Looks vs Personality

sheesh

Mousey- wrote: »

well looks win in my opinion, everyone has some personality and can change etc... where as your born with looks (genes etc...) and they are the first thing somone notices before they even know if you have a personality

mmmm... I think people can change their look more easily than they can change their personality. you can exercise take better care of your appearance etc. but if its in your nature is to be a selfish cow or a heartless pr*ck that really cannot be changed without some major effort on your part.

Yes goodlooking people get hit on more often but if they have personality of a snail they will get dropped just as quickly. no amount great cheekbones flat stomachs great tits and ass (and legs that go all the way up! ) make up for someone being a big meany.

AckwelFoley

LOOKS!

You cant fcuk personality

Sod'o swords

snyper wrote: »

LOOKS!

You cant fcuk personality

So you're rather be told someone didn't like you because of your looks, but liked your personality, which you then have gone and said you cannot fcuk, which by your logic, means you won't ever get fcuked?

El Siglo

MistyCheese wrote: »

Hmm, I'm not really a cat person but that little cub is so cute. Em, I mean, I'd wager the cub has a delightful and charming personality.

More so than the fella holding him, let's just say in this case his personality was a bit of a problem...

Novella

I'd be way more upset if someone told me they thought I'm hawt but have a rubbish personality.

You don't need to change who you are for a girl, OP. You should never do that. You will find someone who thinks you're hot and a great guy and she'll love your personality and that'll feel waaaay better than knowing you had to alter yourself.

minidazzler

snyper wrote: »

LOOKS!

You cant fcuk personality

Unless she has the personality of a slag!

Abi

ATM I'm thinking of doing what I can to change myself

I dunno. Were you hoping for a different answer this time OP?

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055872766




My opinion remains the same. I change for nobody.

AckwelFoley

minidazzler wrote: »

Unless she has the personality of a slag!

I hate your logic

RacoonQueen

Depends on what it is about your personality they don't like. If you're an annoying dickhead who never stops stabbing people in the back, moans about everything and bitches non stop then, yes, I think you need to work on your personality.

If not, I'd be more offended if they didn't like me because of my personality than my looks. I couldn't give a fudge what I look like, there's always people who will and will not find you physically attractive...

--LOS--

I wouldn't be offended by either.

If they didn't like my personality, I can be damn sure I didn't like theirs either.

If they didn't like my looks, I wouldn't blame them :pac:
At a basic level people can't help the way they look, so what, am I supposed to be apologetic for that, or at the other end of the spectrum be flattered that someone likes my parents genes

Obviously I'd be more flattered if someone liked my personality than if they liked my looks.

Needless to say looks do come into things when there is an attraction between personalities but it's just a sealing factor since they're both subjective and there wouldn't be one without the other in a serious relationship.

corkcomp

TrollHammaren wrote: »

I genuinely believe that one of the most unattractive traits in a woman is nasty personality.

defo. it can be over looked for a one nighter though:D

minidazzler

snyper wrote: »

I hate your logic

Hey, it's a story to tell TBH. Probably would!

entropi

The one point people have not mentioned is that looks always win out at the start, you really cannot tell what a person is like purely by looking at them.

And for those stating change of personality: you CANNOT change personality through willful actions...only superficial aspects of it, like new haircut, listening to different genre of music and hanging out with different people etc...core beliefs and true personality can never change under normal circumstances.

And to answer the OP like I have done so in another one or two threads on the same subject: I will never change parts of myself just to get the attentions of a woman, I do just fine as I am and that is how I roll.

sponsoredwalk

Master of Nothing wrote: »

The one point people have not mentioned is that looks always win out at the start, you really cannot tell what a person is like purely by looking at them.

sponsoredwalk wrote: »

How many times have you been wrong in that split second unconscious judgement you've made? Never? I doubt it...

sponsoredwalk wrote: »

You can also be wrong in that judgement and you can change your mind and find somebody hot all of a sudden. I have & I know others have too.

Kasabian

Op , the only person you should change for is yourself. Positive changes for yourself .

As for looks and personality, I have gone out with very good looking girls but the more I got to know their personality the the less attractive they become.

A good personality in a person can also have the opposite affect. One girl in particular had such a fantastic personality about her and in the way she was with people, that to me she just became more attarctive as I got to know her.

To me your are intially drawn to a person by their physical appearance but unless you are really fickle it is the personality that keeps you there.

Fear Uladh

*Inserts 10th ****ty "you cant stick your penis into a personality" joke*

Erica<3

It's not an easy thing to decide...
If I found out that a guy i liked didn't like me because of the way I looked, I'd love to be able to say I could just brush it off, but I really couldn't.
However, someone deciding that you looked ok, but they didn't like your personality wouldn't be nice to hear either.

I think I'd prefer to hear that they just didn't like my personality, purely because you can change your looks all you want, you can never change your personality.

Nulty

thats a toughy....medium level of both please?

Ugly charmers get chicks so probably that for me.

vicecreamsundae

i'd rather be told they didn't like my personality. i'm perfectly happy with my personality so if i met a guy who didn't like it, i could shrug it off easily. but if i found out he didn't like my looks, it would hurt my feelings more.

CrazyRabbit

MistyCheese wrote: »

But both looks and personality are subjective. There are people who think I'm a wonderful human being (seriously) and there are people who would happily pack me off to Serbia just so that they never have to talk to me again. Likewise there are people who would pay me to take my clothes off and dance around for them and there are people who'd rather have their eyes removed than watch me do that.

Could you please stop posting here. Head over the the Siberia discussion forum instead please. Thanks.

RoyalMarineComm wrote: »

Id never change my personality for a girl/woman.

Why should i? I am who i am.

If she cant love/like me for who i am, then fúck her. not worth it at all.

I think that's the point. You won't be able to fúck her!

macaronicheese

gonnaplayrugby wrote: »

Ok this is not a question about which one you go for but which would you prefer as the reason a certain girl/boy didn't like you.

I found out a girl I like thought I'm hot, but we'll never be because of of my personality.

So which would hurt you more? Finding out the girl you like thinks you're a great guy but thinks your ugly, or finding out the girl you like thinks your hot but doesn't particulary like you.

ATM I'm thinking of what I can do to change myself.

A face & personality transplant.

Kasabian

macaronicheese wrote: »

A face & personality transplant.

Why drag up this thread weeks later , just to post a comment like that. Is it just being cruel or are you attempting humour.

I am interested to know.

Gunsfortoys

I find it both pitiful and hilarious that people who spend the majority of their lives on the internet can be so superficial.

macaronicheese

Gunsfortoys wrote: »

poopoo

NO.