How long before sleeping together?

whatsherface

Hi question for the guys here I have recently started seeing a really
lovely guy, I was just wondering how long would you wait before sleeping with a girl you were dating?. I know its different for everyone, we have had one date so I know it won't be for awhile thing is I love sex and getting close to somene but dont want to scare him off by making a move..
Cheers

homerun_homer

If you've decided you do want to sleep with him then the biggest hurdle is over for you, go with the flow.
Obviously sleeping with someone on the first meeting or date can come across as jumping the gun for both parties but after that to me it's not a question of how long you should leave it. You should do what you want and if the moment strikes and you are up for it, then go for it.

It's sorta like kissing on a date, you can't force it if the right moment doesn't come. Be prepared for it happening when it does but don't plan it. Spontaneity & surprise is best.

Novella

The way I see it is if two people wanna have sex, they should just have sex. I can't stand all of the, "Oh, gotta wait 'til after three dates or six dates"... whatever. If things are going in that direction and that's what you want, happy days. If he leaves because he thinks you are easy, thinks you should have waited, that's his issue.

If he wants to wait, that's fine. Some people just aren't ready to hop into bed when they don't know a person and there's nothing wrong with that either.

RedRebel

homerun_homer wrote: »

If you've decided you do want to sleep with him then the biggest hurdle is over for you, go with the flow.
Obviously sleeping with someone on the first meeting or date can come across as jumping the gun for both parties but after that to me it's not a question of how long you should leave it. You should do what you want and if the moment strikes and you are up for it, then go for it.

It's sorta like kissing on a date, you can't force it if the right moment doesn't come. Be prepared for it happening when it does but don't plan it. Spontaneity & surprise is best.

Solid advice here.

Otis Driftwood

Ive waited from 2 dates up to 2 months,it really shouldnt be an issue once both parties feel comfortable and ready.

MoodeRator

homerun_homer wrote: »

If you've decided you do want to sleep with him then the biggest hurdle is over for you, go with the flow.
Obviously sleeping with someone on the first meeting or date can come across as jumping the gun for both parties but after that to me it's not a question of how long you should leave it. You should do what you want and if the moment strikes and you are up for it, then go for it.

It's sorta like kissing on a date, you can't force it if the right moment doesn't come. Be prepared for it happening when it does but don't plan it. Spontaneity & surprise is best.

Novella wrote: »

The way I see it is if two people wanna have sex, they should just have sex. I can't stand all of the, "Oh, gotta wait 'til after three dates or six dates"... whatever. If things are going in that direction and that's what you want, happy days. If he leaves because he thinks you are easy, thinks you should have waited, that's his issue.

If he wants to wait, that's fine. Some people just aren't ready to hop into bed when they don't know a person and there's nothing wrong with that either.

Perfectly sound advice! there are no rules or calculations. It always best to go with the flow, it is more enjoyable that way as well!!
Nothing worse than premeditated sex.

Pherekydes

whatsherface wrote: »

I know its different for everyone...

You've answered your own question, surely?

pinkpigs

For what it's worth apparently the average seems to be around the fourth of fifth date.

Again as pervious posters said when it feels right you'll know.

Good luck and enjoy!

P.P.

Up de Barrs

pinkpigs wrote: »

For what it's worth apparently the average seems to be around the fourth of fifth date.

Again as pervious posters said when it feels right you'll know.

Good luck and enjoy!

P.P.

Disagree slightly, would say 3rd date is about average, personally if it isn't happening by then I'd be getting worried, but as said do whats right for you.

Otis Driftwood

MoodeRator,please bear in mind this is tGC so there is no need for that type of thing.