Dating sites?

mood

Thinking about joining a dating website. Do you know of any good ones? Any advice?

Snoopy1

Be picky, very picky!!
Im on one, and have met weirdos, stalkers, guys with girlfriends, guys after one thing!!
Im sure there are nice men out there, but just be careful.
I have met a couple of nice guys as well

mood

Can you recommend a site? There seem to be a lot. PM me if you like.

reallyrose

I like okcupid. Even if you don't meet anyone boyfriend-worthy, you can generally find someone interesting to chat to. I met my best-friend-ever on it!

Snoopy1

Ive never heard of okcupid, is it good.
Im on Plentyoffish at the moment

Snoopy1

mood wrote: »

Can you recommend a site? There seem to be a lot. PM me if you like.

I pm'd you!!

colly10

How are these sites at finding good matches, are ye likely to end up on alot of dates with people not suited to ye in the slightest?

liah

OkCupid is definitely my favourite, seem to be little to no creeps/pervs/taken people messaging me on it which is a nice change. Plus, if you're bored, there's plenty of quizzes to take and other activities you can do on the site, so there's always something.

But it's globally based instead of just Irish so the results aren't quite that localized, but there are a fair amount of Irish people on it.

RhubarbCrumble

My friend met a girl on datinginireland.com, and they're getting married soon.

LilMsss

Dating websites definitely have their place. I have tried them in the past, mainly because my work schedule had affected my social life and I wasn't getting out enough, or connecting with men when I was out.

There are a lot of really decent men out there, and I went on numerous dates ... but there are also a lot of weirdos (like anywhere). Obviously I screened the guys I replied to, and arranged coffee dates with the one's I thought were nice.

The only problem I would find with online dating is that it's no substitute for the real thing - as in meeting someone through friends, or on a night out. You tend to know immediately if there is chemistry and don't end up wasting your time if there's not. I also found that a lot of men misrepresented themselves - said they were 5 ft 10 when they were actually 5 ft 5 (I'm 5 ft 8 and am attracted to tall men, 5 ft 11 & up, and stated this in my profile!), or that they came across as really outgoing and confident during email conversations and texts but were as boring as anything once I met them.

I'd say go for it. The main plus is that you may meet someone who is perfect for you that you ordinarily wouldn't have had the opportunity to connect with.

I went with one of the paid dating sites. I was drunk and bored so I signed up without putting much thought into it. Best move I ever made. The members of the site run events quite often, attended a few of those, made more friends than I ever have in my life (guys and girls!). I actually never went on a date with someone I'd met purely on the site through messages and profiles. I spent hours in the chat room, was a great laugh, and met a guy at one of the events. He was mental, long and short of it. I should have spotted it a mile off, but always easy to be wise in retrospect. A few weeks after getting out of that mess, I was going to one of the events... talking to a guy in the chat room who had not only never been to one of our events before, he'd never been in Dublin city before, he knew no one, hadn't a clue where he was going... I said I'd meet him an hour beforehand and bring him to the pub, the way that he'd know someone already and wouldn't get lost. Over a year later and we're living together.

I didn't get any satisfaction out of the free sites, without the events and parties I would have tired of internet dating before I'd really tried it!

mood

I've looked at a few free sites. There are very few guys in my area! Don't live in a city. Part of the problem I suppose!

I suspect a lot of guy are lying about there age. Some are saying they are say 22 but look more 42!

Littleleaf

I met my husband on plentyoffish. We are having our 1year wedding anniversary soon and were still madly in love!

mood

Littleleaf wrote: »

I met my husband on plentyoffish. We are having our 1year wedding anniversary soon and were still madly in love!

