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Not Better

  • 21-07-2010 10:56am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I've sometimes been accused of thinking that I'm better than everyone else and that I make people feel stupid. As recently as last night my girlfriend said it to me.

    The problem is that I don't realise that I am doing this and I cannot recognise it even after it has happened. I really have no idea exactly what it is that makes people feel that way. In fact, the only reason I even know about it is because of the few people that have remarked upon it. I can only assume that there are many others thinking the same thing but choose not to remark upon it.

    Has anyone else ever been successful in dealing with this issue? I really have no idea of what to do.


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  • #2
    tbh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,914 ✭✭✭✭tbh


    NotBetter wrote: »
    . As recently as last night my girlfriend said it to me.

    when she said it to you, did you say "in what way?"

    If so - what did she say?

    If not - go do it now.


  • #3
    JonathanAnon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,718 ✭✭✭✭JonathanAnon


    Well they say that communication is

    7% Words
    38% Tone
    55% Body Language

    so I think you should analyze what you are doing in all three areas, to see what you are doing from the others to see what is making you appear aloof.. There are many books on rapport/persuasion/communication/relationships that you can buy to show you how to fit in.

    It's also a good rule of thumb to play back what you are going to say in your head before you say it..


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