stay away from relationships. Not every gal/guy you meet will hurt you!

Micky Dolenz

laugh and Kiera, get a room or at least keep it to PM's.

i.need.a.job

Kiera wrote: »

Awww.... that's not a good reason to stay away from relationships. Not every gal/guy you meet will hurt you!

cant really be bothered in goin through the whole thing again

Suit Up

I have a long list, and some probably contradict each other

I'm very stuck in my ways and like a LOT of me time.
I'm often insecure about myself also which doesn't help matters.
I don't like to approach women when i'm out. (i actually prefer going out to have fun, not to look for a partner!)
It's very hard to meet people these days, unless it involves both parties being pissed in a pub or club, which isn't a good start for me.
Women bore me when they start talking like women do.
I have a bizarre off switch, which means that as soon as I've slept with somebody, I lose all interest.
I'm not that attractive.
I like the idea of a relationship, but the most i've managed in the last few years is 1 month. I get bored insanely quickly.

that list is just off the top of my head.
I have a date tonight, wish me luck

ibarelycare

Suit Up wrote: »

I have a long list, and some probably contradict each other

I'm very stuck in my ways and like a LOT of me time.
I'm often insecure about myself also which doesn't help matters.
I don't like to approach women when i'm out. (i actually prefer going out to have fun, not to look for a partner!)
It's very hard to meet people these days, unless it involves both parties being pissed in a pub or club, which isn't a good start for me.
Women bore me when they start talking like women do.
I have a bizarre off switch, which means that as soon as I've slept with somebody, I lose all interest.
I'm not that attractive.
I like the idea of a relationship, but the most i've managed in the last few years is 1 month. I get bored insanely quickly.

that list is just off the top of my head.
I have a date tonight, wish me luck

She's a lucky lady :pac:


Ah, good luck though

Suit Up

ibarelycare wrote: »

She's a lucky lady :pac:


Ah, good luck though

Thanks, to be fair, there's something about this one. We did have the most enjoyable first date ever last week. Both of us agreed that it was the best one ever (she even put it on her facebook status). And we slept together and I haven't lost interest yet.:pac:

Flojo

I'd prefer to be in a relationship, can meet people to date, but haven't me the right one yet.

Closest one for me.. I'm not bothered though, when it happens it happens like. The single life is grand but it's always nice having someone there to share stuff with, like stds.. stupid cheesy jokes... the lowdown of your terribly boring life etc.

Banned Account

Suit Up wrote: »

And we slept together

Ooooh, well la-di-fookin'-da look at me with all my sexings and stuff - no blue balls for me - i get loving so I do ... etc etc