There seem to be more on plentyoffish but I seem bad things written about that site here ie guys just looking for 'fun' etc. Very few picture up as well!

high heels

I'm on POF... I find it ok Just don't know what to say in that crucial first email..

forest gunner

Keep your expectations very low.
Ive been on plentyoffish and anotherfriend on and off.
Got about 3 dates in two years .
I dont know...I try to make a charming first impression and have put up various photos but...:(

southsiderosie

I had a profile up on plentyoffish for about 72 hours, and after receiving lots of weird messages and recognizing someone in a pub from the site, I took it down in a panic. I've heard there is less nonsense with the pay ones, since it acts as a kind of screening mechanism.

mood

forest gunner wrote: »

Keep your expectations very low.
Ive been on plentyoffish and anotherfriend on and off.
Got about 3 dates in two years .
I dont know...I try to make a charming first impression and have put up various photos but...:(

Weird. I've been asked out already with now photo up! I know looks aren't important but surely you need to have some idea what someone looks like!

How did the dates go?

Panthro

id chance them but i have the oddest feeling the wimmin folk dont log on looking for mature student mid twenties blokes with pizza delivery as his college job!!!!

Snoopy1

I have met some nice guys off PlentyofFish.
You do get loads of messages when you first join, so it can seem over whelming.
One week, i had 5 dates in a week, couldnt remember who was who
If a guy doesnt post a picture, i ask for one.

supremenovice

supremenovice wrote: »

Ive still been having a look around the websites since then but to be honest, in my estimation, it seems like the average of women is late 30s.
In fact, Id guesstimate that about 40% are over 40.
There is only a small percentage around my age zone (late 20s).

Yeah, I found this too. Very few people under the age of 30 - a lot of my friends off the site I used are seperated, late 30s up to early 50s! The younger people I knew who were on the site were mainly using it to expand their social circles.

Bally8

I met my OH through datinginireland 3 years ago. We got married 3 months ago. Totally made for each other, madly in love and best friends. I was the first person he contacted- worked out well for him eh! I had met a few guys before him but knew straight away they were not for me. I had given up on it and had stopped logging on. Then after attending a friends wedding and thinking I would be on my own forever I logged on and saw an email from my now husband. Fate I think:D

newbee22

I was on plenty of fish for a while, deleted my account though because was getting lots of weird messages!

chiefwiggum

try match.com,thats where i met my fiance...getting married in 3 months after meeting 4 yrs ago...and i must add there are possibly as many women weirdo's on there as fella's...just too even things up...my advice would be to text of chat online/phone for a while before meeting up that way you get a good sense of their character first

rainbow kirby

I've tried Plenty Of Fish and OK Cupid, the vast majority of messages I've gotten on them have been "Hi, we're a couple. She's bi-curious, want a threesome?". Very little of any actual substance.

MJOR

I met my hubby on another friend...

Reeni

I was on plentyoffish which is where I met my lovely boyfriend. I will say though that women in general tend to get an overwhelming amount of messages. You need to sift out the weirdos from the norms I'd say I only replied to 6 or 7 people out of hundreds of messages on there, but then I'm very picky!

princess-lala

I was on POF before and got loads of messages from both normal and weird men!

I went on one date where he turned up wearing dirty clothes! :eek:

Might give it another try now

Harrybelafonte

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I went with one of the paid dating sites. I was drunk and bored so I signed up without putting much thought into it. Best move I ever made. The members of the site run events quite often, attended a few of those, made more friends than I ever have in my life (guys and girls!). I actually never went on a date with someone I'd met purely on the site through messages and profiles. I spent hours in the chat room, was a great laugh, and met a guy at one of the events. He was mental, long and short of it. I should have spotted it a mile off, but always easy to be wise in retrospect. A few weeks after getting out of that mess, I was going to one of the events... talking to a guy in the chat room who had not only never been to one of our events before, he'd never been in Dublin city before, he knew no one, hadn't a clue where he was going... I said I'd meet him an hour beforehand and bring him to the pub, the way that he'd know someone already and wouldn't get lost. Over a year later and we're living together.

I didn't get any satisfaction out of the free sites, without the events and parties I would have tired of internet dating before I'd really tried it!

Which site is this?

I was on plentyoffish before, but I never contacted anyone and seemed to have put off the one randomer who contacted me :rolleyes: It's really difficult to pick out anyone interesting on it, their descriptions all tend to involve "I like socializing with my friends, am very positive, love life, like travelling loads. Don't take life to seriously. Love nights out and dancin', but also nights on the sofa etc". Which is a bitof a pain when you're a grouchy 33 year old bloke who takes life very seriously and doesn't go out. But it all means you have to rely on looks more when all the descriptions are basically the same. The only girl I found interesting on it specifically said she didn't want anyone with kids, which left me out.

Am convinced I should do a description a la The IT Crowd, see what happens.

chirogirl

I tried match.com. signed up for the month and went on 10 dates. Really enjoyed my month on it, good confidence booster. All the guys were nice, decent fellas. I've been seeing a guy from it for the past year.
Good Luck and enjoy!

brainyneuron

I am/was on Plentyoffish and ...ahem....Flirtbox :rolleyes::p POF seems to have a lot of decent Irish people there. Met a guy on it who was the nicest, most down to earth guy I've ever met. We clicked instantly and then it went downhill from there (only really lasted 3 weeks before it kinda fizzled out!) I was in final yr college and he was finishing up final part of masters so I think it may have been a case of wrong place wrong time! Flirtbox didn't have many Irish people on it, met one girl from it but she was only looking for a one night stand (and I wasn't!)
That was about 3 years ago and I haven't really checked them since! I must update or delete my profile! The trouble with dating websites is weeding out the weirdos from the genuine people! It can be done though!

hollypink

brainyneuron wrote: »

The trouble with dating websites is weeding out the weirdos from the genuine people! It can be done though!

I joined one of the paid dating sites recently and have been on a few dates so far. (I haven't met anyone I'd like to see again but they were all nice people). My main problem was that I got incredibly nervous just before going in to meet them and one of the thoughts in my head was "what if he turns out to be really wierd?". Also what if he looks nothing like his picture? What if he's really shy and it's difficult to make conversation? And so on...(I'm a worrier ).

I thought a paid site might eliminate the messers and the married ones, but so far I'm not so sure. There are lots of profiles with almost no description of themselves or any photos. Not to mention the ones who seem to have been panicked by how to describe themselves in a minimum of (say) 200 characters. Maybe I'm overly critical but when I see stuff like 'never know what to put here..oh is it not 200 characters yet...anything you want to know just ask" I wonder how we're ever going to have a conversation if they can't come up with a few sentences about themselves.

Harrybelafonte

I wonder if age makes a difference.

The woman who contacted me had a spiel on her page about how all her friends were getting married and she figured she'd better start working on it, which was a lttle scary. Maybe younger people find it easier?

i personally think that its better to not go on them better to get out and meet people in the flesh get a better idea of them i think

mood

So, nearly two weeks on a dating site. I didn't put up a photo but have been e-mailing photo on request. Not getting that much response possibly because I don't have a photo up and I don't live in a city. There are very few guys on the site in my area!

So far I have been asked to meet a guy after a few e-mails and not even exchanging photos! I have been asked to be Facebook friends after two e-mails by another guy. And asked for my phone number after exchanging numbers with a third guy.

I find all 3 examples strange! I was expecting to be in contact via the site for a week or so with someone before suggesting meeting (that way you might know a little about the person and have an idea if you have any interest in meeting them). Surely you need to exchange photos! And surely it's understandable to not want to give someone your mobile number or be Facebook friends when you have not meet yet!

Maybe I should just find a better site or maybe internet dating just isn't for me!

Has anyone else experienced similar stuff?

the watchman

Anyone tried to create a new account with POF lately:mad:....nightmare:eek:.lol.
Go on, give it a go lol:D.Tip, Before you do it might be best if you just make a quick check and find out when and where your parents were born, which hospital they were born in and who was the car park attendant there at the time lol lol:D

Seraphina

I'm on okcupid, though I didn't actually join it for the dating aspect (I was bored and unemployed and did a million quizzes) I've met some really nice guys through it, two guys in particular, one I dated for about six months, and another guy I'm moving in with soon

It was never my aim to go looking but I just ended up getting chatting to loads of people anyway, never met any weirdos, just guys I wasn't really that into. I think that site has a much more casual approach to it, I ended up making some friends too. This could probably put more active daters off, but it's worth joining just for a nose around I think, though it has changed a lot recently.

the watchman

HI ,is ok cupid completely and totally free like pof.

The Cool

I joined POF nearly two years ago, met some real weirdos on it, and some guys who were after one night stands despite stating otherwise on their profiles, but met my current bf on there and we've been together nearly a year now, so yeah although you do have to pick through the crap for a while I won't say it's not worth it.

rainbow kirby

the watchman wrote: »

HI ,is ok cupid completely and totally free like pof.

As far as I know, yes.

the watchman

Thank you Rainbow.

I just got a new profile up on POF. Took me 4 attempts over 2 days. Thats it now, never again. It is so difficult. The amount of ludicrous info he wants now is crazy. It hardly allows for any individualism. In fact theres so much you have to put down when you meet 'the one' you'll sit there like two dummies ' not talking 'cause you'll know everything about each other lol:D:D:D.

Thanks again Rainbow.

Harrybelafonte

OKCupid has more profiles with semi nude photos than I have ever seen before

Promoteland

Littleleaf wrote: »

I met my husband on plentyoffish. We are having our 1year wedding anniversary soon and were still madly in love!

that's great! congrtulations. looking forward to hear about an expecting baby;)

Justask

Dating sites... LMAO

Been there done that no way am I doing it again!!!
Most of the dating site specially the free ones are full of werid people with serious issues! (i said most not all)

I see some people here have ended up happily ever after but thats rare IMO.

My Ex I met on one! He had a double life, Complussive liar, About huge things and about the most stupid things you have ever heard!, Claimed from the goverment for disablitly but had a job a very physical one at that lol.
JUST BE VERY VERY CAREFUL......

(This fool wasnt lol):eek:

the watchman

Harrybelafonte wrote: »

OKCupid has more profiles with semi nude photos than I have ever seen before

WOW! I'd better get on there quick lol:D

sorry lol lol.:)

starlit

avoid them at all costs! depends on how you are about it OP. Its not for everyone. whatever floats your boat. if its something different from the usual scene then ya go for it but wouldn't dwell on them too much or have too high hopes of them being a hit for you.

Webmonkey

I found them a bit of a waste of time but that's my personal experience. A lot of people on it are just wasting everyone's time.

michael999999

one great site that i found for meeting people is chat roulette.there so friendly and really want to get to know you as a person!

the watchman

Following my last mail about the ridiculous amount of info which has to be put on new profiles. You won't believe this next bit.....

I finally got a profile up and someone mailed me and sent a gift. It was paid for with real money (something to do with buying goldfish points or something). Any way this gift now appears on the bottom of my 'public'profile and I cannot remove for at least 3 weeks.
I hate it..


I love the thought that someone sent a gift but surely it should be a private matter between two people. I don't want the whole bloody world knowing. I suppose Markus will want us to put what gifts we got for Xmas up there soon.

:mad::mad::mad:

BumbleB

the watchman wrote: »

Following my last mail about the ridiculous amount of info which has to be put on new profiles. You won't believe this next bit.....

I finally got a profile up and someone mailed me and sent a gift. It was paid for with real money (something to do with buying goldfish points or something). Any way this gift now appears on the bottom of my 'public'profile and I cannot remove for at least 3 weeks.
I hate it..


I love the thought that someone sent a gift but surely it should be a private matter between two people. I don't want the whole bloody world knowing. I suppose Markus will want us to put what gifts we got for Xmas up there soon.

:mad::mad::mad:

Who was he ?.

Fago!

Joined okcupid the other day.

Today, bumped into two boardsies. Messaging one, she knows me from here (and my real name), but I haven't a clue who she is. She won't tell me.